The Biggest Mistake Men Make On A Date: PAYING
HER WAY
NEWSFLASH: The biggest mistakes men make on dates
can seem like pretty small things. Problem is,
they add up fast to KILL ATTRACTION and RUIN YOUR
CHANCES for success.
In fact, most of these "little things" are so
obvious and shockingly simple that you could
change most of them RIGHT NOW to get
life-changing results. Check out the UNBREAKABLE
LAWS and DEADLY MISTAKES men make with women that
blow their chance for success right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/77Laws/
Hey Man,
Tell me something and be brutally honest: are
you one of those guys who still pays a woman's
way on a date? I'm no mind-reader, but I'll bet I
know the answer...
Of course you're paying for women on dates.
And that's why this URGENT TIP is aimed directly
at you: you need to STOP IT. Right NOW.
I know, I know... You think you're impressing
her. Scoring points. But here's the shocking (and
slightly counter-intuitive) fact:
PAYING A WOMAN'S WAY ON A DATE ACTUALLY
*DECREASES* YOUR CHANCE OF SUCCESS WITH HER.
Stay with me, since the reasons for all this
can sound as misleading as they are simple.
For our purposes, I want you to consider
"traditional dinner dates" to be a thing of the
past. History. As far as we're concerned, they're
now officially EXTINCT.
Why?
Because when you ask a woman out and then pay
for the date, you're making her think of you in
THE COMPLETELY WRONG WAY.
Pretty profound, I know. But please, hold the
applause.
Let me explain this a little more...
A lot of good research suggests that women
think men, who are potential mates, fall into one
of two categories. I call these categories
"Lover" and "Provider".
The basic idea goes like this:
In a "traditional" boy-meets-girl situation,
the girl makes a decision early on whether you're
the type of guy that she should get physically
involved with quickly (spelled A-T-T-R-A-C-T-I-O-
N), or if you're of the "nicer" type (spelled
W-U-S-S-Y) that would be glad to "prove" himself
to her by paying for lots of expensive dates,
buying flowers, etc.
I realize that I'm generalizing here, and that
I'm being a bit extreme... but I'm making a point,
so go with me.
A very common approach that men use is the old
"Can I take you out sometime?" line.
At first glance, it sounds innocent enough.
It has the ring of "I'm a nice guy, and I'd
like to take you to dinner so I have a chance to
get to know you better" to it, right?
Well, it may seem that way at first glance,
but let's get a little deeper into what ELSE
you're saying when you ask a question like this
one (or start off by paying for dinner, etc.).
Here are a few of the OTHER LESS OBVIOUS
things that you're saying when you offer to "take
a woman out".
1) You're starting off the relationship RIGHT
FROM THE BEGINNING by offering to buy something
for her, and more importantly YOU'RE SETTING AN
EXPECTATION. In other words, when you do this,
you're setting an expectation that you're going
to do this from NOW ON.
2) You're subtly saying, "I feel like I need to
use a bribe to get you to see me again". I'm sure
that men have been bribing women with food and
gifts since the dawn of our species. Does this
sound far-fetched to you? Check out how our
closest relatives, the chimps use food to
persuade females to have sex with them. No,
really.
3) Once you "take a woman out" and prove to her
beyond the shadow of a doubt that you like to pay
for things, you set a whole series of other
subconscious expectations in place. Without going
into detail, most of these other expectations
will only lead her thinking of you in the "nice
guy" category, and costing you time and money
that you might as well have thrown down a rat
hole.
4) By going out to a typical nice restaurant
setting, you start a whole chain of events that
often leads to two people looking at each other
over a candle, in a loud room full of other
people, with a typically uncomfortable "OK, so
tell me about yourself and don't ask me too many
personal questions please" look on your faces.
I don't know about you, but this just isn't my
idea of a good time.
So, what's the alternative?
Thought you'd never ask.
Success with women is about becoming the type
of man that NATURALLY attracts them. Becoming the
type of man who projects power, confidence, and
masculinity. The kind of cool, charismatic guy
that other men want to emulate and women LOVE to
be seen with.
