How To "Practice" Approaching Women
NOTE: If you'd like to become a master of
approaching women in every possible situation,
then go check THIS out... and make sure you watch
the free video clips:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/ApproachingWomen
***SUCCESS STORY***
You have changed my life forever, after watching
the first 2 DVD's of your advanced set 3-4 times
each my entire, ENTIRE perspective on women has
changed. I'm looking back on the past and SEEing
where I've FAILED horribly and more importantly,
WHY!! AND I see why others succeed where I've
failed. Since I've long given up on religion your
DVD set has become my new bible for life/women.
I've met three beautiful women this week SIMPLY by
be confident, indifferent, and teasing. People I
would have NEVER thought I would EVER even have a
chance with now look like opportunities to me.
Everything you say makes GOOD sense to me and I m
really starting to GET IT after watching the DVD s
over and over.
I swear to god you're a genius, everything you say
in the DVD's comes together like an elegant puzzle
once you watch them about 3-4 times each.
My favorite one I've used so far.
"Hey hun, that's an interesting dress you have on"
"Oh yeah, why is that?" (woman obviously trying to
mature and sexy) "Because if you put your hair up
into two pigtails you'd complete the "innocent
little schoolgirl" look" (I walk off into the bar,
but not before I get a sock in the arm, which
opens up more comments about feeling a breeze
nearby.)
MY GOD I LOVE YOU, If you weren't a man I'd...well
we wont get into that.
It's fun now, not stressful work!
-B Washington
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, meeting three beautiful women in one week
is better than a sharp stick in the eye...
And yes, there is a lot of information in my
Advanced Series.
I can appreciate what you mean when you say
that it all starts to come together after you
watch them a few times.
I had one guy, who came to my last L.A. Live
Seminar, that had listened to the CD version 13
times!
The more you practice what you learn, then
listen/watch again, then practice, then
listen/watch again, the more sense it will all
make.
Unlike a lot of "self help" programs that are
just the same stuff re-hashed over and over again,
I've put a lot of time, effort, energy, research,
and planning into that program to make SURE that
it was JAM PACKED with good information.
My goal is to have the absolute best materials
available for learning how to be successful with
women and dating, period.
It's obvious that you're really starting to
"get it", so keep reviewing and practicing.
And thanks for the email.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
Okay...what the heck are you the bomb or what? I
have been getting your emails for about two and a
half months now and it was amusing at first
because it couldn't have come at a better time
(right after a break up). I have to say that the
first few weeks had me and I went and finally got
the book last week. Read it and tried some of the
techniques and man I have to tell you that this
must be some cosmic sh*t because it actually
freakin WORKS IN THE REAL WORLD. Not only online,
not only in bars, but everywhere there is a female
there can be success!!!
Anyway on to my story, me and a couple of buddies
of mine hang out at a local Wing House during the
week and have done so before I got the book and
your mail bags. Usually we would mess with the
girls that work there with mild success (never any
numbers or anything) and if you are familiar with
Hooters girls think... hotter. So after reading
your mail bags and getting your book, I started
messing and busting on this particular new girl by
doing things that before reading your emails I
thought would surely piss people off, she would do
things like empty the ashtrays and I would put
dirty napkins in them, she would be all slow at
getting me refills and I would bust on her for not
doing her job as good as other girls there, I
would catch her looking at me occasionally and I
would point at my glass like, "Hellooo...". I was
being a total annoyance the whole time! At the end
of the night I left her a nice tip and we ran into
each other at the beach about three days later.
She told me that when she met me she thought I was
a smartass but that "it's attractive". I thought
to myself "HOLY CRAP she just admitted to me this
stuff works!! The Cocky Funny thing is the
shiznit!!!" Of course I continued to bust on her
even then saying that she was lucky I was in a
good mood and that she has a cute smile because if
it wasn't for that, I would have not even
remembered her. So I asked her what she was doing
and she said, she was going to Sea World and that
I should go with her, she would treat....again,
WHOAH!!! I declined and said that I had some other
plans but I was wanting some wings she said for me
to come by on her next shift where she would get
off at 9 pm. She wanted me to come by at 9 so that
we can have some drinks after her shift!!! Man I
can't say enough how easy this stuff was to
implement!!! And it works like a charm. When me
and my group of friends left the beach she ran up
to me (looking all fine in her bikini) and gave me
a big hug and a kiss on the lips...you have to
understand, this chick is a 9 easy!!!! Man I had a
damn "Colgate" smile all the way home that day and
still do to this day.
