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	I love the saying, Life is hard by the yard... a cinch by the inch. For all of you metrics fans, how about: "Life can defeat us by the meter... so it is sweeter by the centimeter." OK, I tried! Haha. The gem of the day is this Comfort Zone graphic I found on Instagram. If you're not following me there, please do so. It's where I post more personal information, sexier pics and funny sex memes. Follow Me On Instagram ⇐ Susan Bratton + Sexy Pics + Sex Memes = FUN The comfort zone of your sexuality is dangerous because it gets boring. And especially for the female of our species, she needs a lot of variety and novelty, particularly in a monogamous relationship. This is one of the reasons that men are always seeking new pleasuring skills. They know they have to keep it fresh between the sheets. The feminine's massive pleasure potential is like an arms race. When she achieves the first level of climactic skill, she's ready for the next. When she has a partner who can leap her over the fear zone directly to the learning zone she gets better and better in bed. LEAP THE FEAR ZONE I often call the masculine-feminine dynamic "polarity" - the magnetism of opposites. The masculine leads. He initiates. He encourages. He makes it safe. When he introduces ideas in the bedroom and shows her what she's capable of, magic happens. She blossoms and expands her sexual pleasure potential. And she loves him for doing this for her. Can the roles be flipped? Yes. We all have the entire masculine-feminine spectrum within us. Can the woman suggest an erotic playdate and lead her man through it? Yes. Can same-sex partners take turns holding the masculine or feminine frame? Yes. Can gender-fluid partners transform moment-by-moment? Yes, all this switching comes from practice. Roleplay in the bedroom is a great way to flip gender roles or strengthen polarity. When you try something new, a new toy, a new location, a fantasy enactment, a new technique together you can leap the fear zone and go straight into learning and growth. They happen concurrently, you're growing as you're learning. Bringing novelty into your intimate life is what keeps you zesty. There's a desire formula I learned many years ago from one of my mentors. DESIRE = NOVELTY + SAFETY Essentially, if you want to keep your desire high, try something new in a safe environment. If you just do new things all the time without feeling safe, it's too edgy. If you always do the same old things, the safety gets boring. Boredom is the death knell of your passion and desire. DESIRE FORMULA Now let me ask you, what are you "working on" in your intimate life? What are you learning now? Are you learning something to improve your wellness? A new pleasuring technique? Are you scheduling erotic playdates? Are you asking your partners, even brand new partners, what they'd like to learn or try when you're together? Today I want you to think about three things you'd like to experience in the bedroom. THREE THINGS I'D LIKE TO EXPERIENCE IN THE BEDROOM 1. 2. 3. Email me back and tell me what the three things are. If you're not moving forward, you're stagnating. Sure, there are times when you want to rest and relax right where you are. But if you're honest with yourself, there is something ahead of you that you want to move toward, isn't there? Right now I've been doing a 30-day self-pleasuring challenge. I'll tell you more about that soon. I always have something I'm learning so I can share it with you. What are you interested in learning? Share it with me. Reply to this email and let me know the three things you'd like to experience in the bedroom right after you scroll down and read this week's fantastic advice. There might well be some new technique below that pops right onto your "3 Things" list. I look forward to hearing from you and read every email. Love you so much for being part of my world and for standing for your own sexual maturation. Your intimate life keeps getting better as you age. It's one of the best things about maturing! Scroll down now and enjoy all the goodies we've created for you this week.

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	The Magic Keeps On Coming, Susan Susan Bratton, "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" of lovers who crave lifelong intimacy and passion. As the Dear Abby of Sex, she has helped create and revive countless sex lives with her bestselling books and programs such as Relationship Magic, Sexual Soulmates, The Passion Patch, Revive Her Drive and her Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection. For more insider tips, follow her on Instagram and subscribe to her Better Lover YouTube channel. P.S. Thanks to @tobinw for the Comfort Zone graphic.