Of course, there's a lot that goes into
eliminating all the "uncool" baggage and habits
that guys carry around like man-purses, usually
without even realizing it.
The inner "wussy" that sabotages your success
with women can be sneaky. In fact, sometimes it's
hard to see even when it's staring straight back
at you from the mirror.
If you want to learn more about obliterating
your inner wuss, I recommend stepping off right
here and taking a look at this:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan/
In the meantime, what's the fastest path to
becoming the kind of man women not only feel
attracted to, but couldn't resist if they tried?
As I said earlier, a great place to start is
NOT ASKING WOMEN "OUT" at all ANYMORE. I mean,
not EVER AGAIN.
Instead, just say, "Do you have email?" If she
does, hand her a pen and say, "Great, write it
down for me." Then, follow up by inviting her to
join you for a cup of tea and some stimulating
conversation. Here's an example email for you:
"Hi, it was fun talking yesterday... I'm thinking
that we should get together tomorrow for a cup of
tea and some stimulating conversation. You seem
like you might make a nice friend."
Then, if you're REALLY cheap, show up 5
minutes late so she buys her own tea and is
waiting for you. You can even say, "How
inconsiderate of you... where's mine?"
Basically, here's the key:
You have to STOP ACTING LIKE OTHER GUYS.
You have to STOP TRYING TO BUY HER ATTENTION.
First off, that means no more meals on you. No
more gifts.
If you want her to feel a powerful,
subconscious attraction for you, you need to set
yourself apart in "manly" ways that aren't
perceived by a woman as weak, catering or fawning.
You need to create a personal connection the
instant you meet her. You need to show her you
aren't nervous or intimidated or kissing butt.
You have to develop communication skills that
trigger intense biological responses in her that
she couldn't overlook or ignore even if she
wanted to.
The single most important technique for
accomplishing ALL OF THIS is so simple, obvious,
and 100% COST-FREE that I feel like I just want
to scream it from the rooftop. But since I'm
pecking at a laptop, I'll just type it like this:
***LEARN TO MAKE HER LAUGH***
Sounds obvious, but we all know that in the
heat of battle, it's the hardest thing to do
without coming off sounding incredibly lame.
When the opportunity presents itself, will you
step up with an exquisitely timed wise-crack that
makes her sit up and take notice?
Will you know how to tease her so she thinks
"No man's ever talked to me like that before, and
I think I like it!" instead of thinking "What an
*******!"
Master this and you've mastered what I call
"Cocky Comedy," AKA the "Universal Tool for
Attracting Women." For way too many reasons to go
into here, I can tell you it's by far the most
POWERFUL TOOL you can use to set yourself apart
from other guys.
If you want to learn more about it (and I
highly recommend that you do) take a look at this:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy/
As you can probably tell, I've spent a lot of
years figuring out how to become the kind of guy
that women want to be around.
I've spent a lot of time watching guys who are
what you might call "Naturals" with women.
I've spent a lot of time trying out just about
every imaginable idea and strategy with women...
And guess what?
Most of them SUCKED.
Most of them didn't work.
Most of them felt strange and manipulative.
Most of them were just plain not good.
After trying all this stuff and feeling around
in the dark for quite a long time, I started to
realize that my problem wasn't the TECHNIQUES I
was using, it was the way I was approaching
things.
You see, I hadn't really taken the time to
understand women and the psychology of dating and
attraction.
I was just trying to learn tricks, hoping that
they would magically fix everything for me.
Well, they didn't.
What DID fix things, and ended up leading me
to fantastic success with women, was all that
stuff I talked about above:
* ESTABLISHING A PERSONAL CONNECTION
* NEVER BEING INTIMIDATED
* DEVELOPING POWERFUL COMMUNICATION SKILLS
In other words, mastering what I call
"Advanced Dating Techniques," the powerful
methods and tools.
You need to make success with women a part of
who you are, every day, all the time.
In my "Advanced Dating Techniques" program, I
spend several HOURS teaching you a very special
perspective and understanding... so that you will
have the only pair of 3-D glasses... while
everyone else has no idea what's going on.
