Hey Man,
Listen. This is practically becoming an emergency.
From what I'm reading in my latest emails, it's like there's an EPIDEMIC out there...
TOO MANY MEN ARE STILL TRYING TO GET WOMEN BY "BEING NICE".
This MUST be stopped.
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This situation is practically KILLING ME...
You guys keep writing me about the "wussy" things you've been saying and doing to get women to "like" you.
You've been telling me things like:
"Dave, this woman I like is so hot, I'd do anything to be with her."
And...
"I'll do whatever she wants, if she'll only give me a chance..."
Even worse...
"I bought her nice dinner. I even walked her dog. Still she won't take things to a physical level with me."
PLEASE.
I'm DYING here.
How many times do I have to say this:
When it comes to getting women, NICE GUYS FINISH LAST.
When you put aside everything YOU want and deserve just to please a woman... YOU ARE 100% DOOMED TO FAIL.
When you're at a woman's beck and call...
When you respond to her every whim and wish...
When you do her special favors and buy her dinners and expensive gifts...
When you walk on eggshells and use all the polite manners Mommy taught you...
...in other words, when you try so hard to "BE NICE"...
You will NEVER get to the "next level" with a woman.
You will remain quarantined in "The Friend Zone" for as long as she's willing to put up with you.
And then she'll move on to the "next friend" who's willing to walk her dog and do her laundry.
Every time.
GUARANTEED.
I'll get into the SHOCKING REASONS for all of this in just a bit.
But right now, we have NO TIME TO LOSE...
Here comes my EMERGENCY RESPONSE to guys who are doing this -- so if YOU happen to be one, I need you to listen up...
Here's why "being nice" NEVER, EVER works with women -- and what YOU *MUST* start doing instead:
#1) YOU MUST CHALLENGE A WOMAN RIGHT FROM THE START.
This is CRITICAL... yet it goes right out the window the moment most men approach a woman.
And, hey, I totally get why. I really do.
I understand that most guys feel too insecure and nervous to dare "challenge" a woman right off the bat.
Or they feel like it's their responsibility to be "nice".
After all, it's what your Mommy spent so much time teaching you.
Be nice to your sister. Be nice to the babysitter. Be nice to your Aunt Mabel.
But here's a major WAKE-UP CALL for you:
Mommy wasn't in the business of getting SMOKING HOT WOMEN to practically throw themselves at you.
Lucky for you, I *am* in that business.
And that's why I need you to comprehend this IMMEDIATELY:
Being a "wuss" not only NEVER works when it comes to GETTING WOMEN...
...it actually sends them running for the hills like you're Quasimodo or something.
Which leads us back to the #1 reason that you MUST start CHALLENGING WOMEN the moment you open your mouth:
Women don't CHOOSE when, how, or why they feel attracted to a man. So interact with women in the "wrong way", and YOU'RE DONE.
In other words, if a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, there's absolutely nothing that can save you from REJECTION.
Once she forms an impression of you that screams "reject"... it's GAME OVER. No amount of compliments, chasing her, buying her expensive
gifts, i.e., being "nice", is going to change her mind.
In fact, all of this will only make things WORSE.
HOWEVER...
Make a woman feel an immediate spark of ATTRACTION... by CHALLENGING HER instead of WUSSING OUT... and guess what...
She won't be able to control herself.
She'll feel irresistibly drawn to you, whether she wants to be or not.
And by the way... this ALWAYS holds true, no matter how "smoking-hot" or "in-demand" a woman is.
So. How do you make this happen in the real world?
How do you "challenge" a woman right out of the gate so that you instantly STAND OUT FROM THE CROWD?
How do you come off as CONFIDENT and SECURE instead of "wussy" and "desperate"?
How do you make her want to know more about you instead of making her want to run for the hills?
Thought you'd never ask.
First of all, the basics:
Most of all, you need to make sure that you don't SABOTAGE YOURSELF before you ever have a chance. That means making sure that you don't
talk to much, or show too much interest in her right up front.
Basically, remember the K.I.S.S. philosophy:
KEEP
IT
SIMPLE
STUPID
Also, NEVER introduce yourself until a woman asks you what your name is first. This creates an IMMEDIATE air of mystery about you and shifts the
balance of power. (More on that in a moment...)
