Man, are you frustrated that despite
knowing a few great "lines" or certain techniques
for approaching women and getting their numbers
that seem to work like magic for other guys.
YOU are still choking time and time
again.especially around women that you think are
"out of your league?"
What is it that these other guys have that seems
to work so well and so effortlessly for them? How
do they get women to GRAVITATE to them without
even trying?
If I were to guess, I'd have to say that the only
reason you're still having such a hard time when
it comes to creating attraction and interest in a
woman, it's because there's something going on
SUBCONSCIOUSLY that you're not even aware of.
You're simply sending her the "wrong message."
And you don't even know it.
You might be coming across as
needy.desperate.weird.too intense. But how would
you know?
Right. You wouldn't - unless she tells you to your
face.
And that wouldn't be any fun.
So here's where I'm going with this.
I recently recorded an interview with someone that
just might shed some light on your situation.
Bryan Bayer is the co-founder of "The Authentic
Man Program" - a unique program that helps guys
work on getting to the bottom of what's REALLY
getting in the way of dating success.
He's an expert in helping men uncover the
SUBCONSCIOUS SIGNALS they're sending to women.
Have you ever been into a woman who kept telling
you that she just wanted to be "friends".no matter
what you did or said to change her mind?
Have you ever walked up to a woman and get the
cold shoulder and disgusted glance, even when you
hadn't said ANYTHING suggestive?
If so, you may be unknowingly giving off the wrong
vibe.and you don't even know it.
During our interview, Bryan revealed some
fantastic insights into what may be keeping you
from realizing your potential with women, and what
to do about each one. Here's a sampling:
The first and MOST IMPORTANT STEP you must take
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A 5-second technique to instantly get women to
NOTICE YOU when you walk into a room, without have
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How your CHILDHOOD SECRETS may be negatively
affecting the way your body feels when you're with
a woman. Yeah, I'm talking about your dad's
Penthouse magazines here.
The one thing you can do with a part your body
--without touching her-- that will make her think
you'd be good in bed. This is the secret of men
who you wouldn't even THINK should be getting
women.Amazing stuff.
What to say in the first 10 seconds of
approaching a woman at a bar or party to virtually
eliminate the possibility that she'll think you're
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and a whole lot more.
Believe me, if you're still sitting around at home
wondering why you can't seem to get your game on
no matter what you try, then you need to check out
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Just click on the link below and I'll send you a
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***SUCCESS STORY***
If there are people out there who still don't
believe in the cocky & funny, QUIT DOUBTIN' IT AND
START WORKIN' IT!
The other night I was at a burger joint near my
office. It's one of those grungy independent
places that's popular with the locals, and out of
towners make a point to visit if they're here for
something else. The line had snaked around, and a
group of three cuties was standing in front of my
table. They were talking about what they'd heard,
and one of them said she was looking forward to
their fries.
Since I had a bunch of fries in front of me, I
made eye contact and gave my fries a Vanna White
flourish with my hands. She said, "Wow those look
good. Can I?"
I offered her one of my fries. She dipped it in my
cup of ketchup, and right as she popped it in her
mouth, I looked her in the eye and said "By the
way, I double-dip." In the space of two seconds,
her expressions ranged from shock at my brashness,
to wondering whether she should be grossed out, to
laughing.
I knew I could have gotten her e-mail/number...
and the thing is, I didn't even want to, because
I've been seeing a solid eight. Sure, there are
hotter, but until recently I would have thought
she was entirely out of my league. And I ALWAYS
bust her balls. She's always coming up to me,
saying "Gimme kiss". I think for a second and say,
"Umm... no, but thanks!" And then she's
enthusiastically kissing me. Or more.
I'm not the hottest guy out there. I'm pretty fat,
actually. But women hate how desperation smells,
and if a beautiful woman sees that you're not
looking for just anyone who'll return the
conversation, and that you're not intimidated by
their looks, that's GOLD, man, GOLD.
In fact, it's even worked for me at the office.
Now, yes, here you have to be more careful. And it
doesn't substitute for competence. But my boss
sees I'm not intimidated, and I get stuff done. In
fact, today I just landed a $5K raise.
You must be tired of hearing it... well, hear it
again. Dave, you da man.
E Michigan
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Well, I think my favorite line in your email
was...
"...women hate how desperation smells..."
Because this doesn't make a whole lotta sense
to most of the guys who read it, let me do the
honors of breakin' it down for ya...
