You Must Use Cocky Plus Funny In EXACTLY The Right Proportions
In your first comeback, you've taken something nice that she was saying about you, and turned it into a perfect opportunity to dial up the tension in a funny way. "I like you"... "Yeah, I like me too." Classic.
In your second comment, you really add one of the magic ingredients of attraction called being a challenge.
Women Almost NEVER Hear A Guy Say, "You Couldn't Handle Me..."
It's so surprising to a woman when she hears this kind of thing... and it's incredible when it's done in a funny way. But unless you understand the dynamics of how women become attracted to men, this stuff doesn't make any sense at all.
Remember when you were a kid and you had those little cars that you could wind up by pulling them backwards on the floor... then when you let go they would spin out and fly forward? You could feel the tension building as you pulled the car backwards... winding it up. And when you let go, it would scream out of your hand.
I always thought those were pretty cool. Well, there was another great lesson in those cool little cars: You need to dial up the tension before you can release the energy inside.
Your story and comments do a GREAT JOB of this.
Q.***Success Story***
Dave,
Your material is great!
I went to this library in town where this very beautiful woman works. There are about 6 women that work there (no men). This woman has had very wealthy men date her and policemen and a body builder etc. I'm 49 and bald and don't make a lot of money but she has fallen for me!
Every time I'd go in there I'd get cocky and funny with all of them and this woman wants to date me!
So we've been dating for a couple weeks now and she's really falling in love with me.
Her birthday was about 5 days after we first met and I didn't buy her anything. She obviously finds this very attractive that I feel confident enough in myself that I would do that.
Last night she said she loved me for the first time. I held my ground and refused to be intimidated into saying I love her too. She was flabbergasted when she asked: "Don't you love me?" I said I need to know her more.
This morning she went to town and got me a pop and pop corn and wouldn't allow me to pay her back and she brought it to me.
I've never been able to do this before. I was always the very nice and shy guy.
Thanks!
T.
A.Well, T., let me tell you this: it's okay to be a nice guy. Just do it in a way that doesn't make women use the word "nice" to describe you. The fact is that when you're being Cocky & Funny, you're actually being very nice... and women know it.
They LOVE the fact that you're paying attention to them in a way that's interesting, entertaining, funny, and unpredictable.
Good for you. Sounds like you've met a great gal.
Q.Dave,
I have emailed you before with a success story but this email is more of a reply to the guy who felt his age of 37 was an issue with girls in their 20's.
My thought on this is age is only a barrier if you choose to make it one. Sure there are girls out there where they have a problem with an age difference. To me these girls are looking for someone to settle down with, bring to her parents for Sunday dinner and have the approval of her friends and not someone to date for sake of dating.
I met this Latin girl at my gym who on a scale of 1 - 10 is about a 9. After an aerobic boxing class we went out for a cup of tea. We talked and I did a little C&F and she said to me before I leave remind me to give you my phone #. I didn't even get to ask for it but that's OK.
The other day we were at a Wendy's for lunch when she told me I was incredible. She went on to say I don't crowd her I give her, her space. Keeping the C&F going I told her I agree I am incredible. I told her if it wasn't for the fact I like girls so much I would give myself a hug and kiss.
Well, Dave, we have been dating a few months now and about the age thing she is 27 and I am 56. It was on our second date when she asked how old I was and without any hesitation I just said 56.
Just being honest and straight with her. Now, granted I do not look nor act my age for she thought I was 36 or so, I am into Hip Hop & Techno music and started taking Salsa dance lessons, there are a number of Latin clubs here in Miami.
So age is only a number to me and a lot of the girls I have gone out with. When a girl I date tells her girl friend how old I am the girl friend thinks her friend is dating this old man until I meet her and she doesn't see an age difference any more.
N. Miami Beach
A.Great points, N.
I know many men who date women that are 10 or even 20 years or more younger. In fact, I read an interesting statistic that men who get divorced wind up marrying women that are an average of 10 years younger the second time, and that one in five men marries a women 20 years younger the second time.
Thanks for the email... oh, and check THIS out for a whole lot more on the subject of meeting and creating a life-changing relationship with your dream woman.
Q.Dear Dave,
So, the reason I haven't written you since my last message is because I've been too busy having the best sex ever. Seriously. I've got your last 20 newsletters sitting in my inbox because I haven't had time to read them. That's how powerful your interview series has been.
It is invaluable. Just hearing you talk was a great educational tool. I mean, the level of confidence that you both exude about everything, not just dating, makes me feel respect for you even before I've actually tried what you suggest.
Then I try incorporating your tips and guidance into my own relations with women, and Wow what a difference. Listening to Marie's insights (and God does she sound sexy!) helped me realize that women actually wanted me to be the type of person I was naturally, but I was afraid to be a man.
And it's the fear that drives them away. What a turn around.
So, back to this incredible sex :D!. I ran into this sexy girl I knew 2 years ago when I was in college. I always had a thing for her, but I was so shy and awkward, there was no chance it was gonna go anywhere.
But now I've been reading the newsletters, I read the eBook and pamphlets, and I've listened to the Interview series thus far (3 times) and I just get it. So I run into her after not having seen her in 2 years, turn on the charm DD style and her first response is, "God, you seem so...mature."
