The Shocking Truth About My Past Failures With Women

THE SHOCKING TRUTH:

When it came to women and dating, I used to be the BIGGEST WUSSY on the planet.

I mean, it was BAD.

Of course, I did my best to hide this fact.

I talked a big game with my buddies. Watched Skin- A-Max to make it seem like I knew about sex. Typical "Wuss" behavior.

But all of that did nothing to change the TRUTH:

On the *inside*, I was TERRIFIED. Of approaching women. Of getting rejected. Of not knowing how to "make my move" with a woman.

If all this sounds familiar to YOU... I want you to know that you CAN leave that fear behind forever (just like I did). Here's how to get started:

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Hey Man,

Today, I want to dig deeper into the truth about what it REALLY takes to succeed with women... by sharing one of my students' SUCCESS STORIES with you.

Check it out, because his email brings up a *very* important question... and my answer could have a HUGE impact on YOUR love life:

***ACTUAL EMAIL FROM A STUDENT***

Dave, perhaps you have addressed this before,

but why do women choose unstable "losers" over

stable, "good guys" like me?

I think it goes to the issue of challenge, which

has two aspects. One is "benign": the man has to be a challenge in the sense that he is not too available. Another, which is negative, is the man is so "damaged" that he presents a challenge in another, less benign way: the woman wants to "fix" him.

Like I heard Dr. Laura the other day, although I

usually cannot stand her. Some dimwit woman

called in and said she had been dating guy A, who

was nice, and was now dating A's friend, B, and

she did not know what to do.

"A" was a good guy and stable, B was a lowlife but was "exciting."

Dr. "Queen of Life" jumped all over her, asking this genius how she would answer the same question if her own daughter asked her that question. It was clear by the idiot's "OK" after being given this advice that she did not get the answer she wanted and will probably stick with B.

Ok about 10 years ago, I was dating a surgeon who was Jewish. I am not Jewish, so that made a big difference and was ultimately one of two factors leading to our demise (the other was that I could not trust her).

She told me her parents did not approve of me

since I was non-Jewish. I just told her to her face, "I don't care what your parents think. I'm not here to please them." I think this took her by surprise and increased her respect for me, just as

every dating advisor stresses male confidence.

The surgeon gave me two of the greatest compliments I ever received, which confirmed that I was "doing

things right."

Both were out of the blue. One: "I can't figure you out." Two: "I never know what you are going to do next."!

C. J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey C. J., thank you for taking the time to email me. You've brought up some important ideas, and I'd like to comment on them.

ON THE DR. LAURA STORY AND YOUR QUESTION...

One of the things that Dr. Laura doesn't get in this particular situation goes a little something like this:

THE WOMAN IN THE STORY WASN'T USING LOGIC TO DECIDE WHICH MAN TO FEEL ATTRACTED TO, SO TRYING TO CONVINCE HER WITH LOGIC IS A WASTE OF TIME.

Now, you made some valid points about the woman enjoying the "challenge" of the "stray" and/or of the "unavailable" guy.

This is good stuff, and it's accurate.

But, the REAL key to this situation is this... the cornerstone of everything I teach:

ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.

In reality, "attraction" is a POWERFUL EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response.

And, as you might know, when you're feeling a powerful emotion, it's difficult, or in many cases, almost impossible to override that emotion with LOGIC.

The woman is clearly ATTRACTED to the "lowlife", but she also knows in her MIND that she "should" stay with the "stable nice guy."

EMOTION beats LOGIC any day of the week when it comes to attraction and female behavior!

Being a challenge and being unavailable are things that TRIGGER the emotion, but once it's triggered then there's not much that a woman can do about it.

And as you noticed, not even advice from the "first lady" of relationship logic can change it.

So to answer your question, the reason why women "choose" unstable losers over stable guys like you is...

THEY DON'T CHOOSE AT ALL.

There is no logical "decision" being made. When it comes to ATTRACTION, "choosing" doesn't even come into play.

If you want women to feel that powerful emotion called ATTRACTION for you, then you need to learn how to communicate and behave in the way that TRIGGERS ATTRACTION.

Thing is, until you "get" this... I mean, REALLY get it... NOTHING about succeeding with women is going to make sense to you.

And, personally, it's taken me literally YEARS to be able to both attract women AND be able to explain how to do it.

Are you with me on this?

So, if you'd like to dive in deeper and get a POWERFUL, PRACTICAL, REAL-WORLD UNDERSTANDING of what it takes to make a woman "want you"...

... as in, she can't wait another five minutes to start ripping your clothes off...

... then I suggest that you do NOT waste all the time that I did in this area, and have a look at this right now:

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Otherwise, I want to point out that you're really onto something here with your story about the surgeon you were dating:

First off, she sounds like she was an amazing, smart, cool woman... the kind I call a "Total 10", so huge props on that...

But the "something" you've hit on with your story is the crucial importance of *CONFIDENCE* in a man when it comes to succeeding with a great woman like this.

When the woman came to you to tell you that her parents didn't approve of you, and you responded by saying, "I don't care what your parents think, I'm not here to please them", you effectively made yourself MORE powerful in her heart AND mind than even her parents.

I'm taking a wild guess here, but I'll bet that when she came to you to tell you this, she was telling you because she was thinking of breaking off the relationship and this was her way of "introducing" the idea.

