The Formula For Huge Success With Women Is Cocky PLUS Funny
The fact is, you can say just about anything as long as what you are saying is actually funny.
You see... I've learned that "arrogance" or "cockiness" is not unattractive to women... as long as they're not an obvious overcompensation for insecurity.
When you ask me what the limit is, what I hear you saying is, "I'm afraid to push this too far." But don't let your own insecurities and doubts stop you from using a great technique. Use it. Just make sure you add the all powerful ingredient: HUMOR.
The humor is what makes this technique work like magic.
Q. Dave,
I've been enjoying your advanced series very much, and have found a lot of success over the last few months. All this success is exciting, but I'm finding that I have to rethink my usual responses to just about everything. A case in point:
Last night over the phone, the woman I've been spending the most time with lately spent a lot of effort telling me how much she loves me. In fact, I think she's really falling for me hard.
The question is, though, how do I respond to a woman that gets all mushy without spending all of my attraction points? If she says something like "I've fallen in love with you" or "I love you soooooo much", what are some examples of things to say back that will keep the attraction building?
Your devoted fan,
A in Oregon
A. Tell you what, A... that's definitely one of the fringe benefits of learning these concepts... women start to love you!
But you left an important part out of your question... You didn't mention how you feel about this girl yourself, and what YOU want out of the relationship.
I'll have different answers for you based on what your intentions are. But to give you the most direct answer to your question of how to respond to this... let's go way back in time and take a page out of the "Han Solo Manual For Responding To Women Who Say That They Love You."
Remember... waaay back in the day... at the end of The Empire Strikes Back? Han Solo was about to be frozen in Carbonite, and Princess Leia said, "I Love You"...
Bonus points if you remember what Han said back... He said, "I know." That's it in a nutshell. Cocky, funny, and evasive.
Some variations:
- "You should."
- "I don't blame you."
- "Well, I would if I were you."
These all work. Big-time.
Want a ton more examples? Then I suggest you get yourself a copy of my eBook, it will help you tremendously.
But a warning:
If this woman is actually falling in love with you because you've been seeing her five times a week for the last six months, then you need to remember that this is a serious thing.
If you've gone out with her 4 times over the last 3 weeks, that's different. But, if she thinks you're getting married soon, then you might want to consider what you really want out of this, and act accordingly.
Q. I just used cocky+funny in an email to an ex-girlfriend. She wrote back saying, "What's with the attitude? Do you find it increases your client's confidence in you when you comment on their rack?" Not a good sign.
What can I do?
She is getting married in two weeks, but I am hoping she eventually gets back together and/or has lots of intercourse with me. She broke up with me five years ago because I cheated on her.
I've been trying to save it ever since, but up until now, had totally turned into a wuss in my contacts with her. Can I save this one?
A. Let me get this straight. Your ex broke up with you five years ago, because you cheated on her... Then you turned into a WUSSY, and have behaved that way towards her ever since.
Now she's engaged to be married in two weeks... Then you emailed her recently and commented on her rack in an attempt to get her back (or at least get her to have lots of intercourse with you)?
And the best part of your email:
I Can't Believe You Actually Asked Me... "Can I Save This One?"
Here's your answer: Get a clue. As in, immediately.
This is a great place to start:
You can thank me later for changing your whole life.
Q. David,
Now that I'm attracting women like crazy thanks to your info and especially the programs, I'm wondering how to approach scenarios where women who I see on a regular basis are flirting with me big-time, specifically waitresses in bars I hit on a regular basis, girls who work in my neighborhood Starbucks, etc.
Every time I come back the flirting gets more blatant and intense, and most of these girls are college-age (I'm 30) and very attractive.
On one hand, I feel like I should hold off on getting their email/number and let the suspense and attraction build, but on the other hand if I wait I think they may interpret me as a Wussy and think I don't have the balls to move in for the kill.
To complicate matters, these girls all happen to work in places that I use to meet women and so there are all the obvious issues that arise if I hook up with a waitress and then she sees me getting other women's numbers a week later.
Thanks!
FR Phoenix
A. Hey FR, first let me say good job on "attracting women like crazy." Excellent. It's what I'm all about.
Now onto your situation...
First off: Don't wait 100 years to get a woman's number. Do it *now*. Letting the suspense and attraction build can wait until you've gotten her number and gone out with her...
