NOTE: When most guys try to be "funny" with a woman
they end up coming across as goofy or dorky. Not
good. If you want to learn the right way to use humor to
make any woman feel attracted - or even ADDICTED -
to you, go here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy/
I want to thank you for all your advice in your
newsletters and in your ebook. This stuff really
works! I just got a new job at a clothing store
and all the girls that work there are all over me.
Not to mention the ones that shop at the store! I
have a question that I have been thinking about
ever since I ran across your material. I know in
your ebook you say to always make the decisions
(like where to go, what to do on a date, etc.) and
to be in control of the situation (don't let her
insult or treat you poorly). What is it about this
that attracts women? Is this some kind of test to
see if you are in control of your life, or is it
like a subconscious trigger in a woman's mind, or
what? I would appreciate any feedback on this
issue. Thanks again for all the help you have
already given me.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here's the deal about always making decisions
and staying in control...
Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.
So how could you characterize a Wuss?
A Wussy is a guy who is weak, indecisive, and
insecure.
A Wussy isn't in control, and he doesn't make
decisions.
Women feel ATTRACTION for men who demonstrate
the qualities of a LEADER.
How could you characterize a LEADER?
A LEADER is a man who is in control of the
situation, and who makes decisions and follows
through on them WITHOUT needing approval from
others.
You've asked a great question, but it's a
complex one.
In my CD Audio Program "Advanced Dating
Techniques" I talk at length about the qualities
and beliefs of men who are NATURALLY attractive to
women, and how to communicate all of this with
body language, voice tone, and words.
If this topic is fascinating to you, then I
recommend that you check out my CD program. It
will blow your mind. You can find it right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
Your material has unbelievable results. After
reading your book and newsletters, I am finding
myself in a dilemma of needing to let some of the
women down in order to make room for others.
The problem is they keep wanting to fill my
schedule and I haven't learned or need to learn
how to let these women know that like yesterdays
newspaper, I have read and prefer to read current
events as opposed to rereading the same newspaper
over and over. I guess I am being a wussy in this
regard cause I just do not know how to say See Ya?
How does the master say this without being mean. I
want to let them go without hurting their self
esteem, they have done nothing wrong, they are
beautiful, I just want to move on and enjoy, the
riches you have endowed upon me, without hurting
them, and without being a wussy in the process.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'd say that the problem you're experiencing is
probably being caused BEFORE it actually happens.
How do women know if a man is interested in
them for a "long-term" relationship... or if he's
just interested in dating casually?
The trigger for this is HOW OFTEN YOU SEE THEM,
and how often you CALL them.
Of course, there's more... like whether or not
you buy gifts, talk about how you feel, ask her to
be your girlfriend, etc.
But if you want to just see a woman casually
and not have her become "hooked" on you, then
don't call her more than a couple of times a week,
and don't see her more than once a week... maybe
twice sometimes.
This should solve your problem.
I'm a 25 years old guy that never understood
women. Now I realize the WUSS I have been for such
a long time. Anyway, I was lucky because I got a
girlfriend casually, and I experienced with her,
but some years ago we broke up and I have been so
LOST with the women task and suddenly YOU, sensei
David, appeared in the middle of my nightmare, and
things started getting sense (I bought your ebook,
of course)
The thing is that I have a bisexual friend (girl)
that I like, but I've never told her anything
about my feelings. Some days ago she and some of
her friends came to visit me and we went out. We
were in a nightclub, and next to us there was a
group of girls, I made eye contact with one of
them. And then I thought about something that I
wouldn't have figured out in my WUSS- PAST-WOLD:
Let's get that girl, and see the reaction of my
bisexual friend. After some C&F stuff, I was
french kissing the girl of the eye contact in
front of the face of my friend. And guess what was
the reaction ???? Now I can't get rid of her. It's
like I've been a kind of ghost, until that night
Thanks, David. Keep on giving us some perspective.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, I never said that women made any damn
sense!
Jealousy is a powerful emotion.
Some think that it's the MOST powerful emotion.
It might be interesting for you to know that
many of the guys I know who like to date a lot of
different women don't hide the fact that they date
a lot of girls.