When you responded by saying, "I don't care what they think", you probably blew her mind a little.

She was probably confused, but MORE IMPORTANTLY, she was probably EMOTIONALLY ATTRACTED to you at the same time.

This combination of confusion, emotional attraction, and you asserting yourself as more powerful than her parents because you didn't care, is almost unstoppable.

As you say - "Every dating advisor stresses male confidence".

The more I've thought about this, the more I realize that the FOUNDATION for confidence is LACK OF INSECURITY.

In other words, if you want to be confident, you have to START by getting over the things that you're insecure about.

Once you do this, you'll realize that "confidence" is all that's important.

Women are generally attracted to men who don't need APPROVAL from anyone!

We may call this "confidence," but it comes down to becoming secure in the world and comfortable in your own skin.

That in mind, here's that important question I have for you...

If you're NOT feeling that confidence...

... how can you EVER hope to succeed with women?

Short answer:

YOU CAN'T.

Not until you make a commitment to yourself to TAKE ACTION to get that confidence... and then actually FOLLOW THROUGH on that commitment.

The harsh truth is, this part of your life isn't going to "get itself handled".

YOU are going to have to do it.

To do it as QUICKLY and EASILY as possible, here's what I suggest:

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Go check them out.

And make this year about getting this part of your life handled!

It's worth it.

In fact, it's MORE than worth it.

It's the beginning of a whole NEW LIFE you never even knew was possible for yourself.

I personally GUARANTEE it!

Talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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No doubt, it's one of the biggest concerns I hear from guys who have less experience with women.

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What Turns Women "On"

If you'd like to master the art of triggering ATTRACTION in women, then it's important for you to learn how to use "Sexual Communication." Here are a bunch of great tips, plus some interesting video clips that will help you...

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/SexualCommunication/

AN INTERESTING STORY (OR SO)...

There are two basic stories for how men and women "start off" together, and two basic stories for how men and women "end up."

Through all of time, I'm sure that men and women have been playing out these stories...and I'm sure that they'll continue to play them out long into the future (that is, unless I have something to say about it...and I do).

THE MEETING STORIES

Here's "Meeting Story #1":

Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy doesn't have a clue about how to make girl feel ATTRACTION for him... so, instead he tries to "pursue" girl by offering her dinners, gifts, and flowers. Girl finds boy "nice", but there are no "sparks", so she "just likes him as a friend."

Here's "Meeting Story #2":

Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him, boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel a powerful physical and emotional response for boy that she can't control. The sparks fly, and boy and girl "get together."

As I'm sure you know...

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.

THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS "END UP"

Let's assume that somehow, boy and girl actually "get together". Things usually go one of two ways after that...

Here's "End Up Story #1":

Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he "REALLY likes" girl. Boy begins to act more and more predictable. Boy starts to share "how he feels" about girl too often. Boy becomes more and more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of ATTRACTION that she once had for boy and has no way of explaining or understanding why. Girl leaves boy and boy is left wondering what happened.

Here's "End Up Story #2":

Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let himself become a Wussy who chases girl around "sharing how he feels" and becomes boring. Boy keeps the relationship interesting and he keeps challenging girl. Boy stays in control of himself, and by understanding his role as "The Man" in the relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted to him into the future.

And again, as I'm sure you know...

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.

If you look at your experience with women, I'm sure you'll see that these short stories describe MOST of the experiences you've had.

Now, of course there are slight twists and variations, but the message is clear:

YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN...AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING WHEN YOU MEET A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.

If you don't understand ATTRACTION and how it works, then you are destined to keep playing out these same stories for the rest of your life. It's very unlikely that you'll stumble upon the "magic solution" by accident...

ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR MEN - VERY DIFFERENT

The reality is that you CAN stop this negative pattern if you WANT to.

But the key is:

1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.

2) Understanding YOURSELF, so you don't ALLOW yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring and turn a good thing into a bad one...but instead you do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the right track.

If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you can control your destiny with women. If you DON'T know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your destiny with women.

Read that paragraph again, and think about it for a minute before you go on.

OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very different for women than it is for men.

Different how?

What do I mean by that? ...Well, generally speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS... not an "event." It happens over time, and it becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well the man in the situation understands how it works.

For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an "event", meaning that it's either there or it isn't. It really doesn't matter whether or not the woman understands how it works. (As an interesting side note, if a woman really knows how ATTRACTION works, and her intention is to manipulate a man, it usually works VERY well.)

So, think of a woman's "Attraction Mechanism" more like a volume knob than a light switch.

It's like a fantastic, classy old car that needs to warm up for a long time before you can drive it... not like a brand new Honda that you can start up and get right on the freeway with.

Here's a little secret about women and ATTRACTION: If you'll just take a little longer in every situation to AMPLIFY a woman's ATTRACTION, she'll love you for it...and you'll experience rewards that will make the extra time you spent seem like the best investment of your entire life.

Here are a few specific tips for you for the "Meeting Phase":

1) Start with something STRONG, not WEAK.

When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he usually makes the mistake of letting the woman KNOW that he's nervous and weak.

Don't do it.

Do something STRONG.

Challenge her.

If she thinks that she's cool, make fun of her. If she's smart, argue with her a little. If she's doing something, tell her that you could do it better.

When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE, she'll push back. That's your sign that the GAME IS ON.

