Can 'Regular' Guys Attract 'Hot' Women?

Can 'Regular' Guys Attract 'Hot' Women?

***QUESTION***

Hey David,

I want to thank you for all your advice in your newsletters
and in your ebook. This stuff really works! I just
got a new job at a clothing store and all the girls
that work there are all over me. Not to mention the
ones that shop at the store! I have a question that
I have been thinking about ever since I ran across
your material. I know in your ebook you say to always
make the decisions (like where to go, what to do on
a date, etc.) and to be in control of the situation
(don't let her insult or treat you poorly). What is
it about this that attracts women? Is this some kind
of test to see if you are in control of your life,
or is it like a subconscious trigger in a woman's mind,
or what? I would appreciate any feedback on this issue.
Thanks again for all the help you have already given
me.

C.P.
St. Louis, MO

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Here's the deal about always making decisions and
staying in control...

Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.

So how could you characterize a Wuss?

A Wussy is a guy who is weak, indecisive, and insecure.

A Wussy isn't in control, and he doesn't make decisions.

Women feel ATTRACTION for men who demonstrate the
qualities of the LEADER.

How could you characterize a LEADER?

A LEADER is a man who is in control of the situation,
and who makes decisions and follows through on them
WITHOUT needing approval from others.

You've asked a great question, but it's a complex
one.

In my CD/DVD Program "Advanced Dating Techniques"
I talk at length about the qualities and beliefs of
men who are NATURALLY attracted to women, and how
to communicate all of these with body language, voice
tone, and words.

If this topic is fascinating to you, then I recommend
that you check out my CD program. It will blow your
mind.

***QUESTION***

Jedi Master,

Your material has unbelievable results. After reading
your book and newsletters, I am finding myself in
a dilemma of needing to let some of the women down
in order to make room for others.

The problem is they keep wanting to fill my schedule
and I haven't learned or need to learn how to let
these women know that like yesterdays newspaper, I
have read and prefer to read current events as opposed
to rereading the same newspaper over and over. I guess
I am being a wussy in this regard cause I just do not
know how to say See Ya?

How does the master say this without being mean. I
want to let them go without hurting their self esteem,
they have done nothing wrong, they are beautiful,
I just want to move on and enjoy, the riches you have
endowed upon me, without hurting them, and without
being a wussy in the process.

G N
Portland OR

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'd say that the problem you're experiencing is probably
being caused BEFORE it actually happens.

How do women know if a man is interested in them for
a "long term" relationship... or if he's just interested
in dating casually?

The trigger for this is HOW OFTEN YOU SEE THEM, and
how often you CALL them.

Of course, there's more... like whether or not you
buy gifts, talk about how you feel, ask her to be
your girlfriend, etc.

But if you want to just see a woman casually and not
have her become "hooked" on you, then don't call her
more than a couple of times a week, and don't see
her more than once a week... maybe twice sometimes.

This should solve your problem.

***QUESTION***

I'm a 25 years old guy that never understood women.
Now I realize the WUSS I have been for such a long
time. Anyway, I was lucky because I got a girlfriend
casually, and I experienced with her, but some years
ago we broke up and I have been so LOST with the women
task and suddenly YOU, sensei David, appeared in the
middle of my nightmare, and things started getting
sense (I bought your ebook, of course)

THE JEALOUS STUFF

The thing is that I have a bisexual friend (girl)
that I like, but I've never told her anything about
my feelings. Some days ago she and some of her friends
came to visit me and we went out. We were in a nightclub,
and next to us there was a group of girls, I made eye
contact with one of them. And then I thought about
something that I wouldn't have figured out in my WUSS-
PAST-WOLD: Let's get that girl, and see the reaction
of my bisexual friend. After some C&F stuff, I was
french kissing the girl of the eye contact in front
of the face of my friend. And guess what was the reaction ????
Now I can't get rid of her. It's like I've been a
kind of ghost, until that night

Thanks, David. Keep on giving us some perspective.

AS
FROM SPAIN

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey, I never said that women made any damn sense!

Jealousy is a powerful emotion.

Some think that it's the MOST powerful emotion.

It might be interesting for you to know that many
of the guys I know who like to date a lot of different
women don't hide the fact that they date a lot of
girls.

