A "Trick" For Getting A Woman's Number
>I get a lot of questions about how I learnedthis stuff about women and dating. If you'd like
to read my story, just go here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
Your material is awesome. I have met more women in
4 weeks with your material than in the previous 4
years of dating! I have, however, come across a
problem which requires your expertise. I can
easily obtain a woman's email and during the
follow up email get their number. However, I get
their voice mail often when I call them up. What
is your feeling about leaving a message with them?
I mean if you call several times (and they have
caller I.D.) and don't leave a message they will
think you are some kind of weirdo. For example I
got this hot woman's email but whenever I call her
(3 times in the past week) I get her answering
machine. Should I leave a cocky/funny message on
the third attempt or should I email her back or
just keep calling until I get in touch with her?
Thanks for your help,
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm going to answer your question in two
different ways... one is the direct answer, and
one is the "bigger picture" answer...
First, the bigger picture answer:
Most problems, like this one, boil down to a
rather simple formula:
Are you with me here?
If you were out getting more emails and numbers
every day instead of worrying about this one, you
would have called her the first time and said,
"Hey, it's me. Call me, here's my number..."
A few days later you would have probably
emailed and said, "Hey, you'd better call me,
because my week is filling up fast..."
Finally, you would have forgotten about her
because you got too busy seeing other women.
When you become too concerned with one woman,
you do things like CALLING HER THREE TIMES IN A
WEEK... without her calling you back.
What's the message you're sending to her?
Of course... "I tolerate and even pursue women
who don't call me back."
That's not what you want to communicate, man.
By not leaving messages, you also add the
charming TWIST to the overall message of "I might
be a stalker, because I don't leave messages."
So, get out there and meet more women! That's
the bottom line.
And now, the direct answer...
Call the first time and if you get voicemail
say, "Hey, it's {your name here}, call me. My
number is..."
If she doesn't call you, then send her an email
that says: "What, trying to play hard to get
already? Call me."
If she doesn't call you, then YOU have to
decide what to do.
WHATEVER you do, don't call or email her again
for awhile. Give it a week or two if she isn't
responding to you.
Then, when you do contact her again, make sure
she gets the hint that you're busy, that you're
dating other women, and that you're not impressed
with the fact that she's a flake.
Love your material. I have gone ten years looking
for material on dating and your knowledge is
second to none. I have learned tremendously from
your ebook and emails. I do have a question
though. I had met a hottie the other night and
using C & F she was all over me, making out with
me in a bar. However when i got her back to my
place and we continued "making out" she kept
saying "I usually don't do this" and "what are you
thinking (about us hooking up so quickly)?"
Needless to say I continued forward with my manly
duties, but I was wondering 1) why was she asking
these questions and 2) what is a good way to
respond to such questions in the future.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here, let me ask YOU something...
What would YOU do if you were a woman who:
1) Had a self-image that didn't include "hooking
up" with a guy the first night you meet him.
2) A STRONG sexual attraction to a guy that you
just met, and you want to hook up with him the
night you met him?
Of course...
You'd say things like, "I'm not this kind of
girl" and "I don't usually do this" and "What do
you think about this?" etc. etc. etc....
You've asked me what I think of this, and how
to respond to it when it happens.
First, I think it's normal and natural for a
woman to behave this way. Get used to it.
Secondly, as far as responding to this kind of
thing... I have a couple of thoughts for you.
I think that guys get their hopes up when a
woman "comes home" with them... and they get more
and more excited about the possibility of "hooking
up"... to the point where they're UPSET if it
DOESN'T happen.
When you put this much importance on something,
you set yourself up for failure... and often do
things to CAUSE failure. When you WANT something,
it costs more. Right?
So don't EXPECT anything. Be OK with whatever
happens. Lean back. Chill. Be cool.
The next step is to let the woman you're with
KNOW that whatever happens is cool.
Don't PUSH.
When you start using all the different concepts
and techniques that you've learned together... and
you start to smoothly transition from one step to
the next... you will start to see women responding
VERY powerfully.
But, part of this powerful response will
USUALLY be some sort of "resistance."
WHY?
Because women aren't used to meeting men who
KNOW all this stuff!
