I Can Identify With ALL Of These Incredibly PAINFUL Scenarios, Too
In fact, I've been through each of them... some more than once. And I'll tell you... I can remember the pain and the desperation I felt each time.
I mean, it sucked. I hated it.
Probably the worst part of it was the feeling of powerlessness that went along with each time. It's bad enough having the woman you like or love leave you... but to have to also deal with the fact that you don't know how to change things, and there's nothing you can do about it is just plain depressing.
Again, if you've been there, nod silently with me as we jump into:
How To Make Sure You NEVER Have A Woman Leave You Again
I want to begin with a startling revelation:
Most likely, in all of these scenarios, THE REAL PROBLEM ISN'T WHAT YOU THINK
The first thing you must realize in this type of situation is that the problem you're dealing with isn't what you think it is. Most guys naturally assume that the woman is leaving them because he's not being nice enough, or he's not giving her what she wants, or he's not being a good boyfriend... etc.
Or they assume that this is just one of those things that happens, that feelings change and that there's really nothing he could have done anyway.
Well, these ideas, and almost all the others that most guys think, are DEAD WRONG. So step one is for you to realize that what you think you know is wrong. Throw it out. Start over, and open your mind to a new way of seeing things. I'll share more on this later.
First I Want To Tell You What NOT To Do...
Now I know that this is going to sound pretty obvious, but if what you're doing isn't working in a particular situation, you need to stop. Don't keep doing what's not working.
In other words, if the woman you love is breaking up with you, and you've been being nice to her, doing whatever she wants, and telling her that you'll do anything to make it better... if only she'll stay... then stop. Stop doing that.
Whatever it is you're doing that isn't working isn't working. So stop it immediately. More of the same is only going to get you more of what is happening.
Next you need to know:
Why ATTRACTION Is Everything
One of the main reasons why I talk about and teach the concept of attraction is that when it comes to these types of situations, the real underlying reason for them is usually that the woman doesn't feel attraction anymore.
When it all boils down, she just plain does not feel it.
Now, a woman will say and do all kinds of things other than telling you that this is the problem. Women have all these ideas in their heads, like "I can't tell him how I really feel because I don't want to hurt his feelings" and "I can't tell him what's going on because I don't want to emasculate him" and "It's just easier if I just go away."
Love it. But when you take away all of the B. S., and you get right to the core of what's going on, you'll usually find that it all boils down to attraction... or, more specifically, the lack of attraction.
And with that I'm going to say something that's pretty bold right now...
If you do not know how to make a woman feel the gut level physical and emotional response called attraction, then you are going to be out of control in relationships, and you will very likely have women leave you for the rest of your life.
In other words, there is no security when you don't get it in the attraction department. Women know that they have the upper hand with most men. As a guy, you can feel it when a woman has you by the balls. And even if she's not evil or mean, a woman can still crush you emotionally when she's in this powerful position.
Well, guess what?
You're The One Who Gives Women The Power To Hurt You
Now, if you choose, you can keep this power for yourself.
Before I give you some tips on how to do this, I want to recommend something to you. If you know that you give your power away to women too often, and you'd like to get a serious mental overhaul in this area, then check this out before you read the next section:
Now, on to...
How To Solve This Problem BEFORE It Starts
The best way to deal with this particular problem is to solve it before it even starts, and the absolute most important prevention method is an understanding of female psychology and attraction.
Here are a few pointers to get you started:
1) Women are NEVER attracted to "wussies"
To say it another way, women don't feel attraction for weak men. Sure, if you chase a woman for long enough, and buy her enough things, she may fall for you. But in that case it's not because she feels attraction for you. It's because she feels affection for you, and she confuses it with attraction.
So if your inner wussy has been taking the wheel, evict it. Slap the wuss out of yourself right now.
2) Don't be predictable
Predictability is a mortal sin when it comes to attraction. If a woman can guess what you're going to do or say, you're being predictable. If she can't guess what you're going to do or say, she'll always be wondering...
