| All us hens and roosters cooped up together can be a challenge...
Here's a nice tip to help you get more intimate with your partner while we're stuck inside together... So you can avoid this:
"He should know by now how much that upsets me."
"Why can't he try to figure it out? Why do I always have to tell him?"
"She can't take a hint."
"If he really loved me, he'd know what I mean."
Do you expect your partner to read your mind?
This strategy is doomed to fail according to Carolyn N. Bushong, author of The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes.
It's unfair to your partner and to yourself because you will continually be angry that you don't get what you want.
You will begin to feel like you are not really loved - all because you are not communicating.
Carolyn warns that because women generally talk about their feelings more easily, they need to make sure they give their guys time to respond instead of steamrolling over them.
Here are her suggested Four Steps To Healthy Communication.
1. Express yourself. "I feel [a specific emotion] whenever you [specify exactly what he or she does]."
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2. State what you want. "I want [a specific behavior]."
3. Ask for a commitment. "Will you [give me what I want - be even more specific]?"
4. Outline the consequences of your mate's reluctance or refusal to commit themselves to change: "If not, I will [state specifically what you will do]."
If this feels like you're issuing an ultimatum, be careful to not sound threatening. Be kind, compassionate and even-keeled in your emotions.
It's important to make it clear that you are holding yourself and your partner accountable for their behavior. Eliminating the fear of the unknown removes a significant amount of stress between you two.
Give this a try and make sure you don't miss all seven of the mistakes that even smart people make to ruin their relationship.
One of my most favorite things to do to initiate intimacy and warmth with your partner is with the Soulmate Embrace. This special way of holding your partner is the perfect way to put both of you in the mood for understanding, presence and openness.
I'd also love for you to check out Relationship Magic. It's one of my most foundational books on communication techniques to create love and intimacy in your relationship, or re-sparking lost romance.
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Free Intimacy,
Susan
Susan Bratton, Intimacy Wellness Expert is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Best-selling author and publisher of lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed®️ Video Collection, Hormone Balancing, The Pump Guide and Thrust In Time as a small selection of her 34 books and program. You can find The Susan Bratton Show on YouTube at BetterLover.com, her more personal posts @susanbratton on Instagram, and her new sexual vitality supplements, Flow, Boost, Desire and Drive at The20.store.
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