They're not used to being swept away by the
powerful sexual emotions that you're triggering
with your communication, body language, and touch.
I'm not kidding here.
Don't be surprised when some women get so
freaked out that they literally run out the door
or start shaking with nervousness.
Women just aren't used to men who know how to
make them feel things this powerfully!
Now, if a woman says "I don't know if this is a
good idea, I don't usually do things like this
with a guy I've just met"... you basically have a
couple of choices.
You can PUSH, in which case you'll usually meet
with resistance... or you can PULL BACK, then let
things start again slowly... which will make it
far more likely that things will continue to the
next level.
The real key here is walking into every
situation with a woman NOT EXPECTING anything...
or being overly concerned with the outcome.
Don't worry about it. And expect this kind of
thing from women... it's normal and natural.
Dave, I got your e-book a few months ago thinking
it would be a big joke. But I have spent $40 on a
bad date so figured I would take the gamble and I
am so glad!
Before I read your material I was the total wuss
boy, I was just way too nice and got no respect.
Now I have confidence! It didn't take long to use
C&F, posture, etc, but what I noticed is that when
I SLOWED DOWN, women started looking. Walk slow
across the room, using deliberate movements,
shoulders back, head high, and you will just FEEL
more confident, and women pick up on that. Easy
to get emails and numbers when they feel your
confidence!
Thanks for the tips. I want to say that your "kiss
test" has worked 100% with my last 5 dates!
Playing with her hair and looking her in the eyes
while relaxing on the couch has gotten me lots of
kisses, then I BACK OFF for a few minutes and it
drives them crazy! I just keep thinking GO SLOW! I
am a good looking guy, but the problem I have had
with women is the "friend" category.
Now after 4 months I have a girlfriend that can't
get enough, and I can't thank you enough. I am
never going to be the wuss again! BTW- I did get
her flowers, I told her I made the arrangement
myself and the flowers were exotics as I made up
names and places they were each from, she just
laughed so hard it broke all Valentine tension and
I didn't need a barf bag. CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sweeeeeeet!
A quick thought...
It is AMAZING how powerful the idea of "backing
off" is after you've kissed a woman, etc.
Moving two steps forward, one step back is one
of the easiest and strongest way to amplify
attraction.
Good job.
I have your e-book Double Your Dating and it's
just plain excellent. You have a keen insight into
the communication necessary to gain the respect
and admiration of da ladies. And you`re a quick
study of the human condition called "a
relationship". I look forward to studying your
audio program.
Even though your stuff is great, it seems to skew
towards younger, never married girls. Am I right
that an older women who have been around the block
with kids, would be more worldly and have more of
a personal agenda? Or that these women are the
"new and improved gold diggers"? I'm in my late
forties and am realistic to the age bracket I'm
going to encounter and date. Sure I look great and
athletic, but the funny and cocky attitude would
seem to only work with young girls rather than
pre-married model.
Are guys my age stuck with working just the
personals and local church festivals? I mean no
matter how suave, cool, cocky, and funny I am,
aren't I always fighting the age different thing?
That a man in his forties, has to use the power,
fame and money, rather than personality? Is the
cocky, funny personality going to work with older
women? We're not all James Bond's you know.
I look forward to your answers because you really
are the expert on this topic. And whether you'd
like to admit or not, you'll be my age sometime
soon, and then what will you do? Man, that's
something to think about!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'd like to give you some long, detailed,
profound answer to this question, but I just have
to say:
WOMEN OF ALL AGES LOVE THIS STUFF.
My stuff doesn't skew towards ANY types of
women.
I flirt with every woman I meet... of every
age. They all love it.
And I get emails from guys of all ages who use
this stuff to meet women of all ages.
Try it... you'll like it.
All I can say is wow! Thanks a lot, the Dating
Tip; What To Do When She LIKES You, couldn't have
came at a better time! It's the first message I
read over, hell I even read it 3 times! And now
canceling something tonight so I can read over
your book and past letters, the information is
truly amazing, I was shocked at how well this book
was written. And you really helped me with
remembering how great the gift of missing you
works, would have f***ed that up 2nite!