Many female animal species choose males by finding
the ones with the most other females who are attracted
to him.

Women are often the same.

Women can be very competitive, and if a woman knows
that you don't have any trouble meeting other women,
it will often inspire her to feel even more attraction
for you.

But be careful. I don't think that it's a good idea
to try to deliberately make a woman jealous. It doesn't
feel good, and if you meet the wrong women you just
might wind up with a rabbit boiling on your stove
when you come home one night.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

I won't even begin to tell you how awsome your book
is and how it breaks everything down for ex-wusses
like myself because that would take up too much time,
but I've got a situation for you. A few weeks ago,
I met this girl in my class. She was definitely a
8-9. Anyways, I got her number and asked her if we
could study sometime. We eventually set up a date
to get a paper done. She didn't show up! I was like....
okay, I'm not even gonna get mad. So a few days later,
I saw her walking with this dude.. I was like... "ok,
she has a bf, thats why", but here's the funny part;
I've been working on my body language and eye contact
lately and it's been doing wonders. When I see her,
I just speak and keep walking. I haven't held a conversation
with her in like 2 weeks and yesterday she left a
message on my phone that said..."Hey, this is ----
from your english class, I was just calling to tell
you that I think that you are a VERY attractive man,
and I think you are really fine. But I have a boyfriend.
I know you tried to study with me in the past, but
you know how things can be when you have a boyfriend...
so i guess ill talk to you later" Whats up with this?
I didn't talk to the girl in two weeks and she leaves
this message? Was it a movement I made? Could you
anyalize this for me please?

B in FLA

P.S.- I never knew body language could be so powerful!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This kind of thing always makes me laugh.

I can remember when I used to call women too often,
and if they didn't show up, I'd get upset and try
to set up another date with them, etc.

Of course, they'd usually play hard to get, and wind
up thinking that I was a Wussy because I just accepted
their flaky behavior.

Well, after I stopped calling women back who flaked,
and basically stopped CHASING women, I had the strangest
thing happen...

I had women call me... but sometimes it was literally
WEEKS later. Just like your situation.

You probably just have a girl who was in a fight with
her boyfriend the day she set the study date with you...
but fixed things up with him before she was supposed
to see you again... and then maybe got into another
one with him so she decided to call you and see if you
were available.

Don't worry about it. Just move on. She'll probably
start flirting with you again when she's single.

***QUESTION***

Dave --

Hey, your advice works wonders! It is amazing
how much it works. I tried it on this girl I hardly
knew, and we hit it off real well. In fact, we hooked
up, and that was pretty cool.

I need advice, though. The girl and I started
to really hit it off, and we became closer everyday.
Then, we started talking, and it seemed as though
we were over, and I was devastated. She's really cool
and REALLY hot. We kept talking, and she ends up telling
me that she needs to know herself before she knows
me, so she asks for time, and that I be her friend
in that time. My question: how do I keep her falling
head over heels for me while I give her the time,
and that she doesn't become another friend.

Again, thanks for the great advice.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, let me do a little translation for you...

If a woman says "I need time to get to know myself"
or "I need to find myself" or any variation of this
common theme, it usually means:

"YOU WERE ACTING LIKE A WUSS, BEING CLINGY, AND GENERALLY
NOT A CHALLENGE ANYMORE. I WANT YOU TO LEAVE, BUT I
DON'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, SO I'M GOING TO
TELL YOU THAT I NEED TIME TO "FIND MYSELF" TO GET
YOU TO LEAVE ME ALONE WITHOUT A HASSLE."

I'm harsh, aren't I?

Well, here's the deal. In general, if you become too
predictable, too involved, too needy, too wuss-ish,
and too "head over heels" too early in the relationship,
it will drive a woman away.

Think about it this way: The REALLY attractive women
have guys chasing them FAR more than the average/below
average women. You need to do something DIFFERENT,
while at the same time being ATTRACTIVE.

Probably the best thing you can do when you finally
meet a really great girl is call her HALF as much
as you normally would, and give her twice the space.
Think about it.