When someone says something like this, what
they're trying to say is that there's something
about "desperation" that women pick up on... but
it's not easy to describe.
Desperation comes across in all kinds of subtle
ways, from how you talk to a woman, to the eye
contact that you make, to how often you call her.
Women can "smell" it because women are
approximately TEN TIMES better at reading body
language than men. Your body language says
everything about you to a woman... so, if you want
to get better at attracting women, you'd better
start paying attention to and taking control of
it.
Start with your posture. Lift your chest.
Lean back, not forward.
Leaning forward is usually a "needy" signal.
Leaning back is usually a signal of strength.
Slow down your movements.
Fast movements convey nervousness and
skittishness.
Slow movements convey self control and
strength.
It's a good idea to take some time and study
the body language of guys who are successful with
women. Watch closely, and pay attention to
EVERYTHING.
Even though something doesn't SEEM like it's
important, it probably is.
I have a good friend who holds his drink a
certain way when he's talking to a woman that he's
interested in.
He does it almost every time.
Is it important?
You do the math.
More great tips for triggering attraction and
"chemistry" can be found here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/SexualCommunication/
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave -
Ok, I can't help myself. I've got to comment
again. I commented last week in response to a
writer who was disturbed with your methods of
meeting women. And now this week, I find another,
equally amusing halfwit who just doesn't get it
(the one you affectionately called a "crack
smoker".. hehehe).
Is it me or the rest of the world? Jesus, people.
It's not disrespectful, it's not meant to be
hurtful or demeaning. It's called TEASING ... it's
a playful, flattering form of teasing.
Let me give you an example of a guy I met
recently, from a female's point of view -- one
guy's success story (and unless he gets your
newsletter or has read your materials, he's
probably totally unaware of HOW he "hooked" me so
easily). I met a guy online several months ago,
we chatted for awhile and quickly discovered that
we had a very compatible quick-witted sense of
humor (he was cocky and very funny from the get-go
...I loved it). Everytime we talked on the phone,
he'd find a way to bust my chops and make me
laugh. (Sounds cliche, but "He had me at hello."
hehehe) He'd always point out some imperfection
of mine and blow it all out of proportion and talk
about how it just wasn't going to work out because
of all my flaws (kidding the whole time, of
course) ... one being the fact that I'm not
particularly very well endowed in the chest
region. A modest 38B. So after we met that first
time, he walked me to my car that night, and as he
turned to walk towards his car, he paused and
turned back long enough to say "oh, and you're
right, you're not very busty." Shocked, I just
said, "oh get outta here you *&$%@# " and jabbed
him in the arm. And I grinned the whole way home.
And I couldn't wait to see him again.
I hope you consider including this in your
newsletter to encourage guys to keep trying your
methods. THEY DO WORK! With the negative comments
in the last couple of newsletters from "outraged"
readers, I'd hate for any guy to second-guess that
this stuff works. Because as far as I'm
concerned, there just aren't enough of you guys
(cocky & funny) around. At least I can't find
'em.
J, in Maryland
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, well I think that the REAL problem that
the "halfwits" and "crack smokers" of past
newsletters are having is that they don't GET IT.
I've found that women HATE the idea that guys
are doing ANYTHING "intentionally" to become more
successful in the dating world.
Anything that has to be "learned", really
freaks some women out (as a side note, I've found
that most of the women I've talked to in person
about my ideas were OK with them. On occasion, a
woman will freak out, but after they actually
"get" what I'm talking about, they almost
universally LIKE the ideas).
The REAL profound insight that I've had
relating to this topic is that women will often
SAY that they want one thing, but then, when they
GET it, they seem like they don't want it.
On the other hand, women will often SAY that
they don't like certain types of guys or certain
traits, then they'll turn around and SLEEP with
one of these exact guys.
Keep in mind, we're talking about women here. I
don't mean to pick on them... the fact is that
GUYS have their own set of bizarre behaviors too.
But, since everyone is reading these Mailbags to
learn about how to attract women, we're going to
have to skip this discussion (Wink - Wink) of
these exact guys.
And, for all the guys who doubt that what we're
talking about here "works", just ask yourself
these questions:
1) Is what you're CURRENTLY doing working?
2) Isn't it worth the risk to try ANYTHING else if
there's even a CHANCE that it will actually work?
Nice.
