>>>MY COMMENTS: OK, my book is magic? A RELIGION? I accept the "brilliant" compliment, and I can even allow the "magic" concept... but let's stay away from the religion comments... To answer your first question, about how to skip all the emails, calling, and "dating" and go straight to the bedroom... Do two things: 1) Don't focus on "the bedroom." Focus on taking things to the next step...and the next... and the next. 2) As soon as you meet a woman, treat it like you're going on a date together. Let me explain. If you meet a girl you really like, spark some major chemistry, start kissing her, etc., you're probably going to get some resistance if you look at her and say "OK, let's leave your friends here and go back to my place so I can SHAG you." That's just a hunch. But, if you meet her, spark the attraction, start kissing, and then say..."Hey, come with me", and then take her hand and lead her to another part of the club or bar...or take her to the dance floor...or some combination...and then start kissing again...and then stop (two forward, one back)...and then say, "Hey, I'm going to this other bar, come along with me"...and then once you're there you continue, all the way until closing, when you say, "Hey, let's keep talking.. this is fun. Give me a ride home..."etc., etc., etc.... I think you can see where I'm going with this. A woman wants to feel that things are developing naturally, not that you are just trying to get her into bed as fast as you can. If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural way, and you can progress from one level to the next, you'll do very well and go very far. Why do you lead her to another part of the club, and then take her somewhere else? Physically leading a woman is VERY powerful, and leaving together/showing up somewhere else together changes things. When you arrive at the new place, even though you're the same two people who just met, you're now TOGETHER at the new place. And when you suggest continuing to talk, and her giving you a ride home (or some variation), it's not like saying "Come shag me." You're making it clear that you want to spend time with her, and it leaves the possibility of ANYTHING happening open. And as for the girl you met in the parking lot who emailed you a week later saying "Let's pursue a friendship first", what she was probably REALLY saying is: "I can't believe that I made out with you after meeting you in a parking lot of a liquor store. I'm not like that. So let's get together sometime on a more casual basis, and if you DO EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID WHEN WE FIRST MET I'LL PROBABLY WIND UP MAKING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN." Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Dave, I just recently read your e-book so I am
still working on techniques but I can say I am a
30 something, short, spare tire, receding hair
line guy (I think girls would say I'm cute
though) who, until a few weeks ago (when I read
your book), was still falling into the `just
friends' category way too many times. Since then,
I've cut off 3 `friends' and started working on
myself, i.e. joined a gym, cleaned up my
apartment, and am working on my wardrobe. 2
weekends ago, I was making out with a cute 22 yr.
old, with a catwalk model body in my apartment
using the 2 step forward, 1 back technique (my
roommate came in or it may have gone further).
It was actually pretty easy because I didn't
really care one way or the other if it happened.
My problem is I have another girl that I don't
think I've crossed into the `friend' realm just
yet, but I can't seem to advance to the next
level. We run with the same set of friends and I
took her out for her birthday once so we're
somewhere between bridge #2 and #5. We email and
talk on the phone quite a bit and I can keep the
conversations short and reasonably C&F (our
friends tell me she thinks I'm mysterious), but I
can't get it to go anywhere physically. I hinted
at going out on a date one time last week in an
email and she responded to everything in the
email but that. My response has been to stop
answering her emails and calls, she sent an email
today that just said `where are you?'. (she is
actually calling my cell phone now as I write
this).
My question is this, do I run like hell (in which
case I hope I could get some suggestions on
making an easy break since we have the same
friends), or work on my seduction techniques with
her. If the latter, I would greatly appreciate
some tips on crossing the next bridge. M
P.S. I've read some of the other stuff out there
and yours is one of the few that shows guys how
to get the upper hand in a respectful manner.
Thanks.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Try this...
Don't talk to her for a few days.
Then, call her up and say "What are you doing RIGHT NOW?...I think you should come over and hang out with me."
Call on a Saturday or Sunday around noon.
If she comes over, immediately LEAVE after she arrives.