Many female animal species choose males by
finding the ones with the most other females who
are attracted to him.
Women are often the same.
Women can be very competitive, and if a woman
knows that you don't have any trouble meeting
other women, it will often inspire her to feel
even more attraction for you.
But be careful. I don't think that it's a good
idea to try to deliberately make a woman jealous.
It doesn't feel good, and if you meet the wrong
women you just might wind up with a rabbit boiling
on your stove when you come home one night.
I won't even begin to tell you how awsome your
book is and how it breaks everything down for ex-
wusses like myself because that would take up too
much time, but I've got a situation for you. A few
weeks ago, I met this girl in my class. She was
definitely a 8-9. Anyways, I got her number and
asked her if we could study sometime. We
eventually set up a date to get a paper done. She
didn't show up! I was like.... okay, I'm not even
gonna get mad. So a few days later, I saw her
walking with this dude.. I was like... "ok, she
has a bf, thats why", but here's the funny part;
I've been working on my body language and eye
contact lately and it's been doing wonders. When I
see her, I just speak and keep walking. I haven't
held a conversation with her in like 2 weeks and
yesterday she left a message on my phone that
said..."Hey, this is ---- from your english class,
I was just calling to tell you that I think that
you are a VERY attractive man, and I think you are
really fine. But I have a boyfriend. I know you
tried to study with me in the past, but you know
how things can be when you have a boyfriend... so
i guess ill talk to you later" Whats up with this?
I didn't talk to the girl in two weeks and she
leaves this message? Was it a movement I made?
Could you anyalize this for me please?
P.S.- I never knew body language could be so
powerful!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This kind of thing always makes me laugh.
I can remember when I used to call women too
often, and if they didn't show up, I'd get upset
and try to set up another date with them, etc.
Of course, they'd usually play hard to get, and
wind up thinking that I was a Wussy because I just
accepted their flaky behavior.
Well, after I stopped calling women back who
flaked, and basically stopped CHASING women, I had
the strangest thing happen...
I had women call me... but sometimes it was
literally WEEKS later. Just like your situation.
You probably just have a girl who was in a
fight with her boyfriend the day she set the study
date with you... but fixed things up with him
before she was supposed to see you again... and
then maybe got into another fight with him so she
decided to call you and see if you were
available.
Don't worry about it. Just move on. She'll
probably start flirting with you again when she's
single.
Hey, your advice works wonders! It is amazing
how much it works. I tried it on this girl I
hardly knew, and we hit it off real well. In fact,
we hooked up, and that was pretty cool.
I need advice, though. The girl and I started
to really hit it off, and we became closer
everyday. Then, we started talking, and it seemed
as though we were over, and I was devastated.
She's really cool and REALLY hot. We kept talking,
and she ends up telling me that she needs to know
herself before she knows me, so she asks for time,
and that I be her friend in that time. My
question: how do I keep her falling head over
heels for me while I give her the time, and that
she doesn't become another friend.
Again, thanks for the great advice.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, let me do a little translation for you...
If a woman says, "I need time to get to know
myself" or "I need to find myself" or any
variation of this common theme, it usually means:
"YOU WERE ACTING LIKE A WUSS, BEING CLINGY, AND
GENERALLY NOT A CHALLENGE ANYMORE. I WANT YOU TO
LEAVE, BUT I DON'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, SO
I'M GOING TO TELL YOU THAT I NEED TIME TO "FIND
MYSELF" TO GET YOU TO LEAVE ME ALONE WITHOUT A
HASSLE."
I'm harsh, aren't I?
Well, here's the deal. In general, if you
become too predictable, too involved, too needy,
too wuss-ish, and too "head over heels" too early
in the relationship, it will drive a woman away.
Think about it this way: The REALLY attractive
women have guys chasing them FAR more than the
average/below average women. You need to do
something DIFFERENT, while at the same time being
ATTRACTIVE.
Probably the best thing you can do when you
finally meet a really great girl is call her HALF
as much as you normally would, and give her twice
the space. Think about it.