Last night I went out with 3 beautiful women and
because my Escalade is at a friends (he is
installing a few screens for me, can't wait!) I
invited a male friend to come along that the girls
have meet before to drive, When they entered the
car they said how much they missed me, the gift of
missing you is SO powerful I can't explain it
enough. Then at the end they all said "thanks for
spending time with us", I was thinking, aww I feel
so special! Said a c/f comment and got a few
hugs/kisses goodnight. And my friend didn't even
get a "thank you". He drove around and spent over
$100 paying for us to do stuff(total wuss, husband
material, he's 18 so that's not good)! I paid
nothing and received great benefits because of
you, where do I send the cash donations!?
I suggest you all look over the materials you
have, or purchase the e-book now if you have not
already. Look, your wasting lots of time, money,
and lots of great opportunity's to get to know
wonderful women by not listening to this stuff. I
can't even put together words on how well this
stuff works, Dave does a GREAT job teaching!
Question: This one girl with a 9.5-10 personality
and great looks has this sparkle in her eyes that
I really LOVE. How can I mention it in a non-
pussy way? Bust on her about it (making fun of
it)? But I like it! hmm
-JB, Chicago IL, where sheep are only in zoo's! ;)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sheep in zoos? Dude, what are you doing talking
about where the sheep in YOUR town are? It makes
me nervous when men know exactly where the local
sheep hangout is.
Now, to answer your question...
Why is it that men feel such STRONG urges to
compliment women early on? I don't know what's
with us.
I have to say, I know EXACTLY how you're
feeling, because I have to watch this myself...
it's like we come pre-wired with a "nice guy
compliment" mechanism.
Well, TURN IT OFF for the first 10 dates or so,
OK?
Look at those beautiful eyes, and when she
says, "What? What are you looking at?" say, "Oh,
just my reflection in your eyes...".
Hey David:
I have a question that I'm not sure you've
addressed in your book. Have you ever come across
a situation where you're working on a girl and her
construction worker boyfriend shows up ready to
pound you one? Any idea on how to handle that
situation?
I've been there and lets just say that I'm damn
lucky my front teeth don't look like some of the
hidden back ones! In fact, it's instilled an added
fear into me that has made it really hard to
approach women for the last 13 years. Some guys
are crazy and if they see another guy making his
girlfriend all excited, it could be bad news.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I have a great response for this...
Walk away.
What did you expect me to say? Beat him up?
I know that secretly a lot of guys have a fear
of the husband or boyfriend showing up and
becoming violent.
Does it happen?
Sure.
How often?
I don't know... but, I can tell you that I've
never heard of it happening to a guy for just
talking to a girl... and I know a LOT of guys who
meet a LOT of women.
Just walk away.
Risk is a part of life, and you have to accept
it if you want to enjoy unusual levels of success.
Many guys write in and tell you about their
success with this specific girl, or that specific
girl etc. Those are great stories and encouraging
to the rest of us. My success story is a little
different.
Today I was browsing my emails and something
happened that struck me. I have been
corresponding with this really attractive girl who
I met through the personals. In her first email
to me (a response to my initial contact) she asked
when/where we could meet. In her third, which I
read this morning, she gave me her phone number
and asked me to call her 'really soon'. I will
call this evening.
I thought about this in context of my current
situation: last night I had a 3rd date with a
really cute Japanese girl who hardly speaks
english and who I met at a bar some time ago, the
night before I had a first date (tea @ Starbucks)
with an attractive tall blonde (who asked me,
before I brought it up, when we can meet again),
and the night before that I was at a girls place
making dinner for her, almost having a food-fight,
laughing and joking and poking fun of her family
pictures in her apartment (on our 3rd date). I
could go on but won't.
The point I'm trying to make is that my success
story isn't about any of the above successes. You
see, when I read the email this morning which had
a phone number and a request to call 'really
soon', my reaction was pretty casual. And it
struck me that my reaction would have been totally
different 1 year ago. I would have been so
surprised and happy and excited. And I would have
told myself 'wow, this girl actually wants to
meet, ok now, don't screw this up...blah blah etc
etc'
The success story I'm talking about is ME. My
reaction to the email sums it up; I'm not even
surprised when I get that kind of email any more.
Pleased, but not surprised.