You is the man, and you have no idea how nice it
is to have this sort of confidence now, well wait,
I guess you do huh? LOL.
Much Gratitude Bro!
A. from Orlando.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, you suck... and your friends hate you.
Well, so be it.
I'll tell you something, I know EXACTLY what
you're talking about when you say that this girl
told you that you were a smartass, but that "it's
attractive".
The things that make women feel ATTRACTION are
not exactly "logical" at first glance.
In fact, some of the things that can cause a
woman to feel a powerful SEXUAL ATTRACTION for a
man are things that most guys wouldn't
"accidentally try" in a million years.
I can clearly remember one night I was out with
a good friend who was trying to show me a few
things about how to meet women...
We were talking to two cute girls... and he was
"taking the lead".
I couldn't understand WHAT he was doing.
He was acting arrogant, making fun of them,
being difficult, and doing all kinds of things
that I would NEVER do.
Of course, he wound up inviting the two girls
back to his house... and they came along with us
(and as I recall, they actually drove us home).
Again, this made ZERO sense to me.
He wasn't being "nice" at all.
In fact, he was being rather arrogant and
fussy.
But, as I was to learn later, there was
SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON... and the WOMEN
UNDERSTOOD IT.
There is something very powerful about
demonstrating that you're not needy, acting "too
comfortable" around women, and even teasing them.
It says all the right things, and it triggers
something that you can't trigger with "being
nice".
One of my favorite jokes to use with waitresses
is to wait until they make a mistake, forget
something, or even just say, "I'm sorry, we're out
of that tonight".
I shoot right back, "Could we get a new
waitress please? I'm afraid you're just not going
to work out tonight."
Of course, I have a very serious face when I
say this.
It's obvious that I'm exaggerating, so it makes
her laugh.
It's arrogant, crass, and kind of rude.
But, it's also damn funny, and it says ALL the
right things.
Thanks for your email.
And remember... you suck, and your friends hate
you now.
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Dear David
First I would like to say that your writings
are the most interestingly, funny, theories I have
ever read. As being a female reader,...something
has piqued my curiosity to the fullest extent.
Firstly, I have noted that all whom seek advice
and comments from you, address you by your first
name, a very informal approach to addressing
another with any type of degree in the field of
psychology. Another comment of yours, that
actually piqued my curiosity is that you assist
others "to develop that or their innate or natural
part of themselves that is already there." My
question is if a part of another is "innate" that
means that it is a natural inborn part of them, so
why would anyone need help with being whom they
are?? Secondly, ...being a layman, ... I dont
understand how one could give others advice, ...on
how to do anything, unless one has walked in their
shoes so to speak. I would also like to know if
you are certified in the field of Psychology or
are you a motivational speaker, ...being either,
you
would have to have complete knowledge of the
subject, and therefore, ...if you are a Dr. in the
psychology field, ...Wouldn't you want to be
acknowledged as such?
M.C. New York
>>>MY COMMENTS:
LOL... now this is good comedy.
OK, let's start by making fun of your first
comment...
Look, even if I had 10 Ph.D. degrees, I would
still insist that everyone call me by my first
name.
Hellllooooooo...
Would you prefer it if I insisted that you
refer to me as "Mr. David D. Sir"?
Hey, that doesn't sound half bad.
OK, on to making fun of more of your
comments...
Let's just reprint what you wrote, word-for-
word:
"Another comment of yours, that actually piqued my
curiosity is that you assist others "to develop
that or their innate or natural part of themselves
that is already there." My question is if a part
of another is "innate" that means that it is a
natural inborn part of them, so why would anyone
need help with being whom they are??"
Come on, smarty...
You don't know the difference between
"developing an innate or natural part of yourself"
and "being who you are"?
Look, if you go to the gym and work out, you
will develop a part of yourself (muscles,
respiratory system, etc.)
Now, you can also do this while doing an
impersonation of Bozo The Clown, which
technically, would be developing a part of
yourself while NOT "being who you are".
I love confusing explanations like the one I
just made up.
OK, let's try another...
Dr. Stephen Pinker of MIT has written a book
called "The Language Instinct".
Now, this is a pretty smart dude. Pick up one
of his books and read a few pages if you'd like to
understand just how sharp he is.
He believes that humans come "pre-wired" with a
an "innate" mechanism for SPEECH.
In other words, we have the wiring from birth.
Now, if you grew up in the woods with no other
humans around you, and I showed up one day and
tried to have a conversation with you in English,
would you be able to talk to me?
Duh, no.
