New Ideas For Approaching Women
>>NOTE: When most guys try to be "funny" with a woman
they end up coming across as goofy or dorky. Not
good. If you want to learn the right way to use humor to
make any woman feel attracted - or even ADDICTED -
to you, go here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy/
***QUESTION***
David,
I have read your e-book. I think it's great, but
questions always arise. I have been dating a woman
for five weeks. We've had several wonderful dates.
She's a really sweet girl, and I think there is a
lot of potential. We have spent the night together
three times, but have not yet had full
intercourse. I give her oral sex every time and
always bring her to orgasm. When I told that I
wanted to have full intercourse with her, she told
me that she doesn't do that right away. She said
she usually does not get naked with a man, but did
so with me because she likes me. We discussed our
feelings about sex, and I have never pressured
her.
I always aim to please her sexually. She is
definitely enjoying what I do for her, and I enjoy
doing it for her. Unfortunately, she hardly
touches me or does anything to satisfy me
sexually. How should I interpret and handle this?
I have been considering gently guiding her hand
when she gets to the right location, but I'm not
sure if this is a good approach. I may even talk
to her about it, but I'd rather her advance on me
without my prodding. Should I hold off on giving
her oral sex? My intuition tells me that doing so
would not be very productive. Do you have any
suggestions? E.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
DANGER! You are rapidly approaching the WUSS
ZONE!
One thing that you DON'T want to do is TELL A
WOMAN THAT YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HER!
Why not? Because you're GIVING AWAY ALL OF YOUR
POWER when you do that.
That's what ALL men want from her... don't make
me come over there and shake you!
You say that you have my eBook. I want you to
QUICKLY open up the bonus booklet that came along
with it called "Sex Secrets". Inside you'll read
what to do. Then read THIS:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/PowerSexuality/
You need to get her turned on more... to the
point where she's ripping your clothes off. Don't
just give her pleasure like Mr. Wussy... that's
old. She can get that anywhere.
You need to be different. You need to build
anticipation and amplify the ATTRACTION. If you
don't you're probably going to find her getting
bored of you because you're so predictable and
boring.
Trust me.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave, I need your help !!!
My situation is this..... When I go to clubs, I
don't have to much problem going over to a girl
that I like, so it isn't a lack of confidence. But
after a short space of time I find myself
struggling to keep the conversation going and
start asking the boring questions like, Where do
you come from ? How long have you lived there ? Do
you drive ?
BORING....... What the hell do you ask a girl you
know nothing about ?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, you do need my help.
The answer is simple:
STOP TRYING TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING.
As soon as you start talking, END the
conversation.
Say, "It was nice meeting you, I'm going to get
back to my friends..." then turn away. Quickly
turn back and say "Hey! Do you have email?" If she
says yes, pull out a pen and paper and say "Here,
write it down... I'd like to talk to you again."
It's really not that difficult.
The problem in busy, crowded public situations
is that there are WAY too many distractions.
You're competing with music, loud drunk people, or
whatever else is around. It's like trying have a
meaningful conversation at a baseball game.
Instead, get the info, and move on. If you
follow up with a charming email, you'll hear back
50%-80% of the time (in my experience).
And for GOD SAKES... STOP ASKING BORING
QUESTIONS! You're not on a job interview. And
neither is she. Boring, lame, typical questions
only position you as an average dork.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Great advice you give, i used to be one of the
wussy guys, being nice and always there for the
girls, but I've been using c&f lately on new girls
i meet AND ones i already knew. it works. Really
well. im no longer the 'nice guy' to them.. im the
guy they all talk about. But i have a problem..
I've learnt the hard way once... and since moved
on....now the problem has presented itself again
:/ here it is...:
I get to know a group of absolute gorgeous
chicks.. and i want them all... so... i bust on
them all... nothing wrong there.. everythings
going fine... later down the track though... they
all want a piece of me..... anything wrong with
that? NOT AT ALL!!! first time this happened i
blindly dove in.. hooking up with all of them..
not all at once unfortunately...one thing wrong
though... they find out about each other and all
of a sudden im the sleave bucket they never want
to see again.... WHAMO! now there were some
hunnies in this group Dave, and i wanted more than
just once off's with them.. ALL of them!! but
noooo... I'm the bad guy now. ( i can see their
point really but come on) NOW, being the Jedi
Master... i know you have the answer to my problem
as the situation has popped up again with a new
group... I'm seeing one at the moment but her
friends are to hot to leave alone... i use c&f on
them and they love it but i see where this is
going.. the same way as it did before..... am i
writing to much here?? anyway.. back to the
point..... How can i avoid the same thing
happening? I'm sure you can see my situation... is
there a way of having.... can i say sex on here?
or shall i say shag.. ill say shag.... how can i
shag them all with out them getting bitchy about
me sleeping with the others too?? now don't go
accusing me Dave of being greedy... i know you'd
have been in this situation before. i need your
wisdom and quick!!
Thanks again man, you've helped me ten fold.
JF.
AUST.
P.S. im not re-reading this to see if it makes
sense.. ill leave that up to you heheheh.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, my heart really goes out to you. I'm
feelin' ya. It must be tough.
I'm going to have to make an educated guess on
this one.
I'll bet that it's not the fact that you're
sleeping with all of them that's the MAIN
problem... it's probably that you didn't make it
clear up front what was going on.
They probably feel like you were trying to HIDE
the fact and they CAUGHT YOU sneaking around on
all of them...
When, in fact it doesn't sound like that's what
you were trying to do.
Remember, perception is more important to most
people than reality. And if a woman perceives that
you're trying to deceive her, she'll shut you
down.
I'd recommend that you figure out how to make
sure that all of the women you're seeing know that
you're at least seeing other women that they know.
You don't have to get into specifics, but if
you want to prevent the "you're a sneaky bastard"
problem, then you might want to diffuse the
situation before it BECOMES a situation.
Women will accept you for whatever you are...
but they don't like it if they suspect that you're
trying to pull the wool over their eyes.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
How are you man? I bought your book and I really
like what you're doing. I've found your research
to be right on point! Anyways, I have some notes
from the field for you and your readers. This is a
perfect example of the "unaffected and crassness
towards a beautiful chick" behavior you wrote of
in your book. I was at a local club the other
night and I found a place at the bar where I
noticed a lot of girls were going to get served.
So I and my friends went right to that spot and I
just sort of planted myself against the bar in a
slouching yet confident kind of way. Just playing
cool and unaffected by any beautiful chick going
past but still making eye contact with them. Well,
inevitably a beautiful chick and her friends
slides up to my left. I of course look over my
shoulder at her and tell her my drink preference.
She said something about how "I should be buying
her a drink", and I said "yeah that'll happen"
very sarcastically. So the dialogue went on and of
course I was wearing out the whole cocky & funny
thing and busting on her, it was working like a
charm of course. I even at one point was asked buy
her friend to pass a napkin and I did that little,
she reached for it and I pulled it away bit
several times, which although very basic was
cracking her up. Needless to say, this hottie that
i had initiated conversation with was all about
rubbing her titties all over my side that was open
to her, my back! I thought of the most cocky thing
I could say that was subtley sexual and as she was
rubbing those nice titties of hers all over me, i
looked her in the eyes and said, "you really need
to stop doing that!" Well, she looked at me is
such disbelief that it seemed no man has ever even
slightly suggested that she not rub her tits on
him. Which obviously has in fact never happened.
Needless to say she was eyeing me all night but I
had to move on to another hottie, from Sweden, and
later in the night I saw her dragging around by
hand some big chump that she probably just met but
when she walked past me with her "boytoy" those
eyes of hers were shouting "f--k me, please!"
Well that's it for the story keep up the "good
struggle", Adam "el cholo"
P.S. (do you think that your research is just as
valid for use in Latin American countries such as
Mexico?)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
To answer your last question first, I get
emails from guys all over the world who are using
these techniques... so my guess is that they're
fairly universal. I'm sure that there's a culture
somewhere that isn't friendly to it, but I haven't
heard about it yet.
And as for your story... I LOVE IT!
It's a true Jedi level maneuver to bust on a
woman for doing something that any other man would
pay money to have done.
