Meeting Women Online: "Tips And Tricks"
>If you're just getting started learning how to
meet women online, or you have been online awhile
but you're not happy with your results so far,
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***QUESTION***
Dear David,
WOW. It works. I started by reading part of your
book, and used some of it, and it worked great. I
couldn't believe that it was your advice that
helped me, I thought it was a shift in the
universe or something. It was amazing. So, I went
back to being a wussbag. The girl who accepted me
one day rejected me the next. Bewildered, I
continued to read your book, applied it once
again, and I now get plenty of wonderful feedback
from women of all sorts (not to mention the
wonderful dates).
But, my question is this. How cocky is too cocky?
I have stated the meekest positive aspect of
myself and other times flouted my greatness. I do
not know what the limit is, and I know it must
exist. Mustn't it?
MSY, from Maryland
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're asking a good question here.
Remember, the formula isn't "Cocky".
The formula is "Cocky PLUS Funny".
You can say just about ANYTHING as long as what
you are saying is actually FUNNY.
Remember, this technique is very powerful. It's
a way of communicating with women that actually
TRIGGERS and then AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION.
I've learned that "arrogance" or "cockiness" is
NOT unattractive to women... as long as they're
not an obvious over compensation for INSECURITY.
When you ask me what the "limit" is, what I
hear you saying is, "I'm afraid to push this too
far".
Don't let your own insecurities and doubts stop
you from using a great technique.
Use it. But make sure you add the all powerful
ingredient: HUMOR. The humor is what makes this
technique magic.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I've been enjoying your advanced series very much,
and have found a lot of success over the last few
months. All this success is exciting, but I'm
finding that I have to rethink my usual responses
to just about everything. A case in point:
Last night over the phone, the woman I've been
spending the most time with lately spent a lot of
effort telling me how much she loves me. In fact,
I think she's really falling for me hard. The
question is, though, how do I respond to a woman
that gets all mushy without spending all of my
attraction points? If she says something like
"I've fallen in love with you" or "I love you
soooooo much", what are some examples of things to
say back that will keep the attraction building?
Your devoted fan,
A in Oregon
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, that's one of the fringe benefits of
learning these concepts... women actually start to
LOVE you.
You left an important part out of your
question...
You didn't mention how you feel about this girl
yourself, and what YOU want out of the
relationship.
I'll have different answers for you based on
what your intentions are.
But to give you the most direct answer to your
question of how to respond to this... take a page
out of the "Han Solo Manual For Responding To
Women Who Say That They Love You".
Remember at the end of Empire Strikes Back when
Han was about to be frozen in Carbonite, and
Princess Leia said, "I Love You"?
Remember what Han said back?
He said, "I know".
Cocky, Funny, and Evasive.
Some variations:
"You should."
"I don't blame you."
"Well, I would if I were you."
...these are all fun.
One warning: If this woman is ACTUALLY falling
in love with you because you've been seeing her
five times a week for the last six months, then
you need to remember that this is a serious thing.
If you've gone out with her 4 times over the
last 3 weeks, that's different. But, if she thinks
you're getting married soon, then you might want
to consider what you really want out of this, and
act accordingly.
***QUESTION***
I must commend you on that masterpiece you wrote,
your Double Your Dating. You captured my attention
and maintained it through out the entire reading!
I actually downloaded it this morning 'round 8:00
or so and you kept me reading it until almost
noon! I don't think there's another person out
there that has EVER kept my attention so intensely
though such a restricted and normally dry medium!
I found much of the thoughts you expressed to be
very insightful and exceptionally well
communicated. This being said, I find myself in a
conundrum that seems like it would lend itself to
your expertise. A bit of pre-amble.....
I'm 22 years old and I live in Ontario, Canada but
only about 10 minutes from the Michigan border.
About 3 months ago I joined some sorta gay- assed
meeting service online here more out of curiosity
than anything else but I came across this one
wonderous lady from Michigan who lives about an
hour and a half away. We've emailed each other
probably 60-70 times and we've talked on the phone
quite a number of times as well but we've never
met in person yet. Well that day is to be
approaching soon and I've come across a conflict
of ideas now that I've read your book. For the
most part, everything I do is the opposite of what
you suggest with the odd exception like my
humorous nature. The problem lies in the idea of
changing my character to suit what you described
(in a VERY logical manner) to be the ideal actions
a fellow is to take. I have an interest in her,
and she (as far as I can tell) has an interest in
me... but the idea of being very nonchalant and
sort of distant/hard to get although it appeals to
me GREATLY with someone new, I'm not sure would be
advisable in this situation. If you could give me
some feed back I would be greatly indebted to your
wisdom even more.
Thanks for your time, J
>>>MY COMMENTS:
In your email you said, "I don't think there's
another person out there that has EVER kept my
attention so intensely though such a restricted
and normally dry medium!"