In other words, just because you come "pre-
wired" with the ability and instinct to learn and
speak a language doesn't mean that every person
will do it equally well (or even at all).
Same goes for men and their success with women.
I now believe that "we guys" come PRE-WIRED
with the "INNATE" or "NATURAL PART" of us that
knows how to be successful with women.
But, guess what?
Most of us grew up in the equivalent of the
WOODS when it comes to LEARNING and DEVELOPING
this part of ourselves.
For those of us who never learned how to use
the natural talents that we were born with, we
need to LEARN.
Once we LEARN how to use what we have and we
LEARN how to use our body language and
communication to attract women, THEN we can "be
ourselves" all we want. Until then, no amount of
"being yourself" is going to work.
I'd go on to make fun of you in a more detailed
manner, but time's a wastin', and I've got others
lined up to take verbal abuse from me...
Oh, and I HAVE walked a mile in the shoes of
"no clue about women". More like a mile a day for
about 27 years of my life, to be exact.
***QUESTION***
Hi David!
I've bought your book only a few months ago so I'm
just a beginner. I can't give you success stories
yet. I met a bisexual women on a dating site. She
lives nearby (about 5 minute walk!). I started a
conversation and at first she seemed interested!
My strategy was to meet as soon as possible
because of the short distance. I asked her if she
liked to have an ice-cream in the park. She said
no. I gave it a rest for a few weeks, and then
started writing messages again. I think I became
too personal at some point and she responded: "I
don't know what you mean, I'm totally
uninterested, leave me alone, thank you.". After
that I still had a small conversation and she
wrote back a few times. She was not angry, and as
a reason she said she had contacted some other
guys and she wanted to do fun things with them
(but I think it was something else). My question
is. Could she just be saying "give me some time"?
My idea is, that if she says something like that,
I should leave her alone completely. But would it
hurt to send a message, maybe a month or so later?
How would you get attraction going on after this?
R. from Europe
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, well I have a hard time believing that
you've read my book... because you obviously need
to read it AGAIN.
If I were you, I'd re-read it every few days
until something changes in the way you look at
these situations.
Ice cream in the park?
Huh?
Is that in "Chapter 17: How To Be A Dork"?
Maybe I forgot about that part of the book.
Look, you need to pay closer attention to what
I'm saying, and quit trying to improvise with the
bisexual babes on the internet.
If a woman doesn't respond to you initially,
move on.
Get over it.
Especially on internet dating sites.
There are MILLIONS of women on these sites, so
just get on to the next one.
Try a few of the ideas that I mention in my
book in your responses. Place an ad of your own,
or several. Notice what works, and keep doing it.
And let me do a little translating for you.
When a woman says:
"I don't know what you mean, I'm totally
uninterested, leave me alone, thank you."
...what she REALLY means is:
"I don't know what you mean, I'm totally
uninterested, leave me alone, thank you."
Thank you.
Oh, if you're going to keep doing a lot of
online dating, then check this out as well:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/MeetingWomenOnline
***QUESTION***
What else can I say but you are the sh#@. I read
your book and it changed my life. I went from
almost never talking to women at all, (and when I
did I would just say wussy remarks) to being the
local mack daddy complete with pimp cane and
feathered hat. I went to visit my cousin in OH
recently and we went on a double date. Apparently
he had been working on a girl for some time and
she just brought a friend for me. The whole night
I was busting on both of the girls. It got to the
point where the girl my cousin was with started
flirting and touching me a lot along with the girl
I was with. You just have to look at the situation
and find something to make fun of. Its just like
when you're a kid and you dont really care about
what other people think, you just say whats on
your mind. Well, anyways we went out to a movie
the next day and I just kept laying the cocky and
funny on her. She started touching me in the movie
and stuff and long story short it ended up with me
having sex with her. And this was a girl I had
only met a few days ago. The hardest part for me
was overcoming the care of what other people think
and situations that would probably not happen (her
getting offended, etc.) I am a huge fan of your
book and newsletters. It seem like whenever I have
a question about something you do a newsletter on
it. I'm really considering buying your Advanced
series stuff. Heres my question. Does your DVD
program have anything extra on it that the CD
program doesn't have beside being video of course?
Thanks for everything.
C.P. St. Louis, MO
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, well Pimp Canes and Feather Hats are
optional.
They are not absolutely necessary.
Good job with the materials, you obviously GET
IT.
And it's true... one of the main things that we
guys need to overcome is this whole idea of caring
what other people think. It doesn't MATTER what
other people think.
