Why You Should NOT Compliment A Woman

Why You Should NOT Compliment A Woman

NOTE: If you're really interested in learning how
to meet and attract women, then you should take a
few minutes and look at THIS right now:

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   This time I'm going to include an email that I
got from a WOMAN. Now, I get a lot of email from
female readers, and I include a lot of it in my
"Mailbags"... but this particular email just stuck
out, and I think that we can all learn something
important from it.

   Keep reading, because this gets interesting...

COMPLIMENTS OR NO COMPLIMENTS?

   To compliment or not to compliment... that is
the question.

   Women tell us they want us to compliment them.

   Your mom told you to be nice to girls, right?

   And we guys like to really "turn up" the
compliments when we LIKE a woman...

   But here's the question:

   Do compliments create ATTRACTION when you first
meet a woman?

   Most of the time the answer is NO.

   I have a word for guys who like to give women
lots of compliments when they first meet her.

   That word is WUSSY.

   Recently, I got an email from a woman about
this very topic that I thought would be the
perfect way to introduce this and explain WHY
compliments are not the way to build attraction...

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

I agree that your "funny/cocky" routine works very
well and women are attracted to it. Yet, I have to
disagree with you on one aspect, women LOVE to be
complimented. They live for it. Why else, but to
get men's attention and be complimented, do they
spend hours getting ready, and buy all that sexy
clothing? Sure, their faces light up when you make
them laugh or they really have fun. But, how many
times have you seen that special girl smile at you
and kiss you like there's no tomorrow when you
tell her she's the most incredible thing in the
world and that she's so beautiful you just can't
stop loving her? Probably never, because you think
that's a "wuss" thing to do. But, you don't know
how wrong you are.

J.

-IL

>>>MY COMMENTS

   I love that women are out there reading and
thinking about my material (especially the Cocky &
Funny comment). Good stuff.

   I'm going to break down the things you're
talking about into a few specific topics, then
address them individually.

   Here are the three that I'd like to address:

1) The idea that women LOVE to be complimented.

2) The idea that women spend all of their time and
energy getting ready and fixing themselves up
because they want compliments.

3) The difference between complimenting a
"special" girl and complimenting just ANY girl.

   Here are a few things to keep in mind as you
read my commentary on this letter and these
different topics:

A) We humans (and I'm talking about women in
particular here) don't always REALIZE what we
REALLY want.

B) We humans don't like to admit what's REALLY
going on inside of us, because it can be
irrational and illogical.

C) It's very important to realize that there is a
CRITICAL difference between a girl you've just met
or have dated a few times and a SPECIAL girl in
your life.

   So, let's talk about the topics individually...

THE IDEA THAT WOMEN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED

   Do women love to be complimented?

   I think so.

   In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE
women FEED off of attention and compliments. The
more attention and compliments they get, the
better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego
boost.

   BUT... and it's a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo's,
this doesn't mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED
to you if you give her compliments.

   Attractive women get compliments in various
forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to
getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT.

   As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an
attractive woman and say, "Wow, you're really
beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are
you a model or an actress?" etc., the most LIKELY
response you're going to get is her giving you the
cold shoulder.

   Why?

   Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and
you showed her that you're JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER
guy out there that will worship her for her
physical beauty.

   As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid
being mentally slotted into the "average" and
"like all the other guys" category at ALL COST.

   I have started conversations by giving a woman
a compliment, but I NEVER let it become part of
the actual conversation. If anything, I begin
teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as
possible, if she's REALLY hot-looking. And I never
give the compliment in a way that says, "I'm
intimidated because you're obviously very powerful
and desirable."

   NOTE: If you want to learn how to master the
art of "busting" on women and using teasing and
cocky humor to create ATTRACTION, then you should
go here and check THIS out (make sure you watch
the videos):

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy

   On to idea #2...

WOMEN SPEND ALL OF THEIR TIME AND ENERGY GETTING
READY, FIXING THEMSELVES UP, AND DRESSING SEXY TO
GET COMPLIMENTS

   About 4 or 5 years ago when I was first
learning about how to be successful with women, a
good friend of mine said something that totally
shocked me.