I'll tell you what man... if you keep talking
this way the "medium" isn't the only thing that's
going to be dry.
Someone get this guy a copy of the "How to talk
like a normal guy that most people don't think is
a JACKASS" manual.
Look man. You can't go through life trying to
sound like you're more intelligent than everyone
else... especially when you're 22... unless you
want women to respond to you the way the woman in
the bar responded to Russell Crowe's advances in
"A Beautiful Mind". Watch the movie if you need
the specifics.
It's OK to be smart. No problem.
But when you try to TALK like you're smart, you
usually end up coming off as insecure and nerdy.
Case in point: Your email.
And no, saying "gay-assed" doesn't make you
cool.
Trust me.
Now, as for your girl situation...
If you've met a girl on the internet and
emailed her back and forth 60 or 70 times, then
you should probably do what has worked for you so
far, and don't change what you're doing just
because you read my book.
You're going to want to practice for a little
while before you go completely changing your
entire personality with a woman who thinks she's
going to be marrying you soon. (Did I say that?)
You're dealing with a classic problem:
You don't know how to meet women effectively,
so this one woman is VERY IMPORTANT.
If you start doing the things that I recommend
with her, and it doesn't work out, you'll blame
me... when it was probably your fault for acting
like her girlfriend for the last 47 years by
email.
Go meet more women. Practice what you've
learned. And do what you've been doing with the
girl you met online, because if you change into a
different person right before her eyes she might
think you're psycho... and get a restraining order
against you. Hell, I'm trying to figure out why
she doesn't have one ALREADY the way you talk...
lol.
I know, I know. I'm a funny guy.
And, another thing (or two)...
Get yourself a copy of this:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/MeetingWomenOnline
And, a copy of this:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy
They will help you TREMENDOUSLY.
***QUESTION***
I just used cocky+funny in an email to an ex-
girlfriend. She wrote back saying, "what's with
the attitude? Do you find it increases your
client's confidence in you when you comment on
their rack?" Not a good sign. What can I do? She
is getting married in two weeks, but I am hoping
she eventually gets back together and/or has lots
of sex with me. She broke up with me five years
ago because I cheated on her. I've been trying to
save it ever since, but up until now, had totally
turned into a wuss in my contacts with her. Can I
save this one?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... OK, your question fits into the "You're
the dumbest person I've heard from lately"
category.
Say what?
Let me get this straight...
Your ex broke up with you FIVE YEARS AGO,
because you CHEATED ON HER...
Then you turned into a WUSSY, and have behaved
that way towards her EVER SINCE...
Now she's engaged to be MARRIED in two weeks...
Then you emailed her recently and commented on
her RACK in an attempt to get her back (or at
least get her to have "lots of sex" with you)?
And the best part of your email:
"Can I save this one?"
Somebodypleasebitchslapthismanim mediately!
That's your answer. You can pay me later for
it.
***QUESTION***
David,
Now that I'm attracting women like crazy thanks to
your info and especially the CD/DVDs, I'm wondering
how to approach scenarios where women who I see on
a regular basis are flirting with me big-time,
specifically waitresses in bars I hit on a regular
basis, girls who work in my neighborhood
Starbucks, etc. Every time I come back the
flirting gets more blatant and intense, and most
of these girls are college-age (I'm 30) and VERY
attractive. On one hand, I feel like I should
hold off on getting their email/number and let the
suspense and attraction build, but on the other
hand if I wait I think they may interpret me as a
Wussy and think I don't have the balls to move in
for the kill. To complicate matters, these girls
all happen to work in places that I use to meet
women and so there are all the obvious issues that
arise if I hook up with a waitress and then she
sees me getting other women's numbers a week
later.
Thanks!
FR Phoenix
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, good job "attracting women like crazy".
That's a good thing.
Now onto your situation...
1) Don't wait 100 years to get a woman's number.
Do it NOW. Letting the "suspense and attraction
build" can wait until you've gotten her number and
gone out with her...
2) Your issue of avoiding the women who work in
places you frequent is probably sound. I
personally don't date women that work in my
favorite restaurants and coffee shops. But, keep
in mind, these types of jobs are usually SHORT-
LIVED. In this situation, it's a GOOD idea to
tease and keep the attraction building. It's fun
as hell, and it can payoff in the future.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey Dave,
I am out on my own after nineteen years of being a
Provider and have found I need a new paradigm
shift in my thinking when it comes to dating and
being a Lover. So, blah blah blah and kudos to you
from all of us suckups out here who are being de-
wussified under the tutelage of your information.
I bought the ebook and advanced techniques
and it has been great learning this material. I
work in a place that provides internet access to
some students so I am actually paid to be online
at work. If nothing is going on with our network I
have lots of downtime with nothing to do so
decided to start practicing online with women. It
is amazing what that one word "brat" can do in a
fun playful situation of C&F.