Go have a cup of tea, do some window shopping, and DON'T cling to her, look at her too much, or act like you are feeling attracted to her. Lean back. Tease her a lot. Tell her how she's screwing up her chances with you, etc.
Finally, once you get back to your place, proceed with The Kiss Test...and you'll be fine from there.
You need to relax. Don't run like hell, and don't get so hung up on this one girl.
We guys always want the one we can't have... and it's a problem. Stay on track improving yourself, meeting other women, etc. That's the way.
***QUESTION***
One question, how would you change your self-
image?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sure, go here.
...a short question deserves a short, direct answer.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
You are the man!! I'll try to make this short and
sweet. I work at club/bar here in FL so I meet
plenty of beautiful women. I have to tell you
that the cocky and funny routine works wonders
for me. I have been doing it for years but never
knew exactly what I was doing right until I read
your newsletter. My situation goes like this:
after work the bartenders and a couple managers
always stay after for drinks. We usually just
share stories about drunk customers or talk about
how the night was. Since I work the front door at
this club, I always have a story or two about
girls willing do just about anything to get in
there or girls wanting to take me home after. Now
there is this bartender that I work with that I
like and been pouring extra c&f her way, and she
eats it up. We went out to breakfast after work
this past saturday, and one thing that bothered
me was that when we were talking over breakfast,
she said "before this, I thought you were a
player and a little bit of a whore." I was in a
bit of shock but reacted nicely by saying "of
course YOU would think that, and that is exactly
why I dont date bartenders, you guys are too
judgmental" she hit me in the arm, but had the
biggest smile on her face. When I took her back
to her car, we ended up kissing for a bit. This
is all great and everything, but my question to
you is, am I being too cocky and funny here or
was she just testing me with that comment she
made??? G, in sunny Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
AHHHH!
You're doing EXACTLY the right thing.
Don't doubt yourself.
The fact that she hit you, and had the big smile tells the whole story.
You (and many other guys) must get over the idea that just because a woman knows you date a lot of other women doesn't mean that she won't like you.
This doesn't make a lot of sense, but women are often MOST attracted to PLAYERS.
It makes you MORE attractive when you have a lot of women that want you...not less.
You're fine. Keep it up!
***QUESTION***
I thought these letters of success were
promotional B.S. But.....
A few months ago I was introduced to this really
hot lady and I said all the "nice to meet you"
stuff to and she seemed to be annoyed at my
existence. Well I crawled away in disgrace and
was told she had no interest in me. Read some of
your stuff and ran into her a few weeks later and
started talking your language to her. I mentioned
to her that I might have taken an interest if she
exercised once and a while and picked up some
fashion tips. Well, that worked especially well
because she is a health and beauty pro to boot. I
kept it up and no kidding, SHE asked me out!
And by the way, I kept it up on our date and she
couldn't leave me alone, Amazing.
R.D. in CA.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, ye of little faith.
You thought these newsletters full of success stories were just "promotional B.S."?
Well, they're promotional, that's the damn truth.
But they're not B.S.
Every letter I print in these newsletters is real...every single one of them... from day one.
And probably 99% of them are unedited as well (sometimes a letter is just too long, or unclear, or the writer doesn't speak English well, so I'll edit for clarity, but this is very rare).
By the way, I realize that the things I teach sound a little bit bizarre. Believe me, it took me a couple of years of hard work just to figure this stuff out...and a lot of it doesn't exactly make "logical" sense.
But, all you have to do is start using it to see that it works. Good job...you're doing the right thing!
***SUCCESS STORY***
Just a quick story. Once again you were right on
with advice!! I changed my online profile with a
popular dating service and have gotten four
emails after the new profile was up only 1 hour!!
What did I change? I made it short and funny.
Here is the typical response I got: "Your profile
really made me laugh. You have a great sense of
humor. That's refreshing. I have a hard time
finding guys who are truly funny. There's not
shortage of guys who THINK they're funny, but
it's nice to see some of you are still out there.