If you just chase after her like the 100 other Wussies that have been bothering her this week, you will just be another boring, predictable face in the crowd.

2) Keep the TENSION UP.

One of my favorite concepts is "Never let the line go slack."

This means that once you SPARK the "chemistry" or "sexual tension", you need to KEEP IT UP.

Just because she starts doing things that hint to you that she's interested, doesn't mean that it's time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.

Turn UP the volume a little. It's working, so do more! Sexual Tension is SO important that I've actually devoted an entire "language" and way of thinking about it. If you want to learn how to create Sexual Tension, then use it to really amplify ATTRACTION and arousal, then take a minute and look at this:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/SexualCommunication/

3) Tease.

The word "tease" has a couple of meanings.

One of the meanings has to do with doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone.

The other meaning is subtly different and has to do with drawing out a response that you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it.

Do both.

If you're about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her... and then STOP. Pull away, and smile.

If you want to know how she feels about you, say, "You LOVE me" in a condescending tone of voice, and see how she responds. If she says "NO I DON'T!" in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably DOES "love" you.

Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it.

And here are a few tips for the "End Up" phase:

1) Never become BORING.

Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to ATTRACTION.

Don't do either.

Of course, telling a man not to be predictable is like telling a dog not to hump your leg.

Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable.

We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it.

But, when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you'd better figure out a way to STOP IT.

There's nothing that will kill the sparks faster than her knowing what you're about to do or say.

2) Don't hand over control.

Women like men who make decisions and take the lead. Now, I'm not saying that women like men who are overly controlling. What I am saying is that women don't like guys who are always saying things like, "I don't know, what do YOU want to do, baby?"

Women don't want men that they can control, so don't be one.

3) Respect yourself and keep your own interests.

When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often wants to spend as much time as possible with her.

This is natural, of course.

But there's a big danger here as well.

If you put your life aside for a woman, you will become less interesting to HER.

In the long run, it's MUCH better to keep your friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to spend time doing the things you enjoy...WITHOUT HER.

And I think it's VERY important to keep improving yourself as a person, and continue to be a guy that she can look up to and respect.

As soon as you start acting like she's going to be around forever, she'll start feeling less and less ATTRACTION for you.

THE BIGGER PICTURE

Now, as you read these examples, can you see the bigger picture forming?

Can you see the deeper message?

The deeper message is that you need to understand how ATTRACTION works for women and you need to do those things that keep the ATTRACTION BUILDING FOREVER.

Now, where does this all begin?

It begins with YOU.

And it begins with you learning how to control yourself and your emotions. It begins with you understanding the history of how and why men and women become attracted to each other. It begins with you learning the basics of how to use subtle body language and communication to make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

And what's the best way to get this "in-depth" education?

You need to get some of your "Inner Game" issues handled, and you need to learn how to really get control of your emotional life. If this is you, then I recommend you check out my "Deep Inner Game" program.

This program is jam-packed with tools and techniques for fixing self-image problems, improving self-esteem, overcoming fear of women...and everything in between.

This is the BOMB when it comes to working on your Inner Game, and you can go watch some great preview video clips here:

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If you'd like to learn the "secret language of Attraction", then I highly recommend that you get yourself my "Sexual Communication" online video program.

Inside this program I'll teach you all about a "secret" language that has been used all around you, all your life... you just never knew about it.

I'll show you how to spark attraction, build sexual tension and chemistry, and take things to the next level... using powerful (but subtle) body language cues and other techniques.

Discovering "Sexual Communication" was one of the most important steps on my own journey to success with women and dating, and I'd like you to check out this program...so I can teach you what I've learned.

All the details, plus some great previews are here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/SexualCommunication/

If you're fascinated with the topic of ATTRACTION, and you'd like to get an in-depth education on it, then you need to go and download my eBook "Attraction Isn't A Choice." You can download it now and be reading it within a few minutes. Download it here:

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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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5 Ways To Lose A Girl FAST

NOTE: If you're ready to finally say goodbye to the "inner game challenges" like insecurity, fear, and anxiety that are holding you back from TRUE success with women...here is your answer:

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Hey Man,

HOW TO LOSE A GIRL - A DANGEROUS IDEA...

Now THIS sounds like an interesting topic, doesn't it?

Why would you want to know how to LOSE a girl?

Well, I'm going to propose a DANGEROUS IDEA.

I'm going to suggest that you are probably already an EXPERT in LOSING a girl.

You might even be a "natural" at it.

Most guys are.

But the PROBLEM is that most guys don't UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING women.

In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another, and never realize JUST HOW GOOD they are at being BAD with women.

And they don't realize that just by changing a few key things they could change their level of success DRAMATICALLY.

One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing. Once you actually understand what you're doing and the results you're triggering, you can CHANGE.

So open your mind. Listen up. TYPICAL THINGS MEN DO

As you've probably heard me say about a million times, MEN ARE PREDICTABLE.

In fact, we're PAINFULLY predictable. We all do basically the same things when we get into common situations with women...and we don't even realize it.

I call this the "Originality Paradox." In our desire to be "original" and "unique," we guys tend to do the SAME THINGS! Said differently, while you're doing something that seems thoughtful and original, the attractive woman on the other end is thinking, "He's just like all the other guys."

