| You'd be surprised how many women have difficulty figuring out why their partner doesn't want to be intimate with them. Here's one email I received from Maria, who wanted to know why her current man didn't have the desire a previous partner once had for her. Check out her email and my response below. "Hi, Susan, I've always been satisfied with my sex life and openness to new ideas. I had a relationship with a man who would always adore me, give me pleasure, and was happy to be in bed with me for ten years. I wanted to live together, but he didn't want to leave the big city of Amsterdam. And as I prefer nature and the countryside, we couldn't find a solution and broke up. But here I am, 49 years old, with a new boyfriend for three years, living together for three months, and stuck with no sex life. I just don't get it and am desperate for wise advice. I'd be very grateful for your comments. Are men only interested in women when they can chase, when there's plenty of time apart from each other, not living together? Or am I attracting men who are afraid of committing themselves, fearful of real intimacy? Should I quit and look for a man on the same level: someone longing for a steamy, intimate, long-term relationship living under the same roof? Or is this just a silly unrealistic wish?" – Maria (not her real name) Maria, every man is different. You should explain to your boyfriend about your unhappiness. Sit down with him at home after a meal when his tummy is full, and there are no distractions. Put your hand on him. Look into his eyes. Fill your heart with compassion. Then describe how you feel. Use "I statements," not "You statements," such as: I feel…
My experience…
The effect on me…
My desire is…
I wish we could have a relationship where I experienced… Don't expect or ask him to respond. Just request that he listen. Tell him you want him to have a lot of space to come back to you with his thoughts, experiences, and desires. If he is a man of few words, and he'd be better at writing his thoughts down, allow him to do that. Some people, especially men, have difficulty channeling their feelings into language. When you talk to him, speak slowly. Try not to flood him with your emotions. Be completely honest. Don't hold anything back. Don't make excuses. Don't invent rationalizations. Just speak with vulnerability about how you are experiencing your intimate life with him. Describe what you wish it was like, compared to how it is now. Thank him for listening. Hug him and kiss him. Then get up and go for a walk. Ask him if he'd like to go with you. Ask him to hold your hand while you walk. 
HOLD HANDS This will clear both of your minds and allow a little space for him to digest what you've said. Assume the best of him. Assume he loves you. Don't try to figure out what he is thinking. You will most likely be incorrect. If he hasn't addressed your issues in one week, bring up your situation again. Ask him if he is going to respond. He could be struggling to figure out what to say or do. At that time, inquire whether he might be open to seeing a couple's therapist. It might take more than your skill to draw out of him the issues. But I doubt it. I think this slow, steady plan will yield good conversations. Please let me know how it goes. And as for YOU, dear reader, if you're stuck wondering why your partner isn't as sweet, caring, attentive, and present as they used to be… One of the simplest things you can do is start a conversation using the technique mentioned above. It should get the ball rolling nicely. That way, you can open up a safe space to talk to each other and set things back on the right path. This week's articles are written to help you achieve the relationship and intimate life you've always desired. Take time to go through the ones you like, and enjoy.  | Female Self-Love "Butterfly Warm Up" Technique
This sensual self-love practice is a lot different from what you think… yet so much more rewarding. Click here to lear more. |
|  | How To Have A Successful Relationship
Many failed relationships are a result of ignorance and misinformation about how to keep the passion and physical intimacy alive. Read more… |
|  | Saggy Breasts After Three Kids
I've found that men love our breasts even when they are not as perky as they were in our youth. They love boobs. Boobs of all kinds, sizes, and shapes. |
|  | "She doesn't feel 'down there' like she used to…" (Mailbag)
Health problems get in the way of good intimacy. Some medications, neuropathy, cancer, diabetes, and depression all reduce feelings of pleasure. This is called "sensation loss." |
|  | 8 Hot & Sexy Escapades For Date Nights
I'm giving you these eight sensual date night ideas you can pick and choose from each week. |
|  | My Partner Won't Talk During Sex" [Mailbag]
"Hi, Susan. I saw your previous post on Only Fans about the map to give her a Yoni massage. I want to get your map, but my wife doesn't talk during sex. I don't feel like I'd make much progress with her because I would still be shooting in the dark. What should I do?" |
|  | "Struggling with my hormones and libido." (Mailbag)
Are you struggling with hormone and libido problems? Many of my readers are interested in FLOW and the DESIRE Libido Trio. These are my two blood flow supplements and libido vitamins. |
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|  | Let's Meet Up At HYDH 2022!
What if there's a better way to connect with like-minded, healthy people who just want to have fun & learn along the way? That's exactly what the How Do You Health 2022 event is about. |
|  | Care to join me at a party before the year ends?
Learn from educators and experts seeking to share their knowledge with a community of health-minded people about the latest science and practices leading to optimal health. |
|  | How Do You Health? Fest 2022
Meet up and join Suz LIVE as she keynotes the How Do You Health 2022 event this December 2-4, 2022. Connect and have fun with other health-minded folks, festival-goers, speakers, experts, health brands, influencers, and more as you explore and discover new breakthroughs and practices in health and wellness. |
|  | Optimal Performance Podcast With Sean McCormick
Whether it's through nootropics, cutting-edge biohacking techniques, or adjusting your approach to nutrition and fitness, we'll have the best minds in the industry to talk about how you can achieve optimal performance in all areas of your life. |
|  | Masculine Feminine Dirty Talk Tips (VIDEO)
Being guided and encouraged, appreciated and respected for our bedroom skills are all valuable plus ups to everyone's sex life. | To Lasting Love,
Susan  Susan Bratton, "Intimacy Expert to Millions", is a champion and advocate for all those who desire lifelong intimacy and passion. She is the best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs on lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills such as Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection, Hormone Balancing, The Pump Guide and Thrust In Time. You can find The Susan Bratton Show™ at BetterLover.com, her more personal posts @susanbratton on Instagram, and her new sexual vitality supplements DESIRE with Tribulus, Tongkat Ali and Fenugreek and her wildly successful blood flow booster, FLOW at The20store.com.
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