Now, keep in mind that women are much better at predicting behavior than men. So if you're going to stop being predictable, then you're going to need to learn how. To begin with, pause before you do and say things. Think about what you'd normally do, then do something else. Throw in some crazy, off-the-wall stuff for good measure.
3) Don't be boring
Boring is the bastard child of predictable. When you are so predictable that nothing is new or different, then you are officially boring. Boring is also the lack of adventure, passion, energy, humor, and attraction.
Unfortunately, most men are really, really, really boring. I mean, like, shoot-yourself boring. Like, if there was a boring score that took into account everything from food to clothing to interests to conversation, most men would score a 99.75 on a 100 scale. It's a bad situation.
I used to be pretty damn boring myself, so boring, in fact, that I could probably be certified as an expert on the topic. So take it from me, boring is bad. I don't care what you have to do to stop being boring, but do it.
A quick idea is to take up a "real man" hobby. And no, I'm not talking about turning yourself into biker dude, or one of those fisherman on Deadliest Catch is that's not you. Here's what I'm saying:
- Try wine collecting, not comic book collecting
- Do mountain biking, not chemistry
- Talk fashion with a woman, not X-Box
You feel me? There is a way to communicate with women about your life that prevents you from being boring. I suggest that you pay attention to the things you're learning from me so you get it.
Okay, now I'm going to really stick my neck out... this one is going to make the little baby hairs stand up on the backs of necks of women all over the world...
BREAK UP WITH HER FIRST!
If you find yourself in one of these bad situations that I mentioned above, and you sense that the woman in your life is about to leave... just do it. Don't hesitate. Cut the line. HIT THE ROAD.
As you've heard me say quite a few times, it's important to give a woman the gift of missing you. No matter what your emotions tell you to do, you have to end it first. If you want to have any chance of having things work out in the long run, then you need to take control of the situation, and break up with her.
From this position, you will then be able to see things more clearly, and she will be about 100 times more likely to want to work things out with you.
I know, this is a damn hard thing to do when you're in the heat of the moment... but if you don't do it, you'll probably wind up with her leaving... and you feeling that lame powerless feeling that I described earlier. Oh, and by the way...
If you really want to increase your chances of having things work out, then you should also start dating other women as well.
But let's not talk too much more about this one, because I'm already in the danger zone here.
To wrap up, let me talk about one more thing...
As I mentioned before, the real thing that causes women to leave comes down to the man in her life not understanding ATTRACTION and how to make her feel it for him. And, as I mentioned, no woman is ever going to tell this to you. Instead, she's just going to leave.
When I first started learning all of this stuff about how to be successful with women and dating, I had no idea that I would wind up solving the mystery of why women leave men. I was only looking for the answer to how to get a woman in the first place... I never even thought about keeping one once I got her...
But now I realize that this particular topic usually winds up being the most important one, because once you find that amazing woman, and get something good going, you certainly don't want to lose her.
And when you find yourself in the situation, and you realize that the woman you have is about to leave... you would basically do anything to stop it.
Of course, at that point it's usually too late to do anything... which sucks. So one of the most important things you can do right now in your life is:
Learn What Makes Women Feel ATTRACTION... And Learn To Create It
What's the best way, you ask? Oh, I just happen to have a couple of ideas...
Basically, I'm the only person I know of in the history of the planet who has designed an entire program around how to make women feel attraction for you so you can save yourself several years of trial and error... not to mention thousands of hours of study and research.
Yes, that's right. This is as close to a life-changing "miracle cure" as you're going to get. And where can you get all of this amazing insight and training... and get it without any risk whatsoever?
And, if you'd like to get an introduction to my basic concepts and techniques, then you need to go download my online eBook Double Your Dating right now. You can download it right now and be reading it in just a few minutes. It's right here.
Look, no one is going to do this FOR you. You need to do it for yourself. So get to it.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
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