I'm attaching my profile. I'm 37, never married
(yeah I know... means there must be something
wrong) and like to laugh and have a good time. If
you don't respond, I'll just have to go back to
collecting cats and being the neighborhood
spinster. ha ha. I hope to hear from you." As you
would say Dave, "Love it"! You are the man!!!
E. Chicago
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Yes, this stuff works online just as well as in person...sometimes even better.
You might remember the one newsletter several months ago where the guy took some of the stuff from my Advanced Series and copied it word-for- word to create an online personal ad, and then wound up getting all kinds of emails from women saying "Come over to my house and have sex with me...you're turning me on." LOL...
When you're Cocky & Funny online, it really triggers a FUN, witty, sassy part of women...and they love it.
By the way, if you're reading this right now and you want results like this online, check out my "Meeting Women Online" video program.
Inside this program, I teach:
-- A simple tip to get your profile to the VERY TOP of the search results... so you are the FIRST guy every woman sees when they do a search!
-- 6 things you must AVOID in an online chat... if you want to ever talk to her again, that is...
-- A few simple sentences to add to your profile that increase the amount of women that email you FIRST by 50%
-- "Tension With Text" - How to build intense sexual tension in an online chat or email conversation... and have her picturing the two of you being intimate before you ever even meet...
-- How to use Cocky Comedy to create emails that are impossible to NOT respond to... along with specific phrases to weave into your profile that almost FORCE a woman to write...
-- The exact amount of time you should wait to respond to a text or an email from a woman
And lots more of tips and tricks you can use RIGHT AWAY.
Check it out here.
***QUESTION***
David,
Even though you claim not to be an
expert when it comes to relationships, I'd
appreciate if you would give me some input on my
little situation. I've been seeing this girl for
for about a month now but I don't seem to be able
to get to the next level. There is no question
that she likes me since she keeps calling and
suggesting to do things together. However, she
insists on bringing up that she's gotten hurt in
the past which apparently makes it hard for her
to trust guys. According to me that is pretty
damn dumb; we've all been hurt, haven't we. GET
OVER IT! Anyway, my question to you is, how do I
earn her trust? Are there any shortcuts? Help me
out here palsky... J, PA,
>>>MY COMMENTS:
My guess: You're probably acting like a WUSSY with her, and she doesn't feel any ATTRACTION for you.
She's probably hanging in there, hoping that SOME kind of feelings will develop for you...but it's not working.
Look, when a woman says:
"I only like you as a friend"
...or...
"I've been hurt, so I want to take this slow"
...or...
"I like you so much, I don't want to lose you as a friend"
...or any of the million variations of these things, it USUALLY means that you're not doing the things it takes to create ATTRACTION.
She doesn't FEEL IT for you.
And if she doesn't FEEL IT, then there ARE NO shortcuts, my man.
Stop being such a "nice" guy, and start doing the things you're learning from me to spark some CHEMISTRY!
Oh, and don't call me "palsky."
And no, "palmeister" isn't any better.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey Dave,
Just wanted you to know how your program
changed my life. I'm 45, 5'8" and weigh 179 lbs.
I met this beautiful 29 yr. old 6'2" 9.5 model.
It's amazing how just using your "let's be
friends, if nothing else" technique worked like a
charm on this very beautiful girl. After I
invited her to see me at a local Starbucks Cafe I
immediately started busting on her over her
height. We were sitting down drinking some coffee
when I grabbed her had gently and told her to
kneel down on the floor so I could have eye
contact and tell her something important. She
went along my C&F attitude. Then I told her "who
know, you might make a good friend but please get
off up the floor and stop proposing to me". "Your
making me feel really uncomfortable in front of
all these people and besides that I'm not an
easy catch". That did it from there, it just blew
her mind out. She just started laughing and
couldn't stop. We been dating ever since. I left
a lot of details out because this story would be
too long. Your cost for your program is like a
dime in a bucket, when you realize that you get
so much more in return.
Thanks Dave, J.C.
Puerto Rico
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, well, if you've now attracted a 6'2" model, then maybe you should send me more money. I'm open to the idea.
Seriously, great job. You really get it.
