Sometimes, it takes a hard punch in the gut. And sometimes, it takes a few heartbreaking words from the person we love the most. One of my readers said his wife told him he no longer satisfied her in bed. How would YOU react to that? Get mad? Get even? The only correct answer is to accept it and become better. Not to shrink. Not to explode. But to grow. That way, you can recover, heal, and revive the intimacy and passion in your relationship. Scroll down for the email he sent and my response below. Click Here To Experience Relationship Magic ⇐ Why The Golden Rule May Be "Mucking Up" Your Marriage Or Ruining Your Chances Of A Great Relationship Passion Patch ⇐ The ONE Place To Touch Your Partner To Turn Them On In 30 Seconds Flat Revive Her Drive With This ⇐ How To Ignite Passion And Intimacy Back Into Your Relationship GROW. DON'T SHRINK. "Dear Susan, My wife and I have been married for 34 years, and now she says I don't please her in the bedroom anymore. It crushed me when she said that. It's been five months since we've had sex, and she sleeps in the other bedroom. I love my wife and do whatever I need to make her happy in the bedroom. I just want her to allow me to make her happy again." – Brian (not his real name) Hi Brian, At least she told you the truth. Now you have something to work with. First, figure out if there's something she's not getting in the non-sexual art of your relationship. It could be that a need goes unmet, or you have bad breath, or she's having an affair with someone she finds more exciting… You can't guess. So do this Relationship Magic exercise together. It helps you figure out what her unmet needs are. I believe you will also benefit from my Passion Patch book. It's a subtle, under-the-radar touch technique that begins turning her body back on for you without you overtly asking for sex. Also, what's equally important is that you find out precisely what is lacking in your sex life for her. Get details. Is it that she's not climaxing? Has she suffered a loss of orgasmic sensation over the years? Does she no longer find you attractive? Is she mad at you for any reason? Does she hold the limiting belief that sex is over after menopause? Is she seeing someone else? Is she ill? Does sex hurt her? For example, does she have vaginal dryness? Did she get bored with sex? Ask her these questions, one at a time over weeks, gently and calmly. Listen to what she says and let me know exactly how she answers. If it's physical, there are solutions. If she's bored, that's easy to fix. If she's mad at you – you can fix it. See what I mean? There are always workarounds, compromises, solutions, and strategies suited to the issues of any particular relationship. I've helped thousands of guys get their wives and girlfriends back on the upward pleasure spiral through my methods like Relationship Magic, The Passion Patch, and my core program, Revive Her Drive. Revive Her Drive teaches you how to be the man she wants to have sex with again. If I had to guess, the most likely reason she doesn't want sex is that it's so dull for her she'd instead go without it. That is what happens in 85% of cases. Revive Her Drive shows you how to seduce her by moving her toward more pleasure and slowly ramping up her desire for you again to the point where she begins initiating sex. Don't give up on her. It's easier for most women to give up on sex than men. And she doesn't know how hard that is for you as a man. You will figure this out. The first step is to truly get into her world and truly walk in her shoes. The way to find out is by hearing what she has to say. Make it safe for her to tell you the truth. Don't let her truth crush you. Let it empower you. Click Here To Experience Relationship Magic ⇐ Why The Golden Rule May Be "Mucking Up" Your Marriage Or Ruining Your Chances Of A Great Relationship Passion Patch ⇐ The ONE Place To Touch Your Partner To Turn Them On In 30 Seconds Flat Revive Her Drive With This ⇐ How To Ignite Passion And Intimacy Back Into Your Relationship GROW, Suz Susan Bratton, "Intimacy Expert to Millions", is a champion and advocate for all those who desire lifelong intimacy and passion. She is the best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs on lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills such as Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection, Hormone Balancing, The Pump Guide and Thrust In Time. You can find The Susan Bratton Show™ at BetterLover.com, her more personal posts @susanbratton on Instagram, and her new sexual vitality supplements DESIRE with Tribulus, Tongkat Ali and Fenugreek and her wildly successful blood flow booster, FLOW at The20store.com. |
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