| Stress, anxiety, and depression… all affect intimacy. If you or your partner can't seem to get aroused or are too stressed for a physical connection, please read below. Forward this advice to a friend who might be suffering too. Mental health is a big deal; some readers are on anxiety/depression meds and can't get out of their heads when having sex. How can they enjoy the moment? Also, how can they achieve climax when these meds tend to lower libido/get in the way? Satisfying, intimate relationships are a mindfulness practice, even when you aren't on anxiolytics. Everyone must push outside thoughts away and return to their sensual experience. So the first thing to acknowledge is that you are more like others than different. Most people have performance anxiety of some sort as well. Can I experience peak pleasure? Can I make them feel excellent? Do they want me? There are some emotional strategies you can use to counteract performance anxiety. And physical strategies to offset low desire and difficulty achieving peak pleasure. Many people have anxiety. It can include a lack of confidence or experience, trying too hard to do a good job instead of flowing with the moment. Some people are afraid of failure or criticism. Others have experienced shame or abuse. Sometimes you don't feel attracted to your partner like you used to, which causes more anxiety. Men worry about the size of their tool, if they can achieve rigidity, peak pleasure, or if everything finishes too soon. For some, putting on protection creates anxiety. Women worry about how their vulva looks or smells. Will intimacy hurt? Will I get an STI or conceive? All it takes is a single experience for the seed of doubt to be planted. Then anxious feelings interrupt the signals from your entire body to your brain. This makes it easy for our fearful mind to get control. Telling yourself to stop being anxious just causes more anxiety. Making yourself feel bad because you're low on desire just dampens your arousal. Rather than fight or resist anxious thoughts and feelings, shift your attention to something that makes you feel good. The most important skill you can develop, deep breathing, is also the easiest to learn and practice. Do it right now. Take a deep breath in, filling your lungs to the top, then let go and let the breath rush out. Relax. Anxiety excites your central nervous system and puts it on high alert. We call it the "fight or flight response" for a good reason. If you feel threatened, your body releases adrenaline to protect yourself from danger. But think about it: If your body wants to flee or gear up for a fight, will your libido want to play? The simplest way to restore calm to the body is to breathe deeply. I recommend a 4-second inhale through the nose and a 7-second exhale through the mouth. This will calm your nervous system and shift you out of fight or flight and into a more relaxed state. Let's continue our conversation about how you can lower and eliminate performance anxiety. Here Are 14 Best Practices To Do That ⇐ Click Here To Read The Full Article There's one more thing. I want to meet up and hang out with you! Let's get together at KetoCon Austin 2023. This annual gathering is an incredible opportunity to connect with like-minded individuals seeking to optimize their health and wellness through nutrition and lifestyle. There's no limit to attendees. Anyone and everyone is invited! Meet me in person from 1:50-2:30 on 4/22 on the KetoCon conference floor. I'll have giveaways and hugs for you! Celebrity guests will join me, including Dr. Aime Hornamen, The Thyroid Doctor, and Justin Peters, host of "The Struggle is Real" podcast. Come and meet all of us. Grab your ticket… use my promo code for a $50 discount… then reply to this email letting me know you want to hang out with me. Click Here To Get Your Tickets ⇐ Join My Meet & Greet And Let's Hang Out! (Use The Promo Code "SUSAN" To Get $50 OFF On The 3-Day Conference Pass) 
I also want you to check out the articles I sent last week.  | The Menopause Nightmare: Is Your Sexual and Cardiovascular Health at Risk?
Here's a troubling statistic: 85% of all women in the US are hypertensive by the age of 75. During the Nitric Oxide conference I joined recently, one of the esteemed speakers mentioned that menopause is not just the loss of fertility and periods. |
|  | Yee Hah! Austin Here We Come!
At Ketocon, you'll get to mingle and chill with me and other health and wellness enthusiasts, as well as top experts in the field. |
|  | Red Light & Rest: The Restorative Benefits of Infrared Sauna Therapy
Getting adequate rest is part of maintaining your overall health and well-being. And while there are countless ways to achieve relaxation, I highly recommend infrared sauna therapy. |
|  | Is this effortless weight loss trick the real deal?
Getting to your ideal body weight and shape can feel amazing, both physically and emotionally. Your clothes fit better, your energy levels are up, and you just feel more vibrant and alive. |
|  | WARNING: Your skin may be aging faster than you think
Fine lines, wrinkles, and uneven skin tone are just a few of the many visible reminders of the passage of time. Even when they seem very minor and unimportant, they can make us feel a little less pretty. We feel we're no longer shining our brightest. |
|  | How To Get My Husband Back
What do you do when he wants nothing more than permanent residence in his man cave? If this rings familiar, read on. |
|  | What Men Mean When They Say "I Love You"
Hey there, beautiful! Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you think you've found the one, but something doesn't feel right? |
|  | "Why Is He Suddenly Distant?"
Sometimes men need time to clear their minds or reconnect with their friends, which doesn't necessarily mean they're pulling away from you emotionally. |
|  | Crossing the 'Gasm Chasm + an Hour-Long O
Can orgasms really make or break a relationship? Suz joins the Girl Boner Radio to talk about how crucial it is for lovers to cross the 'gasm chasm together. Check out this episode... |
|  | 3 Levels Of Regenerative Medicine
Let's talk about regenerative medicine. From what I've learned after talking with many doctors and experts about it, the possibilities are fantastic and mind-blowing. | Live For Love,
Suz  Susan Bratton, "Intimacy Expert to Millions", is the author of 35 techniques, including the Soulmate Embrace and 7 Stimulating Sex Positions. She helps her fans transform having sex into making love. Her orgasm techniques, bedroom communication skills, and ageless sexuality protocols are beloved worldwide for their practical nature.
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