It's so amazing when you take something like a woman's natural height (which she usually gets compliments on) and turn it around on her...and use it to tease her.
If you're talking to a supermodel and you say "You know, just because you're beautiful and are used to being treated like a sex object doesn't mean that you can treat ME like one"...it's magic. (Not quite a religion, but it is magic.)
It's great to hear that the material is working in Puerto Rico. You have some major hot babes there (and if J Lo is any indication, they've got some serious BACK down there as well).
Nice!
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
I would not like to sound like the other 1
million (+,- 100,000) of your followers but your
stuff really is excellent. I got your eBook few
months ago and keep reading newsletters. What I
have realized, for me the problem is not that I
don't know what to do, but I rather can't do it.
Some serious self-esteem issues which don't let
me to get the maximum out of c&f. I know exactly
what I need to do - practise!!!! but I just can't
get my nerv up. I do keep improving but slowly.
Can't just walk to any girl I like and ask for
the info. Not right now. It's simple only when
I'm drunk and clubbing. Then I really don't care
what happens, just have fun and surprisingly the
girls are very friendly. Of course only when I
haven't got too drunk:)
Anyway I've got a question. Sometimes I set up a
date online with a girl I just started to talk
and propose to meet in 2 hours. Well, this has
happened and turned out pretty well. Then we get
to some pub. And what I really don't like is to
buy her a drink. Its ok to buy tea her but I
wouldn't like to have tea lets say friday or
saturday night at 9. I can afford buying her tea
but not drinks. I mean I'm a poor-ass student.
It's kind of wierd to order drinks and take care
of the bill and then tell her e.g. "everybody
pays for his/hers drink", "you owe me 3.75." I do
this all the time with my friends. But feel wierd
to do it with a girl. Afterall it was me who
invited her, I ordered the booz. Any c&f
solutions to solve the situation?
A, from Estonia where women are gorgeous, there
are lots of them and the only sheep is the
president
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, no comments on the political humor...but I like the way you think.
After I'm finished checking out the 6'2" models in Puerto Rico, I'll have to stop by your neck of the woods...
I have a few brainstorms for you...to help you avoid buying drinks at the pub:
1) Keep your Friday and Saturday nights free. Go out with your friends on those nights, and just avoid dates. I have many friends that follow this rule, and it works very well for them.
2) Make a lot of friends at the pubs, bars, etc that are in your area. Invite the bar tenders, doormen, etc. to parties that you hear about... bring them gifts...and just generally figure out how to get in their good graces. In other words, become the guy that NEVER pays for drinks in the first place, because they're GIVEN to you.
3) Lead. Don't do things you don't want to do. Only go to places YOU want to go to. Women will respect you and what you want if you just lead.
***QUESTION***
Hi David!
It's incredible, your stuff works universally,
worldwide. Yes, it does. I stumbled across your
website when I was searching the internet some
months ago. First off, there is nothing like this
available in German. I thought it would be a good
idea to deal with your material since I study
American English among other subjects. Learning
two things at the same time ;-). Hell, I was such
a shy, desperate, depressed 'wussy' (didn't find
that word in 3 dictionaries). I really needed to
get this thing handled...Last night I went to a
dance club with one of my best friends who is
very good with women. I was having a great time
and all of a sudden, there was a girl who asked
me if I would go frequently to this club. She
said she would have noticed me if I had been
there before. That's when the game started. I was
saying and doing things I NEVER would have said
or done before. I was making fun of her and
teasing all night. I made up a story that I was a
Swiss guy who evaluates the girls and the
premises for a snobbish swiss scene-magazine. It
was obvious that I was making fun but later she
said she almost believed me. We had a lot of fun
when we were describing how our
dreamgirl/dreamboy would be like. I teased her
about her 'exorbitant expectations' and guessed
her age about 38 (she's 22). After some close
dancing, she said she needed to sit down for a
while because her feet were aching. I said I
don't massage sweaty feet and she would need to
find somebody else for that job. She called me a
jerk and pinched me more than once ;). Then she
kissed me. The kissing and touching became hotter
and hotter during the night. She seemed to know
everybody in the club. All the time there were
people coming giving comments and grinning. She
made me acquaint with a VERY beautiful waitress
at the bar who is her best friend. I asked her
to write down her email-address and she said I
was the first guy ever who asked her about her
email and not her phone-number ;-). She gave me
her two numbers and her email of course. More
than that, she was actually BEGGING ME to call
her!! At 5 they began to shut the club, she
pulled me in a corner and I heard people saying
'they bite each other'. Then, she invited me to
her apartment, added that the waitress from the
bar would sleep there as well and asked me if
I would mind. And she said she was so tired she
could only play the passive part...It was CRYSTAL
CLEAR what she wanted from me. I said I would
call her and after ten more minutes she
eventually let me go.
