Getting 'Physical' Fast With A Woman

Getting 'Physical' Fast With A Woman

***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***

Dave,

WOW!!!! Thats all I can say. I've been getting your
emails for several months and have since downloaded
your book. I've committed myself to improving my "skills"
with women and the results have been amazing. The
"Crash and Burn" that most guys are sooo fearful of
NEVER happens and very rarely does a girl give you
anything but a smile even if she isnt interested.
My latest success was so easy it was almost scary.
I met a woman (an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and
used the c/f to get her number and set up a date.
Went out on the date and it was almost like it was
scripted. Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night,
teased her, drove her completely crazy and left her
house at 5:00 am the next morning. Here's the thing,
using this material you will very often hear, "Oh...
I can't believe I'm doing this..I never do this kind
of thing." Usually I laugh hysterically inside, and
respond with the heart felt, "Oh I know, don't worry
about it." The problem is with this girl it was
different. First, even using your vast knowledge,
I didn't expect to be able to get this far with this
girl on the first date. She had that intangible "it"
that really attracted me to her and I actually don't
think that under normal circumstances she would have
taken a guy home but.... most guys don't have the benefit
of the "David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks" either (lol).
Anyway this was Saturday and I called her Monday just
to say hi. She was soooo nervous and uncomfortable
she could barely complete a sentence. Obviously with
everything that happened I think she was a bit embarrassed
and, that's to be expected, but now Im not sure how
to handle this situation. I'm afraid now that if
I'm not REALLY careful that I'll screw up a chance
with a great woman. I get the feeling that she needs
a little reassurance that this wasn't just a one night
stand, but I'm not sure if that's the right thing to
do or if it is, how to do it without coming off like
a WUSS BAG! I think this girl could be worth some
effort.........PLEASE HELP!!!

Thanks for everything,
JH
Monroe LA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great story, and your story illustrates
all kinds of great things. I'd like to comment on
a few of them before I actually answer your question.

The first thing I'd like to comment on is this illogical
progression of how you went from meeting this girl
to being intimate so fast.

To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and teased
her... "to the extreme", which somehow resulted in
her spending the night with you.

Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no sense
at all... I mean, why would a woman who is obviously
very attractive and "in demand" want to get physical
with a guy that isn't buying her things, giving her
compliments, and generally kissing her ass all night
long?

The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN DON'T
ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS IN THE
FIRST PLACE!

Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures, religions,
and mothers have programmed us to be "nice guys" when
we're around women we feel attracted to.

This does two thing:

1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.

2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.

Again, I know it's illogical, but attractive women
have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION responses
to men who CHALLENGE them and who act UNPREDICTABLE
in a particular way.

Part of creating this illogical and desirable response
is knowing how to use arrogance and humor together
in a formula I call "Cocky & Funny" (which you obviously
get).

Of course, there's a lot more to it, but the key is
that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T WORKING...
namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.

The second thing I'd like to comment on is when she
said:

"Oh...I can't believe I'm doing this...I never do
this kind of thing."

I've talked to a lot of guys who are VERY successful
with women about this particular phenomenon, and they
all say similar things.

It seems that whenever a woman is going to get "physical"
quickly, they have to rationalize it "out loud" first.

Sometimes a woman will say "I'm not like this" or
something similar to slow things down and try to
explain away what's happening.

Don't let it bother you.

Of course, if a woman says "stop" or she actually
tries to stop you from kissing her (or anything else),
then you need to stop immediately. I'm not suggesting
at all that you don't respect a woman's wishes.
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But you also need to understand that just because
a woman is SAYING that "she doesn't usually do things
like this" that it means she doesn't WANT to.

The final point I'd like to comment on before answering
your question is this response that she had when you
called her back. You mentioned that she was so nervous
and uncomfortable that she couldn't complete a sentence.

I have seen this exact same thing, and I have several
friends who have told me stories just like this.

It seems to me that when an attractive woman who is
used to being the one in control meets a guy who is
super confident, Cocky & Funny, unpredictable, and
NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it freaks her out.

Sometimes she literally doesn't know what to do, and
she doesn't know how to act. Often, she will be self
conscious about the fact that she "got physical" so
soon, or about some other thing... but it really comes
down to the fact that she just doesn't know how to
deal with you.

This is a great place to be, and don't let it bother
you when it happens.

And now, to answer your question... of how to handle
this situation.

First of all, don't start acting TOO DIFFERENTLY.

If you start acting all nice and lovey, you'll come
across in a way that will be confusing... and it will
probably make her run.

If you want this to turn into something more, then
you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING that
happens.

If she seems nervous, just relax and make a joke about
it.

With attractive women, it's always a good idea to
"lean back" and give her space.

As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as you would
normally call a woman, and see her half as much...
at least for the first few weeks.

GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.

And if you're going to be "nice", then BE VERY CAREFUL
AND DON'T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!

When the average guy meets a really attractive woman
that is "different" from the others... one that he
wants to have a relationship with... he usually starts
doing too much. He buys gifts, calls all the time,
and gives lots of compliments.

As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY behavior,
and it usually results in the woman running away.

In other words, you must not let her nervous state
affect your state or your behavior.

KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.

...and if you're reading this right now and thinking
to yourself "You know, I need to learn this stuff
about how to meet and attract women... and how to
take things to a physical level fast", then YOU'RE
RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in himself,
and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and
invest in themselves... and they wind up going their
whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds
of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't know
what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of the guys
who can go out anytime, in any situation and attract
women.

What's the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend you
learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It's taken me a long time to figure all this stuff
out, and it's also taken a lot of time, effort, and
energy on my part to put it all down on paper and
on audio and video... so that any guy can learn from
the things I've discovered.

I'd like to personally invite you to check out
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My eBook "Double Your Dating" is the FOUNDATION
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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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