I just got back from eating with a woman I started
dating 3 weeks ago. Somehow we got on the topic of
what she likes in a man and what is the quickest
time she has ever jumped in the sack with one. She
stated that she met a guy one night and slept with
him the next. She said that she did it only once
in her life and then gave me the reason why she
did that time. She stated that all the guys she
dated before him would always say something on the
wild side, that she was really interested in
doing, but would back down and say, "oh, I was
just kidding" when she looks at them to see if
they were serious. She said that this guy she
slept with the next night and I are the only two
men that have ever said something cocky and funny
and not flinched when she looked on in disbelief.
In fact, I would look at her and repeat things I
said whenever she looked at me with that "I can't
believe you just said that to me," stare. She
tells me it is such a turn-on.
I had only begun to do this after subscribing to
your websight newsletter about a month or two
ago... I would just like to thank you for the
advice and tell the other guys to stick by what
they say, no matter how off the wall it may sound.
B.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is JEDI-LEVEL wisdom, read it again.
Great stuff. I was that nice guy... after reading
your book and your e mails I have been able to
change into the cocky and funny guy. The other day
one of the 3 women I am dating called giving me a
little grief. I said you know maybe we should not
see each other any more and she was like but I
have been thinking about you all weekend PLEASE
come over now and F#% me, after a little delay I
agreed it was great. I do have a ? The one I
really like who is totally hot never makes the
first move and while she is very receptive when I
do it, would be great to get her to seduce me, any
suggestions?...
c.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
For some reason, I LOVE your question... how
fun is it to have a woman pursuing YOU? OK, here's
a tip from my personal experience...
Next time you're with her, and you've started
getting physical... just when you know that she's
really enjoying what's going on (and it can be at
any stage, kissing, etc.) just stop. Then whisper
in her ear, "You want more, don't you?... you're
going to have to say PLEASE."
Then just keep working up to the same level and
saying the same thing until she finally does. Once
you've done this, it's easy to transfer the same
idea to other things, like getting her to make the
first move.
Note: This is all done with a very playful,
teasing tone. It's not a psychological control
strategy... Keep things on the nice nice, don't be
a controlling loser. Done right this can be a big
turn-on for all involved.
I did exactly what you had said for the
personals... I actually cut and paste your letter,
made one or two changes and I actually got a
response...
Now, you talk about getting that phone number?
How?
What should I say in the e-mail not to come off
like a looser, but to come off confident, cocky,
and funny?
Thanks!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Can I just tell you how much I love it when
guys actually go out and USE the materials? This
is great stuff...
OK, step two is to get her live on the phone,
and to do it soon. You don't want this to take too
long or she's likely to get 100 more emails and
forget about you.
Try a cocky funny response like this:
"Wow, you're a real person. Great. I guess we
have a couple of options here. We could start an
email relationship, fall madly in love, and maybe
even get a priest to marry us in a live chat
ceremony...
Then again, maybe we could get together for a
cup of tea and some stimulating conversation and
make friends. And then after I can validate that
you're actually the cute gal in this picture I saw
of you, we can talk about the online marriage
thing.
Give me a call tonight. My number is (insert
number here). I'm a pretty busy person, and I
can't guarantee that I'll be home, but give it a
try. And please call before 11 PM because that's
when my mom makes me go to sleep.
By the way, where can I reach you if I want to
call you ten times a day?
Talk soon."
I'm a funny guy.
But all kidding aside, this is a KILLER model
for a follow up letter to a personal ad response.
It says so many things in the right way that
you're very likely to get another response,
probably a call, and probably her number.
A few weeks back you used what I think is one of
the most important words in dating (next to cocky
and funny of course) that word is "NEXT."
We always want the one that we can't get. Forget
that! I say NEXT. If you have this idea of
"Next" in your brain, you will come across as a
man who is not needy and you will be more
attractive to women. Why waste time with woman
who are not interested? Its a lot more fun to
find a nice looking lady who wants to be with you
then it is to chase someone who isn't interested.
