The "TO-DO Formula" For Resolving Intimacy Issues

I honor the light within you...

Susan Bratton Dr. Patti Taylor Sloane Fox Tallulah Sulis

Namaste, Jmonty1945@gmail.com, Namaste means, "I honor the light within you." It's an Indian term that my friend, Dr. Partha Nandi uses on his show, The Dr. Nandi Show. Tim and I just got back last night from Michigan where we flew to film a segment for this upcoming season of the show. You may remember a few weeks ago I asked you to email me back about your sexual vitality - any emotional or physical issues that are holding you back from having the intimacy you desire. I've received hundreds of emails with the most heart-wrenching stories. Thank you to all of you who shared your deeply personal struggles. It helps me be a better support to you to know these stories. I want to help "fix" everyone's struggles. And as I meditated on how I might help as many as possible I realized that the segment I created for the Dr. Nandi Show was the most beneficial advice I could provide to you. The 4 Steps To Resolve Embarrassing, Painful, Emotionally and Physically-Challenging Intimacy Issues with the TO-DO Framework. Midlife can take its toll on our intimacy. Whether lovemaking has become painful, or you're dealing with erectile issues, lack of libido, sensation loss, chronic health problems or body image issues, you don't have to give up your pleasure and connection just because you're aging. There are two big obstacles to bringing back that loving feeling. The first is becoming aware that new regenerative techniques can turn back the clock to give couples the feeling of being young again. The other is talking to your partner about what's not working because of fear, shame or embarrassment. You've heard that the number one factor to longevity is having a happy relationship. According to the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one that spans nearly 80 years, finds that "how happy we are in our relationships has a powerful influence on our health," says Robert Waldinger, director of the study, a psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital and a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. "Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation." Sex, Money and Kids are the top three things couples fight about... Which is why a couple must remember two important things: 1) Your partner is your ally and 2) Relationship is a practice. Here's my four-step TO-DO Framework for resolving intimacy issues with your partner, even when it embarrasses you or makes you feel ashamed or guilty - all common feelings that come from the loss of sexual vitality that is a part of the aging process. The TO-DO Framework helps you get to the source of your waning intimacy so you can work together to find solutions. There are four steps to the TO-DO Framework. 1) Time - Set A Date To Bring The Issues To Light. 2) Obstacles - Where Are We Now And What's In The Way? 3) Determine - Where Would We Like To Be? 4) Overcome - What Do We Do About It? Let's take them step-by-step: 1) Time - Set A Date To Bring The Issues To Light. There's no getting around communication. It's the bedrock of a good relationship. But most couples find sexuality the hardest issue to discuss. By the time you hit middle age, life begins to get real. Your problems won't go away or become any easier if you wait. Sexual health problems are best nipped in the bud. You have to accept that these problems won't go away unless you get on the same page to find solutions. When you discuss your sex life, it's important to reassure each other. A highly-functioning couple uses reassurance as a prime tool in their communication toolbox. It's important to set a date and location where you won't be interrupted, and you'll have plenty of time to unearth all of your worries and concerns. Rushing creates stress. Stress shuts down your resources. If you mention an issue the cuff, it could create upset for you or your partner. Sitting on the sofa, holding each other's hands can be very comforting. Leaving a lot of space for more feelings to arise and get put on the table helps you find solutions more easily. Planning in advance so you're well fed and hydrated, in a calm mood and focused on supporting each other will make the discussion less confronting and open up more possible solutions. When you're together the first place to start is with a level set and tender hearts... 