Here's What To Do When A Woman Signals That She Likes You:
- Know how to recognize it
- Do NOT do the lame stuff almost every other guy does
- Start creating (and AMPLIFYING) her attraction
So how can you tell if a woman is doing something that says "I like you?" Well, it's very important to remember that women are far more subtle than men (most of the time, that is).
If a man is interested in a woman, you can see it all over his face. It's usually very obvious. But women are different. Women do SMALL things. A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a comment like "You're so cute" (as in your example above). But then it's often gone.
Women always seem to act like they're not quite sure. They don't send consistent signals that most men can read. And when they do send signals that are easy to see, most guys respond in a way that makes those signals stop... which makes things even more confusing.
Women Aren't Consistent, Easy To "Read," And Predictable Like Men
Basically, a woman can seem like she's interested one minute, then stand-offish the next. So RULE #1 is: Just because she's doing something that says "I like you," don't think that it means, "I like you no matter what."
In other words, it's much better to interpret subtle "I like you" cues as "I like you for a second, but if you start acting like a Wuss Bag or a Dumb Ass, it will all be over in an instant."
Unfortunately for most guys, they take "I like you" signals to mean "You've won my approval, now you can do whatever you want". And what do they do? Of course, they turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid things, and destroy it all.
Oh, how many times I've watched guys (myself included) screw up perfectly good situations because they just didn't get this concept.
Let me give you an example. Let's say that you're out with a woman, and you've been teasing her, and she smiles and says, "I like you." A typical male response is for a guy to think to himself "OK, I'm in... she digs me" and to get that rush in the head and chest.
Next thing you know, he's acting different. He's talking about different things. He's giving compliments. He's being nicer.
Ask Yourself: What Does All Of This Make A Woman THINK About You?
Of course... she's thinking, "Uh oh, his cool, calm, interesting personality was just a cover for the secret inner-Wuss that was hiding out, waiting for a little bit of approval from me... ahhhhhh!"
Women know that they're in control of the situation. or at least most of the time they are... and they think that they are even during the times when they're not. They're constantly using different kinds of communication to test and feel out the situation.
Remember, most of the time when you're saying something that you think is nice, charming, and original, it's something that a woman has heard about 47 times that week from other guys.
We guys act very predictably most of the time. And women know how to tell if you're just another loser who's pretending to be cool... who will turn into an average Wuss at the first sign of attraction from a cute woman.
Think about what I just said. This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow... but it's the reality of the situation.
There's something that women call "Sexual Tension." It's also known as Chemistry or Attraction as well. But only women know it this way. I've got an entire program that can teach you about this amazing skill, if you want to learn how to use it, by the way. You can learn more about creating sexual tension here.
When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right way, you will create this tension. This is what usually leads to a woman saying something like "You're cute" or "I like you." It's the tension that makes her feel it and say it.
This Is EXACTLY When You Need To Dial Things Up
Don't diffuse it all by saying "You're cute yourself" or "I like you, too." Or by smiling like a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first rainbow. This kind of thing releases the tension, and it usually takes that wonderful electric attraction feeling and instantly kills it.
Does this make logical sense? Hell no. But it is what happens. But okay...
Okay, Let's Talk About The RIGHT Way To Amplify ATTRACTION...
Remember when I said that it's the tension that makes a woman feel the feelings and make the comments? And that you need to amplify it when you're getting a positive response? Once upon a time, long ago, there was a scene in a movie that illustrated this concept perfectly...
In fact, it might be the all-time greatest example of this principle that has ever been recorded on film.
Remember the end of that old-school 80's classic, "The Empire Strikes Back," when they were about to put Han Solo into the deep freeze? Think back... remember when Leia said, "I love you"...? Can you remember what Han said back? Maybe you haven't seen it for awhile... but, man, it still holds up... Han said... "I know."
This is PERFECT... All of the sexual tension that built up culminated in a woman confessing her love. And the man said, "I know." AWESOME.
Imagine being Leia. What could be going through her mind at this point? An answer like this isn't easy to understand. It has all kinds of implications. It's confusing. It says, "I know you love me, because it's been obvious for a long time...." But, it doesn't let HER know how he feels exactly. It requires consideration. It dials up the tension. It's amazing.
We Interrupt This Newsletter For Some Movie-Geek Trivia...
By the way, I once read that when they were filming that scene, Harrison Ford was supposed to answer, "I love you too," but the director didn't like it. They tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison Ford made up that line on the spot in one of the takes... and they kept it. Nice.
Also by the way... one of the big reasons why the newer movies in the Star Wars series suck is because there is no character like Han. It's all boring, predictable stuff. There's no sexy, arrogant, funny, wild-card personality messing things up.
Like I pointed out after I saw Attack Of The Clones, Anakin had to kill an entire village of Sand People just to convince Princess A. that he wasn't a complete and total Wuss. Would have been so much easier and more entertaining if he would have just had a personality.
But whatever. Where was I...
Back To Our Regularly Scheduled Advice
First off: if you don't want to INSTANTLY KILL any chance of creating attraction, I'd recommend NOT talking about Star Wars with her.
Now, about amplifying the sexual tension...
If you're out with a woman, and you tease her because she's wearing four inch heels by saying "What's the deal, are you four feet tall without those?", and she opens her mouth with the classic "Oh no you didn't" look (smiling of course, with that surprised smile)... and you dial it up to the next level with "Oh, I'm sorry...Four foot three?"... and she hits you on the arm...and then she stops, puts her hand on your arm, and says, "You know, you're funny"... what should you do?
You say, "Yeah, I know"... in a serious tone. Or "Don't try to use compliments to make me like you. It won't work. Go buy me a drink or something... I prefer gifts and money." Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly, turn your head, and put your eyebrows together as if to say "Just what do you think you're doing touching me?!"
In other words, turn up the Cocky And Funny, my friend. Keep it going. Keep amplifying the tension and attraction at each of these wonderful moments, good things will happen. Good stuff.
Now here's a question for you:
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