I highly recommend that you get yourself a
copy of my "Advanced Dating Techniques" CD/DVD
program. It is literally JAM PACKED with hundreds
of concepts and step-by-step techniques for
meeting women, dating women, and taking things to
a "physical level" smoothly... and with a minimum
amount of rejection and failure.
Go here to get the details and to check out a
few great free samples:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
Now back to those expensive, embarrassing
attempts men make to attract women by paying for
stuff.
Bottom line: it's true, buy a woman enough
dinners and material things, and she may begin to
feel some AFFECTION for you. But meals and
presents will never lead to ATTRACTION.
Big difference.
You need to understand that NOT buying a woman
dinner, NOT showering her with gifts, they're
just small pieces of the puzzle. And they're
definitely not the first pieces. First of all...
YOU NEED TO GET A WOMAN INTERESTED IN YOU TO
BEGIN WITH!
But don't worry, that's what I'm here for. And
I can't wait to tell you more about how YOU CAN
DO IT.
Talk to you soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. There are many different elements of success
with women and dating. I've created a series of
different programs to help you learn ALL of
them... right from the comfort of your home. You
can get all the details, and see some great video
clips of my different programs... right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
--------------------------------------------------
Copyright 2010 David DeAngelo Marketing Inc. David
DeAngelo and Double Your Dating are trademarks. By
reading and accepting this newsletter you agree to
all of the following: You understand that this is
simply a set of opinions (and not advice). This is
to be used for entertainment, and not considered
as "professional advice". You are responsible for
any use of the information in this email, and hold
David DeAngelo Marketing Inc. and all members and
affiliates harmless in any claim or event. If you
are under 18 years old, please click the
link at the end, and remove yourself, or to take
yourself off of our list, you can send mail to
"DDMI" 3960 Howard Hughes Pkwy, 5th Floor Las
Vegas, NV 89109.
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HER WAY
NEWSFLASH: The biggest mistakes men make on dates
can seem like pretty small things. Problem is,
they add up fast to KILL ATTRACTION and RUIN YOUR
CHANCES for success.
In fact, most of these "little things" are so
obvious and shockingly simple that you could
change most of them RIGHT NOW to get
life-changing results. Check out the UNBREAKABLE
LAWS and DEADLY MISTAKES men make with women that
blow their chance for success right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/77Laws/
Hey Man,
Tell me something and be brutally honest: are
you one of those guys who still pays a woman's
way on a date? I'm no mind-reader, but I'll bet I
know the answer...
Of course you're paying for women on dates.
And that's why this URGENT TIP is aimed directly
at you: you need to STOP IT. Right NOW.
I know, I know... You think you're impressing
her. Scoring points. But here's the shocking (and
slightly counter-intuitive) fact:
PAYING A WOMAN'S WAY ON A DATE ACTUALLY
*DECREASES* YOUR CHANCE OF SUCCESS WITH HER.
Stay with me, since the reasons for all this
can sound as misleading as they are simple.
For our purposes, I want you to consider
"traditional dinner dates" to be a thing of the
past. History. As far as we're concerned, they're
now officially EXTINCT.
Why?
Because when you ask a woman out and then pay
for the date, you're making her think of you in
THE COMPLETELY WRONG WAY.
Pretty profound, I know. But please, hold the
applause.
Let me explain this a little more...
A lot of good research suggests that women
think men, who are potential mates, fall into one
of two categories. I call these categories
"Lover" and "Provider".
The basic idea goes like this:
In a "traditional" boy-meets-girl situation,
the girl makes a decision early on whether you're
the type of guy that she should get physically
involved with quickly (spelled A-T-T-R-A-C-T-I-O-
N), or if you're of the "nicer" type (spelled
W-U-S-S-Y) that would be glad to "prove" himself
to her by paying for lots of expensive dates,
buying flowers, etc.
I realize that I'm generalizing here, and that
I'm being a bit extreme... but I'm making a point,
so go with me.
A very common approach that men use is the old
"Can I take you out sometime?" line.
At first glance, it sounds innocent enough.