2) Obstacles - Where Are We Now And What's In The Way? Each of you can take turns sharing your perspective about what's happening in your intimate life. Explain how age is affecting you. You want to share what's changed. Explain what's changed for you and how that affects you. Share what you miss about the way things used to be. Be as specific as possible using examples of what you liked about the way things used to be and how they are for you now. Use "I Statements," instead of "You statements." Instead of, "Since you went through menopause you reject me every time I try to get intimate," you'd say, "I feel alone and rejected since right around the time when you went through menopause." "It makes me crazy to have to shout at you all the time. It's like we're constantly fighting because you can't hear me," turns into, "I'd like to schedule an appointment for you at the audiologist to see how we can improve your hearing so I don't have to shout at you all the time." "You don't even look at me anymore," becomes, "I'd like to explore hair restoration because I'm feeling very unattractive and old looking. The story I'm telling myself is that I'm less appealing to you now that I'm going bald." In addition to what's changed and what you miss, also include all of your fears. You can go back and forth taking turns finishing this sentence: I'm afraid ___________. • I'm afraid you don't find me attractive anymore. • I'm afraid that because intercourse is painful you're never going to want to be intimate again. • I'm afraid that because you've gone through cancer I'll never have sex again and I'll be stuck in a sexless marriage. • I'm afraid that you're avoiding me because you have ED. • I'm afraid that you're going to divorce me and marry a younger woman. When you open yourself vulnerably, this gives your partner a chance to reassure you. What you'll find is that their concerns are often far from your own reality and experience. And in those places where the problem is painful sex, erectile dysfunction, lack of libido, hearing loss, or hair loss, there are many things you can do to fix the issue. The process of uncovering the obstacles and surfacing those that are actually an issue, not an imagined fear gets you to the next step. Make a list of what the root problems are to set yourself up for the next step. 3) Determine - Where Would We Like To Be? Often in midlife, you're not trying to be 30 again. You don't need to reverse mid-life aging to how it was in your youth. You just need to do some simple remediation. Instead of hoping for a daily delight, you might be fine with a once-a-week lovemaking date. This is the time when you share what it is you want now in your intimate life. Do you want to be held more? Are you looking for more affection? Do you want to experience something that you've never tried and cross it off your bucket list? Get all your desires down and begin to figure out what just needs to go on the list of fun things you want to do versus the list called, "Research Solutions." 4) Overcome - What Do We Do About It? Your list might end up looking like this: • Research the best ways to reverse ED. • Get a consultation for Bio-Identical Hormone Replacement. • Look into Red Light Therapy for Skin Tone and Hair Loss. • Buy some organic coconut and sweet almond oil. • Schedule date night once per week. • Learn a new bedroom skill together. Then you divide and conquer. Who will do the research? Who makes the appointments? What is your budget? Check in on your progress at resolving your issues at the first of every month. Have a date to sit down and go over how you're feeling and what still needs work. Celebrate your progress. Thank each other for being great communicators that can accomplish important tasks together. To recap, the TO-DO Framework steps are: 1) Time - Set A Date To Bring The Issues To Light. 2) Obstacles - Where Are We Now And What's In The Way? 3) Determine - Where Would We Like To Be? 4) Overcome - What Do We Do About It? You can use this framework for all kinds of issues that come up not just in your love life, but throughout your life. Thanks to my friend and mentor, Dr. Susan Campbell for helping me organize this formula! I can't support you at this level of smarts without my mentors. ♥ This week's articles are all about expanding your experiences in your life and relationships. Take a few minutes off to go through the ones you like.