The book was great. Keep up the great work!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is another psychological step that is very
important. I get so many emails from guys who have
met a great girl, but they screwed it up because
they made her "too important" mentally. In other
words, when things started to get difficult,
instead of taking the attitude of "NEXT" (which
creates all kinds of attraction), they CLING and
act NEEDY and generally do EXACTLY THE THINGS THAT
CAUSE THE WOMAN TO HIT THE ROAD FOR GOOD.
Much better to have the mental attitude of "I'm
going to enjoy this woman's company for as long as
it stays a good thing. The moment that she becomes
a strain or a pain I'm out of here. I don't need
problems or drama in my life, and my happiness is
more important than this woman."
The first response to this is usually, "But
this woman is SPECIAL. She's not like other women.
She's the one."
Blah blah blah...
If she's the ONE, then all the more reason to
take this attitude.
"THE ONE" ISN'T LOOKING FOR A WUSS.
The "NEXT" attitude will do a lot of good
things for your success with women. Use it.
***NOTE: If you're reading this right now, and
you are thinking to yourself, "I sure wish I could
get up the courage to say 'Next!' to a woman"...
or you'd like to learn more about how to build a
powerful "Inner Game" confidence that is
UNSHAKABLE, then I highly recommend that you check
out my "Deep Inner Game" program. It is
specifically designed to help you overcome your
insecurities and build massive confidence. It's
here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/DeepInnerGame/
I got your mailbag, and bought your book right
away a few months ago and it has truely changed my
life. Thank you. I realized that in all of my
relationships I have been a total wuss and that is
why I was not having sucess. I am actually a
pretty funny guy (amatuer stand up comedian) but I
am not cocky at all. As soon as I added a bit of
cocky to my usual sacarstic humor, the success
followed.
My problem is this. I met a woman who is an
extremely skilled player. We went out as "freinds"
and then it escalated nicely (kiss test worked
like a charm) and then it got really screwed up
when I had to leave the country for a month on
business and things got a bit muddled. When I
returned we went out right away and I missd her so
much I fell back in to my wussie ways and I think
I ruined it, in only one 6 hour date!
Since then I have been trying to turn the tables.
I mean I try to end the conversations first all
the time but she just seems to beat me to it each
time, like she is psychic or something. I try to
tell her I am busy and I'll have to call her back
but unless I do it at an awkwardly early point in
the conversation she always seems beat me to it.
In my opinion if I continue to play "hard to get"
and don't call her (which seems to be working
lately) she will get the wrong message. I want to
send the "I like you but you haven't got me
wrapped around your finger" message, not the "I'm
not thinking about you at all while everything
around me in society screams 'couple' and
'romance' " message.
What would you do in this unusal time?
Thanks again for all your help and advice.
To anyone who has not dowloaded the book, you
deserve the miserable lonely nights I know you are
going through, put a crowbar in your wallet and
get the full information!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I like the crowbar idea.
As for your situation, you've learned an
important lesson the hard way.
When I think about women and attraction, I
imagine it like an on/off switch. If it ever gets
turned off, it's VERY hard to turn it back on.
ESPECIALLY if you're dealing with a woman like the
one you're talking about who is very experienced
and knows the game well.
The best thing you can do is start dating other
women, not call her for a month or so, then drop
her a line and say, "Hey, let's get together for a
cup of tea. You were a nice friend..." Then tell
her about what's going on in your life (the other
women, I mean).
YOU'VE LOST CONTROL, AND YOU NEED TO TAKE IT
BACK.
'Nuff said.
I am a 23 year old single father i having a tough
time getting a date because i have a kid. Most of
the girls i ask out, I tell them I have a kid and
they dont want to be any more than just friends.
Any suggestions?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I have one for you...
STOP THINKING OF YOUR KID AS A LIMITATION. I'm
going to suggest that you don't have a tough time
getting a date BECAUSE you have a kid... it's
because you THINK IT'S A PROBLEM.
Just don't bring it up early on. Don't answer
any questions about your status as a father. Make
a decision to share that info only with women who
are EXCEPTIONAL.
If a woman is REALLY attracted to you, she'll
overlook almost ANYTHING. I mean, hey... look at
Steven Tyler and Mick Jagger...
Hi David!!
