How To Make Sure Your Girl Commits To A Date. By Christian Hudson
Hey dude,
It can be incredibly frustrating to set the date, then have a woman cancel it on the day of.
So I’m going to give you the exact messages to send before your next date, to make sure that doesn’t happen.
And I want to start by making sure you understand the female psychology behind dating – if you get this, then it will eliminate a lot of the frustration .
So understand: when she gives you her number, it’s not a binding commitment to see you again. In fact, agreeing to go on a date with you isn’t a 100% commitment either!
Rather, giving you her number or agreeing to go on a date means that – in the moment that you asked her – she felt good about you. Good enough that she thought, “I’d like these feelings to continue.”
But between the time that you ask her out, and the day of the date, her feelings could change. They could change because of something you do – or don’t do – when you’re messaging her.
Or her feelings could change because of something that happened in her life. Maybe something great happened to her – a promotion, for example. Or maybe she got some bad news from family or a friend. Think about all of things that affect your mood on a daily basis.
This is where text messaging feels like a minefield – like one wrong move and you lose a limb.
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And I think you get the point – if she’s not in a good emotional state on the day of the date, then she might not “feel” like going out with you… especially if you haven’t done some of the other things I teach in HOW2TXTHER to get her more invested in you.
So what you need to do is send a message sent on the day of the date, around 1pm.
Why 1?
Well, that’s right around when she’s thinking about whether or not she wants to commit to going out with you that night. By 3, she’s made a decision, and if you haven’t reached out to her by then, chances are she’ll reach out to you… either to confirm, or to cancel.
So – why not help her make the right choice?
Now as we already learned, she agreed to go out with you when she was in a good emotional state. So if we don’t want her to flake on the date, then our best bet is to put her back in a good emotional state… or in other words, put a smile on her face and maybe make her laugh a little bit...
Enter the “False Choice.”
It’s a simple question you send to her, phrased in such a way that there’s one obvious, correct choice for her to make… and a second choice, which is funny, ridiculous, and which she’d never choose.
So here’s an example from my single days.
I sent her a message that said: “excited about tonight?”
I didn’t know this girl too well yet, so I was testing the waters.
She replied “yeah, what’s the plan?”
Often, girls want to know what you have planned – this will factor into their decision of going out with you or not. If they’re thinking about putting effort into doing themselves up, they want to see that you’ve put some effort into planning a date.
So put some effort into planning your dates… don’t be half-assed about showing a girl a good time!
And when she says “yeah what’s the plan?” I followed up with..
“Come by mine for dinner around 7, we’ll make some blackened salmon and open a nice bottle of pinot noir. Or we could go fishing in the east river? I’ll get the poles if you get the worms.”
Now obviously, there was no chance we were going to go fishing in the east river. But this false choice made her laugh, and she was over at mine a few minutes after 7. It was a memorable night ;)
Here’s another one I sent when I was living in New York:
“Hey, let’s meet down here in soho at 9 for a drink… unless you’d prefer midnight in the Bronx for some breaking and entering?”
And yeah… if she’d chosen the breaking and entering option, that would have been a red flag. It was obviously a false choice, and of course, she thought it was funny.
Here’s a final example. Sometimes, if you’re a date or two in with a girl, and things are going well, you can be spontaneous and ask her if she’d like to do a quick, unplanned date. So you might send her something like:
“I am feeling ice-creamy-ish-stuff right now. come with?”
And she might reply…
“oh sounds interesting! what are you thinking?”
To which you’d reply:
“we can get pinkberry. or mochi at nobu. either way, really.”
Nobu is one of the most expensive Japanese restaurants in New York, so it should be obvious to her that we’re not planning to just pop in there for ice cream. And if it’s not, well…
So that’s the false choice. A simple message to make her laugh, sent around 1pm on the day of the date.
Straight outta HOW2TXTHER.
One of the things that guys LOVE about this course is that there’s a ton of female psychology thrown into the mix.
I want you to understand WHY these text messages work, and be able to create your own.
And in the time it took me to write this email, we sold another 36 copies, so the official tally is 234 sale copies left.
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I love being able to share these tips with you, dude, and I’d LOVE to see you on the inside of the course… sending me the next success story ;)
Rock and roll,
Christian
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