Ouch. So why is being predictable so bad? Look at this formula: Predictable = BORING. Boring = NO EMOTIONS. No Emotions = NO ATTRACTION. No Attraction = NO GETTIN' SHIZZY WITH THA NIZZY!

One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a girl is to be PREDICTABLE. Another huge mistake men make is GIVING AWAY OUR POWER to women.

I'm not going to go into it, but the reality is that women are NOT attracted to WEAK men. And I'm not talking about muscles here.

If you act like a Wuss, you are shooting yourself in the foot. Before we go on, I want to mention something VERY important. If you have a nasty case of "Wuss-itis" and you can't seem to get rid of it, then go read THIS before you read the rest of this newsletter:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan/

Here are a few examples of how we guys act PREDICTABLE, give away our power, and make about 147 other huge mistakes with women we've just met:

1) Call Her All The Time

If you like someone, it's logical that you're going to want to let them know, right?

Well, only if you like the idea of coming across like a total Jack-Wuss. I just made that up, by the way. Combination of Jackass and Wuss. Not sure if I like it, but I'm going to go with it.

Where was I? Yeah, calling her all the time. Calling all the time is usually triggered by INSECURITY and NEEDINESS. It sounds like a good idea, but it almost NEVER is.

This is a great way to lose a girl before you even have her. We might even call this one "Have Prevention."

2) Offer To Take Her Somewhere "Nice"

What do most guys do when they meet a girl that they "really" like?

Well, they call her up, and they get into a boring conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other painfully boring things... and when they finally realize that they've been on the phone for an hour, they realize that they'd better do SOMETHING soon...because she's starting to talk about having to go wash her dog...

So what do they do? They think to themselves, "Self, you'd better get up some nerve and ask her out. Hey! Self! I have a GREAT idea. Ask her to go out with you to a REALLY NICE place. She'll be far more likely to want to do that, and besides, then she'll know that you REALLY like her...."

And what does this REALLY communicate? Right, right. That you have the confidence to just ask her to spend time with you for NO REASON other than the fact that you want to...and that you must not be WORTH spending time with - without some kind of "meal incentive."

Meal Incentive...lol...I crack myself up. Well, this is one more example of something that "sounds good" in the moment, but is BAD BAD BAD for business.

3) Do "Thoughtful" Things From The Beginning

What's better than a nice, thoughtful guy showing up at the door with flowers and candy for the first date?

Well, to quote an old Saturday Night Live episode, "Throwing an entire box of thumb tacks on the floor, and rolling around in them naked."

Or maybe taking one of those...you know... SERRATED KNIVES...yeah, that's it...and putting it between your big toe and second toe and slicing back and forth really fast...and then pouring... you know...HOT SAUCE...yeah, that's it...on the wound!

I hate it when that happens!

But we men do this kind of thing all the time...because it sure sounds good in the moment.

By the way, don't try the thumb tack thing or the hot sauce thing UNLESS you're considering purchasing flowers and candy to bring to a first date. In that case, please take these measures to prevent yourself from acting on the uncontrollable urges.

If you come on too strong, you appear just like every other predictable Wussboy who has ever tried to make himself look better by giving gifts and food and favors in exchange for attention and approval.

4) Tell Her How You "Feel" About Her Early On

This might be one of my favorites. I'm starting to think that we guys must come stock with a mechanism that actually compels us to open our BIG FAT MOUTHS and screw things up with only the BEST women.

I'll call this the "Feeling Confessor" mechanism. It is triggered by strong feelings of attraction and emotion toward an unusually attractive woman.

I've talked to A LOT of attractive women in my life. And they all have one similar experience to share...

For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, men just seem to LOVE telling SUPER HOT women how they FEEL within the first couple of dates.

As you might realize, I get a lot of emails from guys...

And one of the common emails I get goes a little something like this:

"David, I met this unbelievably hot girl...she's smart, interesting, successful...everything seemed to be going well...so I decided to tell her how I felt...and for some reason she said that she needs some "space" and some "time to be alone"...I don't get it...."

Again, when you do this you're making all kinds of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE her.

5) Keep Telling Her How You Feel When She Needs Space

And as if the last example wasn't painful enough, most guys usually like to use this final "nail in the coffin" technique as well...

Here's the situation:

You've met a girl you really like. Maybe you've gone out with her a few times. Doesn't matter.

You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.

You prove to her that you just don't get it, and you don't know how to handle a woman like her.

So she says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to myself."

And what do most guys do? Of course. They KEEP telling her how they feel. And they do it in 100 annoying ways. The thought that most guys have is, "If she only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HER, then she would LOVE ME."

It's painful just typing the words. So there you have it. Part of the magic formula for losing a girl fast. Interesting, isn't it?

But there's a much DEEPER message here. The message is this: If you don't understand the process of how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you, including the things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to have success.

Not knowing the rules of a game makes it very difficult (or impossible) to win.

And, unfortunately, we guys have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to women and dating...

We have emotional responses to situations that take over our "thinking," and makes us do all the wrong things.

We usually sabotage OURSELVES.

Well, the good news is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way.

If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you're probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with women and dating.

If you're ready to STOP losing women faster than you can meet them, then it's probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract women and KEEP them attracted.

And the best education in the world is my Advanced Dating Techniques program. It's over 12 full hours of me teaching all of my very best concepts.