It's confusing, and, when done right, MAGICAL.
Keep up the great work. You should have 10
female stalkers in no time at all.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dear David,
You are the man. I just want to share a little
success story with you. I've been practicing the
cocky and funny routine online and I must say it
works like magic. I talked to this one girl for
only an hour, I kept up the cocky and funny
routine the whole time, she asked for my number
and called me 10 minutes later. We arranged a
meeting and it went great. I stayed in character
all night and even got her to come back to my
place. We had a very passionate and heated little
session (no sex but damn close). I can barely
remember the last time I even kissed a girl, but
now I think I'm starting to understand what I was
doing wrong for such a long time. You are
absolutely right when you say that it is the
CHARACTER and not the material that attracts
women. This girl couldn't get enough. I teased
her all night and never let up.
Unfortunately I must have turned into a WUSSY
boy at some point between the hot and heavy
session at my place and when I dropped her off.
I'm not really sure what happened. I'm thinking
maybe I screwed up by calling her the next day.
She was screening her calls obviously and never
called me back. I waited a week and tried again
with a well thought out message. I thought it
was a good message but now that I think about it,
it was cocky but NOT funny. I wasn't feeling the
character. She messed up my self-esteem and it
was probably obvious in the message. But I'm over
it and now I say FORGET HER, move on to the next
one. That's the only way to get better, is by
learning from our mistakes and making a game out
of it. Because that is all it is to them , A GAME.
We just have to know how to play.
Thanks David. YOU RULE.
C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're OK... you're doing fine. And let me echo
a comment that you made (which came from me, of
course), because it's SOOO important:
"...now I think I'm starting to understand what
I was doing wrong for such a long time. You are
absolutely right when you say that it is the
CHARACTER and not the material that attracts
women..."
You MUST get into the right CHARACTER in order
to make this whole male-female-ATTRACTION thing
work. You need to play the ROLE correctly.
In fact, if the CHARACTER is right, you can
actually screw up a lot of the specific technical
things (calling too soon, saying Wuss-Bag things,
etc.) and still have great success.
But, if the character is WRONG, then you're
going to have a very hard time making things
work... even if you are using ALL of the
techniques correctly.
Thanks for your email, that's such an important
point.
***QUESTION***
HER: "If you think I'm going to sleep with you,
after you've spent the last couple of hours
teasing and taking the mickey, think again!" ME:
No answer, just a slight smile... (Six months ago,
SuperWuss would've said "But honey, please... I
was only kidding!")
One hour later, in bed: HER: "I don't want to just
be another one in your harem, you know!" ME:
No answer, just another slight smile, and a kiss
on the neck. (Six months ago, SuperWuss would've
said "But honey, you know I really really respect
you and love you....") Five minutes later, her
legs are locked around my waist:-)
You know Dave, I'm in an incredibly funny space
right now: I am CONSTANTLY saying to myself
"Jeez... Did I just get away with saying/doing
THAT???" LOL I'm having the time of my life, and
it's all thanks to you. I'd like to meet you in
person one day, and shake your hand! Anyway, my
question: Every guy's been in this situation,
you're walking out somewhere with a beautiful
girl, and some other guy (or guys) makes a whistle
or 'Hey baby' comment to your girl... What's a
good C+F response to this? What I'm concerned
about is using the situation to make the girl MORE
attracted to ME, rather than putting down the guy.
Part of me wants to tell the guy to butt out and
mind his own business/get his own girl etc. but
I'm aware that not only will this possibly make me
look like an insecure, jealous asshole, but could
also get me into a potentially dangerous situation
that would ruin the good evening I have planned.
On the other hand, I worry that no response at all
may look like I'm a mouse not a man! I thought
about saying to my girl "Damn! I wish these gays
would just leave me alone!", making out it was ME
the guy was hitting on, but I'm not sure if I want
to put the idea I'm gay into her mind LOL. What do
you think? regards,
R London UK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
GREAT question.
Well, remember, every situation is an
opportunity to INCREASE THE ATTRACTION.
These are great opportunities to position
yourself in her mind in a way that sets you apart
from all other guys.
What would most guys do in this situation?
1) Get insecure and jealous.
2) Start a fight.
3) Pull the woman closer.
4) Act intimidated.
Your idea is great... making a joke out of it
by suggesting that the guy is trying to pick you
up.
Another idea is to just keep walking without
even paying notice to it, then a moment later
commenting "Don't you just love the way typical
guys act? Classy, isn't it?"
This, in effect, lumps other guys into a group
and sets you apart from it.
By not reacting at all to other men's advances,
you also show that you're not easily upset.
I think that if you let things upset you, that
you open yourself to manipulative behaviors that
involve getting you upset.
Much better to smile and not let things get to
you... because the irony of it is that if you let
things get to you, they will.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I am a lady and read your spam for the fun of it.
Boy are you all wet and not dry behind the ears
yet when it comes to knowing how to attract a
lady. I suppose you do all right attracting the
ugly ducklings that want to be your door mat.
Making fun of the way a lady is not attractive, it
just shows what a rude jerk you really are and
have no manners. Faking being busy on the phone is
one of the oldest tricks in the book and all women
are wise to it. If you were truly busy, you would
not have called in the first place and women know
this. Waiting a certain length of time to call is
just ignorance. Out of sight, out of mind is the
way most women think about men, when you snooze,
you loose.
Darlin, get real... head games are a definate no
no, honesty is in, or has it been so long since
you have attracted a lady instead of a door mat
you don't know this. Women have more brains than
men and all women know we are sitting on the world
men are trying to win, so being rude and making a
real pain in the butt out of yourself may get you
a door mat but never a lady.
Keep your nonsense flowing, us women get a real
good laugh from your advice on how to score. The
old saying sure holds true with your writing,"
Those who can do, those who can't write a book on
how to". haha!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I guess you told me!
Here's what I heard you say (my
interpretations, of course):
1) Waiting to call a woman back is a bad idea, and
if you don't call her immediately then she'll
forget you and not want to ever see you again.
2) Women are smarter than men.
3) Women are "sitting on the world men are trying
to win", which I'm assuming means what you have
between your legs.
4) That you believe I promote "being rude" and
"faking being busy".
OK, where do I start?
I don't know, but I have sneakin' suspicion
that you share the CRACK PIPE with the STONED
woman from last week. Don't tell me that you're a
base-head too?
Well, I guess you asked for it, with your off-
the-handle emotional rant... so here goes. (Can
you believe that I get to have this much fun...
and call it work?)
So, you think that waiting to call a woman back
is a bad idea, huh?
And you think that if you don't call her back
immediately that she'll have forgotten you... and
just not be interested.
This is an interesting line of thinking.
If you're high.
Look, it's soooo commonly known that it's not a
good idea to call a woman the moment after you've
met her that even guys who have never seen the
movie SWINGERS know not to do it!
Yeah, I see. I think that from now on, I'll
just ask women for their cell phone numbers, then
call them right after I walk away. I can say,
"Hi... it's me! Look over your left shoulder! Here
I am! (Waving my arms around)"
That would be cool.
I'd make fun of this idea more, but I have a
minimum of three more incredibly stupid ideas of
yours to bust on...
So, you think that women are smarter than men,
huh? Your exact comment was "Women have more
brains than men". You know, this is genius level
thinking. It's probably because you're smarter
than me that you actually know this.
I'll bet, though, that because you've smoked so
much CRACK that you've killed enough brain cells
to make us at least EQUALLY "brainy". Just a
hunch.
I think you took a step down the wrong path
with this comment.
And then you started RUNNING FULL SPEED down
that same wrong path with:
"...all women know we are sitting on the world
men are trying to win..."
Do me a favor... next time you send me an email
like this, send me your address so I can PAY YOU
for your contribution. I wish I could come up with
stuff like this myself.
I see that you've written me an email, so you
must have access to a computer (just a guess). But
it seems to me that you must be pretty new to the
Internet, because you obviously haven't figured
out that any man can get online and within 30
seconds be looking at beautiful naked women for
free.
