Keys To Creating "Chemistry" On First Dates
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***QUESTION FROM A READER***
Dave,
In one of the newsletters I received a couple
weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn
'what topics fascinate women.' I found this
newsletter specifically interesting because I've
found myself in this same situation were when im
on a date things get quiet and I cant find
anything to say. I know you have already
recommended a good book on comedy, "comedy writing
secrets," but what is a good book explaining how
to tell stories? And, what are some topics that
fascinate women? Any help would be greatly
appreciated.
M.G. Gainesville, FL.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great question.
There are really two very different (and
important) aspects to the "conversations with
women" topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.
"THE HOW..."
Most guys want to know "what to talk about"
with women.
It only makes sense that you should talk about
things that women are interested in... right?
Well... partially.
It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about
whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHT
WAY.
In other words, if you don't understand HOW to
carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION,
then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about...
because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL
anything towards you.
The HOW of conversation includes (but, is not
limited to):
- Your body language
- Eye contact
- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
- Flirting
- Sending mixed messages
- Directing the conversation
- Dealing with common questions and topics
...and many other things.
My point is that if you're running into a lot
of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and
other usual challenges, then you probably need to
get the HOW handled before the WHAT.
"THE WHAT..."
With that said, there are several topics that
are GREAT to discuss with women.
But instead of just giving them to you, I want
you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.
What topics do women PAY to hear about?
Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap
operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel...
etc.
If you think about it, the answer to this
question is rather obvious.
For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
- Drama
- Conflict
- Romance
- Famous people and their lives
So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a
conversation with a woman about these topics.
Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.
Talk about how someone famous is doing
something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures
just LOVE to do crazy things... cheat on their
spouses... and then say "I didn't do it".
These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart
with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic
mind.
2. Find an interesting looking group of people and
guess what's going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a
table that looks like they're on their first date.
Then, start making fun of how the guy is
acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or
whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking
that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no
matter how many compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what's going on with a close group of
others is big fun, and women love it.
NOTE: One of the best ways to do this is to
discuss the BODY LANGUAGE of the people around
you... and comment on what it means. If you are
interested in learning more about Body Language,
and how to use it to attract women, make sure you
take a minute and look at THIS right now:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/BodyLanguage
3. Make fun of someone famous.
Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or
how Ben Affleck can only date women named
Jennifer.
All you have to do is read a few gossip
magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make
fun of.
It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to
talk like you're all that.
4. Talk about other people's love lives.
Talk about the problems that others are going
through when it comes to love and romance, then
volunteer completely ridiculous theories about
what's going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his
girlfriend because she gained weight, then after
you've told the story, make up a random theory
about how women who gain weight are actually
lesbians.
But, make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.
...I think you "feel me".
The point here is that women are NATURALLY
fascinated and drawn to certain topics... so USE
THEM.
The REAL benefit of talking to women about
topics that really interest them is that you can
USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE LEARNING while
you're talking!
You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the
conversation goes on... as long as you know what
else to do as you talk.
Oh, by the way...
Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking,
death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars
and your secret love: wrestling.
NEVER talk about topics that might really freak
a woman out, or topics that make you look like the
biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.
You'll create BAD VIBES that will make any
attraction that you've created INSTANTLY
disappear.
Others to really avoid include talking
negatively about yourself, talking about how
desperate you are or how long it's been since
you've been on a date, asking if she likes you or
if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG
topic that makes you look insecure and needy.
Remember, the key to success with women is
creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between
you and her.
If you don't know how to do this, then NOTHING
you do is going to help you very much.
If you DO know how and why women feel
ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or
talk about can amplify it.
If you want to get a powerful education about
how to make women feel that magical emotion of
ATTRACTION for you, then I'd recommend that you
check out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
program.
It contains over 12 hours of digitally recorded
and edited material, plus a 100 page workbook that
contains all of my best ideas and techniques for
approaching, dating, and getting physical with
women.
The five guest interviews alone are worth the
price of the entire program. You're actually going
to see and learn from the guys who taught ME how
to be more successful with women and dating.
Go watch the video preview clips here:
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And if you'd like to get the basics of how
ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use
for meeting and dating women, then go download my
eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. If you're really interested in learning how to
create "chemistry" with women, you should take
a few minutes and look at all of the different
programs I've created to help you attract women.
You can see all of them, get the details, plus watch
some great free VIDEO preview clips of all of them
right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
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