Here are a couple of my successes with just that
one word....
ME: So, you aren't a brat are you? HER: See for
yourself.
nude pics is it? It's way too early in the
relationship for anything like that. HER: LOL, no.
Did you get it? ME: Yes.
right. HER: About? ME: You are a brat! HER: What
do you mean? ME: I can see it in your smile and in
your eyes. You're a brat! HER: lol
NEXT MORNING...receive instant message from her
HER: Hey Sweetie, how are you doing?
Next example:
ME: You aren't one of those bratty girls are you?
HER: What if I want to be? ME: Because then I'd
have to spank you... ME: nah, you might like it
too much if I did (TOOK A SHOT IN THE DARK ON THIS
ONE) HER: You're right, I would (BINGO! HIT THE
JACKPOT) ME: Hmmmmm HER: You can't handle it? ME:
Oh that's not the problem, I usually don't have
sex on the first date...
(Needless to say, we are getting together very
soon)
I wasn't trying to do anything but have a little
fun practicing online and...well, go figure. :-)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah yes, another guy who "gets it".
You've obviously paid attention to the subtle
things that I teach in my Advanced Dating
Techniques Program.
Good for you.
It is amazing when you treat women like your
"Bratty Little Sister".
ESPECIALLY women who are used to having guys
chase after them and compliment them constantly on
their beauty.
And the kind of conversation you're using with
her works PARTICULARLY well ONLINE. It's
COMPLETELY different from what all the other loser
guys are saying.
Good job, and thanks for the killer examples.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
As a guy who used to be scared to death to
approach women, to being that suave "Bad Boy" that
isn't needy and throws out the C&F like he was
born with it took a lot of work, and your series
DEFINATELY helped speed the process along. The
biggest advice that I got from one of your
newsletters that helped me climb out of my shell
was the realization that I really didn't have
anything to lose when approaching women. Rejection
did not put me at a loss at all, and this same
attitude gets me numbers, emails, and TONS of
dates every time.
My problem now is my male friends. Going from a
loser to the ladies man was great, but I can't
bring girls around my friends because they act
like total wuss bags, and it makes me look bad. I
tried to convey your wisdom to them myself, and
they seem to understand, but they lack confidence
to try things with women. What recommendations do
you have for ways to gain confidence? One guy in
particular has some major issues. He's been
courting a girl now for 4 mo. Hasn't kissed her
more than just on the cheek. He says he doesn't
want to screw it up by being too forward with her,
mostly because it's his first "girl-friend" in the
last 4 years. If he'd have a little more
confidence in himself he'd be either move his
courtship into an actual relationship, or end it
completely and find a girl worth his time, since I
think this girl is just playing him. I told him
to just kiss her and see what happens after that,
but he's the kind of guy who waits for something
to happen to him, and then take it with a grain of
salt rather than making decisions that will direct
him where he wants to go. It pisses me off that
he's such a wuss, and I'm really good friends with
him, but he needs to get his game together real
soon, cause it's throwing a wrench in my game when
I try to bring women around him. Any advice would
be really helpful.
thanks again Dave.
J Spokane, WA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, you're welcome.
I feel your pain.
As I made this change in my own life, I found
the exact same thing happening to me.
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't
make him drink" goes the old saying.
I have a suggestion...
Try some of the new things you've been learning
on your GUY friends.
No, don't kiss them...
Instead, don't talk about your success very
often, and when they ask, just say "Naw, you
probably wouldn't understand".
They'll start saying "What, what? Tell me!"
Only after they've promised to respect what you
tell them and actually listen should you share the
info.
Your buddy with the girl he's been dating for 4
months is either going to wind up with:
1) A wife who OWNS him.
2) A girlfriend who cheats on him.
3) A broken heart.
4) All of the above.
95% chance. Mark my words.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hi David,
I am one of those women fortunate enough to be
what you call exceptionally attractive. I've done
modeling for years (mostly lingerie and swimsuit).
I've read several of your newsletters and I must
say congratulations. You always hear that no man
will ever understand women, but you have come
closer than any man I've ever known to pinpointing
exactly what works. I sent a copy of your
newsletter to the man I'm currently dating because
a lot of the things you say remind me of him. The
cocky & funny bit is awesome. Men have to do
something unexpected to get and keep a woman's
attention. Showering with gifts and basically
being a pushover gets BORING very quickly. I've
dated the most attractive men, and some that
people would actually say to me "What are you
doing with him?" It's all how you come across to
a woman and the confidence you exhibit. You are
absolutely right by saying that men have to make a
woman want them and keep the attraction building.
In fact, the man I'm dating made me want him
more by backing off from sex. I literally had him
naked and very able to perform, but several times
he backed away with some cocky/funny excuse. Now
we have the most awesome physical attraction and
sex just keeps getting better. If some of these
guys don't believe what you say, then let them
continue to have their boring lives as "wussies".