I'm starting to REALLY understand the difference
between the INNER and OUTER game. It's not
dissimilar to the difference between success with
a single woman, and my own success in ME and my
situation. Plug for Dave: I got the ebook about 1
year ago and I've been following the newsletters.
I've been slowly shedding the inner wussy and it's
thanks to your teachings. I can only imagine what
kind of success I might have if I actually ponied
up for the CD series.
I mentioned above that I am dating a really cute
Japanese girl. She speaks English, but not much
(certainly more than I speak Japanese!). I got
her email at a bar and we've been out 3 times. I
can sense that she likes me, and I think things
are proceeding well. In fact, she's coming to my
appartment tomorrow to cook Japanese dinner for
me. My question is this: how can I tease her when
she doesn't understand anything but the simplest
of English. I actually told her what 'tease' means
and then tried some examples to demonstrate. This
worked to some degree, but I'm feeling a little
held back.
Thanks for any insight you can offer.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
About your "inner" success...
I can remember a moment a couple of years ago
when I realized that the inner insecurity that I
used to carry around with me was GONE.
It's hard to explain an emotional feeling, but
it was as if there had previously been a certain
insecurity that was always with me... that
affected every part of my life...and then, without
me realizing it was going... it was gone.
It's a great feeling, isn't it?
As far as your situation with your Japanese
girl goes...
I have a friend who is great with women and who
likes to date Japanese women, and he tells me that
they are different because of their culture... and
that they are often more reserved.
I've never thought of TEACHING a woman what
teasing means, but it's a great idea!
I personally think that it's difficult to
communicate in a subtle way when there is a
language barrier... but that's just my take. If
you can figure this one out, write in and share
the wisdom!
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Dave, - I ended up on your newsletter mailing list
just the same way I always ended up in boys P.E.,
I have one of those names that gets confused as
being male. At first, I found your letters just
funny and a bit odd... until I started seeing that
you are absolutely right. The qualities you
explore and recommend in your stuff is exactly
what I am attracted to. Wow, what an eye opener.
Wussies are a waste of time. Give me a C & F real
man anytime.
By the way, I find it very attractive in you too!
Kisses!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
NOTE TO WOMEN FANS...
SEND PICTURES!
If you want to pucker, so I can get an idea of
what the "kisses" look like, feel free. Love it.
I've been enjoying your emails in the last few
months. You've offered some valuable advice on how
to deal with people. But, I am sorry to say I'm
finding your advice less valuable.
You are focusing on being cocky and funny with
people. But you are forgettign one thing. You have
to make sure you make people feel good. Otherwise,
they will be like - fu** you, I don't to talk to
you - you are a piece of sh**. I'm just trying to
help you get on the right track, man. Nothing
personal.
Just read your last email. You are encouraging
someone's comment who tells a complete stranger
that their dress is made of a shower curtain. Did
you ever stop to think that it does not make
someone feel good? I mean if someone directed a
rude comment like that to me - I'd be like fu**
you - you are a piece of sh** - I don't want to
talk to you. Or, I would imagine a girl would
think something like - Why are you talking to me?
Go eat sh**. I don't want to talk to you.
I would say something like - 'Wow! That's nice
shoes!' (or Wow! That's a nice hat!) Make a
compliment when you meet a stranger - that helps.
Instead of making them feel like a piece of sh**.
Take your fu**ing 'cockiness' in the whole new
direction MON! You are going in the wrong
direction. I want you to stop before you lose
everybody on your mail list MON!!!
You've gone a little overboard on that, mon. Come
on, admit it. I think you will probably make some
cocky and funny comment about that. But even then,
please do not go overboard with cocky because
there is a border line between cocky and rude. And
I take it, you who study human personality, should
know where that border line lies.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, MON...
Do me a quick favor. Go learn how to attract
women, then write me an email.
You sound like a "Couch-Based Expert." In other
words, I'll bet you couldn't get a woman's phone
number if you were giving away CASH PRIZES... OK?
Now, to be fair, from time to time I do get an
email from someone who says "It sounds to me like
you're suggesting to men that they act like
jerks", etc.
What does this tell me?
The most IMPORTANT thing it tells me is that
you haven't read my book or listened to my
Advanced Series... and you just don't get it.