***COMMENT***

I just got back from eating with a woman I started
dating 3 weeks ago. Somehow we got on the topic of
what she likes in a man and what is the quickest time
she has ever jumped in the sack with one. She stated
that she met a guy one night and slept with him the
next. She said that she did it only once in her life
and then gave me the reason why she did that time.
She stated that all the guys she dated before him would
always say something on the wild side, that she was
really interested in doing, but would back down and
say, "oh, I was just kidding" when she looks at them
to see if they were serious. She said that this guy
she slept with the next night and I are the only two
men that have ever said something cocky and funny and
not flinched when she looked on in disbelief. In fact,
I would look at her and repeat things I said whenever
she looked at me with that "I can't believe you just
said that to me," stare. She tells me it is such a
turn-on.

I had only begun to do this after subscribing to your
websight newsletter about a month or two ago... I
would just like to thank you for the advice and tell
the other guys to stick by what they say, no matter
how off the wall it may sound.

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is JEDI LEVEL wisdom, read it again.

***QUESTION***

Dear David,

Great stuff. I was that nice guy... after reading
your book and your e mails I have been able to change
into the cocky and funny guy. The other day one of
the 3 women I am dating called giving me a little
grief. I said you know maybe we should not see each
other any more and she was like but I have been thinking
about you all weekend PLEASE come over now and F#%
me, after a little delay I agreed it was great. I
do have a ? The one I really like who is totally
hot never makes the first move and while she is very
receptive when I do it, would be great to get her
to seduce me, any suggestions?...

c.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

For some reason, I LOVE your question... how fun is
it to have a woman pursuing YOU? OK, here's a tip
from my personal experience...

Next time you're with her, and you've started getting
physical... just when you know that she's really enjoying
what's going on (and it can be at any stage, kissing,
etc.) just stop. Then whisper in her ear "You want
more, don't you?... you're going to have to say PLEASE."

Then just keep working up to the same level and saying
the same thing until she finally does. Once you've
done this, it's easy to transfer the same idea to
other things, like getting her to make the first move.

Note: This is all done with a very playful, teasing
tone. It's not a psychological control strategy...
Keep things on the nice nice, don't be a controlling
loser. Done right this can be a big turn on for all
involved.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

I did exactly what you had said for the personals...
I actually cut and paste your letter, made one or
two changes and I actually got a response...

Now, you talk about getting that phone number? How?

What should I say in the e-mail not to come off like
a looser, but to come off confident, cocky, and funny?

Thanks!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Can I just tell you how much I love it when guys actually
go out and USE the materials? This is great stuff...

OK, step two is to get her live on the phone, and
to do it soon. You don't want this to take too long
or she's likely to get 100 more emails and forget
about you.

Try a cocky funny response like this:

"Wow, you're a real person. Great. I guess we have
a couple of options here. We could start an email
relationship, fall madly in love, and maybe even get
a priest to marry us in a live chat ceremony...

Then again, maybe we could get together for a cup
of tea and some stimulating conversation and make
friends. And then after I can validate that you're
actually the cute gal in this picture I saw of you,
we can talk about the online marriage thing.

Give me a call tonight. My number is [insert number
here]. I'm a pretty busy person, and I can't guarantee
that I'll be home, but give a try. And please call
before 11 PM because that's when my mom makes me go
to sleep.

By the way, where can I reach you if I want to call
you ten times a day?

Talk soon."

I'm a funny guy.

But all kidding aside, this is a KILLER model for
a follow up letter to a personal ad response. It says
so many things in the right way that you're very likely
to get another response, probably a call, and probably
her number.

***COMMENT***

David,

A few weeks back you used what I think is one of the
most important words in dating (next to cocky and
funny of course) that word is "NEXT."

We always want the one that we can't get. Forget
that! I say NEXT. If you have this idea of "Next"
in your brain, you will come across as a man who is
not needy and you will be more attractive to women.
Why waste time with woman who are not interested?
Its a lot more fun to find a nice looking lady who
wants to be with you then it is to chase someone who
isn't interested.

The book was great. Keep up the great work!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is another psychological step that is very important.
I get so many emails from guys who have met a great
girl, but they screwed it up because they made her
"too important" mentally. In other words, when things
started to get difficult, instead of taking the attitude
of "NEXT" (which creates all kinds of attraction),
they CLING and act NEEDY and generally do EXACTLY
THE THINGS THAT CAUSE THE WOMAN TO HIT THE ROAD FOR
GOOD.