And, if they really have a mind to not have to
listen to your mouth AND AT THE SAME TIME "win"
the "world" that women like you are sitting on,
ALL THEY HAVE TO DO IS FLY TO VEGAS AND GET A CAB
OUT TO THE CHICKEN RANCH!
DUDE, It's not the dark ages.
I feel like I can speak for most of the guys on
this newsletter when I say that we would like to
meet women who are emotionally stable, friendly,
happy, financially together, etc. (I don't expect
you to be able to identify with this
description... don't worry about it.)
It's not our desire to just "win what you're
sitting on".
We don't have to anymore. We improve ourselves
in this area because we WANT TO. We're not
interested in playing "Hi there Miss, will you
please give me some attention and some of what
you're sitting on?"
And finally, to address your comment that
implies that I teach men to be rude and to fake
things...
You're missing the boat entirely. It's like a
joke. You either get it or you don't. And you
don't.
Remember, send your address next time! And also
try the spelling and grammar check in your word
processor, because you write like an emotionally
unstable middle-schooler.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey,
I have been reading your news letters for awhile
now and decided that I would give it a shot, I got
a few one night stands and then met this girl that
I felt really strong for and went ahead and used
what I had learned cocky and funny, it worked,
since I wanted her to be a long term relationship
I also added in some nice, sweet, subtle
compliments in along the way and it worked we have
now been together for about a month and a half.
All that stuff that you said taught me was
fantastic for one night stands and even long term.
Those people that say it doesn't work are either:
1. Too much of a Wuss to try it or
2. have tried it once and only once and probably
messed it up along the way got shot down and are
to much of a Wuss to get back up and try it again.
Right on for your advice and keep it coming, you
never know when it might come in handy.
R.J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I'm going to comment on the "R" word...
relationships.
If you attract a woman using these techniques,
then you must remember to KEEP IT FUN AND
INTERESTING for her as you move into a
relationship.
You've got the formula right... slowly start
doing more "relationship" type things, subtly
complimenting her, etc.
Too many guys switch from being charming,
challenging, and interesting to being full-on
WUSSIES when it comes time to do the relationship
thing... which, of course, drives the woman away.
You must remember that when a woman feels
ATTRACTION for you, she's feeling it for a REASON.
Make sure you keep that reason going into the
future!
***COMMENT***
Cocky and funny is absolutely the best
technique for getting women, but there is still
more to it. Keeping your composure is also very
important. If for any reason you say... trip and
fall... then don't overreact! Every human on the
face of the planet makes mistakes similar to that,
and you make it a lot worse by blowing it out of
proportion by freaking out in crazy embarrassed
way. Just get back up, laugh a little and say a
little "oops" or something then go on like nothing
happened. Act like you aren't fazed when you screw
up around girls. It gives an overwhelming sense
to the girls that you are one confident bad ass.
Confidence is beyond important. You cannot
show fear of anything. People have got to look at
the world as their own playground, where everybody
else is just their string puppets for them to
control to get what they want. You've got to emit
the sense to whatever girl you are trying to hook
up with that you think anything is possible. There
is no fear, and thus there is only supreme
confidence. Supreme confidence will bring you
supreme women.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, one of my favorite topics: COMPOSURE.
I have been thinking a lot about the concept of
composure lately.
Composure if vital because we humans tend to
read very subtle cues from others, then make large
judgments about them as people.
For instance, if you're the type that lets
little things bother you, then you're probably
going to be thought of as not-exactly-masculine.
For instance, let's say that you're out with a
girl for coffee, and you come out to find a
parking ticket on your car. Some guys I know
wouldn't even think about it... they'd just get
upset. They'd start whining, ranting and raving...
and throwing a tantrum... with no regard for what
the woman is thinking of them.
On the other hand, I know guys who would
causally pick up the ticket, make a funny comment,
and not even miss a beat.
What's the difference?
The guy who keeps his composure at all times is
FAR more attractive than the one who doesn't.
Another place that composure plays an important
part is when women TEST men. If a woman starts
trying to push your buttons, becomes demanding, or
starts being dramatic about something, you need to
KEEP YOUR COOL.
In fact, some of the guys I know who are THE
MOST successful with women actually don't even
respond AT ALL to drama or tests from women.
They just continue what they were doing.
Oh the other hand, I know some guys who let
this kind of thing take them off balance and upset
them (I used to be one of those guys).
If you let things like this upset you, or even
get to you a little bit, it's going to be obvious
that you can't control your emotions, and it will
make you less attractive all the way around.
Keep your composure. Keep your composure. Keep
your composure.
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave,
I'm a female reader, but I still love receiving
your newsletter. I know where you're coming from
with a lot of the information you explain to the
readers. I have plenty of guy friends and I am
definitely attracted to those jerky kinda guys.
Your newsletter can apply to the ways women can
get pick up men too.. I mean, a lot of times, its
about the approach and confidence level, so it
works for some women. Sometimes things you write
make me laugh because they're right on the money
and other times I'm like "DAMN so that's what the
guy was trying to do". It's enjoyable seeing the
techniques that guys use and their point of views.
Do you think there are any other newsletters like
this out there.. but for gals like myself? Keep
up the great work!
-c
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Did I mention that I love honest women? Another
letter that speaks for itself... thank you!
***QUESTION***
Dear Doctor David,
Please come round here and kill me I am so
pathetic. I've read your book twice now and should
be putting some of it to good use. But it seems
that I am completely inept at doing so. I've just
been talking to this fine young lady at the gym.
(By the way I've been out of circulation for quite
some time now since my divorce and I'm way out of
practice) Anyway I was just talking to her and all
of a sudden I started to go into wuss mode I even
forgot here name as soon as she told me so i asked
here it again, so pathetic! I also hung around for
a little bit to long plus I never asked for her
email. Now I would really like to get to know
this girl take her out on a date etc. But I'm
really sure that I've blown my chances. Although
she seemed interested mostly apart from the
forgetting her name part Next time I see her I
really want to recover the situation and act
properly, maybe I should pretend to forget her
name again make a joke of it. what do you think.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. By the
way your last news letter was awesome, very
informative, I just hope that I can put it to some
good use and become a "Jedi Master!" Best regards
AM Lancaster, England.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, you're doing fine.
Every one of us is in a different place in
life, and you're going to get this figured out.
The more you deal with attractive women, the
more relaxed you'll NATURALLY become, and the more
easily you'll remember to do the things you need
to do in these situations.
Next time you see this woman, just go about
your business and see if she starts talking to
you. If not, no big deal.
The second time you see her at the gym, then
talk to her. At that point, casually say "Hey, do
you have email?" Then get it and LEAVE
IMMEDIATELY... have somewhere you're going...
don't linger.
Send her a charming email, and meet her for
tea. You're doing great.
And by the way, stop calling me Doctor.
Everyone's going to start thinking that I'm smart
or something.
Hey, maybe I should get one of those Internet
PhD's, huh?
"Huh Huh, Hey Beavith... huh huh... that would
be kewl."
***QUESTION***
HI David, you are THE MAN!!!
I am in recovery of what you may call "success-
with-women" coma, I was on life support until I
found your web site, then EVERYTHING changed!!!! I
have managed to go out with girls that are 8's or
9's in my scale, thing which I haven't done in
almost 5 years (after breaking up with my cheating
girlfriend). Anyway, we went out with some friends
to dinner on Saturday and one of our girl-friends
went with this blonde that was an 9.5-10. So one
of my friends started hitting on her (according to
most girls he is very good looking) and she was
paying attention to him.... at first! I started
with my cocky & funny routine and she was all over
me!! To make things short I walked home with her
email, home and cell phone number and my friend
ended up with... NOTHING. I wouldn't have been
able to do that in other time. THANKS!!!!
Now my question. There's this girl at the gym I go
to, we have been flirting, and I haven't talked to
her, yet. I can't come up with really good cocky
and funny lines, any suggestions?
Thanks again!!!
AMFdP
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, you'd better hurry up, because the guy in
the last email I commented on is probably at the
gym picking her up right now!
And the funny thing is that I'm going to give
you the same advice. In these kinds of situations,
it's best to get the email address, then send an
email the next day. Start a dialogue, then get her
on the phone and meet her for coffee. It's simple.