Secondly: Your issue of avoiding the women who work in places you frequent is probably sound. I personally don't date women that work in my favorite restaurants and coffee shops. But, keep in mind, these types of jobs are usually short-lived.
In this situation, it's a good idea to tease and keep the attraction building. It's fun as hell, and it can pay off in the future.
Q. Hey Dave,
I am out on my own after nineteen years of being a Provider and have found I need a new paradigm shift in my thinking when it comes to dating and being a Lover. So, blah blah blah and kudos to you from all of us suck ups out here who are being de-wussified under the tutelage of your information.
I bought the ebook and advanced techniques and it has been great learning this material. I work in a place that provides Internet access to some students so I am actually paid to be online at work.
If nothing is going on with our network I have lots of downtime with nothing to do so decided to start practicing online with women. It is amazing what that one word "brat" can do in a fun playful situation of C&F.
Here are a couple of my successes with just that one word....
ME: So, you aren't a brat are you?
HER: See for yourself. without my asking
ME: This isn't one of those nude pics is it? It's way too early in the relationship for anything like that.
HER: LOL, no. Did you get it?
ME: Yes. of a bikini clad hottie
HER: Well?
ME: I was right.
HER: About?
ME: You are a brat.
HER: What do you mean?
ME: I can see it in your smile and in your eyes. You're a brat.
HER: lol
NEXT MORNING...receive instant message from her
HER: Hey Sweetie, how are you doing?
Next example:
ME: You aren't one of those bratty girls are you?
HER: What if I want to be?
ME: Because then I'd have to spank you...
ME: nah, you might like it too much if I did (took a shot in the dark on this one)
HER: You're right, I would
(Bingo, hit the jackpot)
ME: Hmmmmm
HER: You can't handle it?
ME:Oh that's not the problem, I usually don't have intercourse on the first date...
(Needless to say, we are getting together very soon)
I wasn't trying to do anything but have a little fun practicing online and... well, go figure. :-)
A. Aaaah yes, another guy who gets it. I love it. Good for you... it's amazing when you treat women like your Bratty Little Sister... especially women who are used to having guys chase after them and compliment them constantly on their beauty!
You see... probably the most interesting thing that I've learned is that most of this stuff is "counter-intuitive." In other words, it doesn't make sense when you first hear it.
The things that work to attract women aren't at all "logical" in the obvious sense. They often go against everything you've been taught about how to interact with women. And they're things that you'll never figure out "by accident."
Just won't happen.
So great job, and thanks for the killer examples... you've obviously paid attention to the subtle things that I teach in my Advanced Dating Techniques Program including:
- How to overcome fear and shyness
- How to approach women
- How to start conversations and get dates
- How to take things to a physical level smoothly and without rejection
For those of you who haven't checked out my Advanced Series yet... YOU NEED TO DO IT. Start watching it INSTANTLY right here:
Q.***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hi David,
I am one of those women fortunate enough to be what you call exceptionally attractive.
I've done modeling for years (mostly lingerie and swimsuit). I've read several of your newsletters and I must say congratulations. You always hear that no man will ever understand women, but you have come closer than any man I've ever known to pinpointing exactly what works.
I sent a copy of your newsletter to the man I'm currently dating because a lot of the things you say remind me of him. The cocky & funny bit is awesome. Men have to do something unexpected to get and keep a woman's attention.
Showering with gifts and basically being a pushover gets BORING very quickly. I've dated the most attractive men, and some that people would actually say to me "What are you doing with him?"
It's all how you come across to a woman and the confidence you exhibit. You are absolutely right by saying that men have to make a woman want them and keep the attraction building.
In fact, the man I'm dating made me want him more by backing off from intercourse. I literally had him naked and very able to perform, but several times he backed away with some cocky/funny excuse.
Now we have the most awesome physical attraction and intercourse just keeps getting better. If some of these guys don't believe what you say, then let them continue to have their boring lives as "wussies."
Once again, I must say Congratulations.
A. New rule: Beautiful women who email me are required to send pictures.
Ok... on to your letter.
It always amazes guys when they finally have that Ah-Ha moment and realize that:
Beautiful Women Are NOT Attracted To Men Who Act Like WUSSIES
The sad part about this whole thing is that most guys act like Wussies as their main strategy with women. The one thing that can never work is also the one thing that most guys do most often. Go figure.
Thanks for your letter.
And that about wraps it up, except for that special message I was telling you about at the beginning of today's newsletter...
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