Thanks for your email.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
Been getting your newsletter for about two months
now. Also got both your book and your DVD. They're
just unbelievably superb!!!! The stuffs in your
book and DVD are so easy to be understood. It is
like reading "How to double your dates for
Dummies". I was always nervous when I was around
hot looking girls. Now, I actually have the
confidence to walk up to them and ask for their
emails/numbers. It's such a big shift in such a
short time. Composure is almost what the girls are
looking for. Without it, they can sense you got no
game. You really got the stuffs. It works wonders.
I'm certainly still new to this and I am
practicing everyday constantly.
I have no problems asking girls for the emails. I
understand how the composure, voice tone and
everything works. But this is my problem. Some
girls actually say this exact same lines like "Why
don't you give me your email/number and I'll
email/call you." I really am stuck after they said
this. I just can't figure out some C&F to say at
this point to amplify the situation. I am ready to
be enlightened by your teaching.
My new Sensei,
Big bow to you, E.F Canada
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... I love questions like this one.
Yeah, when you start getting good at
approaching women, you will start having all kinds
of far-out things happen.
As a matter of fact, some of my favorite
stories that my friends and I laugh about are
about times that I started conversations with
women.
Here, let me confuse you for a moment...
Let me give you a couple of different
perspectives on your situation.
I have one good friend who has been with
literally HUNDREDS of women.
He told me a story about a woman that said this
to him. He asked her for her number, and she said,
"Well, why don't you write down your number and
I'll call you?"
He didn't even hesitate... he shot back, "Don't
give me that SH**, write your number down!"
She smiled and wrote her number down.
One time, I was out talking to a girl... I
asked her to write down her email and number, and
she said, "You give me your number" etc.
I looked at her and said, "Never mind".
Then, as the conversation went on, she started
making comments about talking to me in the future,
giving her my number, etc.
I just said, "Nah, you're not serious. If you
were, you wouldn't be playing games with me, and
you'd just give me your number".
She wrote it down.
Funny enough, my standard response to "Why
don't you give me your number instead and I'll
call you" is to just look at her and say, "Write
it down. It will be OK..." and then point to the
paper.
That probably works about 50% of the time.
You have what I like to refer to as a "high
quality problem". Remember what you've learned in
my DVD program about what a woman is REALLY
looking for. Then be it.
Just because a woman says, "Give me your number
instead", doesn't mean that you've lost control.
It's usually just a test.
***COMMENT***
OMG okay Dave,
I'm a female and have been reading your
newsletters to try and figure out where guys get
their "game" from. Now that I know it's from you,
I would like to say you're a total genius. Like
I've had guys use your tips on me and at first
I've been like "what the hell" then later on in
the conversation, we were exchanging numbers and
kisses. you must be like a woman in disguise or
something. you are so awesome.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, one thing is for sure... I'm NOT a woman
in disguise.
lol...
I don't know many women who could explain this
stuff the way I do.
Oh, and feel free to send your picture and
phone number with your emails in the future.
If there's one thing that's better than a man
recognizing my genius, it's a cute gal recognizing
it.
By the way, you said something that was very
interesting in your email.
You said that when guys start using these
techniques with you, at FIRST you respond with
"what the hell"... but LATER ON you wind up
kissing and exchanging numbers.
Very VERY interesting.
This is a KEY point that most guys just can't
grasp or work with. Thanks for laying it out.
***QUESTION***
hello there.
can u please let me know, what is meant by a
wussy.? I've came across this word a lot, in ur
newsletter, wussy, and wussies, but couldn't
figure out, what it means. I didn't find the
meaning of that word in the dictionary too. as
you used in ur letter, Women aren't attracted to
Wussies what is meant by that. waiting for ur
reply bye
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I can explain the concept of what a
"Wussy" is quite easily.
If you say things like "waiting for your ur
reply", you're communicating like a Wussy.
If you don't know what a Wussy is, you probably
are one.
Guys who aren't Wussies know what a "Wussy" is
because they usually MAKE FUN OF THEM a lot.
I know, I know... I'm being harsh.
But, I used to be a BIG TIME Wussy. It was a
problem.
I used to call women all the time, kiss up to
them, give away my power to them, and every other
WUSS-ISH thing you could do.
In other words, I'm an expert.
A Wussy is a guy who gives away his power to
women, and behaves in a "submissive" way.
Don't do this.
It's the DARK SIDE, if there ever was one.
***QUESTION***
David,
I've been reading your newsletter for about a
month now and I respect your honesty and
perspectives. The things you've said makes lots of
sense and I have no doubts that they work. In
fact, I have observed others use your techniques
they and get remarkable results with the ladies.
