How To Ask For What You Need In A Relationship

Which mistakes are you making?

Susan Bratton Dr. Patti Taylor Sloane Fox Tallulah Sulis "He should know by now how much that upsets me." "Why can't he try to figure it out? Why do I always have to tell him?" "She can't take a hint." "If he really loved me, he'd know what I mean." The seven ways to make love really work according to Carolyn N. Bushong, author of, "The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make." MAKE LOVE WORK Do you expect your partner to read your mind? This strategy is doomed to fail, according to Carolyn N. Bushong, author of The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes. It's unfair to your partner and to yourself because you will continually be angry because you don't get what you want. You will begin to feel like you are not really loved. And all because you are not communicating. Carolyn warns that because women generally talk about their feelings more easily, they need to make sure they give their guys time to respond instead of steamrolling over them. Here are her suggested Four Steps To Healthy Communication. 4 STEPS TO HEALTHY COMMUNICATION 1. Express yourself. "I feel [a specific emotion] whenever you [specify exactly what he or she does]." 2. State what you want. "I want [a specific behavior]." 3. Ask for a commitment. "Will you [give me what I want - be even more specific]?" 4. Outline the consequences of your mate's reluctance or refusal to commit themselves to change: "If not, I will [state specifically what you will do]." If this feels like you're issuing an ultimatum, just be careful that you are not threatening and are even-handed in your emotions. It's important to make it clear that you are holding yourself and your partner accountable for their behavior. Eliminating the fear of the unknown removes a significant amount of stress between you two. Give this a try and make sure you don't miss all seven of the mistakes even smart people make to ruin their relationship. The seven ways to make love really work according to Carolyn N. Bushong, author of, "The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make." Free Intimacy, Susan P.S. If you haven't yet completed your Relationship Magic workbook, how the heck are you going to get what you want in your relationship? And to ask for what you want, you have to know what you want. Relationship Magic is the exercise that helps you zero in on what is most important to you so you can tell your partner and they will have a clear understanding about how to make you the most happy. Ridiculously Stimulating Articles You Might Have Missed ORAL: "Why it turns me on to give my husband oral sex." (Mailbag) "I started giving head with him and I love doing it because I love him! It turns me on just as much as it does him! Now, his manhood can get up to 10.5 or larger! It amazes both of us!" What triggers you and your partner? If you find yourself triggered by people at times, you will want to read this. And if you don't, read it anyway, because you can become an even more compassionate communicator. And Watch For More Awesome Articles Coming This Week Friday - ♫ Play This for Electrifying Sex (Pic) - ♂ How To Get Him To Take The Lead In The Bedroom Saturday - ♋ Complimentary 2017 Astrology Reading Sunday - 3 Elements of Charismatic People - Complimentary Numerology Chart 2017 (Gift) Like Me on Facebook Revive Her Drive Blog Susan Bratton "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions" CEO, Personal Life Media, Inc. susan@personallifemedia.com Personal Life Media, Inc. 20 Sunnyside Ave., #212 Mill Valley, CA 94941 USA, (650) 948-0500 support@personallifemedia.com Help us send you more relevant content. Click below to update your Account: Married | Single | Male | Female Your EMAIL preference: Explicit | Non-Explicit Contact Us | Unsubscribe Copyright © 2016 - Personallifemedia.com