Much better to have the mental attitude of "I'm going
to enjoy this woman's company for as long as it stays
a good thing. The moment that she becomes a strain
or a pain I'm out of here. I don't need problems or
drama in my life, and my happiness is more important
than this woman."

The first response to this is usually "But this woman
is SPECIAL. She's not like other women. She's the
one."

Blah blah blah...

If she's the ONE, then all the more reason to take
this attitude. "THE ONE" ISN'T LOOKING FOR A WUSS.

The "NEXT" attitude will do a lot of good things for
your success with women. Use it.

***QUESTION***

David,

I got your mailbag, and bought your book right away
a few months ago and it has truely changed my life.
Thank you. I realized that in all of my relationships
I have been a total wuss and that is why I was not
having sucess. I am actually a pretty funny guy (amatuer
stand up comedian) but I am not cocky at all. As soon
as I added a bit of cocky to my usual sacarstic humor,
the success followed.

My problem is this. I met a woman who is an extremely
skilled player. We went out as "freinds" and then it
escalated nicely (kiss test worked like a charm) and
then it got really screwed up when I had to leave the
country for a month on business and things got a bit
muddled. When I returned we went out right away and
I missd her so much I fell back in to my wussie ways
and I think I ruined it, in only one 6 hour date!

Since then I have been trying to turn the tables.
I mean I try to end the conversations first all the
time but she just seems to beat me to it each time,
like she is psychic or something. I try to tell her
I am busy and I'll have to call her back but unless
I do it at an awkwardly early point in the conversation
she always seems beat me to it. In my opinion if I
continue to play "hard to get" and don't call her
(which seems to be working lately) she will get the
wrong message. I want to send the "I like you but
you haven't got me wrapped around your finger" message,
not the "I'm not thinking about you at all while everything
around me in society screams 'couple' and 'romance'
" message.

What would you do in this unusal time?

Thanks again for all your help and advice.

To anyone who has not dowloaded the book, you deserve
the miserable lonely nights I know you are going through,
put a crowbar in your wallet and get the full information!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I like the crowbar idea.

As for your situation. You've learned an important
lesson the hard way.

When I think about women and attraction, I imagine
it like an on/off switch. If it ever gets turned off,
it's VERY hard to turn it back on. ESPECIALLY if you're
dealing with a woman like the one you're talking about
who is very experienced and knows the game well.

The best thing you can do is start dating other women,
not call her for a month or so, then drop her a line
and say "Hey, let's get together for a cup of tea.
You were a nice friend..." Then tell her about what's
going on in your life (the other women, I mean).

YOU'VE LOST CONTROL, AND YOU NEED TO TAKE IT BACK.

'Nuff said.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I am a 23 year old single father i having a tough
time getting a date because i have a kid. Most of
the girls i ask out, I tell them I have a kid and
they dont want to be any more than just friends. Any
suggestions?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I have one for you...

STOP THINKING OF YOUR KID AS A LIMITATION. I'm going
to suggest that you don't have a tough time getting
a date BECAUSE you have a kid... it's because you
THINK IT'S A PROBLEM.

Just don't bring it up early on. Don't answer any
questions about your status as a father. Make a decision
to share that info only with women who are EXCEPTIONAL.

If a woman is REALLY attracted to you, she'll overlook
almost ANYTHING. I mean, hey... look at Motley Crue
and Guns 'N Roses...

***QUESTION***

Hi David!!

I just wanted to tell you that what you say in your
emails is true and it works. I'm from a small central
american country and your advice works on women here
too!!! Now to my question, I met this gorgeous girl,
she is incredible and hot as hell. But I have competition,
some guy who doesn't know a thing about women (he should
subscribe to your newsletter, dont you think), but she
seems a little interested in him and interested in me
too. What would you suggest to "neutralize" him?

Thanks,

A.

P.S.: I used the cocky and funny technique and it
worked!!!! thanks for sharing you wisdom

>>>MY COMMENTS:

If you focus on the competition it will only distract
you and cause you problems.