It has the ring of "I'm a nice guy, and I'd
like to take you to dinner so I have a chance to
get to know you better" to it, right?
Well, it may seem that way at first glance,
but let's get a little deeper into what ELSE
you're saying when you ask a question like this
one (or start off by paying for dinner, etc.).
Here are a few of the OTHER LESS OBVIOUS
things that you're saying when you offer to "take
a woman out".
1) You're starting off the relationship RIGHT
FROM THE BEGINNING by offering to buy something
for her, and more importantly YOU'RE SETTING AN
EXPECTATION. In other words, when you do this,
you're setting an expectation that you're going
to do this from NOW ON.
2) You're subtly saying, "I feel like I need to
use a bribe to get you to see me again". I'm sure
that men have been bribing women with food and
gifts since the dawn of our species. Does this
sound far-fetched to you? Check out how our
closest relatives, the chimps use food to
persuade females to have sex with them. No,
really.
3) Once you "take a woman out" and prove to her
beyond the shadow of a doubt that you like to pay
for things, you set a whole series of other
subconscious expectations in place. Without going
into detail, most of these other expectations
will only lead her thinking of you in the "nice
guy" category, and costing you time and money
that you might as well have thrown down a rat
hole.
4) By going out to a typical nice restaurant
setting, you start a whole chain of events that
often leads to two people looking at each other
over a candle, in a loud room full of other
people, with a typically uncomfortable "OK, so
tell me about yourself and don't ask me too many
personal questions please" look on your faces.
I don't know about you, but this just isn't my
idea of a good time.
So, what's the alternative?
Thought you'd never ask.
Success with women is about becoming the type
of man that NATURALLY attracts them. Becoming the
type of man who projects power, confidence, and
masculinity. The kind of cool, charismatic guy
that other men want to emulate and women LOVE to
be seen with.
Of course, there's a lot that goes into
eliminating all the "uncool" baggage and habits
that guys carry around like man-purses, usually
without even realizing it.
The inner "wussy" that sabotages your success
with women can be sneaky. In fact, sometimes it's
hard to see even when it's staring straight back
at you from the mirror.
If you want to learn more about obliterating
your inner wuss, I recommend stepping off right
here and taking a look at this:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan/
In the meantime, what's the fastest path to
becoming the kind of man women not only feel
attracted to, but couldn't resist if they tried?
As I said earlier, a great place to start is
NOT ASKING WOMEN "OUT" at all ANYMORE. I mean,
not EVER AGAIN.
Instead, just say, "Do you have email?" If she
does, hand her a pen and say, "Great, write it
down for me." Then, follow up by inviting her to
join you for a cup of tea and some stimulating
conversation. Here's an example email for you:
"Hi, it was fun talking yesterday... I'm thinking
that we should get together tomorrow for a cup of
tea and some stimulating conversation. You seem
like you might make a nice friend."
Then, if you're REALLY cheap, show up 5
minutes late so she buys her own tea and is
waiting for you. You can even say, "How
inconsiderate of you... where's mine?"
Basically, here's the key:
You have to STOP ACTING LIKE OTHER GUYS.
You have to STOP TRYING TO BUY HER ATTENTION.
First off, that means no more meals on you. No
more gifts.
If you want her to feel a powerful,
subconscious attraction for you, you need to set
yourself apart in "manly" ways that aren't
perceived by a woman as weak, catering or fawning.
You need to create a personal connection the
instant you meet her. You need to show her you
aren't nervous or intimidated or kissing butt.
You have to develop communication skills that
trigger intense biological responses in her that
she couldn't overlook or ignore even if she
wanted to.
The single most important technique for
accomplishing ALL OF THIS is so simple, obvious,
and 100% COST-FREE that I feel like I just want
to scream it from the rooftop. But since I'm
pecking at a laptop, I'll just type it like this:
***LEARN TO MAKE HER LAUGH***
Sounds obvious, but we all know that in the
heat of battle, it's the hardest thing to do
without coming off sounding incredibly lame.