Whenever you're in doubt, just remember to take
one small step... don't make a big deal. All you
need to do is get an email and number... then take
the next step... and the next... and the rest will
take care of itself.
***COMMENT***
G'day,
You said: "You know, I'm really tired of you women
treating me like some kind of piece of meat. I
have feelings too, and I don't just like being
thought of as a sex object." When she gets over
that, why not follow up with: "I bet you'd kill
for my waist too." It doesn't matter if she's
really slim or not. The formula is magic and it
gets easier the more you use it.
From J in Melbourne
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, that's a great follow up.
Funny, but a friend of mine in Australia came
up with that original Cocky and Funny approach of
"I'm not just a sex object... I have feelings too"
and it's not surprising to me that someone else
from down under would come up with a great add-on
to it.
Nice!
Turning the sexual stereotype roles around,
then having fun with them is a GREAT way to keep
conversations going, and a great way to have fun.
***QUESTION***
OK, I'll keep this short and sweet. I used to
SUCK at getting girls and was terrified of
rejection and talking to strange girls in public.
Bought your book, and changed my whole approach to
women. I was in future shop and this sales-girl
dropped this palm screen-cover that I was going to
buy between two glass display cases. So I
immediately starting busting on her with a serious
face how she did it on purpose, just because it
was the only one they had in the store. Anyhow
when I was leaving, I told her the least she could
do was to give me her number. She laughed and did,
and I called her the next day. She said she had to
go and was busy, so I told her I bought another
screen-cover at her competition store, to keep up
the Cocky & Funny. I called back 2 more times and
each time she was busy. This has happened a few
times when I have called girls after getting their
number. Sometimes I wait a few days after getting
a girl's number, so I don't appear desperate; but
this doesn't seem to have it's desired effect. But
I am obviously doing something wrong because once
I get the number, it usually ends there. When is
it best to call a girl after getting her number,
and what's the secret to success to meet quickly
for your half-hour cup of tea plan after getting a
girl's number?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I have just one word for you:
EMAIL.
Get the email.
You'll get probably twice as many emails
returned the first time as you will phone calls.
And with email, you can follow up if she
doesn't email you back.
#2 can say:
"What, playing hard to get so soon? Talk to
me."
...and it doesn't come off as needy.
If you CALL and say that, it DOES come off as
needy.
Don't ask me why, but it seems that email has
all kinds of great benefits that the phone
doesn't.
Start the dialogue with email, then switch to a
short phone call to set up the first meeting...
then move to meeting in person. Works much better.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey Dave,
Your stuff is amazing. Check out this success
story. I was at a coffee shop with some friends. I
was sitting at a table all by myself right next to
my friends, because there wasn't enough room for
all of us to sit at the same table. I had two
empty chairs at my table. This hottie comes in
with two of her female friends. As she was
ordering her coffee, we make eye contact, and
after four to five seconds I look at my watch. She
does the same thing. I know she was checking me
out. She comes and sits at the table in front of
me. There were only two chairs at her table. She
walks up to me and says:
Can I borrow a chair. I said : Sure. I know.
Wussy. But it gets better. She takes the chair and
sits but her back is facing me. So I tell her:
"Excuse me I was nice enough to let you borrow my
chair and all of a sudden you turn your back on
me. " Oh I 'm sorry, well where do you want me to
sit" She says. So I say " why don't you tell your
two friends to push a little bit and you sit
there, therefore you don't have your back turned
on me and you can see my pretty face. She starts
laughing as she's moving over. So I accused her.
"Are you laughing in my face. My face is not to be
laughed at, it is to be admired." She comes and
sits at my table, where there was the other chair
HER: Sorry but I wasn't laughing in your face ME:
Yes you were. HER: I am sorry then. My name is
Lisa ME: I am glad you told me but it's too late
for first impressions. Look at you, right now you
have your back turned on your friends. This is
very disrespectful. HER: Oh come on stop it. ME:
Stop what, this is reality HER: Well where do you
want me to sit ME: You can come and sit next to
me, my back is facing the window. (she actually
came and sat next to me. She asked me for a light)
HER: Can I borrow your lighter ME: Well it all
depends HER: It depends on what ME: On whether you
want to light up your cigarette, or you want to
light up a fire in this coffee shop. (she starts
laughing, so I kept on going), because if it's the
second one then forget it, I have my fingerprints
on this lighter and I will be accused for your
actions. (she continues to laugh) HER: No I want
to light up my cigarette. ME: Well now that we
have established that fact, what do I get in
return. HER: In return for what ME: Well listen, I
let you borrow my chair and i didn't say anything,
but my lighter is pushing it. So I want to get
something in return. HER: A hug ME: You can do
better than that HER: OK a kiss ME: I tell you
what. you give me a hug for letting you borrow my
chair and a kiss for my lighter. HER: Wo. You're
pushing it ME: Fine no lighter. And I will go and
get my chair back. ( As I get up she stops me)
HER: Ok fine. ( So i got the kiss and the hug,
This routine is amazing) HER: I like your watch
ME: Thanks. This watch has a battery that has 100
years guarantee. I will be dead and the watch will
still be working. ( she starts laughing). ME: You
want to try it on HER: Ya sure ( she wears it) ME:
Naa, it doesn't look good on you. I, on the other
hand, make it look good. (And I grabbed it out of
her wrist)
After some small talk I got her e-mail and phone
number. We have been out a couple of times but I
play everything according to your book. I end all
conversations and phone calls. I have here call me
and say that I am busy. i have established that I
want to be just friends. I still accuse her for
having her back turned on people so therefore she
always sits next to me because I always sit by the
window. Thanks for all the advice. Pure genius.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What a great example of how to interact with a
woman... so you both have fun, and she experiences
a wonderful, challenging experience which only
amplifies her attraction.
Very nice.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
You are indeed the man! I have been running
around in the dark but thanks to your book the
light has finally come on, and I realize that my
wires have been crossed. In the past when I would
meet an attractive woman I would do the old "roll
over and play wuss" and she would just want to be
friends. And the girls that I only wanted to be
friends with I would be all C&F with and they
would be calling all the time, telling me how
funny I am and how I have Charisma (and I do). But
I just couldn't see what I was doing wrong.
Now after reading your book it all makes perfect
sense to me. Now I treat 10's like they are 2's
(still giving up human respect, no one likes a
"true" a##hole!) But just because they won the
"genetic lotto" doesn't mean I or any other man
should feel the need to kiss their ass. Now I just
treat them like they were one of my friends and
let them know that until they show me why I should
"lower my standards"(ha..ha) that's all they will
ever be. And dude... it drives them nuts. And the
few that throw a little "tiff" I just tell them
I'm not their "boyfriend" so they better have
their fit on someone else's time. Thanks again,
D.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nothing else really needs to be said. Preach
it.
Let me ask YOU a question... are you at a point
in your life where it's time to start learning
about how the whole concept of "women and dating"
works better?
Have you been walking around trying to make
sense out of why women are attracted to some men,
but not attracted to others?
Have you seen average-looking guys or guy
friends who seem to be able to attract beautiful
women... even though they didn't have looks, fame,
or money?
Well, if you'd like to get a behind-the-scenes
look into the minds of women, and you'd like to
learn the techniques for attracting women and
creating ATTRACTION that it's taken me literally
YEARS to figure out, then I'd recommend you go and
check out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
program.
Inside I'll give you the codes to the locked
safe of the female mind. You'll learn the REAL
story behind why women are attracted to some men,
and not to others...
You can check out some great free audio and
video cuts from it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
If you'd like to FOCUS on this area called
"Approaching Women", then you might want to check
out my DVD/CD program that is FOCUSED on the
topic.
Inside you'll learn from MASTERS of approaching
women and starting conversations... and you'll get
literally HUNDREDS of different ideas, techniques,
and step-by-step methods for approaching women in
EVERY type of situation.
