Jackson wants his wife to tell him she loves him. She never verbalizes it. "Asking her to say she loves me will be hard. It makes me feel insecure when she doesn't say it. I'm deserving of her love. I expect her to say it. When she can't help but say it, I feel I've earned it. Does that make sense?" Dearest Jackson, You're experiencing repression from your childhood. You think it's weak to ask for verbal appreciation. Your wife didn't have good childhood modeling to be verbally loving. She doesn't know how to say she loves you. This suffering in silence is easy to fix. We play a game in my household called "Tell Me Three Things You Love About Me." I particularly love hearing what Tim loves about me. I also play this with my other family members, including my daughter and close friends. We have fun with it. The idea of the game is never to say the same three things twice. Just keep finding new things you love about the person. You could ask her to play a little game with you, and that way, it wouldn't be asking for yourself because it would be that you're both equally getting the appreciation. Women need to hear words of encouragement. Men appreciate verbal declarations of respect. No matter where we are on the gender spectrum, everyone appreciates words of encouragement, respect, and appreciation. Whether you're single or in a relationship, what I'm about to share will make your life happy. Let me teach you this simple but profound gratitude game called "3 Things I Love About You." Check Out The Video Here ⇐ 3 Things I Love About You BE THE BEST PARTNER AND LOVER I play this with my husband. Sloane Fox, our sensual ambassador at the office, taught this to me. I think you'll love it. Any time I want, I can ask my guy to tell me three things he loves about me, and he will answer. I also play this with my girlfriends. It always makes me feel great. And you get better with practice. My guy is probably atypical because he is good at coming up with reasons why he loves me. But for some people, their brain freezes. When they try to answer, they can think of a million reasons they love their partner. But it all gets jumbled up together and doesn't come out eloquently. For that reason, I wanted to give you twenty free ideas to express your appreciation for your partner and friends. One of the things I love about you is your willingness to keep becoming a better person. Just reading this email shows me that you care about others and want to do good things in the world. I've added the list of questions below. And you can also watch me show you how to do the game on my BetterLover website by clicking on this link. THREE THINGS I LOVE ABOUT YOU ⇐ Watch now (Hear how it's done). Now onto the wonderful gratitude game… APPRECIATION PROMPTS ⇓ 1. I love hearing stories about your ___________. 2. You deserve a gold medal for _____________. 3. You are so good at giving me _____________. 4. I love when you make ___________________. 5. You have the best taste in ________________. 6. When you _________________ it's like magic.7. My favorite place to kiss you is ____________. 8. I like when you hug me ______________ best. 9. I always want to hear what you say about ___________. 10. One of my all-time favorite moments we shared together was __________________. 11. When we first met, the thing I loved about you best was ______________________. 12. You have such a strong ____________. 13. Everyone should be as ______________ as you are. 14. If you were an animal, you'd be a _______________.15. If you were a cuisine, you'd be _________________. (I love to eat you up!) 16. One of the little things you do without thinking that makes me very happy is __________________. 17. One of your skills I admire most is ______________. 18. The sexiest place on your body is ______________. 19. You look hot when __________________________.20. Over time I've grown to seriously appreciate your ability to_______________. There you go! Could you print this list out? Stick it in your wallet and refer to it when you need to. The more you give verbal appreciation to your partner, the happier you'll make them. Part of what you're doing is modeling great behavior when you offer appreciation. The bottom line, it's almost impossible to be too verbally appreciative. Go ahead and start weaving compliments into your everyday relationships. Start complimenting people you work with. Compliment the random people you meet. Being verbally appreciative is a skill. The more you do it, the better you get. And interestingly, don't worry about receiving appreciation. That will occur naturally as you fill the world up with your gratitude. Verbal encouragement works wonders in every relationship. Check Out The Video Here ⇐ 3 Things I Love About You. I also want to give you one of my most talked-about books called The Sexual Soulmate Pact for FREE. 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