This isn't about making women feel BAD, it's
about making them feel GOOD.
You might not have noticed, but half of the
Cocky & Funny equation is FUNNY. If you're funny,
then you don't have to worry about what you say,
because it's HUMOR.
I'm not sure that "Wow! That's nice shoes!" is
the answer.
OK, MON, get up off your couch and go learn how
to meet some women. And stop being a whiner.
You may not consider this a true success story
since it's not about scoring with every good-
looking girl I meet. Rather it's about the change
in my feeling about myself. In the past few months
I've gone from feeling absolutely crushed by
"rejection" or seizing up to recognizing that
there are so many attractive women out there, IT
DOESN'T MATTER if one of them shoots you down.
I've also reached the point where I can approach a
cute girl and get her e-mail/number. I admit
sometimes it's not her real info, but this is a
work in progress. I'm on several online
dating/chatting sites, working my stuff. I'm even
using the arrogant humour routines on two of my
former love interests and am starting to see some
smoke rising as a result. I'm working the material
on the servers at the restaurants I frequent. And
on and on...
At first, I didn't think it could take three years
to "get it down," but last night I had my first
cup-of-tea-at- Starbucks date and now I understand
even more what you talk about on the CDs. It does
take time to become "totally congruent" with this.
But it's going to be so much fun getting there!
So, in conclusion, I already consider myself to be
a success simply because I feel so much more
empowered as a man. Thank you.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Actually, this is to me, the BEST kind of
Success Story there is. Getting a hot woman's
number isn't a big deal once you know how.
But, changing how you FEEL inside and how you
feel about YOURSELF is huge.
Great job.
If you want to learn more about how develop
yourself into that MAN that naturally attracts
women, then you should check this out:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan/
It's the GOODS.
I got your book and subscribed to the emails about
a year ago. It's great stuff. A lot of it is new
to me - but so much is obvious (with hindsight!!).
I am seeing my inner game change slowly but
surely, so that I feel less and less that I need a
woman and more and more that they are lucky to
have me. Looking back (I am 40) I reckon I have
been most successful with girls when I was most
relaxed and confident - they say success breeds
success!
Here are a couple of interesting experiences I
have had that confirm your approach -
I had a 19 yr old foreign student as a girlfriend
a while back. The first night back at my place I
offered to call a taxi for, her put her in the
spare bedroom or she could sleep with me.
Obviously she chose to sleep with me! I was just
trying to be a gentleman - but my theory now is
that by `pulling back' I challenged her
expectations (that most guys would be desperate
for her to stay) and I forced her to take
responsibility for choosing what SHE wanted
(whereas most girls spend their time rejecting
what GUYS want).
My latest girlfriend is 29 and a total babe. But
she is a bit spoilt. She often gets sulky if she
feels she isn't getting enough attention from me.
In the past I would have done whatever she asked.
Now I realise that is a game you can never win.
Instead I ask her if she treats her friends like
this - no - so why does she think it is ok with
me? She has actually said that she really respects
me for not letting her be a spoilt brat. Also
sometimes she threatens to find another boyfriend.
I always tell her that I can't stop her if that's
what she wants. Then she always says she doesn't
want anyone else. It seems so obvious now - why
should a woman respect a man she can control??
I read your latest email about getting numbers.
The point about not hiding your intentions is so
true! Of course a woman knows what you want. If
you pretend otherwise you just seem weak (& also
you have made it really hard to bridge to getting
the number Doh!).
BUT - why do you say turn away & then turn back as
if it is an afterthought?? Isn't this exactly the
pretence you said not to do? Why not just say
`I've got to go now, but I'd like to talk to you
again. Have you got email?' Isn't that less
wussy? Or am I missing some subtlety here. (I
have tried the turning away thing, but without
success. I think maybe I am not a very good actor)
N.
England.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It's fine to NOT turn away and just ask a woman
for her email address directly.
You're making me reflect on how I developed my
"3 Minute Email And Number" technique...
In the beginning, I imagined that it was
basically impossible to walk up to a woman who was
a complete stranger and have her just give her
number to me.
So, I started learning different kinds of
tricks and techniques, from palmistry to
handwriting analysis... and all kinds of other
freaky and almost embarrassing ideas.