This program will teach you everything from how to overcome your fears of women to how to take things to a "physical" level without running into rejection. It is literally JAM PACKED with HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of amazing step-by-step techniques for overcoming all of your obstacles and getting to the point in your life where you have the kind of success that you've always wanted with women.

Go check out the great free samples here:

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And if you're reading this right now and you haven't yet downloaded your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating," I have something to tell you...

My eBook is the foundation for everything that I teach in these newsletters, and it's the foundation for my Advanced Dating Techniques Program.

Guys are surprised when they listen to the Advanced Program because I don't just rehash "Double Your Dating" and I talk about a few new tricks.

The Advanced Program is almost ALL new stuff! And you need to read "Double Your Dating" TOO because it contains a lot of valuable material that sets the stage for everything else. It's here, go download it now:

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I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D. P.S. You can watch video clips of all my other programs online anytime, 24/7.

All my programs are available for instant online viewing... Check out the details right here:

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4 EASY STEPS To Getting Your DREAM WOMAN

How many times have you watched OTHER guys go home with the HOTTEST WOMEN in the room and wondered...

"What it would take for ME to get a woman like that, too?"

Well, I'm here to tell you that you *CAN* do it... and it's MUCH EASIER THAN YOU THINK.

Here's all you need to do:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/ManTransformation/

Hey Man,

Let's be brutally honest here...

If you're like 99% of guys, you haven't experienced what it's like to be with your "DREAM WOMAN" yet.

In fact, you haven't even come close.

You've never even TRIED.

You've never dared to start a conversation with the kind of woman I like to call a "Total 10"...let alone actually gotten a DATE with one.

Now make no mistake...I'm not talking about "regular" women here.

I'm talking about the kind of woman who's so smoking hot, she literally drops jaws and turns heads when she walks by.

I'm talking about the kind of woman who's so in-demand, a dozen guys hit on her EVERY DAY.

I'm talking about the kind of woman who's the TOTAL PACKAGE -- also so sweet and intelligent that you don't just think of her as "dating material"...

...you think of her as RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL.

So let me say it again...

If you're like MOST guys...

YOU HAVEN'T EVEN COME CLOSE TO HAVING SUCCESS WITH THIS KIND OF WOMAN YET.

But here's the thing...

That's cool.

I totally understand it.

Just IMAGINING talking to a woman like this makes most guys so nervous they feel sick.

Their palms sweat.

Their hearts race.

Not a pretty picture.

And because of it, 99% of men will never get a woman like this.

I want you to really THINK about that for a moment...

Think about the REAL reason that you've never even TRIED to get the kind of sexy, in-demand woman that drops jaws and turns heads every time she walks by...

If you're like these other guys who sit home FANTASIZING about "Total 10" women, odds are, this is what's going on:

YOU KEEP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOURSELF.

You tell yourself things like, "That kind of woman only goes for guys with movie-star looks and money."

Or...

"That kind of woman will immediately blow me off the moment I approach her."

Or...

"I'll hem and haw and get tongue-tied if I even try to start a conversation with her."

Or best of all...

"That's the kind of woman who has so many guys trying to hook up with her all day long that I don't stand a chance."

Any of this sound familiar?

I could go on and on listing the excuses I hear from guys, and believe me, I've heard them all.

But again...

What's the REAL reason that you've never even TRIED to get the kind of women you constantly FANTASIZE about?

Why do you keep DOING NOTHING...

...except watching OTHER guys leave bars and parties with these amazing women on their arms?

Before I blow your mind with the REAL answer...guess what:

I USED TO BE THE SAME WAY.

That's right...your old pal Dave used to do nothing but sit and watch...wish and want...

But one night, as I sat there wallowing in my own wussyness...something started to happen...

The more I watched the success of OTHER MEN, the more and more AMAZED I became.

The truth soon became clear, and it was like a slap to the face.

The truth was this:

The guys who were getting these women did NOT look like Brad Pitt. And they weren't Donald- Trump rich, either -- if they were, they wouldn't be hanging out at the bars and parties that I could afford.

So I watched and observed...and the REALITY of the situation became clear...

These guys weren't super handsome or filthy rich -- yet here they were, getting the hottest women in the room.

I mean, they made it look so easy.

Effortless and painless.

Almost like they had some kind of "magic power" to make it happen.

As soon as one of these guys would start a conversation with one of these hot women, she'd start to smile at him.

And I mean SMILE....that kind of super-sweet, sexy smile that made me realize it all over again:

I must be doing something very WRONG in my life....because women like that NEVER smile at me that way.

But still...there I sat.

Doing nothing.

Just watching and wishing.

And as I did, realizing it:

Since these guys weren't rich or handsome, their success with women MUST come from some other place.

Logically...if it wasn't coming from the "outside" (how they looked or what they had in the bank) then their success must be coming from somewhere INSIDE them.

It must be coming from what I call their "inner game"...the way they THINK, and how those thoughts and feelings come across in what they SAY and DO with women.

And logically...

...IF THESE GUYS could master their inner game so that they naturally knew what to say and do with women...

...THEN SO COULD I.

And the more I got to thinking about all this, the more it became clear to me...

I knew it all along -- and, at some deep level, YOU probably know it, too...

You always knew that there were steps you could take in your life...things that you could DO RIGHT NOW... that would make it possible to have success with amazing women.