There is no other program in the world like it,
and you can only get it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/ApproachingWomen/
And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it
and be reading it in just a few minutes... it's
here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/
I'll talk to you again in a few days.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. You can also watch video clips of every one
of my different programs HERE:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
>>NOTE: When most guys try to be "funny" with a woman
they end up coming across as goofy or dorky. Not
good. If you want to learn the right way to use humor to
make any woman feel attracted - or even ADDICTED -
to you, go here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy/
***QUESTION***
David,
I have read your e-book. I think it's great, but
questions always arise. I have been dating a woman
for five weeks. We've had several wonderful dates.
She's a really sweet girl, and I think there is a
lot of potential. We have spent the night together
three times, but have not yet had full
intercourse. I give her oral sex every time and
always bring her to orgasm. When I told that I
wanted to have full intercourse with her, she told
me that she doesn't do that right away. She said
she usually does not get naked with a man, but did
so with me because she likes me. We discussed our
feelings about sex, and I have never pressured
her.
I always aim to please her sexually. She is
definitely enjoying what I do for her, and I enjoy
doing it for her. Unfortunately, she hardly
touches me or does anything to satisfy me
sexually. How should I interpret and handle this?
I have been considering gently guiding her hand
when she gets to the right location, but I'm not
sure if this is a good approach. I may even talk
to her about it, but I'd rather her advance on me
without my prodding. Should I hold off on giving
her oral sex? My intuition tells me that doing so
would not be very productive. Do you have any
suggestions? E.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
DANGER! You are rapidly approaching the WUSS
ZONE!
One thing that you DON'T want to do is TELL A
WOMAN THAT YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HER!
Why not? Because you're GIVING AWAY ALL OF YOUR
POWER when you do that.
That's what ALL men want from her... don't make
me come over there and shake you!
You say that you have my eBook. I want you to
QUICKLY open up the bonus booklet that came along
with it called "Sex Secrets". Inside you'll read
what to do. Then read THIS:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/PowerSexuality/
You need to get her turned on more... to the
point where she's ripping your clothes off. Don't
just give her pleasure like Mr. Wussy... that's
old. She can get that anywhere.
You need to be different. You need to build
anticipation and amplify the ATTRACTION. If you
don't you're probably going to find her getting
bored of you because you're so predictable and
boring.
Trust me.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave, I need your help !!!
My situation is this..... When I go to clubs, I
don't have to much problem going over to a girl
that I like, so it isn't a lack of confidence. But
after a short space of time I find myself
struggling to keep the conversation going and
start asking the boring questions like, Where do
you come from ? How long have you lived there ? Do
you drive ?
BORING....... What the hell do you ask a girl you
know nothing about ?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, you do need my help.
The answer is simple:
STOP TRYING TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING.
As soon as you start talking, END the
conversation.
Say, "It was nice meeting you, I'm going to get
back to my friends..." then turn away. Quickly
turn back and say "Hey! Do you have email?" If she
says yes, pull out a pen and paper and say "Here,
write it down... I'd like to talk to you again."
It's really not that difficult.
The problem in busy, crowded public situations
is that there are WAY too many distractions.
You're competing with music, loud drunk people, or
whatever else is around. It's like trying have a
meaningful conversation at a baseball game.
Instead, get the info, and move on. If you
follow up with a charming email, you'll hear back
50%-80% of the time (in my experience).
And for GOD SAKES... STOP ASKING BORING
QUESTIONS! You're not on a job interview. And
neither is she. Boring, lame, typical questions
only position you as an average dork.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Great advice you give, i used to be one of the
wussy guys, being nice and always there for the
girls, but I've been using c&f lately on new girls
i meet AND ones i already knew. it works. Really
well. im no longer the 'nice guy' to them.. im the
guy they all talk about. But i have a problem..
I've learnt the hard way once... and since moved
on....now the problem has presented itself again
:/ here it is...:
I get to know a group of absolute gorgeous
chicks.. and i want them all... so... i bust on
them all... nothing wrong there.. everythings
going fine... later down the track though... they
all want a piece of me..... anything wrong with
that? NOT AT ALL!!! first time this happened i
blindly dove in.. hooking up with all of them..
not all at once unfortunately...one thing wrong
though... they find out about each other and all
of a sudden im the sleave bucket they never want
to see again.... WHAMO! now there were some
hunnies in this group Dave, and i wanted more than
just once off's with them.. ALL of them!! but
noooo... I'm the bad guy now. ( i can see their
point really but come on) NOW, being the Jedi
Master... i know you have the answer to my problem
as the situation has popped up again with a new
group... I'm seeing one at the moment but her
friends are to hot to leave alone... i use c&f on
them and they love it but i see where this is
going.. the same way as it did before..... am i
writing to much here?? anyway.. back to the
point..... How can i avoid the same thing
happening? I'm sure you can see my situation... is
there a way of having.... can i say sex on here?
or shall i say shag.. ill say shag.... how can i
shag them all with out them getting bitchy about
me sleeping with the others too?? now don't go
accusing me Dave of being greedy... i know you'd
have been in this situation before. i need your
wisdom and quick!!
Thanks again man, you've helped me ten fold.
JF.
AUST.
P.S. im not re-reading this to see if it makes
sense.. ill leave that up to you heheheh.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, my heart really goes out to you. I'm
feelin' ya. It must be tough.
I'm going to have to make an educated guess on
this one.
I'll bet that it's not the fact that you're
sleeping with all of them that's the MAIN
problem... it's probably that you didn't make it
clear up front what was going on.
They probably feel like you were trying to HIDE
the fact and they CAUGHT YOU sneaking around on
all of them...
When, in fact it doesn't sound like that's what
you were trying to do.
Remember, perception is more important to most
people than reality. And if a woman perceives that
you're trying to deceive her, she'll shut you
down.
I'd recommend that you figure out how to make
sure that all of the women you're seeing know that
you're at least seeing other women that they know.
You don't have to get into specifics, but if
you want to prevent the "you're a sneaky bastard"
problem, then you might want to diffuse the
situation before it BECOMES a situation.
Women will accept you for whatever you are...
but they don't like it if they suspect that you're
trying to pull the wool over their eyes.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
How are you man? I bought your book and I really
like what you're doing. I've found your research
to be right on point! Anyways, I have some notes
from the field for you and your readers. This is a
perfect example of the "unaffected and crassness
towards a beautiful chick" behavior you wrote of
in your book. I was at a local club the other
night and I found a place at the bar where I
noticed a lot of girls were going to get served.
So I and my friends went right to that spot and I
just sort of planted myself against the bar in a
slouching yet confident kind of way. Just playing
cool and unaffected by any beautiful chick going
past but still making eye contact with them. Well,
inevitably a beautiful chick and her friends
slides up to my left. I of course look over my
shoulder at her and tell her my drink preference.
She said something about how "I should be buying
her a drink", and I said "yeah that'll happen"
very sarcastically. So the dialogue went on and of
course I was wearing out the whole cocky & funny
thing and busting on her, it was working like a
charm of course. I even at one point was asked buy
her friend to pass a napkin and I did that little,
she reached for it and I pulled it away bit
several times, which although very basic was
cracking her up. Needless to say, this hottie that
i had initiated conversation with was all about
rubbing her titties all over my side that was open
to her, my back! I thought of the most cocky thing
I could say that was subtley sexual and as she was
rubbing those nice titties of hers all over me, i
looked her in the eyes and said, "you really need
to stop doing that!" Well, she looked at me is
such disbelief that it seemed no man has ever even
slightly suggested that she not rub her tits on
him. Which obviously has in fact never happened.
Needless to say she was eyeing me all night but I
had to move on to another hottie, from Sweden, and
later in the night I saw her dragging around by
hand some big chump that she probably just met but
when she walked past me with her "boytoy" those
eyes of hers were shouting "f--k me, please!"
Well that's it for the story keep up the "good
struggle", Adam "el cholo"
P.S. (do you think that your research is just as
valid for use in Latin American countries such as
Mexico?)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
To answer your last question first, I get
emails from guys all over the world who are using
these techniques... so my guess is that they're
fairly universal. I'm sure that there's a culture
somewhere that isn't friendly to it, but I haven't
heard about it yet.
And as for your story... I LOVE IT!
