And that point is:
Younger Women Are VERY Attracted To Funny, Charming Older Men
In fact, I was recently on the phone with one of the guys who came to my New York seminar... he's in his late 40s and he's dating beautiful women in their 20s and 30s, and having no problems at all.
If you have game, your age doesn't matter much at all.
You feeling me on this?
Q. Hey Dave,
I have been reading your stuff (ebook & n/letters) for a while now and have been enjoying some new experiences. Although I think your stuff is bang-on, I am still having a lot of trouble.
I am a pretty shy, quiet, introverted type of guy and as such, have never had much success with women. I am 31yrs old, pretty decent looking, fit/active, gainfully employed, etc so don't have to worry about that stuff.
But as you so often mention, that's not what really matters anyway. I can get phone #s, get 1st coffee dates and often 2nd dates but when I try to take things to the next level, that's where it usually ends.
When I first go out with someone, she seems quite interested at first but that seems to fade fairly quickly as if I am doing something to turn them off. There's always lots of awkward silences and talking about the weather.
Its always like she seems bored and I'm struggling for things to say/talk about which usually ends in her hitting the road. I did used to be overly nice and wussy but have started doing that way less now yet something still lacks.
I really have a hard time with the whole teasing/flirting/C&F stuff you always go on about. Which is probably the trouble, eh?
How do I overcome this and start incorporating this stuff into my dating when it seem so unnatural to me?
Also, I am somewhat inexperienced sexually which occasionally concerns me. how can one prevent that from getting in the way of success? I hope you can answer my questions as I'd really appreciate your help. Thanks and keep up the good work!
AB, BC Canada
A. Well, the first thing I want to point out is that at some point in your life everything felt unnatural to you. This is just another skill you're going to need to learn.
Don't let the idea that you've been shy up until now lead to a mental block about the issue. Just get out there and practice and work with the materials.
Next, it's probably a good idea for you to start online... it gives you time to consider what you're going to say, and it keeps distractions to a minimum. There's no body language to deal with, etc.
Every day, take some time to read the sections in Double Your Dating on humor and being Cocky & Funny, and then get online and practice. If you have my Advanced Series program, then listen to the sections on communicating with women as well.
Finally, you really need to make friends with a couple of guys who are good with women, and watch what they do in person. You'll learn a lot by combining what you've learned with the real-world experience of watching guys in person who are skilled at attracting women. This combination should help you get up to speed much faster.
Q. Dave,
Just thought I would share my recent success. I've been trying the online personal stuff to get some practice. At first I would send the following wussy email:
I saw your profile and think we might have some things in common. I have included my profile for you. Please let me know if you are interested in knowing more. Hope to talk to you soon.
As you can guess not many responses and those who did, not very desirable. But with your help I changed my approach and almost have to fight them back with a stick. Here is my new and improved response.
Saw your profile and I think you deserve a chance to get to know me. I think we could get along well. I've included my profile. If you are interested (which I know you will be). Drop me a line, and if you sound as interesting as your profile says I might write back. ;)
Guys this stuff works. Also just reviewed the programs, great work. They have helped changed my life and not just in the dating world.
Thanks for all your hard work.
R. New Orleans, La
A. Love it, R. You get it:If you act like a Wussy, women will not be attracted to you... it's just that simple.
Your first response sounded weak and average. It sounded like every other guy in the world.
Your second is Cocky, Funny, and playful. Women aren't interested in being bored to tears by some uninteresting guy who says, "Hi, here's my profile, please let me know if you're interested in knowing more". They want a challenge, they want electricity... they want someone who can hold their interest.
Bottom line: Women aren't interested in finding another friend when it comes to dating and romance...
Women Want A Man Who Makes Them Feel ATTRACTION. Period.
Now, if you're reading this and you want to learn more about how to use this great technique that I call Cocky & Funny to create this irresistible feeling called attraction with women, then go and check out my Cocky Comedy program.
It will teach you a ton of different lines for every type of situation... along with the method for creating your own.
You can read about it right here:
Q.***Question From A Woman***
Hey Davemeister,
I was wondering if cocky and funny techniques would work for a woman? I have been getting your newsletters for several months now and I love reading all the success stories. It is interesting to see the male psyche in action.