The only thing that matters is what HAPPENS as
a result of what you do.
To answer your question about my Advanced
Series...
It's the same material on both the CD and DVD
versions.
Both are great, and I guarantee that when you
watch or listen to this program, it will BLOW YOUR
MIND. There is so much in that program that will
help you improve... it's amazing.
Great job, and thanks for the email.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hi, I just wanted to let you know that I wish
more guys would listen to your advice. I am a
very attractive young lady and have guys hitting
on me all the time. There is nothing intriguing
about the person who immediately lets you know how
happy or surprised they are that you even talked
to them. If they put the girl up too high on a
pedestal, it just makes the guy completely
expendable because obviously the girl can "do
better" (at least in the guy's mind). Please
keep giving advice and guys, please listen... It
works. M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Exactly. I like the way you explained this...
"There is nothing intriguing about the person who
immediately lets you know how happy or surprised
they are that you even talked to them."
Nice.
You know, I should start a "David D. Fan club",
and only let women join.
Of course, it would be very expensive...
***QUESTION***
I have said this and I will say it again! Man,
your stuff is excellent! By far the best I have
ever read, or heard! I can tell why this was your
calling! Today, I attained 3 emails/phone numbers
from 3 very attractive girls in ONE DAY! That's
definitely a record for me! Once I listened to
your lesson about creating my own reality, I feel
like I can just walk up to ANY GIRL I WANT, and
KNOW that I will do a good job
socializing/flirting with them, whether they are
responsive to it or not doesn't mean ANYTHING to
me, because it's THEIR problem, not MINE.
This one particular case, I was with this girl
that I've been talking to for a while, and we went
down to a church hangout because I had left my
bookbag in there from the night before we went
down there. Well, she offers to drive me down
there and I take the offer (btw - I bust on her
about her car that she adores sooo much all the
way down there and she loves it). Anyway, by the
time I get down there with her, I find my bookbag,
and we stay down there and talk with some friends
for a bit. Well, it turns out that about 2 other
guys are hitting on her and flirting with her, so
I just sat in the couch and started talking to
another girl. Anyhoo, I notice that these guys are
flirting a little bit differently from the way I
do it. I almost never compliment a girl when I'm
flirting with her, but these guys did. I'm
wondering, does the compliment hurt or help?
Various dating coaches everywhere tell me
different answers, but I know yours will be the
right one. So is it good to compliment girls, or
is it bad?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Three emails and numbers in one day... that's
not too shabby, my friend.
I can remember not-too-long-ago in my life
thinking that something like this would be
IMPOSSIBLE.
But, as you obviously know, it's not.
To answer your question about compliments...
If you have ZERO GAME, then showering a woman
with compliments will work better than NOTHING.
But, think about it...
If you walk up to a woman and start giving her
compliments left and right, what is she going to
be thinking?
Right.
She's going to think to herself, "Yeah, this
guy is obviously into me big time. I own him."
There's no mystery, no challenge, nothing
interesting at all.
It's what EVERY guy does. And it's usually
perceived as BORING and PREDICTABLE.
Now, there are ways to give women compliments
that don't give all your power away... but giving
a woman a compliment is usually a SELFISH thing to
do. It's using words to try to GET something from
a woman.
Ironically, even though many of my ideas and
concepts appear to be a little on the "cruel"
side, they are actually all about giving women
what they REALLY want.
Look, if you're getting three numbers in a day,
then you're on the right track.
Your girl may have been smiling politely as the
Wussbags were kissing up to her, but who got the
three numbers that day?
***QUESTION***
Dave...
I've always been really shy and introverted. And,
obviously, it has not exactly worked to my
advantage with dating. I've done all sorts of
things to get rid of this shyness - I took a job
as a waiter, a salesperson, taken public speaking
classes, read books etc.. and nothing has worked
nearly as well as your e-Book and e-mails!! Thanks
a ton - you've given me superior confidence and I
owe it all to you.
Now, onto the question...
In addition to being a bit shy, I have also always
been a pretty witty, sarcastic guy which really
helped when developing a more CF attitude.
Whenever I'm talking to girls, I ALWAYS get socked
in the arm or get that "Oh no you didn't"
look. However, I can't approach girls for the life
of me. But, once I'm "in there", I just have these
girls on a string, like a marionette. What do you
say?
Ciao!
DF Bloomington, IN
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I can really appreciate where you're
coming from on this one.
Let me mention quickly that I've really put a
lot of time and effort into making my materials
"shy guy friendly" and I've focused on teaching
things that any guy can use...even if you're
"naturally" very shy.