I just wanted to tell you that what you say in
your emails is true and it works. I'm from a small
central american country and your advice works on
women here too!!! Now to my question, I met this
gorgeous girl, she is incredible and hot as hell.
But I have competition, some guy who doesn't know
a thing about women (he should subscribe to your
newsletter, dont you think), but she seems a
little interested in him and interested in me too.
What would you suggest to "neutralize" him?
A.
P.S.: I used the cocky and funny technique and it
worked!!!! thanks for sharing you wisdom
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you focus on the competition it will only
distract you and cause you problems.
Forget other guys and what they're doing. Just
focus on what you're doing and your own success.
It's very natural to let competition upset
you... and jealousy is a very real emotion. But
remember, it isn't going to help you in most
cases. Just do your best, keep using the
techniques, and stick to your methods. Chances are
that any other guys involved will screw it up at
some point, and you will be the one left with the
prize.
Note: In situations like this one, we guys
often start to put too much value on getting the
girl BECAUSE there are other guys involved. We
think to ourselves, "Well, this other guy likes
her, so she must be something REALLY special. Even
more than I thought." This leads to making all
kinds of mistakes, being a wuss, acting clingy,
etc. Don't fall into this trap.
I need some help and i think that you have the
best advice so here is the problem, I like this
girl at my college and she works at the college
bookstore. A while back i was buying books and she
was asking me questions and being super friendly,
then the following semester she said hi to me on
campus but like a dip sh** I didnt respond. Now i
really want to hook it up but have this feeling
that she is not interested anymore. Everytime I
see her we make eye contact but I can't tell if
she wants me to go in for the kill. Please help me
so i can go right up to her and talk to her, I'm
having trouble starting out the conversation.
Thanks.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
No killing please. Why don't you just go in for
the email instead? Much less messy. Just get her
email and then take it one step at a time. This is
the best way to find out if it can go somewhere...
I was enjoying a bagel this morning in the outdoor
chairs at a little donut shop I go to on
Saturdays. I doubt if the guy I'm going to tell
you about has ever read your book...but he's a
walking advertisement for it.
The only other person out there with me was an
elderly woman, who was about 8 years older than
God. A guy pulls up in this old caddie with a USMC
license plate on the front bumper. He's about a
few minutes younger than her.
This old guy goes in, orders a bag of donuts, and
comes back out. He walks right up to her table and
says:
"Hi ya, toots. You're a classy lookin' dame. Are
you friendly?"
She says, "How dare you call me some dame. My
given name is Julia"
This guy never misses a beat. He says, "Got your
feathers ruffled, did I? Well, you know the first
airplane I ever rode in during the war started
witha J, too. She was a hardbody, with a shapely
tailpiece. I still remeber what it felt like to
run my hand over her headlights."
The old girl, says, "That's atrocious. You better
have a seat sailor. It sounds like you been away
from shore for too long."
It was all I could do to keep from busting up
laughing. I didn't know whether to throw a blanket
over them or go give this codger a high five. He
had it down, buddy, just like you've been telling
us. This guy could be me 35 years from now if I
follow what you teach.
Keep getting the word out, Dave. We'll still be
using it when we're on Viagra.
C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love this story. Use the things I'm teaching
you and hopefully you'll find success before
you're 100 years old and cruising the old folks
home for babes...
But, as you can see, the Cocky & Funny
technique works even if you ARE cruising the old
folks home...
Well, what can I say, David, you're a dating God!
Your book is nothing less than a masterpiece. Now
that i've got a good handle on some of your
techniques, I've had no problem meeting women.
I've recently started dating a woman whom is a
pleasant distraction. My fear is she is falling
way to hard for me. My problem is, my friend of
two years who I've been smitten with since the
beginning is now single. There is another guy
friend of hers who has recently made his feelings
known for her. I'm pretty sure there has always
been chemical tension underneath our friendship.
She has told me things like you have the sexiest
voice ever, I listen to your cd every night cause
I love falling asleep to the sound of your voice,
when you're lost in thought you have the sexiest
eyes. We went for coffee last night and she
touched me 3-5 times on the hand.