Now, when I read your newsletters, I thought to
myself and realized that I have been somewhat
using your "cocky and funny" techniques
unconsciously... ie, teasing the girls, making fun
of them but not putting them down. (I guess its
part of my personality). I make some of the girls
I work with as well as my customers laugh. \ The
thing is, when I go out to a bar or a nightclub,
or anywhere else for that matter, I tend to clam
up for some reason. I might even give the
impression to others that I'm a tight ass because
I
don't open my mouth. I know I can keep the ball
rolling once I have the girls attention. My
problem is the ice breaker. The very first thing
I say AFTER introducing myself, or even BEFORE
depending on the situation. I feel like I don't
have any interesting things to say to start up a
conversation. My question is how can I prepare
myself to be more cocky per say? What ice
breakers can I use and not look like a wuss at the
same time? I try to listen in on the guys next to
me pick up girls, try to hear what they are
saying. But I'm hard of hearing and its quite
hard in noisy situations for me to hear anything
unless my ear is literally close. Interested in
any perspectives and feedback you can give to
start off.
Thanks A.W.G. - Illinois
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Most guys are afraid of approaching women and
starting conversations.
When you say the words "ice breaker", you
ASSUME that a woman is going to respond to you
"coldly". You know, Ice = Cold.
The fact is that there are a certain percentage
of women out there who are happy, open and
receptive in general, and a certain amount that
are cold, closed and NOT receptive.
I had a guy come to my last seminar in Los
Angeles who went out and started approaching
women.
He came back into the seminar the next day and
told this story...
He said that he couldn't believe how he let his
past negative programming stop him from starting
conversations with women. He had gone out and
walked up to women, one after the other, and just
simply said, "Hi, I'm out meeting people tonight,
what's your name?" and women were giving him all
kinds of positive responses.
Just remember that most women will respond
somewhere in the range of "neutral" to "positive"
if you say almost ANYTHING to them.
Now, if you want to start conversations in bars
and nightclubs and you just can't get the nerve up
to do it, try this...
Find a BUSY place near the bar where people are
lining up to order drinks. Find a place where
people are literally crammed together like
sardines.
Work your way up to the bar at the BUSIEST
spot, and either stand there, or get a chair
there.
The idea is that you want to be where a lot of
women will walk up to the bar during the evening
and ACCIDENTALLY bump into you.
If you REALLY want to make this work for you,
wear a loud or unique shirt... something that has
a soft, "feely" texture.
Over the course of a few hours, some
conversations will start BY THEMSELVES.
Women will say, "excuse me" and try to get past
you.
Some women will ask you to order a drink for
them.
Some will just bump up against you on accident
and then apologize.
Take a few minutes, and think up some good
responses that fit your personality... and have
them ready.
Try:
"Look, if you wanted to start a conversation with
me you could have just said, "hi", you didn't have
to be violent about it."
That should get you started.
The point is that there's a way to put yourself
in a situation that automatically sparks
conversations. You just need to be ready when it
happens.
This kind of thing should help you get past the
fear and hesitation to start conversations on your
own.
***QUESTION***
David D.,
First off, I'd like to thank you for taking the
time to put all of this material together. As a
guy who is finally beginning to understand the
game and is on his way to "get it", I'd like to
thank you. I'm still not completely to the place
I'd like to be, but I'm on my way (being able to
walk up to any woman who I'd like to meet and
being able to secure digits and lead things the
rest of the way from there). The ideas that I'm
finding that really help me keep my focus (and not
get too nervous/needy) are many from your advanced
program that I purchased. ex- What they think of
you is their business, and acting almost too
comfortable around them. I'm also in the process
of reading Comedy Writing Secrets by Helitzer and
have 3 other books purchased (of those you
recommended) that will be my next projects.
Okay, on to the comment and question. I've read
recently that studies have shown (can't remember
if this was from Reader's Digest or what) that
even if you're a shy person, acting outgoing will
improve your mental health and get rid of that
feeling of seclusion that many introverted people
have. On to the question... in your Advanced DVD
program, the idea of congruence is mentioned
several times, mostly as that you have to be
congruent when you talk to a woman. This concept
seems to be rather elusive and I was wondering if
you could go into more detail about what "being
congruent" entails.
Thanks, T.C. from Virginia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sure, the idea of being "congruent" when you
communicate simply means to have ALL LEVELS of
your communication "in alignment" with each other
and "saying the same thing".
If you're asking a woman for her number, but
you're looking around nervously and hesitating,
it's not "congruent".