And here comes my big problem. It sounds
unbelievable but I'm, ahem...I am still a virgin.
Yes, it's true. You wouldn't believe it if you
see me. I'm 21 years old and pretty good looking,
I have to say. I did and do a lot of sports and I
think nobody in my environment would assume that
I'm a virgin. I don't know how this could happen.
Well, I did a little research in some German
internet newsgroups and forums. It seems that for
most women, this condition is not very pleasant,
to put it mildly. It's a big turn-off. They must
think you're a bloody loser and something can't
be right with you if you haven't managed to do it
at that age. And that's unlikely that you can
give pleasure if you are that inexperienced. It
means more work with you than fun. In the best
case, they judge it neutrally. And to come back
to the first part of the message, I don't know
what to do when we come together the next time.
Tell her, not tell her? I believe she wouldn't
believe me or think I'm dishonest if I tell her
right off. At least she would notice at some
point...I don't know what to do. Have you an
answer? Please include this in your next
newsletter. Help is greatly appreciated.
D from Germany
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First, you're doing GREAT. Nice job.
You probably read the newsletter that I sent out a while back... where I addressed this.
To summarize:
Don't worry about it.
The FEELINGS that you're giving her will FAR MORE than make up for any lack of experience on your part.
If you're with her, making out, and you stop to say "You know, I don't have any experience in this area" you're probably just going to kill the vibe.
Don't worry about it!
Just keep going...you're going to be fine.
By the way, I love your "I'm a Swiss guy who evaluates the girls and the premises for a snobbish swiss scene-magazine" line. Brilliant.
Also, love the guessing that she was 38 when she was obviously in her early 20s. Great stuff.
***SUCCESS STORY***
What's up dave? I've emailed ya before so I won't
get into the "How Great Thou Art" speech..lol Got
your series, and of course it's Da Bomb! I just
wanna share a success story. Well right now I
have 3 "project" women, so to speak. They all say
they "want" me, in more ways than one..hehe
thanks to your teachings I have the confidence to
get any woman I want, I can be choosey. I love
it, it's like a cool Jedi Mind Trick. Anyways on
the the story, I was talkin to a girl I'm
considering meeting (met her on the internet, she
contacted me first cause of my C+F personality).
She brought up the topic of goin out and she
said, "so when are you taking me out?", and I
said (your gonna love this), "I think the real
question is when are you taking ME out?". She
said "I could do that". Then I go on to bustin on
her about how she better not take me to McDonalds
and the dollar theater, cause you hafta wine and
dine me a little..lol Later on into the convo she
said sometime about how the conversation was
making her so hot and bothered. So I go on
busting on her about tryin to have phone sex with
me and that I'm not that easy..wow, she was lovin
it. She begged me to come over and well..finish
her..hehe. Of course I turned her down and told
her, we would pick up where she left off sometime
later in the week..cause you gotta give them the
gift of missing you. Your stuff rocks!!! I have
more women who want me than I have time for. I
play in 3 bands so my time is limited and gives
me an excuse to not call or not be available all
the time. BUY DAVE'S SERIES, IT ROCKS!!!!
-jedi in training in ohio
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, I love the shameless marketing you're doing for me here... nice.
By the way, you mentioned something here that is just great... when a woman brings up sex on the telephone, it's GREAT to make fun of her and tell her to stop trying to have phone sex with you. It says all the right things.