It's a true Jedi level maneuver to bust on a
woman for doing something that any other man would
pay money to have done.
It's confusing, and, when done right, MAGICAL.
Keep up the great work. You should have 10
female stalkers in no time at all.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dear David,
You are the man. I just want to share a little
success story with you. I've been practicing the
cocky and funny routine online and I must say it
works like magic. I talked to this one girl for
only an hour, I kept up the cocky and funny
routine the whole time, she asked for my number
and called me 10 minutes later. We arranged a
meeting and it went great. I stayed in character
all night and even got her to come back to my
place. We had a very passionate and heated little
session (no sex but damn close). I can barely
remember the last time I even kissed a girl, but
now I think I'm starting to understand what I was
doing wrong for such a long time. You are
absolutely right when you say that it is the
CHARACTER and not the material that attracts
women. This girl couldn't get enough. I teased
her all night and never let up.
Unfortunately I must have turned into a WUSSY
boy at some point between the hot and heavy
session at my place and when I dropped her off.
I'm not really sure what happened. I'm thinking
maybe I screwed up by calling her the next day.
She was screening her calls obviously and never
called me back. I waited a week and tried again
with a well thought out message. I thought it
was a good message but now that I think about it,
it was cocky but NOT funny. I wasn't feeling the
character. She messed up my self-esteem and it
was probably obvious in the message. But I'm over
it and now I say FORGET HER, move on to the next
one. That's the only way to get better, is by
learning from our mistakes and making a game out
of it. Because that is all it is to them , A GAME.
We just have to know how to play.
Thanks David. YOU RULE.
C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're OK... you're doing fine. And let me echo
a comment that you made (which came from me, of
course), because it's SOOO important:
"...now I think I'm starting to understand what
I was doing wrong for such a long time. You are
absolutely right when you say that it is the
CHARACTER and not the material that attracts
women..."
You MUST get into the right CHARACTER in order
to make this whole male-female-ATTRACTION thing
work. You need to play the ROLE correctly.
In fact, if the CHARACTER is right, you can
actually screw up a lot of the specific technical
things (calling too soon, saying Wuss-Bag things,
etc.) and still have great success.
But, if the character is WRONG, then you're
going to have a very hard time making things
work... even if you are using ALL of the
techniques correctly.
Thanks for your email, that's such an important
point.
***QUESTION***
HER: "If you think I'm going to sleep with you,
after you've spent the last couple of hours
teasing and taking the mickey, think again!" ME:
No answer, just a slight smile... (Six months ago,
SuperWuss would've said "But honey, please... I
was only kidding!")
One hour later, in bed: HER: "I don't want to just
be another one in your harem, you know!" ME:
No answer, just another slight smile, and a kiss
on the neck. (Six months ago, SuperWuss would've
said "But honey, you know I really really respect
you and love you....") Five minutes later, her
legs are locked around my waist:-)
You know Dave, I'm in an incredibly funny space
right now: I am CONSTANTLY saying to myself
"Jeez... Did I just get away with saying/doing
THAT???" LOL I'm having the time of my life, and
it's all thanks to you. I'd like to meet you in
person one day, and shake your hand! Anyway, my
question: Every guy's been in this situation,
you're walking out somewhere with a beautiful
girl, and some other guy (or guys) makes a whistle
or 'Hey baby' comment to your girl... What's a
good C+F response to this? What I'm concerned
about is using the situation to make the girl MORE
attracted to ME, rather than putting down the guy.
Part of me wants to tell the guy to butt out and
mind his own business/get his own girl etc. but
I'm aware that not only will this possibly make me
look like an insecure, jealous asshole, but could
also get me into a potentially dangerous situation
that would ruin the good evening I have planned.
On the other hand, I worry that no response at all
may look like I'm a mouse not a man! I thought
about saying to my girl "Damn! I wish these gays
would just leave me alone!", making out it was ME
the guy was hitting on, but I'm not sure if I want
to put the idea I'm gay into her mind LOL. What do
you think? regards,
R London UK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
GREAT question.
Well, remember, every situation is an
opportunity to INCREASE THE ATTRACTION.
These are great opportunities to position
yourself in her mind in a way that sets you apart
from all other guys.
What would most guys do in this situation?
1) Get insecure and jealous.
2) Start a fight.
3) Pull the woman closer.
4) Act intimidated.
Your idea is great... making a joke out of it
by suggesting that the guy is trying to pick you
up.
Another idea is to just keep walking without
even paying notice to it, then a moment later
commenting "Don't you just love the way typical
guys act? Classy, isn't it?"
This, in effect, lumps other guys into a group
and sets you apart from it.
By not reacting at all to other men's advances,
you also show that you're not easily upset.
I think that if you let things upset you, that
you open yourself to manipulative behaviors that
involve getting you upset.
Much better to smile and not let things get to
you... because the irony of it is that if you let
things get to you, they will.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I am a lady and read your spam for the fun of it.
Boy are you all wet and not dry behind the ears
yet when it comes to knowing how to attract a
lady. I suppose you do all right attracting the
ugly ducklings that want to be your door mat.
Making fun of the way a lady is not attractive, it
just shows what a rude jerk you really are and
have no manners. Faking being busy on the phone is
one of the oldest tricks in the book and all women
are wise to it. If you were truly busy, you would
not have called in the first place and women know
this. Waiting a certain length of time to call is
just ignorance. Out of sight, out of mind is the
way most women think about men, when you snooze,
you loose.
Darlin, get real... head games are a definate no
no, honesty is in, or has it been so long since
you have attracted a lady instead of a door mat
you don't know this. Women have more brains than
men and all women know we are sitting on the world
men are trying to win, so being rude and making a
real pain in the butt out of yourself may get you
a door mat but never a lady.
Keep your nonsense flowing, us women get a real
good laugh from your advice on how to score. The
old saying sure holds true with your writing,"
Those who can do, those who can't write a book on
how to". haha!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I guess you told me!
Here's what I heard you say (my
interpretations, of course):
1) Waiting to call a woman back is a bad idea, and
if you don't call her immediately then she'll
forget you and not want to ever see you again.
2) Women are smarter than men.
3) Women are "sitting on the world men are trying
to win", which I'm assuming means what you have
between your legs.
4) That you believe I promote "being rude" and
"faking being busy".
OK, where do I start?
I don't know, but I have sneakin' suspicion
that you share the CRACK PIPE with the STONED
woman from last week. Don't tell me that you're a
base-head too?
Well, I guess you asked for it, with your off-
the-handle emotional rant... so here goes. (Can
you believe that I get to have this much fun...
and call it work?)
So, you think that waiting to call a woman back
is a bad idea, huh?
And you think that if you don't call her back
immediately that she'll have forgotten you... and
just not be interested.
This is an interesting line of thinking.
If you're high.
Look, it's soooo commonly known that it's not a
good idea to call a woman the moment after you've
met her that even guys who have never seen the
movie SWINGERS know not to do it!
Yeah, I see. I think that from now on, I'll
just ask women for their cell phone numbers, then
call them right after I walk away. I can say,
"Hi... it's me! Look over your left shoulder! Here
I am! (Waving my arms around)"
That would be cool.
I'd make fun of this idea more, but I have a
minimum of three more incredibly stupid ideas of
yours to bust on...
So, you think that women are smarter than men,
huh? Your exact comment was "Women have more
brains than men". You know, this is genius level
thinking. It's probably because you're smarter
than me that you actually know this.
I'll bet, though, that because you've smoked so
much CRACK that you've killed enough brain cells
to make us at least EQUALLY "brainy". Just a
hunch.
I think you took a step down the wrong path
with this comment.
And then you started RUNNING FULL SPEED down
that same wrong path with:
"...all women know we are sitting on the world
men are trying to win..."
Do me a favor... next time you send me an email
like this, send me your address so I can PAY YOU
for your contribution. I wish I could come up with
stuff like this myself.
I see that you've written me an email, so you
must have access to a computer (just a guess). But
it seems to me that you must be pretty new to the
Internet, because you obviously haven't figured
out that any man can get online and within 30
seconds be looking at beautiful naked women for
free.