Which leads us back to the big question:

You KNOW there are things you can do to become MUCH, MUCH MORE SUCCESSFUL with women...

...so WHY DON'T YOU DO THEM?

Either:

1) You don't know what those steps are.

Or...

2) You think taking those steps will be "too hard."

Either way, I wish I could SLAP you right now via email.

Because, in REALITY, there's nothing more than your "inner game" -- THE WAY YOU THINK AND FEEL -- standing between you and off-the-hook success with women.

In other words...there's nothing but MENTAL BLOCKS AND OBSTACLES keeping you from escaping your current life of "wishing" and "wanting"...

...and finally GETTING the woman of your dreams.

All you really need to do is this:

BLOW UP your fears and misconceptions for good.

Eliminate the FALSE mental blocks and IMAGINARY obstacles that have stood between you and success with women for so long.

Do just that much, and you can CHANGE EVERYTHING in your life.

Guaranteed.

That's why, without further delay, I want to dig into 4 STEPS you can take RIGHT NOW to overcome the fears and mental obstacles preventing you from getting YOUR DREAM WOMAN.

Buckle in, because here we go...

STEP #1: ADMIT THAT YOUR REASONS FOR FAILING WITH WOMEN UP UNTIL NOW WERE TOTAL B.S.

I want you to look around yourself right now.

That's right. Do it.

Right now.

See any chains holding you to that chair?

Probably not...unless you're into some very kinky stuff I don't even want to get into here.

In other words, the REALITY of your situation is this:

The ONLY thing stopping you from getting out of that chair and TOTALLY CHANGING YOUR LIFE right now is *YOU*.

It's your own THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS that are holding you back. Making you miss out on every opportunity you SHOULD be having to enjoy life by now.

But let's go even deeper. Hope you brought your scuba gear....

Specifically: it's your personal "baggage" -- all your past failures and bad experiences -- that have robbed you of the "inner game" you need to experience REAL SUCCESS with women.

And that's all there is to it.

There are no chains.

There are no force fields.

There's only you... and everything you're NOT doing to change your life.

But here's today's NEWSFLASH:

A few simple techniques can help you to drop that loser "baggage" forever and move FORWARD... get you actually DOING the things you know you should be doing instead of just "dreaming".

That in mind, we move on to...

STEP #2: STOP LETTING YOUR PAST DESTROY YOUR FUTURE

There's no doubt about it...our past memories and experiences totally run (and RUIN) our lives.

They lurk in the dark background of your mind and CONSTANTLY SABOTAGE you.

For example...

Ever been in a situation with a woman where you really wanted to do or say something to her...

...but you suddenly remembered something bad that happened in the past in a similar situation?

Maybe your mind went blank and you couldn't think of anything to say.

Maybe you hemmed and hawed and tripped over your words.

Maybe you just turned around and walked away because you couldn't get the courage together to talk to her in the first place.

Whatever.

All you remember NOW is how EMBARRASSING and PAINFUL the experience was.

And guess what:

NOW you're practically PROGRAMMED FOR FAILURE because of it.

Just REMEMBERING past experiences like this cause you to FAIL...or worse, NOT EVEN TRY... again and again for the rest of your life.

So...how do you leave that kind of crippling failure, anxiety, and self-doubt behind?

Easy.

You RE-PROGRAM yourself for success.

How?

By minimizing -- or even completely ERASING -- all those memories of past pain and failure that are ruining your "inner game" today.

In fact, once you can perform just this one life-changing "trick", you'll be blown away...

It'll be like you suddenly have SUPER POWERS... not just with women... but in EVERY area of your life!

You'll always feel strong, cool, and calm... whether you're approaching the hottest woman in the room or just trying to ace a job interview.

And like I said, you won't believe it... before you know it, you won't recognize your old "loser" self anymore... or YOUR NEW LIFE.

But like I said, this all gets very deep...

If you'd like to get more details, encourage you to drill down about all this right here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/ManTransformation/

But in the meantime, here's the short version...

Maybe this all sounds too good to be true.

I once thought so, too.

But then I put this idea to work for myself... and totally TRANSFORMED myself.

I shook off the chains of believing that people (women in particular) would react to me in negative ways...

...and suddenly I COULD DO ANYTHING.

Without fear.

Without doubt.

And the rest is HISTORY.

I could suddenly approach mind-blowing "Total 10" women anywhere...any time...and start conversations with them like it was nothing.

I could make these women smile at me in that special way.

I could make them laugh and twirl their hair for me...suddenly THEY seemed like the nervous ones!

I could get women's numbers FAST without missing a beat. I could get more dates with them than I had time for.

Most amazing of all...

If I really liked a girl, I could choose to enter into amazing long-term RELATIONSHIPS with her... and then keep it going for as long as *I* wanted.

But I'm getting ahead of myself...

Let's reel it in a bit, and get back to the 4 STEPS...

Once you've reprogrammed your thinking and broken the chains that have been holding you back... it's time to move on to:

STEP #3: MASTER YOUR "REAL-WORLD" INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN

You see, everything I told you about in steps #1 and #2 is about that "inner game"...rewiring your brain so that it stops sabotaging you before you even get started.

But Step #3 is about putting all that stuff to work for you in the real, "exterior" world.

And the truth is, once you've eliminated the fears and failures that you carry with you because of your past...