   He said, "Women don't dress up for men, they
dress up for each other."

   I was stunned.

   I couldn't understand the logic behind this for
the life of me. It still makes me shake my head
when I think about it.

   As it happens, I have lived in Southern
California for a few years (San Diego and Los
Angeles). This is a place where beautiful women
from all over the world come to seek fame and
fortune.

   I have been able to see things and learn things
here that would have taken much longer to learn if
I had lived in other places, because I can see how
attractive women interact with EACH OTHER more
often.

   If you put a group of attractive women together
in a club or bar, and watch them carefully, you'll
see something interesting begin to happen...

   The women will start doing "catty" things, like
looking each other up and down with disgusted
looks, making negative comments to their friends
about how other women look, and trying to
intimidate other women with their eyes.

   Most men would never notice this subtle
communication that's going on between women, but
if you look for it, you'll find it.

   The fact is that women don't like to compete
with each other on the football field, they
compete to be the most attractive.

   Men could really care less what a woman is
wearing or how she's dressed for the most part.
Sure, it's nice to see a woman dressed well, but
it's just not that important.

   But for women it's a whole different matter
entirely.

   Women, and especially attractive women, don't
like the idea that another woman is getting more
attention than her. And women can tell very
quickly if another woman is more attractive...
this leads to "bitch looks", negative comments,
and other amazing displays.

   To summarize, women don't spend a lot of time
fixing themselves up to get compliments, they do
it to compete with and impress other women. Ask a
few attractive, well-dressed women about this and
they'll tell you.

   Finally, point #3...

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COMPLIMENTING A GIRL YOU
DON'T KNOW VERY WELL AND A "SPECIAL" GIRL

   My topic is women and dating.

   WOMEN AND DATING.

   It's not "women you're in a relationship with"
or "special girls" or anything of the sort.

   After you've gone out with a woman for a few
months or so, and she proves to you beyond the
shadow of a doubt that she's a great PERSON, then
I think it's great to consider making her your
"special girl."

   And yes, the dynamics change at that point. You
can be nicer... you can be more complimentary...
you can do more thoughtful things... At this stage
this kind of thing will have a different meaning
(BUT, DON'T EVER TURN INTO A WUSSY!)

   As I mentioned, if you start talking to an
attractive woman and you immediately start with
the "You are beautiful and I'm not worthy"
routine, you shoot yourself in the foot.

   There's a HUGE opportunity in these first
meeting situations, but most guys never even
CONSIDER it because it's not what comes naturally.

   The thing to do when you meet an attractive
woman is to actually TEASE AND BUST on her a bit,
rather than giving her compliments.

   This effectively scrambles her whole program
and causes her to lose her composure. It takes her
off guard and shakes her out of her world... so
you can actually have a conversation.

   Remember the newsletter awhile back with the
guy who walks up to women and says, "Your fly is
open", then walks away?

   The woman always comes and finds him to say,
"You're a JERK!"... and then he laughs at her...
and the woman winds up going out with him.

   Verrrrrry interesting.

   Do you think it would work the same way if he
walked up to women and said, "You're amazingly
beautiful" and then walked away?

   I think not.

   So in summary, it's true... women do in fact
like compliments. But, if you want to make a woman
feel that magical feeling of ATTRACTION for you,
then you might think twice about giving them too
early on.

   Women like compliments that they have to WORK
FOR a lot more than the ones that just come to
them.

   ...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself, "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women so
I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling
I have", then YOU'RE RIGHT!

   I think that every man should invest in himself
and learn this skill.

   Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.

   Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.

   What's the difference?

   I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

   And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.

   It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort and energy on my part to put it all down on
paper, and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.

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   If you tend to give compliments because you are
looking for APPROVAL from women, I recommend that
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   Lastly, if you haven't read my original ebook
called "Double Your Dating", then you need to do
that RIGHT NOW. It's the FOUNDATION for everything
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   I'll talk to you again soon.

      Your Friend,

      David D.

P.S. Remember to take a few minutes and look
through all of the different programs I've created
to help you learn how to meet women - no
compliments needed. You can see them all here,
plus watch some great video clips:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/

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