And, if they really have a mind to not have to
listen to your mouth AND AT THE SAME TIME "win"
the "world" that women like you are sitting on,
ALL THEY HAVE TO DO IS FLY TO VEGAS AND GET A CAB
OUT TO THE CHICKEN RANCH!
DUDE, It's not the dark ages.
I feel like I can speak for most of the guys on
this newsletter when I say that we would like to
meet women who are emotionally stable, friendly,
happy, financially together, etc. (I don't expect
you to be able to identify with this
description... don't worry about it.)
It's not our desire to just "win what you're
sitting on".
We don't have to anymore. We improve ourselves
in this area because we WANT TO. We're not
interested in playing "Hi there Miss, will you
please give me some attention and some of what
you're sitting on?"
And finally, to address your comment that
implies that I teach men to be rude and to fake
things...
You're missing the boat entirely. It's like a
joke. You either get it or you don't. And you
don't.
Remember, send your address next time! And also
try the spelling and grammar check in your word
processor, because you write like an emotionally
unstable middle-schooler.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey,
I have been reading your news letters for awhile
now and decided that I would give it a shot, I got
a few one night stands and then met this girl that
I felt really strong for and went ahead and used
what I had learned cocky and funny, it worked,
since I wanted her to be a long term relationship
I also added in some nice, sweet, subtle
compliments in along the way and it worked we have
now been together for about a month and a half.
All that stuff that you said taught me was
fantastic for one night stands and even long term.
Those people that say it doesn't work are either:
1. Too much of a Wuss to try it or
2. have tried it once and only once and probably
messed it up along the way got shot down and are
to much of a Wuss to get back up and try it again.
Right on for your advice and keep it coming, you
never know when it might come in handy.
R.J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I'm going to comment on the "R" word...
relationships.
If you attract a woman using these techniques,
then you must remember to KEEP IT FUN AND
INTERESTING for her as you move into a
relationship.
You've got the formula right... slowly start
doing more "relationship" type things, subtly
complimenting her, etc.
Too many guys switch from being charming,
challenging, and interesting to being full-on
WUSSIES when it comes time to do the relationship
thing... which, of course, drives the woman away.
You must remember that when a woman feels
ATTRACTION for you, she's feeling it for a REASON.
Make sure you keep that reason going into the
future!
***COMMENT***
Cocky and funny is absolutely the best
technique for getting women, but there is still
more to it. Keeping your composure is also very
important. If for any reason you say... trip and
fall... then don't overreact! Every human on the
face of the planet makes mistakes similar to that,
and you make it a lot worse by blowing it out of
proportion by freaking out in crazy embarrassed
way. Just get back up, laugh a little and say a
little "oops" or something then go on like nothing
happened. Act like you aren't fazed when you screw
up around girls. It gives an overwhelming sense
to the girls that you are one confident bad ass.
Confidence is beyond important. You cannot
show fear of anything. People have got to look at
the world as their own playground, where everybody
else is just their string puppets for them to
control to get what they want. You've got to emit
the sense to whatever girl you are trying to hook
up with that you think anything is possible. There
is no fear, and thus there is only supreme
confidence. Supreme confidence will bring you
supreme women.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, one of my favorite topics: COMPOSURE.
I have been thinking a lot about the concept of
composure lately.
Composure if vital because we humans tend to
read very subtle cues from others, then make large
judgments about them as people.
For instance, if you're the type that lets
little things bother you, then you're probably
going to be thought of as not-exactly-masculine.
For instance, let's say that you're out with a
girl for coffee, and you come out to find a
parking ticket on your car. Some guys I know
wouldn't even think about it... they'd just get
upset. They'd start whining, ranting and raving...
and throwing a tantrum... with no regard for what
the woman is thinking of them.
On the other hand, I know guys who would
causally pick up the ticket, make a funny comment,
and not even miss a beat.
What's the difference?
The guy who keeps his composure at all times is
FAR more attractive than the one who doesn't.
Another place that composure plays an important
part is when women TEST men. If a woman starts
trying to push your buttons, becomes demanding, or
starts being dramatic about something, you need to
KEEP YOUR COOL.
In fact, some of the guys I know who are THE
MOST successful with women actually don't even
respond AT ALL to drama or tests from women.
They just continue what they were doing.
Oh the other hand, I know some guys who let
this kind of thing take them off balance and upset
them (I used to be one of those guys).
If you let things like this upset you, or even
get to you a little bit, it's going to be obvious
that you can't control your emotions, and it will
make you less attractive all the way around.
Keep your composure. Keep your composure. Keep
your composure.
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave,
I'm a female reader, but I still love receiving
your newsletter. I know where you're coming from
with a lot of the information you explain to the
readers. I have plenty of guy friends and I am
definitely attracted to those jerky kinda guys.
Your newsletter can apply to the ways women can
get pick up men too.. I mean, a lot of times, its
about the approach and confidence level, so it
works for some women. Sometimes things you write
make me laugh because they're right on the money
and other times I'm like "DAMN so that's what the
guy was trying to do". It's enjoyable seeing the
techniques that guys use and their point of views.
Do you think there are any other newsletters like
this out there.. but for gals like myself? Keep
up the great work!
-c
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Did I mention that I love honest women? Another
letter that speaks for itself... thank you!
***QUESTION***
Dear Doctor David,
Please come round here and kill me I am so
pathetic. I've read your book twice now and should
be putting some of it to good use. But it seems
that I am completely inept at doing so. I've just
been talking to this fine young lady at the gym.
(By the way I've been out of circulation for quite
some time now since my divorce and I'm way out of
practice) Anyway I was just talking to her and all
of a sudden I started to go into wuss mode I even
forgot here name as soon as she told me so i asked
here it again, so pathetic! I also hung around for
a little bit to long plus I never asked for her
email. Now I would really like to get to know
this girl take her out on a date etc. But I'm
really sure that I've blown my chances. Although
she seemed interested mostly apart from the
forgetting her name part Next time I see her I
really want to recover the situation and act
properly, maybe I should pretend to forget her
name again make a joke of it. what do you think.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. By the
way your last news letter was awesome, very
informative, I just hope that I can put it to some
good use and become a "Jedi Master!" Best regards
AM Lancaster, England.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, you're doing fine.
Every one of us is in a different place in
life, and you're going to get this figured out.
The more you deal with attractive women, the
more relaxed you'll NATURALLY become, and the more
easily you'll remember to do the things you need
to do in these situations.
Next time you see this woman, just go about
your business and see if she starts talking to
you. If not, no big deal.
The second time you see her at the gym, then
talk to her. At that point, casually say "Hey, do
you have email?" Then get it and LEAVE
IMMEDIATELY... have somewhere you're going...
don't linger.
Send her a charming email, and meet her for
tea. You're doing great.
And by the way, stop calling me Doctor.
Everyone's going to start thinking that I'm smart
or something.
Hey, maybe I should get one of those Internet
PhD's, huh?
"Huh Huh, Hey Beavith... huh huh... that would
be kewl."
***QUESTION***
HI David, you are THE MAN!!!
I am in recovery of what you may call "success-
with-women" coma, I was on life support until I
found your web site, then EVERYTHING changed!!!! I
have managed to go out with girls that are 8's or
9's in my scale, thing which I haven't done in
almost 5 years (after breaking up with my cheating
girlfriend). Anyway, we went out with some friends
to dinner on Saturday and one of our girl-friends
went with this blonde that was an 9.5-10. So one
of my friends started hitting on her (according to
most girls he is very good looking) and she was
paying attention to him.... at first! I started
with my cocky & funny routine and she was all over
me!! To make things short I walked home with her
email, home and cell phone number and my friend
ended up with... NOTHING. I wouldn't have been
able to do that in other time. THANKS!!!!
Now my question. There's this girl at the gym I go
to, we have been flirting, and I haven't talked to
her, yet. I can't come up with really good cocky
and funny lines, any suggestions?
Thanks again!!!
AMFdP
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, you'd better hurry up, because the guy in
the last email I commented on is probably at the
gym picking her up right now!
And the funny thing is that I'm going to give
you the same advice. In these kinds of situations,
it's best to get the email address, then send an
email the next day. Start a dialogue, then get her
on the phone and meet her for coffee. It's simple.
