| A small percentage of humans are wired to want more sex when they are stressed. But for the large majority, stress is the #1 libido killer. (Poor attachment parenting may well be the #2 reason, more on that later.) If you feel emotions like worry, anxiety, fear, terror, irritation, annoyance, frustration, anger, rage, emotional numbness, shutdown, depression, or despair, according to Dr. Emily Nagoski's book, "Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life," then you are stressed. Uhhh, yeah. Yeah. YEAH! Here are the de-stressing mechanisms that work best for most, including one super awesome SHORTCUT you're going to love. Listen to what Dr. Nagoski says is wrong with the way we are stressed today and why it's so hard on our bodies and thus our sexual potential: (I've paraphrased and condensed Emily's work here, but I encourage you to click the link below and read her fascinating book in total.) 1. Our stress is chronic. We don't take deliberate steps to complete our stress cycles. There's no clear beginning, middle, and end. So the tension hangs out inside of us, making us sick and tired and unable to experience the pleasure of sex. 2. We have an emotion-dismissing culture. "Suck it up." "Get over yourself." "Stiff upper lip." And all that rot! 3. Our ultra-social human brains are good at self-inhibition, stopping the stress mid-cycle because NOW is not an appropriate time to process your feelings. So they get stuffed, stuck, and we are locked into our fear, rage, and despair. That's why we MUST build time, space, and strategies for discharging our stress response cycles, says Emily. HOW? Read on. 
DE-STRESS FOR MORE SEXUAL PLEASURE Remember, the #1 thing you can do to have more sexual pleasure in your life is to lower your chronic stress. You may want to print out this email and find a way to integrate some or all of the following list into your everyday life. And notice that watching TV is not on this list, so don't give me any crap about not having any time for these: 1. Get moving. Run, dance, walk, rebound, get a natural whole-body vibration system… jiggle those bits! "Physical activity is the single most efficient strategy for completing the stress response cycle and recalibrating your nervous system into a calm state. When people say, "Exercise is for stress," that is for realsie real," says Emily. 2. Affection. Get the emotional bonding you need to calm yourself down. Seek and receive a soothing touch, especially in the form of my world-famous "Best Hug In The World." ⇐ Simple Directions Here 3. Any form of meditation. Remember just above when I talked about the stress reduction shortcut? Well, that shortcut is a particular audio track you listen to that trains your brain to slip into the Theta brainwave state easily. Your brain in a stress state runs Beta brainwaves. When meditating, you are in a Theta state. The more you listen to Zen12, the faster your brain slips into the Theta gear. Science has been connecting the dots between lowered stress and meditation for years now. Zen12 gives you meditative stress release in minutes of listening. And here is a link to get a free sample with my blessings: Click Here To Download Zen12 ⇐ Your FREE Stress-Busting Meditation Audio Here Start listening. Not only will your brain de-stress by slipping into the Theta state more quickly, but the Theta state is also the state of orgasm and sexual rapture. This means as you are de-stressing with Zen12, you're training your body to also relax more easily into sexual pleasure. Yippee! 4. Yoga. Tai Chi. QiGong ⇐ My favorite for men's energy cultivation. I recommend the Good Morning Good Evening QiGong with Tristan Truscott and Peter Ragnar. Go here and watch an excellent webinar on QiGong and get a free 6-Step QiGong (also spelled Chi Gong) Blueprint with my link. 5. Sleep. 6. Body scans. 7. A good old cry. 8. Primal screaming. 9. Journaling positive ideas. 10. Art. 11. Grooming and other self-care like massage, hot tubs, infrared saunas. 12. Getting out in any kind of nature. So, what do you choose? What modalities will you use to move through your stress and arrive in a happy, sound body ready and willing to enjoy your god-given pleasure? Email me and tell me what changes you're making or post a comment on our site and share it with us. Stress Less and Love More,
Suz  Susan Bratton, "Intimacy Expert to Millions", is a champion and advocate for all those who desire lifelong intimacy and passion. She is the best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs on lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills such as Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection, Hormone Balancing, The Pump Guide and Thrust In Time. You can find The Susan Bratton Show™ at BetterLover.com, her more personal posts @susanbratton on Instagram, and her new sexual vitality supplements DESIRE with Tribulus, Tongkat Ali and Fenugreek and her wildly successful blood flow booster, FLOW at The20store.com.
P.S. Here's a link to Dr. Nagoski's book if you'd like to read the entire wonderful thing. I've only captured the barest of bits of excellence here for you. 
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