Forget other guys and what they're doing. Just focus
on what you're doing and your own success.

It's very natural to let competition upset you...
and jealousy is a very real emotion. But remember,
it isn't going to help you in most cases. Just do
your best, keep using the techniques, and stick to
your methods. Chances are that any other guys involved
will screw it up at some point, and you will be the
one left with the prize.

Note: In situations like this one, us guys often start
to put too much value on getting the girl BECAUSE
there are other guys involved. We think to ourselves
"Well, this other guy likes her, so she must be something
REALLY special. Even more than I thought." This leads
to making all kinds of mistakes, being a wuss, acting
clingy, etc. Don't fall into this trap.

***QUESTION***

I need some help and i think that you have the best
advice so here is the problem, I like this girl at
my college and she works at the college bookstore.
A while back i was buying books and she was asking
me questions and being super friendly, then the following
semester she said hi to me on campus but like a dip
sh** I didnt respond. Now i really want to hook it
up but have this feeling that she is not interested
anymore. Everytime I see her we make eye contact but
I can't tell if she wants me to go in for the kill.
Please help me so i can go right up to her and talk
to her, I'm having trouble starting out the conversation.

Thanks.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

No killing please. Why don't you just go in for the
email instead? Much less messy. Just get her email
and then take it one step at a time. This is the best
way to find out if it can go somewhere...

***GREAT STORY***

David-

I was enjoying a bagel this morning in the outdoor
chairs at a little donut shop I go to on Saturdays.
I doubt if the guy I'm going to tell you about has
ever read your book...but he's a walking advertisement
for it.

The only other person out there with me was an elderly
woman, who was about 8 years older than God. A guy
pulls up in this old caddie with a USMC license plate
on the front bumper. He's about a few minutes younger
than her.

This old guy goes in, orders a bag of donuts, and
comes back out. He walks right up to her table and
says:

"Hi ya, toots. You're a classy lookin' dame. Are you
friendly?"

She says, "How dare you call me some dame. My given
name is Julia"

This guy never misses a beat. He says, "Got your feathers
ruffled, did I? Well, you know the first airplane
I ever rode in during the war started witha J, too.
She was a hardbody, with a shapely tailpiece. I still
remeber what it felt like to run my hand over her
headlights."

The old girl, says, "That's atrocious. You better
have a seat sailor. It sounds like you been away from
shore for too long."

It was all I could do to keep from busting up laughing.
I didn't know whether to throw a blanket over them
or go give this codger a high five. He had it down,
buddy, just like you've been telling us. This guy
could be me 35 years from now if I follow what you
teach.

Keep getting the word out, Dave. We'll still be using
it when we're on Viagra.

C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love this story. Use the things I'm teaching you
and hopefully you'll find success before you're 100
years old and cruising the old folks home for babes...

But, as you can see, the Cocky and Funny technique
works even if you ARE cruising the old folks home...

***QUESTION***

Well, what can I say, David, you're a dating God!
Your book is nothing less than a masterpiece. Now
that i've got a good handle on some of your techniques,
I've had no problem meeting women. I've recently started
dating a woman whom is a pleasant distraction. My
fear is she is falling way to hard for me. My problem
is, my friend of two years who I've been smitten with
since the beginning is now single. There is another
guy friend of hers who has recently made his feelings
known for her. I'm pretty sure there has always been
chemical tension underneath our friendship. She has
told me things like you have the sexiest voice ever,
I listen to your cd every night cause I love falling
asleep to the sound of your voice, when you're lost
in thought you have the sexiest eyes. We went for
coffee last night and she touched me 3-5 times on
the hand.

The problem comes in that before your book I was
the nice sensitive guy always bearing my feelings,
catering to a woman's needs, and very humble. Now
i've got a great routine down for getting dates but
she doesn't know me as that type of person. So i don't
know how to approach trying to instigate a relationship
with her. Any suggestions??

A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I have any suggestions...

KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS!!! DON'T TURN BACK INTO A WUSS
NOW THAT YOU HAVE THE CHANCE TO GET THE GIRL YOU
REALLY LIKE!!!

Wow, I don't use that many exclamation marks very
often.

