Good. Now, let me ask you a few questions:
- Did you ever stop a day or two after one of these situations happened to think about where that particular woman might be, and what she might be doing?
- Did you ever stop to think about what the rest of her day was like after she walked by you? About the ten or twenty other men that saw her that day who didn't have the nerve to talk to her... and the two or three that DID talk to her with the the same-old "Wow, you're beautiful lines"?
- Did you ever consider that it might be useful to take a little time out and consider what it might be like to be an attractive woman walking through life having almost every man you see light up with that "Whoa..." look?
Hmm, what do you think we might be able to figure out if we just took a few minutes to explore what that attractive woman's private life is like? Well, here are a few things that I've come up with:
- Most attractive women are bored out of their minds by men. One of the reasons is that guys have no idea what to do when they run into an attractive woman, so they do the same default things: give dumb looks and compliment her.
- As I've said many, many, many times: You can't bore a woman into feeling ATTRACTED to you. She's most likely got a boring life like everyone else, so you need to do something that none of the other 499 guys she's going to walk by this month did, or won't attract any special attention.
- If you start with the idea of NOT doing what other guys do, you will be waaaayyyy ahead of those 499 boring, predictable, "nice" loser guys she encounters.
Wow, this is fun, isn't it? Bet you never thought you'd be thinking like a woman, did ya? Now let's get to it...
The One Thing You MUST Do To Get A Woman's Attention
As you may have already predicted, I have a few ideas on this (including the most important thing a man MUST do to get noticed by a great woman... ) but don't let that stop you from thinking about this on your own as often as you get a chance.
To start with, try approaching a woman in an interesting way that makes her feel like you might actually be someone to provide her with a pinch of spice in her life.
Start by getting rid of the, "Wow, you're a beautiful woman, and I'm just an average guy admiring you" vibe. That's not helping.
Next, take a moment and think about how a guy that she would feel attracted to might act... then choose that style. My experience is that if you take an attitude of "I guess fate has good taste putting us in the same place, now let's see if you have a personality to match your looks" then stir in a generous portion of Cocky & Funny, you're likely to do well.
Here's A Real-Life Example That I've Used Myself...
You say... "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" (leaning back and playing it cool, talking cool and slow). She says: "Sure."
You pause for suspense and say, "Are you single?" (with a stone-cold straight face). She says, "Well, um..." to which you say, ""I'll take that as a yes..." (while nodding with a sly smile)
She'll laugh. So you say, ""Well, I just happen to know someone that I think might really like you... if you're more than just a pretty face, that is... He's funny, has great taste, and I think you'd like him... I'd love to sit down and get your life story, but I'm on my way somewhere... do you have email?"
At this point, she'll almost ALWAYS say "Yes." So you say, "Great... (take out pen)... write it down for me, and I'll have, uh (clear throat) HIM send you an email."
Then wish her a good day and get out of there.
Let's Talk About Why This Works...
First off, did I give her any compliments? Did I act like the other 499 guys? Did I instantly communicate that "I'm not worthy?" Definitely NOT.
I said, "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" in a very laid back, almost too relaxed and mysterious tone of voice, to which any woman will respond with a "yes." (NOTE: your body language is a very important component of this approach... if you'd like to learn how to use body language to create massive attraction, then you should go and check this out... it will really help.)
Next, I did something kind of fun: I asked her directly if she was single. I really love this one. It's so fun. Most guys will say, "Uh, I'll bet you have a boyfriend, huh?" or "So, do you have a man?" or some other lame thing.
The question, "Are you single?", takes women off guard. It's great. And then being assumptive in a cocky & funny way when she hesitated with an answer... works like magic!
Next, I followed up with a cocky, funny, semi-confusing little bit about knowing someone that might find her interesting. Now, she might think that it's really me, but she won't know for sure until she gets the email. Then you might play with her a bit... "So, what did you think of my friend? I think he might like you..." etc. The point is:
This Kind Of Stuff Doesn't Happen To A Woman Very Often
I can pretty much guarantee it... This kind of fun approach will be a welcome breath of fresh air. The whole time she's trying to overcome her sheer awe that you didn't ask, "Don't I know you from somewhere?"
Now, I want you to do something. Go back and READ IT AGAIN... very carefully. Imagine it happening exactly like it's written. Try to imagine it in a few different settings. Work on it until you can clearly see it happening in your mind's eye. (The reason I can see it clearly is because I've done it so many times in real life!)
You Know How To Approach A Woman... So What's Next?
I can remember when I first learned how to start approaching women... I thought that if I could just start conversations easily, the rest of it would be a snap.
Well, after meeting a lot of women, but not getting so many dates... and having the few dates I did get not go anywhere... I realized that there was a lot more to it.
The REALITY is that *success* with women comes down to understanding female psychology, knowing the entire mating game front to back, and then knowing all the specific techniques and steps you need to take at each moment with a woman.
And there's only one place in the world I know of where you can learn all of this information quickly, easily, and thoroughly...
That one place is my Advanced Dating Techniques program.
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
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