I basically figured that I would have to
somehow "distract" a woman from the fact that I
was "interested" and get her number without her
really understanding that I WAS interested.
The turning away, then turning back is
something that is kind of "left over" from those
days of being clever.
Turning away, then turning back basically
demonstrates to a woman that you're OK with
walking away without getting her number... which
is a good exercise if you're at the stage where
you get nervous asking for a woman's number/email.
Feel free to just say, "Do you have email?" and
then, "Great, write it down... I want to talk to
you again" etc.
As long as you are cool and calm with all of
your other communication, you'll be fine.
Saint Dave- I'll skip all the 'you're so great'
stuff and get to the point. I've been learning and
practicing you're techniques. And, as you know,
they've been working. But I'm not writing to tell
you about my successes- rather I've got a story I
find humorous.
Currently I'm going to college in California, but
I'm moving to NYC in May. Somehow my EX-girlfriend
(who lives in NYC) heard through the grapevine
that I was moving there. Out of the blue she calls
me- after 3 THREE YEARS and a very unpleasant
break-up. At first the conversation is strained
and awkward, but I'm using the all C&F stuff
unconsciously. As I do I feel her start to loosen
up to me, and she offers me a place to stay 'for
one night' when I get to New York. I hit her back
with 'Well, I'm pretty busy. But if you wear a
sexy dress, cook me dinner and give me a massage,
maybe I could find time in my schedule.' We go
back and forth like this for a minute or two and
then I end the whole conversation abruptly. Since
then she's been calling and sending emails all the
time, virtually begging me to come and stay with
her 'for as long as I like'. Now the point of this
story was that I was not even TRYING. I had no
intention of re-kindling the old flame, or even
hooking up for a one-nighter. But the C&F stuff
was so ingrained to my behavior, that even my ex-
girlfriend who hated my guts was falling for it.
Thanks man- you're helping humanity.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, well, surprise surprise.
Here's something that I'm hearing more and more
from guys who REALLY understand how to make women
feel ATTRACTION... and who have more dates then
they can handle:
"You know, it's funny... the more I ignore and
don't pursue women, the more they call me and
won't leave me alone."
Why is this?
Think about it.
Because when you don't care, you DO all the
right things, and you SAY all the right things.
Be careful, it sounds like you might turn your
ex into your new stalker!
Your stuff helped me to consciously identify for
the first time what I had done right all these
years (approximately 18 years, counting
"courtship") to get and keep an incredibly
beautiful wife (she's in her low 40's but gets
carded every time she orders a drink). But, more
importantly, you've shone a light on those few
bleak and sadly deficient skills that I'd let
slip, "'cause we're married". Let me tell you,
"My wife is much happier, now!" (I couldn't
understand why she got so irritated when I didn't
care where we ate. I really don't care, but
she'll never hear it from me again.) In fact, we
spent a Saturday afternoon and evening this
weekend that could make a lot of your single
guy/player types jealous!
One final thought that I suppose you could count
as another success: I'm ashamed to say, (from the
context of a married guy) a friend of my wife
appeared to have gotten a little too attracted
from her time hanging out with us. So, I turned it
ALL on ... in REVERSE! You know, "I don't want to
hurt my wife, but I love you. I know we shouldn't
do anything, but I NEED you..." (You know, once
you stop, it's kind of weird to act like a wussy
on purpose!) Anyway, it worked like a charm, you
could almost see the little cartoon cloud where
she had been standing! Well, that was more than I
intended, I just wanted to be counted if you start
tallying up the married guys that respond to your
Q&A. E. Fla.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, I love it when married guys like
yourself write in (which happens more and more
often) and tell me how this stuff is making their
relationships better.
Women never stop wanting a man to do the right
things... if only more men knew this.
And your thought about how to act like a Wuss
on PURPOSE to make a woman run away is great.
Isn't THAT interesting?
