Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Kissing Women And Using Humor

Kissing Women And Using Humor

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***QUESTION FROM A READER***

Hey Dave!

I am an avid reader of your newsletters and
mailbags ...this stuff literally blew me away. I
also have your e-book. I had never seen or read
any other "dating expert" use the word
"attraction"...period! They never mention it in
anything they write yet it is the MOST IMPORTANT
thing that determines your success with women. Out
of literally dozens of articles and e-books from
so-called "dating pros", the word "attraction"
just doesn't ever come up! I even read in one e-
book that to attract women you need to get a
golden tan. I was like: "What the hell? That's not
the key to attracting women you dummy! Besides,
what if you cant tan?!!"

When attraction is imminent, women try to be with
you and chase you. If attraction is not there,
they make up excuses and try to avoid you. This is
so simple... yet so easy to understand but many
guys who haven't read your eBook miss this vital
point and thus waste time on women that aren't
interested! Attraction is EVERYTHING! That is why
anyone reading this that hasn't bought your e-book
or your Advanced CD series should do it
IMMEDIATELY! It's definitely worth the investment.
In fact it will pay you back over the rest of your
life because you will be so much better with
women! Don't pay hundreds of dollars or waste time
on the other material that's out there...buy
Dave's materials! Ok, Dave, I'm sure your head has
grown 10 times as big now and since I'm not
getting paid for making you a few extra sales, so
I'll quit now! But really, buy the stuff...it's
excellent! It's things in there you have never
heard of before that is so critical to your
failure or success with women!

Anyhow, that was my insight on how great your
material is...now I have a question about
something I read in your mailbag previously that
really stood out to me. It was the one about the
guy who said "Can I kiss you" to a woman that was
getting out of the car as he dropped her off. I
thought saying "Can I kiss you?" was wussified
behavior? That didn't sound like something you can
say without looking like a needy dork but the guy
said it worked for him and he got the kiss anyhow.
Did I miss something here? Explain that Dave.
Also, have you learned of any other "Kiss Tests"
like the one on your site?

GT from Nashville

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, thanks for the shameless advertisement
for my ebook and Advanced Series. I'm glad you're
having success with the material.

I'd like to comment on your observation that
there's no one teaching guys about ATTRACTION...

I noticed this exact same thing when I was
first learning about how to meet and date women.

It took me probably two years of trying things
before I finally realized that there was something
else going on with women that NO ONE was talking
about. Finally, I realized that this magic
something was an EMOTION.

Women don't meet men and say to themselves
"Well, he's my physical type, he has a good job,
he dresses himself pretty well, and he looks like
he's good in bed... I think I'll TURN ON MY
ATTRACTION for him..."

No way.

There's something that happens to a woman,
usually in an INSTANT, that sparks the "Chemistry"
or "Sexual Tension" or "Attraction." And then, if
the man knows how to build that tension and
AMPLIFY the EMOTION called ATTRACTION that the
woman is feeling, there's a very good chance that
they will get together.

If, on the other hand, a man does NOT
understand this simple fact, and more importantly,
how ATTRACTION works, then no magic technique in
the world will work consistently for him.

I've learned that ATTRACTION is EVERYTHING.

SO WHY HASN'T ANYONE FIGURED THIS OUT?

Well, I have a theory about that, too.

In a nutshell, I think that because men are
sexually attracted primarily to LOOKS, they just
ASSUME that women must be the same way. We guys
just simply never take the time and energy to
figure out what women are actually attracted to...
so we act like failures with women... and they
treat us like failures.

And many of the guys I DO know who are good
with women don't realize WHY what they do works so
well. They just do what they do, and women are
attracted to them. Most of them haven't taken the
time to figure out that what they're doing is
triggering the powerful emotion called ATTRACTION
inside of women.

To finish my thought on this, you're right.

No one talks about ATTRACTION... and that's a
problem, because if you don't "get" attraction,
then it's going to be hard to "get" women to be
interested in you.

Now, you asked a question at the end of your
email.

You wanted to know if the guy who asked, "Can I
kiss you?" was being a Wuss.

OK, I'm about to share a VERY, VERY powerful
tool to use when you're interacting with women...

*** Before I share this secret, I want to mention
that if you want to get a SERIOUS education on the
topic of attraction, check out my eBook
"Attraction Isn't A Choice." You can download it
right here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AttractionBook/

When I tell you what it is, you're probably
going to say, "That doesn't sound important"...
but IT IS.

Trust me on this one.

When you asked your question in the way that
you asked it, you indicated to me that you MISSED
WHAT WAS GOING ON. You missed the point of the
question.