The problem comes in that before your book I was
the nice sensitive guy always bearing my feelings,
catering to a woman's needs, and very humble. Now
i've got a great routine down for getting dates
but she doesn't know me as that type of person. So
i don't know how to approach trying to instigate a
relationship with her. Any suggestions??
A.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I have any suggestions...
KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS!!! DON'T TURN BACK INTO A
WUSS NOW THAT YOU HAVE THE CHANCE TO GET THE GIRL
YOU REALLY LIKE!!!
Wow, I don't use that many exclamation marks
very often.
And for the girl who is smitten with you... let
her down easy. This is a great opportunity to
borrow a technique from our book on female dating
tactics. It's called:
"You're really nice, but I think that we should
be friends."
All's fair in love and war... just don't be a
bastard.
First off...you are the smartest man alive. I have
really enjoyed reading your litterature and it has
helped me build a confidence I've never had
before. Here's the question.... I recently visited
an "exotic dance club" and met an "exotic dancer".
I used the cocky funny attitude and had a nice
chat before my lap dance. Within minutes
afterward... I got her e-mail addy. The problem
is...The setting in which we met and the
circumstances involved. How can I start a
relationship with her without her seeing me as a
customer... or a pervert that liked what he saw
and just wants more? I know it can be done I just
need a little insight from the master. Help me out
Mr. Miagi.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Start a RELATIONSHIP?
With an EXOTIC DANCER?
After talking to her for a few minutes?
OK, let's do a quick reality check before you
do something that you'll regret for a long time...
About 80-90% of the time, exotic dancers are
the LAST type of woman up for a "relationship."
If you're interested in taking things to the
next level, you need to be cocky & funny, bust her
balls a lot, make sure you keep being a challenge,
etc. Of all the people in the world, these women
are probably pursued by the most men.
If, after going out with her for AT LEAST
several months you can prove beyond the shadow of
a doubt that:
2) She doesn't smoke like a fire and have dirty-
carpet breath
3) She wasn't sexually molested more than a dozen
times
4) She isn't manic-depressive, bi-polar, or
borderline
5) You can deal with the idea that she's not
quitting for you
Then maybe you might consider a "relationship."
I mean, hey... most exotic dancers are bi-sexual.
And I've heard that some of them even know other
cute girls (but I'm not certain on this one). In
any case, don't forget the protection. Big time.
Oh, and if you change your mind, try finding a
woman who comes from a good family... who has
fantastic relationships with her mother and
father... and who is emotionally mature.
It might surprise you, but I think you'd enjoy
a long-term relationship more with this kind of
woman.
Just my two cents...
Your like a god to me! I've been going out about
five times as much as I used to (which wasn't
much) and women see me in a new way. Now for the
important part. I stepped up my cocky/funnyness
to the max and this one girl is crazy about me.
She delayed one date, never stopped appologizing.
I teased her for it all night. She keeps acting
so needy and I can't get enough of it (I don't
tell her) but that brings up a question. If she
is acting needy to me and I can't get enough of
it, why did women dump me when I used to act
needy? Please put something about this in your
newsletter.
Bye.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What's with all the God comments this week?
Let's stick with David from now on... I'm not
ready for all of the responsibility.
As for your situation...
The reason why it's fun for you having her act
needy is YOU'VE HAD IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND ALL
YOUR LIFE!
It's a nice change.
But trust me, after a short while it gets old.
If she keeps it up, you'll see. Eventually a
mechanism will kick in and you'll lose your liking
for it... just like women do at a very young age.
But enjoy it while it's fresh and fun.
For 18 months I tried to score with this woman I
wanted but because she saw me as needy she kept
the "goodies" away from me. Now one night I
stopped trying. I focused on having a good time. I
was determined to be polite to her but ignore her
and make no moves. I danced with other women, I
drank, I had fun. The more independant, confident
and fun-loving I became the more attractive I
became. Things changed. She wasn't used to being
ignored. She felt left out. She then put out and
seduced me by the end of the night. I wasn't even
trying and I wasn't even nervous!!!
A few months later I bought your book Dave and
realised that for 18 months I'd been doing it
wrong. Little did I know but that fateful night
was the way to do it right. I've been doing it
right since then. Thanks Dave.