And for the girl who is smitten with you... let her
down easy. This is a great opportunity to borrow a
technique from our book of female dating tactics.
It's called:

"You're really nice, but I think that we should be
friends."

All's fair in love and war... just don't be a bastard.

***QUESTION***

First off...you are the smartest man alive. I have
really enjoyed reading your litterature and it has
helped me build a confidence I've never had before.
Here's the question.... I recently visited an "exotic
dance club" and met an "exotic dancer". I used the
cocky funny attitude and had a nice chat before my
lap dance. Within minutes afterward... I got her e-mail
addy. The problem is...The setting in which we met
and the circumstances involved. How can I start a relationship
with her without her seeing me as a customer... or
a pervert that liked what he saw and just wants more?
I know it can be done I just need a little insight
from the master. Help me out Mr. Miagi.

Sincerely,

Daniel-son

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Start a RELATIONSHIP?

With an EXOTIC DANCER?

After talking to her for a few minutes?

OK, let's do a quick reality check before you do something
that you'll regret for a long time...

About 80-90% of the time, exotic dancers are the LAST
type of woman for a "relationship".

If you're interested in taking things to the next
level, you need to be cocky and funny, bust her balls
a lot, make sure you keep being a challenge, etc.
Of all the people in the world, these women are probably
pursued by the most men.

If, after going out with her for AT LEAST several
months you can prove beyond the shadow of a doubt
that:

1) She's not addicted to drugs or alcohol
2) She doesn't smoke like a fire and have dirty-carpet
breath
3) She wasn't sexually molested by more than a dozen
times
4) She isn't manic-depressive, bi-polar, or borderline
5) You can deal with the idea that she's not quitting
for you

Then maybe you might consider a "relationship." I
mean, hey... most exotic dancers are bi-sexual. And
I've heard that some of them even know other cute girls
(but I'm not certain on this one). In any case, don't
forget the protection. Big time.

Oh, and if you change your mind, try finding a woman
who comes from a good family... who has fantastic
relationships with her mother and father... and who
is emotionally mature.

It might surprise you, but I think you'd enjoy a long-term
relationship more with this kind of women.

Just my two cents...

***QUESTION***

Your like a god to me! I've been going out about
five times as much as I used to (which wasn't much)
and women see me in a new way. Now for the important
part. I stepped up my cocky/funnyness to the max
and this one girl is crazy about me. She delayed
one date, never stopped appologizing. I teased her
for it all night. She keeps acting so needy and I
can't get enough of it (I don't tell her) but that
brings up a question. If she is acting needy to me
and I can't get enough of it, why did women dump me
when I used to act needy? Please put something about
this in your newsletter.

Bye.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What's with all the God comments this week? Let's
stick with David from now on... I'm not ready for
all of the responsibility.

As for your situation...

The reason why it's fun for you having her act needy
is YOU'VE HAD IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND ALL YOUR LIFE!

It's a nice change.

But trust me, after a short while it gets old. If
she keeps it up, you'll see. Eventually a mechanism
will kick in and you'll lose your liking for it...
just like women do at a very young age. But enjoy
it while it's fresh and fun.

***SUCCESS STORY***

For 18 months I tried to score with this woman I
wanted but because she saw me as needy she kept the
"goodies" away from me. Now one night I stopped trying.
I focused on having a good time. I was determined
to be polite to her but ignore her and make no moves.
I danced with other women, I drank, I had fun. The
more independant, confident and fun-loving I became
the more attractive I became. Things changed. She
wasn't used to being ignored. She felt left out.
She then put out and seduced me by the end of the
night. I wasn't even trying and I wasn't even nervous!!!

A few months later I bought your book Dave and realised
that for 18 months I'd been doing it wrong. Little
did I know but that fateful night was the way to do
it right. I've been doing it right since then. Thanks
Dave.

Regards.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Congratulations, good job, and keep it up.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

On behalf of all women, I think your e-mail sucked
today. :)

I am so tired of dating cheap men. There is nothing
wrong with a man who is able to provide doing so.
Let's face it, men make more money than women.

I'm not a gold digger. Not at all. I'm 34 years
old. I own my own townhouse which I am struggling
to get by with the mortgage and expenses having been
laid off by IBM after almost 7 years.