I knew it was on then. Dave, every time I get a test, I just think "WWDDD: What would Dave DeAngelo do?" For instance, the other day, after giving her a considerable hard time, she said, "You know, being too cocky is just not sexy."
So I turn to her, flash a confident smile and say, But you don't think I'm too cocky," She starts laughing and throws her arms around my neck and says, "I hate that you're always right."
She says things to me I never thought I'd hear a girl say, like "How did you get to be so cute?" and "Why is it you always know exactly the right thing to say?"And, on top of that, she's always begging me for sex. Begging.
And what's more, she's okay that I'm dating other women, as long as I still see her once a week. Do you realize what I'm telling you? This incredible sexy women, who I could hardly look in the eyes 2 years ago, is begging me for sex (and doing crazy things in bed), bragging to her friends about me, and allowing me to do anything I want with anyone I want.
It's the type of story I wouldn't believe if I weren't living it.
Thank you, Dave. And keep those interview CD's coming!
CK Los Angeles.
A.Yeah, CK, it's amazing when you finally start getting how it all fits together, and seeing these types of responses from women.
By the way, thanks for the plug for my Interview Series. I'm getting killer feedback on it. As a reminder, DETAILS ARE HERE:
Q.Hi Dave,
Love your stuff and these e-mails. Really informative.
I've a couple of points about the last set.
1) NLP can work in some cases but usually as a back- up to your stuff. Women love it at the right time but use it too much and you sound wussy. Don't give up the cocky-funny approach ever in a relationship.
Keep the woman guessing, unsure and bust other women while she's around you. You don't have to be trying to pick up women while she's there, just teasing shop assistants, waitresses, her friends, etc. shows her you're in control and attractive to other women; they won't want rid of you then....... ever.
They love it and it keeps them on their toes. It makes you unpredictable, confident, assertive (in a positive way) and not needy and wussy.
2) One 37 year old guy in a previous e-mail said he felt he couldn't approach younger women. He didn't want to be thought of as a creepy old guy. Well, I'm 48, split 3 years ago (I've 3 kids!), thought my world had ended and I'd no future.
I could've retreated to a lonely cocoon- like existence but decided, "What the hell it's my turn now!"
This really pissed off my ex-wife who wanted to split! I began to study everything I could find on women, how they thought (or didn't think), what made them tick (or didn't), why - to us guys - they were so irrational, the "let's just be friends" thing, etc.
The only thing I've found that really works is your stuff (I've had the book for ages).
I have had loads of success with younger women (20s and 30s). My current girl is 34, attractive and I feel like a million dollars when I walk into a club or bar with my piece of arm candy (other women never stop looking and you know they're attracted to a guy who can pull younger women, they're curious, it's amazing). She says this is the best relationship she's ever had.
So, my advice to older men is ignore everyone, go have some fun, approach who the hell you like, just use the cocky and funny routine and you WILL succeed more than you'll fail. Life's too short so get out there and enjoy.
I wouldn't have believed it could be like this.
Thanks for everything and helping me get a life back.
J. Edinburgh, Scotland
A.You've made some great points here, J. Since you took the time to write me all the way from Scotland, let me comment on one or two of them.
One thing you mentioned is demonstrating how you can control a situation so that the woman you're with knows it. Which bring me to a few facts that I want every guy reading this to get a grip on right now:
FACT #1: Women Are COMPETITIVE
In other words, there's nothing quite as powerful as having a woman know that her man can meet other women whenever he wants.
In fact, a large percentage of women who stay in bad situations with men are only there because they know that their man can go meet other women anytime he wants, and they just can't deal with the jealousy that it triggers... so they stay.
I know this doesn't make much logical sense, but hey, it's reality.
Now, as you know, I really don't like the idea of manipulating women by lying and playing with their emotions for your enjoyment. But if you naturally like to have fun with other people, and your girl just happens to be there when you're joking around with the girl behind the counter at the coffee shop, then you'll probably get some HUGE benefits from it.
You also mentioned that when you decided to start learning about how to be more successful with women it pissed off your ex. That's pretty typical.
I mean, let's face it... just between us guys... you probably allowed yourself to become a pretty boring, predictable husband... So now that you're getting your game together she's thinking to herself, "That jackass! Why didn't he act like this before?! Now other women get to enjoy the part of my man that I always wanted more of!"
Now, onto the next fact that I want to comment on...
FACT #2: There's Only One Way To "Get A Woman Back"
If a woman left you, it's almost always because YOU HAD NO GAME. You were basically about as physically interesting to her as Homer Simpson.
So, if you want to get her back, go learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION, and then date other women. If it's possible to fix your relationship, that combination usually does the trick pretty nicely.
Finally, I agree with you about this fact:
FACT #3: You CAN Take Control Of Your Life... And Start Getting Women
Look, no one is going to live your life for you. No one is going to go meet attractive women for you. You need to take control of your own life, and meet the kinds of women you want to meet.
Thanks for the reminder of that, J.
Now... if you're reading this right now and you're thinking "Yeah, that's what I need... to take control of my life and my success with women", then guess what?
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
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