The "How" Of Starting Conversations That Create Chemistry
Bottom line: Most guys who come to me want to know what to talk about with women to start creating chemistry. And it only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?
Well... partially. It is actually far more important that you talk about whatever topic in the right way. In other words, if you don't understand how to carry on a conversation that creates attraction, then it really won't matter what you talk about because the woman won't feel anything towards you.
Key factors for igniting the first sparks of ATTRACTION during a conversation (no matter what you happen to be talking about) include:
- Your body language
- Eye contact
- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
- Flirting
- Sending mixed messages
- Directing the conversation
- Dealing with common questions and topics
Plus many other things. My point is that if you're running into a lot of uncomfortable silences, nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the "how" of chemistry handled before you were about the "what."
That in mind, onto:
The "What" Of Starting Conversations That Create Chemistry
With that said, there are several topics that are great to discuss with women that begin to build "chemistry." But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and think for a minute.
What topics do women pay to hear about? If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious. Women read Cosmo magazine, tabloids and romance novels. They watch soap operas and nighttime dramas, etc.
What do these all share in common? For whatever reason, women tend to love:
- Drama
- Conflict
- Romance
- Famous people and their lives
So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics. Here are a few ideas:
Play "Amateur Psychologist To The Stars"
Basically talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures just love to do crazy things... cheat on their spouses... and then say "I didn't do it." These situations are begging to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic mind.
Analyze Other People In The Room
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they're on their first date.
Then, start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.
NOTE: One of the best ways to do this is to discuss the body language of the people around you... and comment on what it means. If you are interested in learning more about Body Language, and how to use it to attract women, make sure you take a minute and look at this right now:
Make Fun Of Someone Famous
All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of, like how some super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named Jennifer.
It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk like you're all that.
Talk About Other People's Love Lives
Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after you've told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually lesbians.
But, make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.
I think you feel me. The point here is that women are naturally fascinated and drawn to certain topics... so use them.
The real benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can use all the other ideas that you're learning while you're talking! You can amplify the attraction as the conversation goes on... as long as you know what else to do as you talk.
Oh, by the way...
Topics To Avoid (Also Known As "CHEMISTRY KILLERS")
The list is endless. Topics to avoid include kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars and your secret love of pro wrestling.
And NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning. You'll create bad vibes that will make any attraction that you've created instantly disappear.
Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you're her type... and any other wuss-bag topic that makes you look insecure and needy.
Remember: the key to success with women is CREATING A POWERFUL EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION between you and her. But harsh reality is...
Until You Learn To Create ATTRACTION... Nothing Will Work For You!
The good news: If you want to get a powerful education about how to make women feel that magical emotion of attraction for you, then I'd recommend that you check out my Advanced Dating Techniques program.
It contains over 12 hours of digitally recorded and edited material, and the five guest interviews alone are worth the price of the entire program.
You're actually going to see and learn from the guys who taught ME how to be more successful with women and dating. Go watch the video preview clips here:
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
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