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Breakthroughs In Intimacy, Suz Susan Bratton, "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" of lovers who crave lifelong intimacy and passion. As the Dear Abby of Sex, she has helped create and revive countless sex lives with her bestselling books and programs such as Relationship Magic, Sexual Soulmates, The Passion Patch, Revive Her Drive and her Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection. For more insider tips, follow her on Instagram and subscribe to her Better Lover YouTube channel.

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LAST CHANCE To Travel With The Longevity Project

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Susan Bratton Dr. Patti Taylor Sloane Fox Tallulah Sulis I'm sending this email to you again just in case you missed it. FREE ACCESS to all the travel documentary videos in the Human Longevity Project is about to go away by July 1st. You only have a few days left to check it out. Click Here For An All Access Pass ⇐ Human Longevity Project Travel Documentary Videos Do you want to live a long and healthy life? Do you like travel videos that show interesting cultures? Here is a longevity video series you can watch at zero cost online this coming week. These segments are more interesting than what's on Netflix and they are free. (and they offer DVD's if you want to add them to your collection to watch anytime) My friend, and health researcher, Jason Prall traveled to these parts of the world himself to learn more about what makes some people live to 90 and 100. He also interviewed leading researchers, doctors and experts to uncover the underlying mechanisms that afforded them such long, healthy and happy lives. The results are stunning. Jason is revealing these findings in a first-of-its-kind documentary series. You can follow along as he travels to these beautiful places. You Can Watch It All For FREE Here ⇐ The Human Longevity Project FREE ALL ACCESS PASS IS ENDING By July 1st TRAVEL DREAMS You can sit in on the life-changing expert interviews. And you can learn the secrets of the world's most healthy people, and how to apply their wisdom to your modern life. There's practically no reason why you should sit this out. The fact that it's about how YOU and I can live better, healthier, stronger, longer lives is fascinating, relevant, and crucial. I believe the information revealed in this series can change our future and the future of our children for the better. With so many people suffering from preventable diseases, and so much confusion coming from the health space, I know that this is what the world needs right now. Straight from the source. Straight from the healthiest people on the planet. The BEST part about this is, while you can watch all the videos FREE online during this time period, you also get the option to order a DVD set of your own so you can watch it anytime, anywhere, with family and friends. You Can Watch It All For FREE Here ⇐ The Human Longevity Project FREE ALL ACCESS PASS IS ENDING By July 1st LIVE LONGER AND BETTER Watch together with those you love and care about, and discover how to live better, healthier, stronger, and longer lives. Live Fully, Suz Susan Bratton, "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" of lovers who crave lifelong intimacy and passion. As the Dear Abby of Sex, she has helped create and revive countless sex lives with her bestselling books and programs such as Relationship Magic, Sexual Soulmates, The Passion Patch, Revive Her Drive and her Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection. For more insider tips, follow her on Instagram and subscribe to her Better Lover YouTube channel. P.S. Ridiculously Stimulating Articles You Might Have Missed: From self-doubt to Limitless Possibility My dear friend and international bestseller Natalie Ledwell has a wonderful book to help you not only believe in yourself again. But to also turn that belief into rocket fuel for your greatest goals. Learn more here. "My sensual life has been dead forever..." (Mailbag) One of my fans sent me an email about his almost non-existent sensual life. I want you to overcome whatever obstacles are in the way of your passion and intimacy and get it on with your partner again. Read more. Amazing NEW sex toy (20% OFF) It can wrap around your penis for self pleasure or like a cockring during intercourse to hit her clitoris and give him pleasure too. ☄ Hog Tied! Kinky Sex Toys For Couples - Blindfolds and Restraints (VIDEOS) Discover tools and tricks for bondage, power play, sensation play, domination, and everything you could ever fantasize while still being sweetly sexy. Susan Bratton "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" susan@personallifemedia.com CEO, Personal Life Media, Inc. My Youtube "Better Lover" Channel Instagram @SusanBratton Personal Life Media, Inc. 20 Sunnyside Ave., #212 Mill Valley, CA 94941 USA, (650) 948-0500 support@personallifemedia.com Note: We frequently partner with companies providing products and services featured in our emails in an affiliate relationship. We vet the products in advance to ensure they are trusted resources and recommend you do your own research before you purchase too. We welcome your feedback and recommendations. If you find something of value, let us know. If we recommend something that doesn't work for you, let us know why. We care! Help us send you more relevant content. Click below to update your Account: Married | Single | Male | Female Your EMAIL preference: Explicit | Non-Explicit Contact Us | Unsubscribe Copyright © 2019 - Personallifemedia.com