I've been there.
I can remember times in the past where I've sat
looking at a girl for HOURS... without being able
to work up enough nerve to walk over and start a
conversation... and then I'd go home and think
about it for DAYS. I'm with you.
I'm going to give you an idea for how to
overcome your shyness and approach women,
and then I'm going to give you a recommendation.
Here's the idea first:
GET ONLINE AND START THERE.
Go download one of the free instant messengers
that are available online, and spend an evening
starting conversations at random with women
online.
I did this quite a bit myself, and it helped me
TREMENDOUSLY.
Try different things.
Say, "Hi".
Say, "You sound like you're probably pretty
old".
Say, "You spelled a word wrong in your
profile".
Say, "You're exactly what I've been looking
for. Let's drive to Vegas and get married. Are you
game?"
In other words, just play around and see what
kinds of responses you get.
Of course, don't say anything overly bizarre or
vulgar... the internet cops might take away your
internet connection or something spooky.
But, just learn how to deal with that initial
jolt of emotion that you get when you're starting
a conversation with a woman that you don't know.
Keep it up until:
1) You can sit down anytime and start a
conversation with a woman on the internet without
hesitating.
2) You're getting positive responses. (I'm not
talking about women saying, "Hey hot stuff, come
over now!" I'm talking about women just responding
by talking to you.)
This will help you to understand that your fear
of approaching and starting conversations with
women is UNFOUNDED.
In other words, you'll SEE WITH YOUR OWN TWO
EYES that nothing bad is going to happen to you if
a woman doesn't want to talk to you.
You'll also see that some women are busy, some
are not nice people, and some are friendly and
open.
Said differently, you'll realize that it's not
about YOU when a woman doesn't respond to you
warmly... and it won't HURT you either.
Next, get out into the real world and start
making small talk with women... WITH NO INTENTION
OF TAKING THINGS ANY FURTHER THAN THAT
CONVERSATION.
When you start a conversation thinking "I want
to get that girl's number", it puts HUGE PRESSURE
on you... ESPECIALLY if you're not comfortable
doing things like approaching women.
So chill.
Go to the mall, and walk into EVERY store.
When a sales girl says, "Can I help you with
something?" respond by saying, "I don't think
you're qualified to give me the kind of help that
I need, but thanks for the offer".
If you wind up buying something in one of the
stores, ask the girl for a 50% discount.
When she asks why, tell her that it should be
obvious... it's because she thinks you're special.
After you've had fun, walk away. Leave.
Don't worry about getting numbers or dates.
Just work on starting conversations in "easy"
situations (where the women are PAID to talk and
be nice to you).
Do this three or four times over the course of
a few weeks, and you'll start to change how you
THINK about these types of situations. You'll SEE
how women will respond, and it will change how you
FEEL.
Finally, remember that it's not NECESSARY to
learn how to approach women that you don't know...
if you don't want to.
There are PLENTY of situations that allow you
to meet women without ever having to "approach"
them.
Go check out some dance classes. Try swing or
salsa. Imagine being able to:
1) Learn how to dance (which women think is hot)
AND...
2) Have one conversation after another as you
change partners...
Now, there are all kinds of places like this
where you can skip the "approaching women" step
and just move right into the Cocky & Funny or
getting numbers.
Put your mind to it, and do a little thinking.
Look around. Opportunities like this are
everywhere.
Finally, I said that I'd recommend something to
you...
That something is my Advanced Dating Techniques
CD/DVD Series. Why do I recommend this to you?
Because I really feel that the "natural
hesitation" that most men experience around women
is rooted in not UNDERSTANDING the situation very
well.
Once you really understand how and why women
feel that emotion called ATTRACTION for some men,
and not for others... and you understand all the
little things that trigger it... you'll start to
FEEL DIFFERENTLY.
The understanding will give you a "different
perspective" and it will not only change the way
you SEE situations with women, but it will also
change how you FEEL in those situations.
I guarantee that you won't find anything else
even close to this program... and I also guarantee
that it will help you to overcome this particular
problem like no other program can.
Go check it out and watch the fantastic new
preview video clips here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries
...and if you're reading this right now and you
haven't taken the time to download your copy of my
online ebook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to do that now. It's the foundation of everything
I teach in these newsletters, and it will help
make sense of all the different things discussed
here...
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Do yourself a HUGE favor and take a look
through all of the different programs I've put
together to teach you how to meet women and get
more dates. You can see them all here, plus check
out killer VIDEO clips of each:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
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