Next:
You MUST stop asking all those boring "wuss" questions like, "So, what kind of guys do you like?" and "Am I your type?" and "Do you have a boyfriend?"
Here's what I want you to do instead:
Immediately challenge her by making her qualify herself to YOU.
Ask her, "So, help me out here. I can't put my finger on it. What makes you so much more interesting and attractive than all these other women?"
In fact, take this even further. Give her a fun little "test."
I've said before that one of my favorites is the "Ice Cream Test".
This is where you walk up to a woman with a serious look on your face and ask her, "Listen, I have to know something. What's your favorite ice cream?"
She'll be surprised by the question. She'll probably answer just out of shock from being approached this way.
When she does, roll your eyes and moan, "Ouch. Sorry. If you said Chocolate Mint, I would've let you have my number. Of course, if you said
Neapolitan, I would have just walked away, so you still have a chance with me."
Either way, make no mistake:
After a long night of tedious pick-up lines, tongue-tied wussies, and Neanderthal come-ons, women *LOVE* to have a fun conversation like this.
Plus (ADDED BONUS) this sets the stage... It shows a woman that you're that rare guy who actually has the confidence BE DIFFERENT and TAKE
CONTROL of the situation.
That's HUGE. More on that later.
Right now, the second way to STOP being nice...
#2) LEARN THE *RIGHT* WAY TO BE A "BAD BOY."
Seeing as this is an emergency, I'll say it again:
Women don't naturally feel ATTRACTION for "nice" guys.
Sure, "being nice" can make a woman feel like she can "trust you"... that she's "comfortable" being around you... that she can "share her feelings" with you.
In other words, being nice makes her feel like she can count on you as a "friend". Someone she can "talk to"...
...usually about the attraction she's feelings for some other guy.
Sound familiar?
If so, I can tell you this...
While I was researching why women NEVER take things to the next level with guys who are "nice", I asked dozens of beautiful women exactly
what defines the kind of "BAD BOY" they can't help feeling attraction for.
And here's what I found out FAST:
Attractive women are NOT looking for a cave man to beat them over the head with a club and drag them away by the hair.
The top 3 characteristics so many women told me they were attracted to in the "right" kind of bad boy were:
1. "MYSTERIOUS"
2. "ADVENTUROUS"
3. "UNPREDICTABLE"
More specifically...
--A bad boy doesn't act like he cares at all what a beautiful woman thinks of him. (This drives attractive women nuts!)
--A bad boy is always teasing a woman. Messing with her without seriously hurting her feelings.
--A bad boy doesn't return her phone calls when she thinks he will, and he doesn't always call when he says he will. (The suspense is a killer... it makes these woman obsess about a guy.)
--A bad boy isn't always available to hang out when and where she wants him to.
--A bad boy makes it VERY hard to tell if he likes a woman or not, and how much.
--A bad boy says and does things she doesn't expect, at times she doesn't expect it.
Interesting stuff, right? But here's the big question:
How can YOU give off that right kind of "bad boy" vibe -- as QUICKLY as possible -- as soon as you approach a woman?
Here's one of my favorite ways do it...
Approach a woman with the assumption that she has SOMETHING wrong with her.
Something that's going to annoy the hell out of you, bother you, maybe even SCREW UP HER CHANCES with you.
(Fun Fact: she probably does.)
Now, not only does this help you eliminate the "beautiful woman" mystique that makes you nervous on approach, but it also does something FAR MORE
IMPORTANT...
It gives you an opportunity.
It creates an opening for you to use one of my FAVORITE "Cocky & Funny" techniques to INSTANTLY come across as the "right" kind of "bad boy".
I call it the "You're Ruining Your Chances With Me" Technique.
It goes like this...
As soon as you approach a woman, look for something small she does wrong, like fumbling a word, not making eye contact, nervously twirling her hair, whatever.
Point it out to her right away.
Shake your head in an overly dramatic, fake-annoyed way.
Say something like, "Wow. I can see this relationship just isn't going to work out by the way you're (doing whatever)."
Or go, "What did I tell you about this kind of behavior?".
In other words... say something that sends her the OPPOSITE SIGNAL of the wussy-boy "I'm so into you, I'll do anything for you" signal.