I do like the e-mail first idea, in fact that is always
what I initiate when I'm out. I'd much rather do
that to get to know someone before the dinner out
but the LAST thing I want to do is have someone show
up late and let me know right up front that he's not
willing to buy me a cup of tea.

I just spent almost five months with someone who was
making three times my income and we went Dutch on
everything. Am I wrong to *want* someone to flip
the bill for me? I don't think so.

Warm regards...

>>>MY COMMENTS:

No, there's nothing "wrong" with you "wanting" someone
to take care of the bill. But there's also nothing
wrong with a man not paying... or even better, avoiding
typical expensive dating situations all together.

I personally think that starting off a relationship
by paying for things creates an imbalance that isn't
very healthy.

As an interesting aside: You spent FIVE MONTHS paying
your own way. He obviously had something else going
for him if you spent that long with him... hmmmmm.

I wish I could give him a high five!

Oh, and the little smiley in your email clearly communicates
that you like and want me. Be a little more subtle
next time, OK? Don't let the world know everything
that's going on between us! It's not classy.

***SUCCESS STORY***

I found your site a couple of months ago and subscribed
to your newsletters and I downloaded the book . I'm
18 years old and I'm in my first year of college, so
you can imagine the hot , young women that are there .

Anyways, I've always been the "wuss , loser , nothing
more than a friend" type of guy (man it hurts to admit
it) but since i started reading your e-mails i've gotten
so much better. Some of my girlfriends don't see me
as a friend anymore (I can't imagine what your book
will do ). So not long ago I'm sitting where everyone
goes to eat and they're playing "The Fast And The Furious "
on the tv's when I look down and this really beautiful
woman keeps looking at me . So by the second time our
eyes meet, I smile , at that same moment I'm thinking,
"Wait !!! , remember the e-mails, you always do this
and you always end up as a friend". The problem was
that she had 2 more of her friends on the table with
her, but she wouldn't expect me to get up and go to
her, so I got up from my chair and went up to her, she
had that "what is he doing" look, then I sat down on
the table and said, "Hi , I know I'm pretty and that
your attracted to me, but could you maybe hide your
impulses". Of course this was said in a funny way, with
a cocky look. Her friends started laughing and said,
"she was that obvious , huh?" She was shocked at the
beginning but she relaxed and started laughing. Almost
immediately after that her friends said they were hungry
and left, so I asked for her name and thought to myself,
"Forget the e-mail , just ask her number ". She gave
me her celular number , but I haven't called her yet.
Anyway thanks for your great advices and I'll keep you
posted on the outcome.

P.S. For all you wusses out there , you can change
you don't always have to be this way . Buy the damn
book !!!!!!"

L.

>>>MY COMMENTS: I couldn't agree more.

***QUESTION***

Hey man, I have to admit, I have been getting your
newsletter for about 2 weeks now and I have dramatically
improved the number of women i have been meeting and
getting numbers from! Thanks so much for the help
and tips. Usually when it comes down to the first
date everything goes fine and I lay down the c&f
attitude which gets me good places with her. But
i have a problem. This last weekend i had a date
with this woman i just met and we were in the hot
tub and me friend and his date were with us. Well
the problem was that my mind was totally blank for
some odd reason and i couldn't come up with anything
interesting to talk about if my life was on the line.
So obviously I really didnt get anywhere with her
but she said that she would like to see me again.
So my question to you is what are some topics of
interest that i could talk with her about that wouldnt
put me in the wussy boy category and would also get
me in good with her, when i cant think of anything?
Please help!

Thanks a lot!
B.F TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you think about it, there are a few main
topics that women PAY TONS OF MONEY to enjoy.

Think daytime dramas, Cosmo magazine, and romance
novels.

For whatever reason, women just love relationships,
drama, and humor.

So talk about famous people, their relationships,
and their drama.

If you're at a loss, and you want to start a funny
conversation, just say "What's with..." and finish
up with any current gossip topic taken from any famous
person's life.

"What's with Brad and Jen breaking up?"

"What's with Michael Jackson's peach lipstick?"

Of course, these kinds of topics lend themselves to
all KINDS of opportunities to be Cocky & Funny. So
do it.