When the opportunity presents itself, will you
step up with an exquisitely timed wise-crack that
makes her sit up and take notice?
Will you know how to tease her so she thinks
"No man's ever talked to me like that before, and
I think I like it!" instead of thinking "What an
*******!"
Master this and you've mastered what I call
"Cocky Comedy," AKA the "Universal Tool for
Attracting Women." For way too many reasons to go
into here, I can tell you it's by far the most
POWERFUL TOOL you can use to set yourself apart
from other guys.
If you want to learn more about it (and I
highly recommend that you do) take a look at this:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy/
As you can probably tell, I've spent a lot of
years figuring out how to become the kind of guy
that women want to be around.
I've spent a lot of time watching guys who are
what you might call "Naturals" with women.
I've spent a lot of time trying out just about
every imaginable idea and strategy with women...
And guess what?
Most of them SUCKED.
Most of them didn't work.
Most of them felt strange and manipulative.
Most of them were just plain not good.
After trying all this stuff and feeling around
in the dark for quite a long time, I started to
realize that my problem wasn't the TECHNIQUES I
was using, it was the way I was approaching
things.
You see, I hadn't really taken the time to
understand women and the psychology of dating and
attraction.
I was just trying to learn tricks, hoping that
they would magically fix everything for me.
Well, they didn't.
What DID fix things, and ended up leading me
to fantastic success with women, was all that
stuff I talked about above:
* ESTABLISHING A PERSONAL CONNECTION
* NEVER BEING INTIMIDATED
* DEVELOPING POWERFUL COMMUNICATION SKILLS
In other words, mastering what I call
"Advanced Dating Techniques," the powerful
methods and tools.
You need to make success with women a part of
who you are, every day, all the time.
In my "Advanced Dating Techniques" program, I
spend several HOURS teaching you a very special
perspective and understanding... so that you will
have the only pair of 3-D glasses... while
everyone else has no idea what's going on.
I highly recommend that you get yourself a
copy of my "Advanced Dating Techniques" CD/DVD
program. It is literally JAM PACKED with hundreds
of concepts and step-by-step techniques for
meeting women, dating women, and taking things to
a "physical level" smoothly... and with a minimum
amount of rejection and failure.
Go here to get the details and to check out a
few great free samples:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
Now back to those expensive, embarrassing
attempts men make to attract women by paying for
stuff.
Bottom line: it's true, buy a woman enough
dinners and material things, and she may begin to
feel some AFFECTION for you. But meals and
presents will never lead to ATTRACTION.
Big difference.
You need to understand that NOT buying a woman
dinner, NOT showering her with gifts, they're
just small pieces of the puzzle. And they're
definitely not the first pieces. First of all...
YOU NEED TO GET A WOMAN INTERESTED IN YOU TO
BEGIN WITH!
But don't worry, that's what I'm here for. And
I can't wait to tell you more about how YOU CAN
DO IT.
Talk to you soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. There are many different elements of success
with women and dating. I've created a series of
different programs to help you learn ALL of
them... right from the comfort of your home. You
can get all the details, and see some great video
clips of my different programs... right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
--------------------------------------------------
Copyright 2010 David DeAngelo Marketing Inc. David
DeAngelo and Double Your Dating are trademarks. By
reading and accepting this newsletter you agree to
all of the following: You understand that this is
simply a set of opinions (and not advice). This is
to be used for entertainment, and not considered
as "professional advice". You are responsible for
any use of the information in this email, and hold
David DeAngelo Marketing Inc. and all members and
affiliates harmless in any claim or event. If you
are under 18 years old, please click the
link at the end, and remove yourself, or to take
yourself off of our list, you can send mail to
"DDMI" 3960 Howard Hughes Pkwy, 5th Floor Las
Vegas, NV 89109.
__________________________________________________
To ensure that you get my Dating Tips Newsletters each week,
add me to your address book. Instructions are here:
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If you have a question about these newsletters or anything else
related to Double Your Dating, chances are it has already
been answered on my Frequently Asked Questions page. This is usually
the quickest way to get the answers you need, so always check my FAQ's
before sending us an email.
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