I can agree with so much of what you say. Women hate wusses! I just wondered if guys would buy into a woman acting funny and cocky. I can play off of a guy who is being cocky and funny, but have never tried it as a pick up.
Any advice for the females?
SH - Nashville
A. My advice? Cocky & Funny works great for women, too.
Unfortunately, most guys are TOTAL WUSSES, and therefore can't handle it. I'm doing my very best to change this, but it might take a little while...
You'll find that most guys will buckle if you bust on them too much too early... but this is kind of a good thing, because it weeds out the girly-men early on for you.
Always look on the bright side, right?
Q. David:
I just keep improving and I owe most of it to you. I wrote to you a while ago and said my new life at college was off to a great start.
Well, things are getting even better. I have more girls than I can remember the names of who are positively desperate for my attention (I've learned their name comes up eventually, its not that hard to fake it...Lol).
Though I struggled with this it at first, I have learned an important lesson regarding success... even though I am much happier now, I keep the same desire to succeed as when I was unhappy.
By maintaining a constant desire to succeed (which can be hard as people tend to be content with what they have when they should continue to do what made them happy in the first place) I will get better and better and more good results will come.
However, part of getting better is talking to masters, and since you've taught me as much as anyone, I pose a question to you: You have oft said to avoid cocky and funny at the very beginning, and bring it in later, and my experiences reflect this.
I have found that there is a fairly large percentage of girls who do not respond well to this type of interaction when you are trying to get her email.
Certainly a large enough percentage to make me convinced that there has to be a better way. Your ebook details specific things to say in this critical first 3 minutes, but as we both know, what you say is not nearly as important as how you say it.
So my question is, what has worked best for you in terms of what characteristics to convey in this first interaction? If not cocky and funny, then what?
Thanks again, R
A. I love you, man. And that's not my mineral water talking. This is a very intelligent question. I wish I would have thought of it myself.
You're right. I've found that if you want to just walk up to a woman and walkaway with her number 3 minutes later, it's better to be more direct about it.
If you're in a bar, and the girl standing next to you starts up a conversation, then it makes sense to move right into the flirting, Cocky & Funny attitude. But if you want to approach women and get numbers/emails quickly, then you need something a little different.
I personally think that you need to convey a direct, matter of fact air of this is the most natural thing in the world.
If you act like it's normal and natural, then she will. If you act uncomfortable and nervous, then she will do that, too.
Most guys are very nervous about approaching and starting conversations with women. They get all uptight and start acting sketchy at just the thought of walking up to a woman and asking her for her number.
If you can just realize that women want to meet men, and that they want men to approach them, it makes you consider that women probably want guys who aren't acting nervous and insecure.
Right? So be direct. If you'd like, you can...
Try The "One Compliment" Approach
It works like this... Give her a compliment to start the conversation (but don't give her any more for a loooong time). Pause to create an air of mystery. Try saying, "Hi, you are... ... beautiful and I had to take a moment and meet you." The pause is priceless. Look directly into her eyes as you talk... and as you pause. This communicates that you're not afraid of her.
Then make small talk for a minute. Ask her name, ask her if she's from the area, etc. Then use the 3 Minutes email/number technique.
The objective is to get her information, not to start an interesting dialogue.
Now, if you want to ask her to coffee right on the spot, etc. then you might want to be Cocky & Funny right off the bat. Remember that there's always time to show off your Cocky & Funny charm the next time you see her.
Okay... and that about wraps it up.
If you're reading this right now, and you'd like to learn more about how to approach women, get numbers, get more dates, and have more success with women in general, then I'd highly recommend that you check out my world-famous, 100%-success-GUARANTEED Advanced Dating Techniques program.
It includes over 12 full hours (viewable instantly online) of me teaching exactly what to do in order to attract the kinds of women that you've always wanted.
You'll learn literally dozens of ways to meet and approach women, including some of my personal secrets you won't find anywhere else.
All the details are right here:
And if you haven't downloaded my eBook Double Your Dating (and the three bonus booklets that come along with it) then you need to do that immediately. It's the foundation for everything I teach in these newsletters, and it's the best place to start, so download it here.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
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