On the other hand, if you're saying, "Write
down your email and number for me" while taking
out a pen and paper... as if it's the 147th time
that you've done it, it's CONGRUENT.
Most people don't realize that they're sending
MIXED MESSAGES all the time.
Have you ever asked someone "What's wrong?" and
had them say, "NOTHING'S WRONG! Why does everyone
keep asking me what's wrong?"
That's a mixed message. And it's not congruent.
You want to line up ALL of your communication.
Your body language, voice tone, words, etc.
All of the different specific body language,
voice tone, and gestures that I recommend in my
programs have a single goal in mind: To help you
be 100% CONGRUENT when you are communicating with
women.
There are ways to use "mixed messages" that can
create attraction, but make sure you're doing it
INTENTIONALLY when you do!
The more congruent you are, and the more you use
the techniques that I'm teaching, the better your
responses from women will become.
***COMMENTS***
Y'know, my mom actually wanted to comment on your
program. She's been teaching me and my brothers
about what women REALLY want from men ever since I
was very small. She's been teaching us pretty much
the same material that you cover in your book and
advanced series (which I recently picked up by the
way, I fell so much in love with the book I just
couldn't resist, it's been GREAT!), and she just
wanted me to tell you that you hit it right on the
head! Her saying has always been pretty much:
"Women don't want a hard-ass, but women also don't
want a BITCH-ASS, either." I have tried other
dating success training, and this one is by far
my favorite. There's... one... that I tried before
yours. Theirs isn't NEARLY as good as yours,
because the techniques they teach are way to
unnatural, too analytical, doesn't let you be
yourself at all, and doesn't work for everyone in
every situation. Your service is the best I've
seen so far, because IT ALLOWS YOU TO BE YOURSELF,
while HONESTLY sparking ATTRACTION in a female,
and automatically DOES NOT work on a woman with a
stick up her ass! I can tell you put a lot of work
into this, you've defiantly touched many lives.
Not just for men, but women too. Thanks David.
C.D. from Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh YEAHHHHH!
Dude, even your MOM endorses my stuff.
This is out of control.
You know, actually... you suck.
I wish that MY MOM would have taught me this
stuff, instead of teaching me wisdom such as "You
need to buy women more things" and "A man should
always pay for things", etc.
And any mom who would teach her son:
"Women don't want a hard-ass, but women also don't
want a BITCH-ASS, either."
...has my respect.
And to comment on your experience with the
techniques and systems that others teach on how to
meet women...
My guess is that 95% of the others who have
written books on this topic or developed other
programs are doing it for the MONEY alone.
In other words, their main focus is the CASH,
and NOT helping guys improve with women.
Now, I certainly enjoy the cash. No argument
there.
But my MAIN OBJECTIVE is to have the absolute
BEST system and materials that are available
ANYWHERE, at ANY PRICE.
I have spent a LOT of time, effort and energy
to figure out what works to attract women.
Here's the test:
Go download my online eBook, and order up one
of my CD/DVD programs. You can get both to try out
for free... with zero risk.
THEN, go buy another book on the topic, or
whatever else you can find (make sure it comes
with a 100% money-back guarantee).
My bet is that you'll return everything else
before you've even finished reading it (or
listening, or whatever) and that I couldn't pry my
stuff out of your hands with a CROWBAR.
My stuff WORKS BETTER, and is easier to use
than all the other stuff out there, period.
And, probably the MOST IMPORTANT benefit is
something that was mentioned in this newsletter...
when you learn how and why women feel ATTRACTION,
and you learn how to trigger it with your
communication and body language, you don't have to
use a bunch of "unnatural tricks" or dishonest
techniques that "feel wrong".
I'll teach you how to develop that "innate" or
natural part of yourself that is already there...
and give you the correct perspective and
programming to get RESULTS.
Try it, you'll like it.
And, if you don't like it, you've lost
nothing... because all of my stuff comes with a
"try it before you buy it" zero risk policy.
So, do this...
Go download my online eBook "Double Your
Dating" right now, and you'll be reading it within
a few minutes. You can download it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/
And go order a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program. This program is the
most complete, in-depth program in the world for
learning how to overcome fear, approach women, get
numbers, get dates, meet women online, and take
things to a "physical" level without fear or
rejection.
Go watch some great preview video clips of it,
and get all the details here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Make sure you take a few minutes and look
through all of the different programs I've created
to help you succeed with women. You can look at
all of them right here, plus watch some fantastic
free video clips right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
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