Great job getting more dates... keep up the good work.

***QUESTION***

Yo! this is some serious stuff that you are teaching
here man. How did you learn all this man?!

I'm currently at university and as you can imagine
there is a rich diversity of hotties. I used to be
the major wuss bag before a friend acquainted me with
your newsletters. The major change in my approach
is that I definitely have more confidence and the
score card is no longer embarrassing. But I still
am to get this C&F idea. You see the problem is that
I can't seem to get the mixture quite right. I am
cocky but at times I seem not to have a funny bone
in my body. Thus I end up looking like some arrogant
you know what (But they still respond better than
when I was a wuss! Amazing!). Other times I am quite
funny but not at all cocky (which really is not a
problem but doesn't have the desired effect).So I'm
asking you how do I get the mixture right?

JMTK,
Harare, Zimbabwe

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The mixture is important... and the way to get it
right is to START with an arrogant comment, then make
it funny.

"That girl is fat, and her dress looks horrible" is
a mean, arrogant statement.

But if you say "Someone lied to her! It looks like
somebody let her loose in the twinkie section, then
told her she was going to be on the Anna Nicole bad
fashion TV show..."it's a whole different story.

By the way, you mentioned that even if you're just
plain ARROGANT that women will be more attracted to
you than if you're a WUSSY.

Women are universally NOT attracted to wussies.

Just keep practicing, and get a couple of books about
how to write comedy. Take some time to think through
some common situations and what you're going to say
in the future... it's worth it to practice this, as
it's such an important part of ATTRACTION.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

You always have success stories with guys that say
"Im a good looking guy". What about us guys that
are average or slightly below average, balding, or
thick?? Does this stuff work for us as well? Or
is this just help guys that already get dates get
MORE dates?? Are us average or below average guys
out of luck?? I get an occasional hot girl but they
are few and far between.

M

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'd say that 1 in 100 of the emails that I get are
from guys who say "I'm a good looking guy".

And most of the guys who I know that are really successful
with women aren't unusually "good looking".

Some of my friends who are unbelievably good at attracting
BEAUTIFUL women are not at all "good looking".

And if you think about your own life, I'll bet that
you'll realize that the guys you know yourself who
are best at getting dates with attractive women aren't
the guys you know who are the richest, tallest, or
most handsome.

In other words, YES... this stuff works for "regular"
guys!

...and, in fact, if you're reading this newsletter
right now and you'd like to really take your success
with women to the next level, then I have a few words
for you.

It wasn't that long ago that I personally didn't have
the ability to even TALK to a woman I didn't know...
never mind getting a date.

I spent a few YEARS trying just about everything I
could find to help me.

I read books, listened to tapes, went to seminars...
I tried it all. But nothing really worked consistently
for me.

The real breakthroughs came when I started spending
time with a lot of guys who were NATURALLY successful
with women. When I say "naturally" I don't mean that
women walked over and threw themselves at these guys...
I mean that they had each figured out how to attract
a lot of beautiful women ON THEIR OWN.

What I found was incredible...

Even though most of these different guys had NEVER
EVEN MET one another, they had a LOT in common. They
did a lot of the same things... they said a lot of
the same things... and they behaved in a lot of the
same ways.

So I took what I learned, I tested it all out, and
I refined it and created a whole system for how a
regular guy can increase his success with women and
dating.

That's it in a nutshell.

I personally went from not knowing how to even talk
to a woman I didn't know to being able to get dates
with even the most beautiful women... and I practice
what I preach.

The things that I teach in my eBook and Advanced
Series are things that I use PERSONALLY in situations
with women.

It's not a bunch of made-up garbage and old recycled
books from 25 years ago.

And if you have any doubts or hesitations at all about
investing in my materials, remember that you can order
both of these from me and actually TRY THEM OUT with
zero risk.

You can get them, use them, see if they work for you
(they will), and THEN decide if you want to keep them.
I would never offer this kind of personal guarantee
unless I knew that you would get results.

Go check out some great free samples for my Advanced
Series here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries

And and go download my online eBook here:

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I've spent a lot of time working on the theories, concepts,
and techniques included in these products...and I can
tell you that there's nothing else available that will
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them.

Go check them out!

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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