...it's EASIER THAN YOU EVER IMAGINED to say and do EXACTLY the right things (without even THINKING about it) to succeed with amazing women.

Why?

Because you won't feel "nervous" or "wuss- like" with women anymore.

You'll think and act in a calm, clear way that shows women you don't need to beg them to like you or seek their approval.

Your body language will suddenly reflect new confidence and control, INSTANTLY making ANY woman respond to you (...even if they don't know why!)

You'll know EXACTLY what to say and do in EVERY SITUATION to ramp up sexual tension and take things to a PHYSICAL level FAST.

In other words, once you have NO FEAR, you have what it takes to make the woman of your dreams feel **ATTRACTION** for you.

And once you can make a woman feel ATTRACTION...she literally can't help herself. No matter how "smoking-hot" or "super-smart" she is.

Which takes us to...

STEP #4: CREATE A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DREAM WOMAN

Gasp...I know.

Hardly sounds like me, right?

But here's the thing:

Once you've met a woman that you REALLY like, if you want to keep it going with her, you must know how to change your behavior as your interactions progress.

You see, it's a long journey from "clueless wussbag" to the kind of man who can get his dream woman...and KEEP HER...for as long as he wants.

Yet even guys who have it all "dialed in" when it comes to getting dates run into SERIOUS trouble when they go for something more substantial for the longer term.

They have no clue how to graduate from the "approaching women" phase...to the "getting laid" phase...to the "casual dating" phase... to the "relationship" phase.

Why?

Because, truth is, there's a LOT MORE you need to know about CREATING INTIMACY before it can happen for you...

...but this email is getting pretty damn long itself.

Since I've hardly scratched the surface, here's what I want to do:

If you're serious about all this...from admitting you need to take action...to learning the "real world" techniques that will make it happen...to having the kind of LONG-TERM success with women you've always dreamed of...

...then you probably feel like you've already wasted enough time.

That's why I decided to pull out all the stops on this one...and create an epic home-study course designed SPECIFICALLY to help YOU.

And help you **ASAP**.

I've named this emergency, step-by-step home- training "Man Transformation", and I have to tell you, I'm incredibly proud of this program.

The fact is, it teaches you 100% OF WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW to turn around your WHOLE LIFE, from success with women and beyond, including:

-- How to redesign your entire life so that the success you've always dreamt about with women (and everything else) starts to happen AUTOMATICALLY.

-- How to kick ALL your bad habits for good so they never come back to sabotage you again.

-- The #1 way to make hot women want to be with you and get PHYSICAL FAST (FULL DISCLOSURE: Master this, and they'll actually start CHASING YOU to make it happen!)

-- How to avoid EVERY BIG MISTAKE guys make to ruin their chances with "Total 10" women...and what YOU *MUST* START DOING INSTEAD.

And much, much more.

Basically, this power-house course is what I like to call TOTAL IMMERSION -- a wall-to-wall education that includes ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW.

I'm talking about my most powerful and advanced program EVER here...a total guide to personal "reprogramming" that's 100%-guaranteed to change your life.

So make no mistake...

I'll be with you every step of the way as you learn EXACTLY what it takes to become the kind of man who sees what he wants in life...

...and GETS IT EVERY TIME.

Like I said, I'm VERY excited about all this, so click here now to begin YOUR transformation:

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Your friend,

David DeAngelo

PS: Ever wonder if there was a "magic" way to make sure you NEVER GET REJECTED BY A WOMAN AGAIN?

I did...until a friend who's a "natural" with women shared a mind-blowing secret with me.

It's called the "The Rejection Reversal," and it's an amazing technique my friend perfected to not only turn the situation around when you get rejected by a woman...but to actually "switch on" her ATTRACTION for you!

This one's a real game-changer, so I want you to learn more about it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/ManTransformation/

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The 4 Reasons Why Women Reject Men

Most men have never learned to develop their "inner self confidence"... and become the kind of guy that is literally BULLET-PROOF. If you would like to learn some of the best tricks, techniques, and concepts for building a rock-solid self-image and massive self-confidence, then take a minute and read THIS:

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Hey Man, most men HATE the idea of "rejection".

I'm not talking about "don't like the idea" or "wish it didn't happen"...I'm talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes.

The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women... just to end the discomfort.

The temptation is great to just "walk away" because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to "forget about it and walk away".

The fact that "choosing to walk away" leads to the "instant gratification" of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option.

Most of the time (and I'm talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give up before they've even started.

I find this topic fascinating.

If I just think about it, I can remember MANY times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn't do it.

In fact, many of them are so vivid that I can remember the exact setting, what the girl looked like, who else was there, etc...and I'm talking about situations that happened YEARS ago.

These moments obviously made an impression.

I can also remember kicking myself for DAYS afterwards for not approaching and talking to these girls.

Can you relate?

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACTUAL REJECTION AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION...

I think it's important to realize that there's a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I've found that for me PERSONALLY, my FEAR of rejection is actually FAR, FAR more painful and difficult to deal with than ACTUAL rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren't "rejected" very often!

If a woman isn't interested, she usually just says "I have a boyfriend" or "No thank you"...or she'll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I've approached women, I can't remember any time that a woman has yelled "Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!"

I'm sure it's happened to SOMEONE, but it's never happened to ME.

The worst I've had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away.

No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling.

But here's the kicker...

You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman.

Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy.