Whenever you're in doubt, just remember to take
one small step... don't make a big deal. All you
need to do is get an email and number... then take
the next step... and the next... and the rest will
take care of itself.
***COMMENT***
G'day,
You said: "You know, I'm really tired of you women
treating me like some kind of piece of meat. I
have feelings too, and I don't just like being
thought of as a sex object." When she gets over
that, why not follow up with: "I bet you'd kill
for my waist too." It doesn't matter if she's
really slim or not. The formula is magic and it
gets easier the more you use it.
From J in Melbourne
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, that's a great follow up.
Funny, but a friend of mine in Australia came
up with that original Cocky and Funny approach of
"I'm not just a sex object... I have feelings too"
and it's not surprising to me that someone else
from down under would come up with a great add-on
to it.
Nice!
Turning the sexual stereotype roles around,
then having fun with them is a GREAT way to keep
conversations going, and a great way to have fun.
***QUESTION***
OK, I'll keep this short and sweet. I used to
SUCK at getting girls and was terrified of
rejection and talking to strange girls in public.
Bought your book, and changed my whole approach to
women. I was in future shop and this sales-girl
dropped this palm screen-cover that I was going to
buy between two glass display cases. So I
immediately starting busting on her with a serious
face how she did it on purpose, just because it
was the only one they had in the store. Anyhow
when I was leaving, I told her the least she could
do was to give me her number. She laughed and did,
and I called her the next day. She said she had to
go and was busy, so I told her I bought another
screen-cover at her competition store, to keep up
the Cocky & Funny. I called back 2 more times and
each time she was busy. This has happened a few
times when I have called girls after getting their
number. Sometimes I wait a few days after getting
a girl's number, so I don't appear desperate; but
this doesn't seem to have it's desired effect. But
I am obviously doing something wrong because once
I get the number, it usually ends there. When is
it best to call a girl after getting her number,
and what's the secret to success to meet quickly
for your half-hour cup of tea plan after getting a
girl's number?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I have just one word for you:
EMAIL.
Get the email.
You'll get probably twice as many emails
returned the first time as you will phone calls.
And with email, you can follow up if she
doesn't email you back.
#2 can say:
"What, playing hard to get so soon? Talk to
me."
...and it doesn't come off as needy.
If you CALL and say that, it DOES come off as
needy.
Don't ask me why, but it seems that email has
all kinds of great benefits that the phone
doesn't.
Start the dialogue with email, then switch to a
short phone call to set up the first meeting...
then move to meeting in person. Works much better.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey Dave,
Your stuff is amazing. Check out this success
story. I was at a coffee shop with some friends. I
was sitting at a table all by myself right next to
my friends, because there wasn't enough room for
all of us to sit at the same table. I had two
empty chairs at my table. This hottie comes in
with two of her female friends. As she was
ordering her coffee, we make eye contact, and
after four to five seconds I look at my watch. She
does the same thing. I know she was checking me
out. She comes and sits at the table in front of
me. There were only two chairs at her table. She
walks up to me and says:
Can I borrow a chair. I said : Sure. I know.
Wussy. But it gets better. She takes the chair and
sits but her back is facing me. So I tell her:
"Excuse me I was nice enough to let you borrow my
chair and all of a sudden you turn your back on
me. " Oh I 'm sorry, well where do you want me to
sit" She says. So I say " why don't you tell your
two friends to push a little bit and you sit
there, therefore you don't have your back turned
on me and you can see my pretty face. She starts
laughing as she's moving over. So I accused her.
"Are you laughing in my face. My face is not to be
laughed at, it is to be admired." She comes and
sits at my table, where there was the other chair
HER: Sorry but I wasn't laughing in your face ME:
Yes you were. HER: I am sorry then. My name is
Lisa ME: I am glad you told me but it's too late
for first impressions. Look at you, right now you
have your back turned on your friends. This is
very disrespectful. HER: Oh come on stop it. ME:
Stop what, this is reality HER: Well where do you
want me to sit ME: You can come and sit next to
me, my back is facing the window. (she actually
came and sat next to me. She asked me for a light)
HER: Can I borrow your lighter ME: Well it all
depends HER: It depends on what ME: On whether you
want to light up your cigarette, or you want to
light up a fire in this coffee shop. (she starts
laughing, so I kept on going), because if it's the
second one then forget it, I have my fingerprints
on this lighter and I will be accused for your
actions. (she continues to laugh) HER: No I want
to light up my cigarette. ME: Well now that we
have established that fact, what do I get in
return. HER: In return for what ME: Well listen, I
let you borrow my chair and i didn't say anything,
but my lighter is pushing it. So I want to get
something in return. HER: A hug ME: You can do
better than that HER: OK a kiss ME: I tell you
what. you give me a hug for letting you borrow my
chair and a kiss for my lighter. HER: Wo. You're
pushing it ME: Fine no lighter. And I will go and
get my chair back. ( As I get up she stops me)
HER: Ok fine. ( So i got the kiss and the hug,
This routine is amazing) HER: I like your watch
ME: Thanks. This watch has a battery that has 100
years guarantee. I will be dead and the watch will
still be working. ( she starts laughing). ME: You
want to try it on HER: Ya sure ( she wears it) ME:
Naa, it doesn't look good on you. I, on the other
hand, make it look good. (And I grabbed it out of
her wrist)
After some small talk I got her e-mail and phone
number. We have been out a couple of times but I
play everything according to your book. I end all
conversations and phone calls. I have here call me
and say that I am busy. i have established that I
want to be just friends. I still accuse her for
having her back turned on people so therefore she
always sits next to me because I always sit by the
window. Thanks for all the advice. Pure genius.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What a great example of how to interact with a
woman... so you both have fun, and she experiences
a wonderful, challenging experience which only
amplifies her attraction.
Very nice.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
You are indeed the man! I have been running
around in the dark but thanks to your book the
light has finally come on, and I realize that my
wires have been crossed. In the past when I would
meet an attractive woman I would do the old "roll
over and play wuss" and she would just want to be
friends. And the girls that I only wanted to be
friends with I would be all C&F with and they
would be calling all the time, telling me how
funny I am and how I have Charisma (and I do). But
I just couldn't see what I was doing wrong.
Now after reading your book it all makes perfect
sense to me. Now I treat 10's like they are 2's
(still giving up human respect, no one likes a
"true" a##hole!) But just because they won the
"genetic lotto" doesn't mean I or any other man
should feel the need to kiss their ass. Now I just
treat them like they were one of my friends and
let them know that until they show me why I should
"lower my standards"(ha..ha) that's all they will
ever be. And dude... it drives them nuts. And the
few that throw a little "tiff" I just tell them
I'm not their "boyfriend" so they better have
their fit on someone else's time. Thanks again,
D.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nothing else really needs to be said. Preach
it.
Let me ask YOU a question... are you at a point
in your life where it's time to start learning
about how the whole concept of "women and dating"
works better?
Have you been walking around trying to make
sense out of why women are attracted to some men,
but not attracted to others?
Have you seen average-looking guys or guy
friends who seem to be able to attract beautiful
women... even though they didn't have looks, fame,
or money?
Well, if you'd like to get a behind-the-scenes
look into the minds of women, and you'd like to
learn the techniques for attracting women and
creating ATTRACTION that it's taken me literally
YEARS to figure out, then I'd recommend you go and
check out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
program.
Inside I'll give you the codes to the locked
safe of the female mind. You'll learn the REAL
story behind why women are attracted to some men,
and not to others...
You can check out some great free audio and
video cuts from it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
If you'd like to FOCUS on this area called
"Approaching Women", then you might want to check
out my DVD/CD program that is FOCUSED on the
topic.
Inside you'll learn from MASTERS of approaching
women and starting conversations... and you'll get
literally HUNDREDS of different ideas, techniques,
and step-by-step methods for approaching women in
EVERY type of situation.
There is no other program in the world like it,
and you can only get it here:
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And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
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to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it
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I'll talk to you again in a few days.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. You can also watch video clips of every one
of my different programs HERE:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
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