7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes

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Susan Bratton Dr. Patti Taylor Sloane Fox Tallulah Sulis "He should know by now how much that upsets me." "Why can't he try to figure it out? Why do I always have to tell him?" "She can't take a hint." "If he really loved me, he'd know what I mean." Do you expect your partner to read your mind? This strategy is doomed to fail, according to Carolyn N. Bushong, author of The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes. It's unfair to your partner and to yourself because you will continually be angry that you don't get what you want. You will begin to feel like you are not really loved. And all because you are not communicating. Carolyn warns that because women generally talk about their feelings more easily, they need to make sure they give their guys time to respond instead of steamrolling over them. Here are her suggested Four Steps To Healthy Communication. 1. Express yourself. "I feel [a specific emotion] whenever you [specify exactly what he or she does]." Click Here To Get The Soulmate Embrace (FREE Download) ⇐ Easy Technique Melts Lovers Together (This Is How Women Want To Be Held) Click Here For Relationship Magic ⇐ Why Treating Your Partner How You Want To Be Treated Is Actually Making Things Worse MAKE LOVE WORK 2. State what you want. "I want [a specific behavior]." 3. Ask for a commitment. "Will you [give me what I want - be even more specific]?" 4. Outline the consequences of your mate's reluctance or refusal to commit themselves to change: "If not, I will [state specifically what you will do]." If this feels like you're issuing an ultimatum, just be careful that you are not threatening and are even-handed in your emotions. It's important to make it clear that you are holding yourself and your partner accountable for their behavior. Eliminating the fear of the unknown removes a significant amount of stress between you two. Give this a try and make sure you don't miss all seven of the mistakes even smart people make to ruin their relationship. One of my most favorite things to do to initiate intimacy and warmth with your partner is with the Soulmate Embrace. This special kind of way of holding your partner is the perfect way to put both of you in the mood for understanding, presence, and openness. Click Here To Get The Soulmate Embrace (FREE Download) ⇐ Easy Technique Melts Lovers Together (This Is How Women Want To Be Held) I'd also love for you to check out Relationship Magic. It's one of my most foundational books on communication techniques to creating love and intimacy in your relationship, or re-sparking lost the romance. Click Here For Relationship Magic ⇐ Why Treating Your Partner How You Want To Be Treated Is Actually Making Things Worse Free Intimacy, Susan Susan Bratton, "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" of lovers who crave lifelong intimacy and passion. As the Dear Abby of Sex, she has helped create and revive countless sex lives with her bestselling books and programs such as Relationship Magic, Sexual Soulmates, The Passion Patch, Revive Her Drive and her Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection. For more insider tips, follow her on Instagram and subscribe to her Better Lover YouTube channel. P.S. Ridiculously Stimulating Articles You Might Have Missed: From self-doubt to Limitless Possibility My dear friend and international bestseller Natalie Ledwell has a wonderful book to help you not only believe in yourself again. But to also turn that belief into rocket fuel for your greatest goals. Learn more here. "My sensual life has been dead forever..." (Mailbag) One of my fans sent me an email about his almost non-existent sensual life. I want you to overcome whatever obstacles are in the way of your passion and intimacy and get it on with your partner again. Read more. Amazing NEW sex toy (20% OFF) It can wrap around your penis for self pleasure or like a cockring during intercourse to hit her clitoris and give him pleasure too. ☄ Hog Tied! Kinky Sex Toys For Couples - Blindfolds and Restraints (VIDEOS) Discover tools and tricks for bondage, power play, sensation play, domination, and everything you could ever fantasize while still being sweetly sexy. Susan Bratton "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" susan@personallifemedia.com CEO, Personal Life Media, Inc. My Youtube "Better Lover" Channel Instagram @SusanBratton Personal Life Media, Inc. 20 Sunnyside Ave., #212 Mill Valley, CA 94941 USA, (650) 948-0500 support@personallifemedia.com Help us send you more relevant content. Click below to update your Account: Married | Single | Male | Female Your EMAIL preference: Explicit | Non-Explicit Contact Us | Unsubscribe Copyright © 2019 - Personallifemedia.com