Online Dating Tips & Secrets: Secure vs. Insecure Attachment Styles

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Susan Bratton

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	Are you (or your lover) one of the 50% of Americans who have an "insecure sexual attachment style?" Attachment bonding is a growing category of psychology. The reason why attachment bonding is getting so much attention is because it explains A LOT about our behavior - both generally and SEXUALLY. How you were parented shapes how you mature and attach to your lovers or mates in the future. Look at the list below of 17 different ways being a poorly attached child impacts one's sex life. Perhaps you may see a little bit of yourself or your sexual partner reflected in this list? If so, it may explain a LOT of confusing behaviors. Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of "Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life," explains, "About half of people in the United States develop secure attachment styles and half develop insecure attachment styles. Attachment style isn't affected by gender - men and women are equally likely to be secure, avoidant, or anxious." She goes on to list some of the effects of insecure attachment-style parenting that affect people sexually: (you may begin to see traits of your own, your current or a past lover's in this list) • More negative emotions about sex • Less frequent sexual desire • Lower levels of arousal and orgasm • Not as facile at giving and receiving pleasure • They enjoy sex less • Are less sexually self-confident • Have anxiety-driven sexual experiences • More likely to experience pain with sex and health risks • Less likely to use condoms • More likely to use alcohol or other drugs before sex • Have higher STI's and unwanted pregnancies • Are more likely to be involved on either side of a coercive sexual relationship • Have sex later in life • Have fewer non-coital behaviors • More positive attitudes about sex outside committed relationships • Have more one night stands • Are more likely to have sex to fit into a social expectation, instead of just because they want to If you or your partner fits this description, look on the bright side. No Sexual Advice Please ⇐ Click here and you will only get Relationship Advice You can get over this lack of attachment parenting and go on to have more positive feelings of sexual wellbeing. Just knowing that your attachment deficit is "a thing," lets you move toward resolving unmet needs for bonding so you can get to the point where you feel safe, secure and loved. "Secure attachers have more positive emotions during sex, more frequent sex, higher levels of arousal and orgasm, and better communication about sex."* Now you can let go of blaming your parents if they weren't there for you and you're in the 50% of not-well-attached adults. They did the best they could with what they had. In the 21st century, we practice compassion, not blame or bitterness. Forgive them and forget the bonding you missed as a child and look forward... learn how to ask for and receive the love you need... and heal yourself, parent yourself, attach yourself healthily. I know, easier said than done. That's why I try to help as much as I can. I read and respond to your emails. I give you my best advice. And I work hard to give you new and exciting ideas to achieve the relationship and sex life you've always wanted. Don't give up on yourself. With Love and Support, Susan


	Susan Bratton, "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" of lovers who crave lifelong intimacy and passion. As the Dear Abby of Sex, she has helped create and revive countless sex lives with her bestselling books and programs such as Relationship Magic, Sexual Soulmates, The Passion Patch, Revive Her Drive and her Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection. For more insider tips, follow her on Instagram and subscribe to her Better Lover YouTube channel.


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