Communicate that you're the kind of man that can make fun of her without caring what she thinks of you, and she'll automatically place you in that slightly dangerous, awesomely unpredictable "bad boy" category.
When she does, you're halfway home.
You'll have her attention.
The other men in the room will suddenly become background noise.
Get it?
Excellent. My emergency "anti-wuss" response must be working.
Now... if you want more killer, specific ideas on how to be instantly "Cocky & Funny" and come across as the "right" kind of bad boy, you should know that you can get them here.
In the meantime, remember this:
Instead of acting like a woman is "unapproachable" or "out of your league", spend a few moments being Cocky & Funny to show her that you could care less how things turn out...
...and start experiencing success with women like you never thought possible.
That in mind...
On to the last way to stop "being nice" and START GETTING WOMEN.
This is something we touched on earlier, and it is absolutely CRITICAL to your emergency "anti-wuss" treatment...
You MUST learn how to:
#3) TAKE CONTROL.
You can set your watch by it... the first thing attractive women do when you approach is see if they can control and intimidate you.
The SECOND thing they do is WRITE YOU OFF once they find out they can.
But... if you can take control of the situation by saying and doing a few simple things right up front... a beautiful woman will QUICKLY take notice.
She'll INSTANTLY realize you're different than those 99% of other guys, and YOU'RE IN.
Again, how do you do it in the REAL WORLD?
The best way to broadcast that confident, in-control signal is to tell a woman you're doing something interesting later, and that she can feel free to come along if she wants.
This way, you're not "asking her out", which is the fastest way to LOSE CONTROL of the situation.
In the same vein, it's crucial that you NEVER start asking her to make suggestions about a date.
Make like James Bond and let her know EXACTLY where YOU want to go... what time YOU want to pick her up... what YOU want her to wear.
Let her be blown away by the fact that you've planned for every possible contingency, and have taken care of every detail.
Above all, offer up things to do that she doesn't keep hearing from other guys.
If you're passionate about extreme adventures, use it. Dare her to join you on a sunset skydive.
If you're less adventurous, that's fine. Take her breath away (the safe way) by sneaking her up to the top floor of a skyscraper for a glass of wine.
You can just as easily "take control" simply by arranging a bike riding expedition.
Or just by organizing a sunrise outing to play Frisbee in the park.
Basically, be creative, and you'll get her excited... beautiful women are used to getting hit on all day long, so make her see you're different than almost every other guy, and MAGIC WILL HAPPEN.
She'll immediately respect you and want to know more about you.
She'll begin to feel ATTRACTION for you.
But, like I said, most guys have NO CLUE how to make a women experience feelings of ATTRACTION in the first place.
And when they do have an idea, it's usually TOTALLY WRONG.
If YOU need a refresher (or even a TOTAL CRASH COURSE) on how to make a woman feel those first magical sparks of ATTRACTION, go here now.
Otherwise, remember that "taking control" can a be as simple as turning away from her to talk to your buddy right in the middle of the conversation.
The whole key is creating that MYSTERY.... making her laugh and busting her balls... being UNPREDICTABLE and ADVENTUROUS... coming off as
IN-DEMAND.
Do these things, and I GUARANTEE IT: you will finally escape "The Friend Zone" for good.
Okay... I know all of this "EMERGENCY ADVICE" is a lot to digest.
So here's the bottom line...
If you want to come across as one of those confident, in-control men who get more dates than he can handle, it's this simple:
You MUST STOP BEING NICE.
Instead, you must adjust your thinking, behavior, and perspectives about what it REALLY means to "be a man."
And when you're ready to do it, I'm ready to help...
My globally acclaimed program called "On Being A Man" is SPECIFICALLY DESIGNED to turbocharge your success with women -- and EVERYTHING ELSE IN YOUR LIFE -- by banishing your "inner wuss" forever.
In fact, this SUCCESS-PROVEN program is all about "recreating" yourself to become the kind of man you always "wished" you could be...
A "real man" who sees what he wants in life...
...and GETS IT EVERY TIME.
Check this out if you want a special SNEAK PEEK at some of this program's legendary "magic secrets".
When you do, as always, I GUARANTEE you'll learn EVERYTHING you need to know (and can start using RIGHT NOW) to become the type of man no woman can resist...
...despite everything your MOMMY taught you.
Can't wait to hear how it works for you!
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