You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have FEAR of rejection...which will prevent you from approaching a woman.

Ah, the power of the human mind.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION...

A lot of guys ask me, "How do I deal with rejection?".

The answer: Don't worry about it.

If you get "rejected", you'll be fine.

Really.

It's no big deal, and it doesn't happen that often.

And when it does, you'll recover shortly thereafter.

You'll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a "D" on a test.

It's basically insignificant.

The REAL question is "How do I deal with my FEAR of rejection?".

If you can overcome your imaginary FEAR of rejection, you'll be on your way. (Some guys have a type of fear that they might call "terror" when thinking of approaching women.) If you have this level of fear, then you might want to take a minute and check this out before reading on:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan/

WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN...

Now let's talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.

For the sake of this discussion, I want to define "rejection" as a woman doing something that lets you know that she's upset and offended that you started talking to her, and she responds in a mean or vicious way to make you go away.

I do NOT consider a woman walking away without stopping to talk to you, her saying "No thank you", or any other time when a woman just simply doesn't engage to be "rejection".

If you DO consider these things to be rejection, please stop reading now, call your mom into your room, and tell her that it's time you grew up and moved out...and that she'll get over the fact that she can't choose your clothes for you and hug you when you have a boo-boo anymore.

I digress...

I've found that there are a few main reasons why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it's VERY rare that I actually get "rejected" anymore...it's probably happened to me once in the last 100 times I've started a conversation with a woman...because I don't do dumb-ass things anymore).

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn't paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it's appropriate to walk up to a woman, put their arm around her, and say, "Hey baby, you sure do look hot tonight".

Some guys don't see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, "You remind me of my sister".

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn't stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say, "Hi, can I buy you a drink?"...and the upset one looks at you and says, "No thanks, we're in the middle of a conversation" (then looks away from you back at her friend)...and you say, "Aw, come on, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun"...and she looks back at you and says firmly, "We're busy"...and you say, "What, are you in a bad mood or something? I'm just trying to buy you a drink"...and she says, "We don't want a drink"...and you say, "Well maybe your friend does"...and the friend says, "No, I don't want one either"...

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have 47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you're wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you're probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren't going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman's body language and other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she's receptive to talking to you.

If you've been reading too many books that say "A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you", then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she's either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she's not.

She's either going to act like things are cool or she's going to act like they're not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just because they can't think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention.

Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE REJECTION by what they're doing. They aren't paying attention, or they're doing things that are offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn how to start conversations with women, and do a few simple things RIGHT, you'll all but totally avoid "rejection" from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR.

As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Ironically, I've found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn't going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things going wrong.

This led to a positive feedback loop of me wanting to approach more women and have more success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone. Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You'll begin to pick out the guys who are approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You'll be able to see for yourself that most of the time, even if the woman isn't interested, nothing bad happens.

You'll also see that when a guy tries to grab a woman who's walking by, makes a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn't interested, that the woman's feelings might escalate and she'll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn't right in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that women don't usually "reject" men, even in the most intense situations where they're being approached all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in any situation ("So, do you own this store? Perfect, then you won't care if I just take some things...")

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne (the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you'll get used to starting conversations with women you don't know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don't think ahead.

They don't plan what they're going to do.

As the old saying goes "By failing to plan, you plan to fail".

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing you can do to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation.

Then get out and do it.

HOW TO AVOID REJECTION AND INCREASE SUCCESS

Human beings tend to want to "save face" when it comes to relationships.

We don't like the idea that another person has outright "rejected" us, and we ALSO tend to not want to "hurt other people's feelings" by rejecting them.

This is one of the reasons why women will often lie and say "I have a boyfriend" when they don't.

You must become aware of these "subconscious" processes and motivations, work with them, and eventually become the master of them.

Learn to recognize when a woman is "politely saying no thanks", and move on.

If a woman isn't interested in you, forget about it. It doesn't matter.

Go to the next one. There are plenty.

LEARN HOW AND WHY WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTION FOR MEN

Most men believe that if they could only overcome their own fear of rejection, and learn how to start talking to women, all their problems would be solved.

Not so!

Just because you can start conversations with women doesn't mean that they'll feel ATTRACTION for you.

It took me a LONG time to really "get" this.

It took me even LONGER to realize that there is actually a way to make women feel the emotion of ATTRACTION for you...just by the way you communicate with them.

I used to believe that it was a mysterious, lucky accident when a woman felt ATTRACTION.

Now I realize that it's only "lucky" for those guys who don't understand it (and very few do).

I've devoted a lot of time, effort, energy, testing, and development to design a system that any guy can use to start making women feel ATTRACTION for him.

And I'd like you to take advantage of that effort and time that I've invested by checking out my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

In this program, I break down the process of making women feel ATTRACTION for you into easy, step-by-step exercises and techniques that ANY guy can start using IMMEDIATELY.

You'll learn everything from specific exercises to increase your self esteem, to the exact words that I personally use when I approach women...to the specific steps to "getting physical" with women.

It's all in there.

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/

And if you'd like to get an introduction to the main concepts, then download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating". This eBook is a complete intro to the mind set and techniques you need to understand to start being successful with women. It's here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

P.S. If you want to get details and watch preview video clips from all of my different programs... each one designed to teach you a different element of how to meet and date more women...then take a minute and go here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/

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