I have used both your email book and the cd
seminar with tremendous benefit. I have more than
doubled my dating! I always chuckle at the guys
out there who say you "make up these emails",. I
have at least 10 friends who subscribe to the
newsletter and have written you, and you have
reproduced their emails verbatim. Now for my
question. I have, on several occasions, met women
and , as a segue to cocky and funny, told them I
am chippendale dancer when I responding to the
question of "what do you do for a living". Now I
don't look like a chippendale dancer, (actually
I'm a businessman) but these woman start believing
my story and I run with it all night and I am
cocky/funny to the max (for example, I'll state
that I hate women coming onto me since I'm a
dancer, and that women only use me because I'm a
dancer). Now the question I have is how should I
respond when these women find out I am not a
dancer? I know in your cd seminar one of the
people you interviewed stated he would state
outrageous occupations such as a slave trader. How
far is too far? I can go the whole night with a
make-believe occupation and play along with a
woman. When do you break them the news that you
are not who you state you are, ie dancer?
Eventually you have to to be honest, right? Is
there a point that you have to be honest because
if you are not the woman may think you are a total
liar and not trustworthy. I mean I have played
this role of dancer so convincingly that they
actually believe my story and the attraction level
increases with C & F and they start attacking me,
but I am afraid of the ramifications of what will
happen when they find out that I am not a dancer.
Need some advice from the Mack Master,
Al in D.C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
LOL... Dude, this is funny stuff.
So, let me get this straight... you tell women
that you're a male stripper, and then they fall
for you... and you don't know how to "let them
down easy"?
If a woman actually BELIEVES crazy things like
this, I like to turn it up a notch and say, "Well,
actually I used to be a male stripper, but now I'm
a porn star... are you OK with that?"
I don't like it if a woman believes something
that isn't true for too long... remember, you're
just kidding.
And if a woman DOES believe something for too
long, and then gets a little upset, just say,
"What?! You weren't actually dumb enough to
BELIEVE that I was a male STRIPPER, are you? I
don't think this relationship is going to work. I
would NEVER be with a woman who would date a
STRIPPER..."
And by the way, thanks for mentioning that I
faithfully print the emails that I use in my
newsletters, because I do... they're all real.
Thanks for your email.
First off, i realize you hear this a lot but your
ebook istotally the mack- i've seen a big
difference in my interaction with women which i'll
contribute much of my success to your book.
I've recently been giving some serious thought to
ordering your advanced materials. Here's my
question: With the other 1 billion "buy our stuff
and your success with women will boom for three
easy payments of $19.99" sites, how would you
compare your $195 advanced audio tape series to
{other dating products} which tout basically the
same types of things for about half the price?
Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying your stuff
isn't brilliant, and i realize that i've easily
spent $195 in dates/on women, i just wondered what
your take is.
Thanks a ton and keep up the great work!
-M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, here's the deal...
I'm about to say some things that are going to
make me sound a little too confident, so get
ready...
I spent YEARS trying to figure out how to be
successful with women and dating.
YEARS.
I read books, listened to tapes, went to
seminars... and tried all KINDS of things. I mean,
if you knew half of the stuff that I tried, you'd
laugh your ass off at me.
Most of it didn't work... and the stuff that
did work actually worked IN SPITE of the fact that
it was lame.
I mean, if you do ANYTHING it will work SOME of
the time.
I'm going to tell you something that is both
simple and profound at the same time.
The thing that makes my Advanced Program
different from all the other stuff out there is
that it's BASED on watching and learning from guys
who are "naturally" good with women.
The experience that REALLY took my success to a
high level was watching, learning from, imitating,
testing, and refining what I learned from these
guys.
In fact, I invited several of my friends who
were the MOST influential on me to participate in
the live seminar that was edited into the Advanced
Dating Techniques program, and when you listen to
it, you'll watch and/or hear me interviewing five
of them LIVE.
I've worked hard to create a great set of tools
and techniques, and a logical way to learn them,
understand them, and start using them.
I will bet you that if you listen to or watch
the entire 12+ hours of this program at LEAST 5
times... there are so many killer ideas inside,
you will be thrilled.
You can watch some samples of the program and
get all the details here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
yet, then go do that NOW. You can download it in a
few minutes and be learning some of my best
techniques right from the comfort of your
computer. It's here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
David D.
P.S. Make sure you check out all of the different
programs I've created to help you learn how to
meet and attract women more effectively. You can
see all of them, plus watch great video clips of
each right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
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