Regards.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Congratulations, good job, and keep it up.
On behalf of all women, I think your e-mail sucked
today. :)
I am so tired of dating cheap men. There is
nothing wrong with a man who is able to provide
doing so. Let's face it, men make more money than
women.
I'm not a gold digger. Not at all. I'm 34 years
old. I own my own townhouse which I am struggling
to get by with the mortgage and expenses having
been laid off by IBM after almost 7 years.
I do like the e-mail first idea, in fact that is
always what I initiate when I'm out. I'd much
rather do that to get to know someone before the
dinner out but the LAST thing I want to do is have
someone show up late and let me know right up
front that he's not willing to buy me a cup of
tea.
I just spent almost five months with someone who
was making three times my income and we went Dutch
on everything. Am I wrong to *want* someone to
flip the bill for me? I don't think so.
Warm regards...
>>>MY COMMENTS:
No, there's nothing "wrong" with you "wanting"
someone to take care of the bill. But there's also
nothing wrong with a man not paying... or even
better, avoiding typical expensive dating
situations all together.
I personally think that starting off a
relationship by paying for things creates an
imbalance that isn't very healthy.
As an interesting aside: You spent FIVE MONTHS
paying your own way. He obviously had something
else going for him if you spent that long with
him... hmmmmm.
I wish I could give him a high five!
Oh, and the little smiley in your email clearly
communicates that you like and want me. Be a
little more subtle next time, OK? Don't let the
world know everything that's going on between us!
It's not classy...
I found your site a couple of months ago and
subscribed to your newsletters and I downloaded
the book . I'm 18 years old and I'm in my first
year of college, so you can imagine the hot, young
women that are there .
Anyways, I've always been the "wuss , loser ,
nothing more than a friend" type of guy (man it
hurts to admit it) but since i started reading
your e-mails i've gotten so much better. Some of
my girlfriends don't see me as a friend anymore (I
can't imagine what your book will do ). So not
long ago I'm sitting where everyone goes to eat
and they're playing "The Fast And The Furious " on
the tv's when I look down and this really
beautiful woman keeps looking at me . So by the
second time our eyes meet, I smile , at that same
moment I'm thinking, "Wait !!! , remember the e-
mails, you always do this and you always end up as
a friend". The problem was that she had 2 more of
her friends on the table with her, but she
wouldn't expect me to get up and go to her, so I
got up from my chair and went up to her, she had
that "what is he doing" look, then I sat down on
the table and said, "Hi , I know I'm pretty and
that your attracted to me, but could you maybe
hide your impulses". Of course this was said in a
funny way, with a cocky look. Her friends started
laughing and said, "she was that obvious , huh?"
She was shocked at the beginning but she relaxed
and started laughing. Almost immediately after
that her friends said they were hungry and left,
so I asked for her name and thought to myself,
"Forget the e-mail , just ask her number ". She
gave me her celular number , but I haven't called
her yet. Anyway thanks for your great advices and
I'll keep you posted on the outcome.
P.S. For all you wusses out there , you can change
you don't always have to be this way . Buy the
damn book !!!!!!"
L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I couldn't agree more.
Hey man, I have to admit, I have been getting your
newsletter for about 2 weeks now and I have
dramatically improved the number of women i have
been meeting and getting numbers from! Thanks so
much for the help and tips. Usually when it comes
down to the first date everything goes fine and I
lay down the c&f attitude which gets me good
places with her. But i have a problem. This last
weekend i had a date with this woman i just met
and we were in the hot tub and me friend and his
date were with us. Well the problem was that my
mind was totally blank for some odd reason and i
couldn't come up with anything interesting to talk
about if my life was on the line. So obviously I
really didnt get anywhere with her but she said
that she would like to see me again. So my
question to you is what are some topics of
interest that i could talk with her about that
wouldnt put me in the wussy boy category and would
also get me in good with her, when i cant think of
anything? Please help!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if you think about it, there are a few
main topics that women PAY TONS OF MONEY to enjoy.
Think daytime dramas, Cosmo magazine, and
romance novels.
For whatever reason, women just love
relationships, drama, and humor.