One of the things I tell guys to do is TEASE
women.

Teasing can mean one of a couple of things.

Teasing can mean starting to kiss her, then
stopping, starting, then stopping... over and over
again. In this context it's usually considered a
good, pleasurable thing.

For instance, if you kiss a woman gently, then
pull away... then do it again... then again... and
you can tell that she wants more, but you're not
giving it to her, you're teasing her.

Also, teasing can mean "poking fun".

An example would be saying, "Wow, those are
some tall shoes. What, are you like three feet
tall without them?"

Think of how you used to tease girls on the
school playground when you were a kid.

That's a different kind of teasing.

Now, BOTH kinds of teasing are great to use
with women who you have a romantic interest in...

Let's talk about the "Can I kiss you?" example
for a minute.

As you might remember, it went something like
this:

He waited for a moment when it was clear to him
that it would be OK to kiss her. She wanted it.
Then he said...

Him: "Can I kiss you?" Her: "Yes" Him: "OK, I'll
make sure to do that."

At this point, she said "Right"... and leaned in
to kiss HIM!

What happened here?

What happened was a little bit of GENIUS.
That's what happened.

He was TEASING HER. He was doing something
that, at first glance was kind of Wuss/Nice Guy
thing to do. But remember, he had so much momentum
built up, that this little "slip" was perceived by
her as OK. In fact, he had so much momentum and
ATTRACTION built up that she WANTED IT.

He says, "Can I kiss you?", she says, "Yes",
then he TEASES her by saying, "OK, I'll make sure
to do that."

Yeah!

In that moment, she realizes that his Wuss
behavior was actually a JOKE, and that he was
actually MESSING with her and teasing her.

And at that point she leaned over and kissed
HIM.

Now, let me share something that I made up that
I have used with women on many occasions...

Let's say I'm out and I meet a girl walking
down the street, and I get her email and phone
number.

We send a couple of emails back and forth, then
we get on the phone.

Because I'm always teasing and busting balls, I
KNOW that she's enjoying it and interested in
me... so in that first phone conversation I'll
say:

Me: "You know, I was telling my mom about you
today" Her: "Really?" Me:
"NO, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM about you?
Get over yourself!"

Are you with me?

Remember, I'm being charming, Cocky, Funny, and
unpredictable from the start... and I KNOW that
she's enjoying it. The tension is building, even
as we have our first phone conversation.

So I then say something that just plain doesn't
fit ("I was telling my mom about you today?"). She
says, "Really?" in a half flattered/half surprised
way, wondering what's going on.

I then pause to build up the suspense.

As the pause is happening, and she's starting
to think to herself, "Uh oh, he really likes me",
I drop the "No, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM
about you? Get over yourself!" line.

It's funny, confusing, and a HUGE tease.

It usually gets a huge laugh... and it
communicates that I not only "get" what's going
on, but I'm so confident that I'll tease her about
it.

Now, this is what you might call an "advanced"
move.

If you don't know how to tell if a woman is
attracted to you, how to spark attraction, how to
amplify the attraction, and how to move from one
step to the next, you're just going to sound like
a dumb ass when you say something like this...
because you'll say it at the wrong time, or you'll
say it to a woman who isn't very interested in
you... which will make things WORSE instead of
better.

I hope you hear what I'm saying.

One of the GREATEST things you can learn is how
to use SUBTLE humor with women to IMPLY what
you're thinking without actually SAYING it
directly.

As I say in my ebook, "Double Your Dating" and
in my Advanced CD/DVD Program, men take things
literally and women are always interpreting...
they're always trying to figure out what
everything you're saying and doing "REALLY MEANS".

Communicating with women on a "sexual" level is
a skill that you must learn and develop... and
thankfully ANY man can learn how.

Once you learn this new "language," you'll
start to experience women in a whole new way.
You'll be sending and receiving signals in a
language that you never even knew about.

And it's FUN!

And the best part is that WOMEN WILL REALLY
APPRECIATE and ENJOY the fact that you actually
know how to communicate with them.

You need to go back through these materials and
pay attention to the SUBTLE things that I'm
saying, and start to really pay attention to the
details of how you communicate with women. You
won't believe how much fun you can have.

And if you haven't yet invested in my eBook and
Advanced CD/DVD series, then you need to do that.
Both come with a "stupid-proof" guarantee... try
BEFORE you buy... and both take your dating
success through the roof.

You will not find a better education on women
and dating ANYWHERE... at ANY price.

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I'll talk to you again soon!

Your Friend,

David D.

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