Once again, I must say Congratulations.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
NEW RULE: Beautiful women who email me are
REQUIRED to send pictures. I get some, but now
it's the law.
I mean, how can I REALLY, REALLY know if you're
telling me the truth?
OK... on to your letter.
I appreciate your comments and compliments.
It always amazes guys when they finally have
that "Ah Ha!" moment and realize that beautiful
women are NOT attracted to men who act like
WUSSIES.
The sad part about this whole thing is that
most guys act like Wussies as their MAIN STRATEGY
with women.
The ONE THING that can NEVER work is also the
one thing that most guys do most often.
Go figure.
Thanks for your letter.
And get rid of that loser you're dating so you
can pursue me.
...and that about wraps it up for this week...
except for one more thing...
I was reading an email that I got from a guy
recently.
In the email, he said, "It's funny how women
say that there's nothing you can do to become
better at meeting women... and that you just need
to learn how to "be yourself and things will work
out".
If you're like me, then you've heard this about
a bazillion times from women.
Well guess what?
IT'S B.S.
"Being yourself" only works if you're one of
the guys that naturally attracts women.
Duh. I mean, if you're not meeting any women in
the first place, then how is acting even MORE like
yourself going to change things?
Here's the deal:
If you want to learn how to be more successful
with women and dating, then you need to LEARN how.
It will NEVER happen "on its own".
Problem is that most of the materials out there
that teach "relationships and dating" SUCK.
Trust me, I tried most of them.
Go into any bookstore and wander into the "Self
Help" section... and find the area called
"Relationships".
Flip through some of the books you find there.
Read things like "Honesty and good
communication are the foundation for a mutually
satisfying relationship" and "Women need
compliments to validate their own sense of worth
and beauty".
It's almost enough to make you PUKE.
Well, the good news is that SOMEONE has taken
the time to figure this stuff out, and then
explain it in easy-to-understand language that any
guy can understand.
Before you start thanking me, remember that I
didn't do it for YOU originally.
When I started learning this stuff, I did it
for ME.
It just so happened that after learning all
these amazing things about how to attract women, I
realized that other guys need to know this stuff
too.
SOOOOO... I wrote a book and put together an
Advanced Program. Inside, I reveal and explain all
of the different techniques that I discovered and
developed to meet and attract women like crazy.
Probably the most INTERESTING thing that I
learned was that most of this stuff is "COUNTER
INTUITIVE".
In other words, it doesn't MAKE SENSE when you
first hear it.
The things that work to attract women aren't at
all "logical" in the obvious sense.
They often go against everything you've been
taught about how to interact with women.
And they're things that you'll never figure out
"by accident". It just won't happen.
If YOU have made the decision that it's time to
learn how to meet and date women ONCE AND FOR
ALL... then you need to get a STRONG START.
I had to spend YEARS figuring this stuff out
for myself... because I couldn't find anything
that worked PREDICTABLY and CONSISTENTLY...
Fortunately, you can "take cuts" and take
advantage of all the time, effort, energy,
mistakes, and money I spent on this "research
project"... and just get the programs I've created
to teach you what I learned.
If you're just getting started, then I
recommend the following:
1) Order a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques
program on CD/DVD. This program will allow you to
actually SEE the communication that I and my
special guests are using... and learn my
techniques more thoroughly.
This program will teach you a new way to think
about women and attraction, how to overcome fear
and shyness, how to approach women, how to start
conversations and get dates, and how to take
things to a "physical" level smoothly and without
rejection.
I'm so sure you're going to get a PRICELESS
education from this program, that I'm willing to
let you actually try it out at MY risk. I'll send
it to you (in a plain box, of course) to try for a
month. If you like it, keep it... If you don't start
meeting more women IMMEDIATELY, just send it
back, and I'll give your money back. Is that fair?
Go here to watch some sample preview video
clips and order a risk-free month trial:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries
2) Right after you do that, go and DOWNLOAD my
eBooks. The first is called "Double Your Dating"
and the second is called "Attraction Isn't A
Choice". You can download them in a few minutes
and literally be learning how to meet women TODAY.
The Double Your Dating eBook is here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook
The Attraction eBook is here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AttractionBook
3) Finally, I'd like you to get a copy of my "Body
Language For Success With Women And Dating" DVD
program. Body Language is the most important form
of communication... when it comes to creating
ATTRACTION... and you need to learn it. Go check
out some of the video clips of the program here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/BodyLanguage
...and that's it! Go get that stuff now. It
will SUPER-CHARGE your success with women and
dating.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. You should also take a minute and look at
some of the other programs I've created to help
you learn how to meet women - both in person
and online. You can see them all here, plus watch
some great video clips of them as well...
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
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