So talk about famous people, their
relationships, and their drama.
If you're at a loss, and you want to start a
funny conversation, just say, "What's with..." and
finish up with any current gossip topic taken from
any famous person's life.
Of course, these kinds of topics lend
themselves to all KINDS of opportunities to be
Cocky & Funny. So do it.
Great job getting more dates... keep up the
good work.
Yo! this is some serious stuff that you are
teaching here man. How did you learn all this
man?!
I'm currently at university and as you can imagine
there is a rich diversity of hotties. I used to
be the major wuss bag before a friend acquainted
me with your newsletters. The major change in my
approach is that I definitely have more confidence
and the score card is no longer embarrassing. But
I still am to get this C&F idea. You see the
problem is that I can't seem to get the mixture
quite right. I am cocky but at times I seem not to
have a funny bone in my body. Thus I end up
looking like some arrogant you know what (But they
still respond better than when I was a wuss!
Amazing!). Other times I am quite funny but not at
all cocky (which really is not a problem but
doesn't have the desired effect).So I'm asking you
how do I get the mixture right?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The mixture is important... and the way to get
it right is to START with an arrogant comment,
then make it funny.
"That girl is fat, and her dress looks
horrible" is a mean, arrogant statement.
But if you say, "Someone lied to her! It looks
like somebody let her loose in the twinkie
section, then told her she was going to be on the
Janice Dickinson bad fashion TV show..." That's
a whole different story.
By the way, you mentioned that even if you're
just plain ARROGANT that women will be more
attracted to you than if you're a WUSSY.
Women are universally NOT attracted to wussies.
Just keep practicing, and get a couple of books
about how to write comedy. Take some time to think
through some common situations and what you're
going to say in the future... it's worth it to
practice this, as it's such an important part of
ATTRACTION.
You always have success stories with guys that say
"Im a good looking guy". What about us guys that
are average or slightly below average, balding, or
thick?? Does this stuff work for us as well? Or
is this just help guys that already get dates get
MORE dates?? Are us average or below average guys
out of luck?? I get an occasional hot girl but
they are few and far between.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'd say that 1 in 100 of the emails that I get
are from guys who say, "I'm a good looking guy."
And most of the guys who I know who are really
successful with women aren't unusually "good
looking."
Some of my friends who are unbelievably good at
attracting BEAUTIFUL women are not at all "good
looking."
And if you think about your own life, I'll bet
that you'll realize that the guys you know
yourself who are best at getting dates with
attractive women aren't the guys you know who are
the richest, tallest, or most handsome.
In other words, YES... this stuff works for
"regular" guys!
...and, in fact, if you're reading this
newsletter right now and you'd like to really take
your success with women to the next level, then I
have a few words for you.
It wasn't that long ago that I personally
didn't have the ability to even TALK to a woman I
didn't know... never mind getting a date.
I spent a few YEARS trying just about
everything I could find to help me.
I read books, listened to tapes, went to
seminars... I tried it all. But nothing really
worked consistently for me.
The real breakthroughs came when I started
spending time with a lot of guys who were
NATURALLY successful with women. When I say
"naturally" I don't mean that women walked over
and threw themselves at these guys... I mean that
they had each figured out how to attract a lot of
beautiful women ON THEIR OWN.
What I found was incredible...
Even though most of these different guys had
NEVER EVEN MET one another, they had a LOT in
common. They did a lot of the same things... they
said a lot of the same things... and they behaved
in a lot of the same ways.
So I took what I learned, I tested it all out,
and I refined it and created a whole system for
how a regular guy can increase his success with
women and dating.
That's it in a nutshell.
I personally went from not knowing how to even
talk to a woman I didn't know to being able to get
dates with even the most beautiful women... and I
practice what I preach.
The things that I teach in my eBook and
Advanced Series are things that I use PERSONALLY
in situations with women.
It's not a bunch of made-up garbage and old
recycled books from 25 years ago.
If you have any doubts or hesitations at all
about investing in my materials, remember that you
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You can get them, use them, see if they work
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Go check out some great samples for my Advanced
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Go check them out!
I'll talk to you again soon.
David D.
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