And turning it around when a woman says "So when are you taking me out"... and asking her in return is also a wonderful comeback.
Thanks again for the comments... when a guy who plays in 3 bands says that my stuff ROCKS, it must be true.
***SUCCESS STORY***
dave,
Great stuff...after slipping a bit in my late
20's with the ladies, your e-book and programs
have helped me recapture what had made me
successful - c+f... even though I didn't know what
it was called or the science behind it, my past
success was always based on this attitude, as I am
naturally funny. Quick success from the other
night: I am with a few friends at a hot place
on the sunset strip and we see two hotties. One
is a 9, the other an 8.5. I see they are getting
their dinner check and tell the waitress to give
them a message - "You've been checking us out all
night (not true, incidentally) and you should
probably buy us a round before you leave." They
look totally confused when they get the message.
The waitress returns and says the hotties think
we should pick up their dinner tab. So, I pull
out a business card and write "If you think we're
the type of guys who go for gold-digging, you're
sadly mistaken. I think you owe us an apology and
a round of drinks." Well they get this, nearly
keel over laughing, and within minutes were
seated at our table. I never let up, busting her
balls the whole time before announcing in the
middle of the laugh fest that I needed to leave.
They were shocked and asked me to stay. I
declined, saying that I wasn't going to put out
on the "first date" and their begging was making
me uncomfortable. I left, digits from the 9 in
hand. This stuff works and I recommend it to
everyone one of my guy friends.
thanks, C in hollywood
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is one of my FAVORITES!
One of the best Cocky & Funny themes is "reverse gender stereotypes."
If a woman says, "Give me your number" and you say, "Look, I'm not that easy...don't think that just because I give you my number that I'm going to go out with you or sleep with you"...
Or if you're talking to a woman at a bar, and the conversation is going well, you say "OK, let's just cut to the chase...are you going to offer to buy me a drink or what?"...
Attractive women INSTANTLY connect with the humor because you're turning around situations that they have happen ALL THE TIME...and making something funny out of them.
Of course, you're also adding a Cocky element... the element of "You want me, it's obvious."
Incidentally, if you'd like to get a TON of great Cocky & Funny themes and lines for specific situations, then you really should check out my "Cocky Comedy" program. There are many different "roles" you can play with women that REALLY spike up the ATTRACTION...and I'll teach you all about them in this program.
In fact, on chapter 5 of this program, I go over some fun ideas for "cute names" to call her, that will at the same time tease and intrigue her... creating immediate attraction.
And on chapter 7, I go over some "quick Cocky Comedy tools" that you can use at anytime, with a girl you just met, or if you're already dating her...
Then on chapter 8, I go over some jokes from movies... and tons of other ideas. So you'll never feel like you don't have anything funny and clever to say.
I could go on and on telling you what you'll find in this 6 hour video program... but to save you some time, go check it out here.
Back to my point:
I'm glad you mentioned that the Advanced series have helped you recapture what made you successful in the past.
I think a lot of guys have had times in their lives when they were successful with women...but for whatever reason they have lost their old "mojo." Maybe it was a marriage that went bad... maybe a girlfriend that eventually turned them into a Wuss Bag... whatever.
I get a lot of emails from guys who USED to be good with women, but have been out of practice for so long that they might as well be starting over.
If you fit in this category, or you're just getting started and you want to get off on the right foot, then I recommend you check out my eBook "Double Your Dating", and then my Advanced Dating Techniques program.
No kidding, this stuff has taken me several years to learn, test, refine, and explain clearly. If you want the best material available for meeting and dating women, this is it.
The Advanced program includes over 12 full hours of digitally recorded and edited footage of me teaching LIVE.
Go check out the program here.
My downloadable online eBook comes with three free bonus booklets, and it's the foundation for everything I teach in these newsletters.
Get it here.
Your friend,
P.S. Take a few minutes and look through all of the programs I've created to help you learn how to approach and meet women...and get dates.
You can see them all right here.
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