Online Dating Tips & Secrets: June 2010

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Why A Wussy Can't Attract Women

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***QUESTION***

Dave,

I got your book and I've read it twice. It's
helped me to pinpoint areas where I need to
improve and basically understand some of why women
do what they do. However I have a situation.
Normally, I'm a smart ass, I'm always making smart
comments, and a general joker. The problem is,
when I go to a club or a bar, with gorgeous HBs
(Hot Babes), my mind goes blank. It's almost like
my brain locks and all i can do is look without
anything to say. Needless to say it frustrates the
hell outta me. Any advice? Should I do some
affirmations? How do I overcome this?

Signed,

Pissed off in DC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think your problem is really pretty simple.

You are experiencing something that I have been
through a bazillion times. In fact, I think that
most guys have been through this cycle at some
point in life.

One of the ideas that I teach is "Have one good
default thing to do in each common situation".

In other words, it sounds to me like you just
haven't taken the time to work out a basic system
for yourself that will allow you to meet any woman
you come across in one of these situations.

Here's your homework:

Take out a piece of paper right now, and write
down your one single favorite way to start a
conversation with a woman.

Next, plan out EXACTLY how it should go in your
mind.

Next, mentally rehearse this scenario over and
over and over until you have it clearly in your
mind.

Finally, go out tomorrow night and use this one
introduction to meet 10 women.

The next day, sit down again for a few minutes
and think about how it worked for you.

Think about ways you could improve your
approach, and if you come up with some good
innovations, go ahead and do the same process of
mentally rehearsing the new ideas until you have
them down.

One thing that really makes me laugh is that
MOST GUYS SPEND MORE TIME REHEARSING THEIR
VOICEMAIL MESSAGE THAN THEY DO REHEARSING
SCENARIOS WITH WOMEN.

You need one good, solid, default thing to do
in each common situation with women. So pick one,
and refine it until your mind no longer goes
blank!

***COMMENT***

Hey, one of the things I noticed about stupid guys
who can't get laid or even a phone number is that
they aren't around women enough. Having your own
business, or doing sales makes you realize that
you have to let people, or in this case women know
about your product, you. I am always amazed by
guys who whine they can't meet any chicks and then
stay home and masturbate on a Friday night, or
even worse drink at some dive bar where there are
no women. This may sound rudimentary but go
shopping once in a while, be around them; there
are insecure women everywhere for the taking,
especially on a Sunday afternoon, if you know what
I mean.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Preach it, my brother.

Sometimes I don't mention the obvious enough.
And I thank you for reminding me and everyone else
of one of the basic fundamental truths about being
successful with women.

Thanks again!

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi,

I read some of your articles that I found very
interesting. My brother shows me it and tell me a
lot of things that he had learned. But I used to
ask him, what can I do to attract man. He suggest
me to ask you, maybe you can give me some advice
or show me a good link for women.

For about 13 years, I was part of a very strict
religion. Now I'm out of it. I'm 28 years old and
still virgin. I feel very naive about
relationships and sex and I'm looking for good
advices about these topics. Which web sites would
you recommend me? Is your program going to help a
female? I would really appreciate your help.

Thanks in advance.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you want to get the virginity thing
handled, just go out any night to any bar in any
town and walk up to any guy and say "Hi, would you
like to have sex?"

It goes without saying that you'll want to use
protection, but as a woman I don't think you're
going to have much of a problem meeting a willing
man!

lol...

I thought your email was interesting because
most guys assume WAY too much about women, and
they don't realize that women are insecure,
inexperienced, and uncertain in many situations as
well.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

First off, fantastic book! It's the Holy Grail of
Manhood, methinks! I have plenty of girls getting
a rise out of my C-F attitude--it doesn't make
sense at all but, like you say, to them it's
magic. For example, a few weeks ago I approached a
really attractive girl (about an 8.5) at a
stop walk downtown by busting on her about her
platform heels she had on (made some reference to
Studio 54), got her digits and told her we should
have coffee sometime--she loved the idea. When we
met downtown for coffee, she said there was a
particular shoppe she would like to go to, I
firmly said 'No' and took her to another one. It
was fantastic Dave!!! The day was beautiful and,
yes, there was much more for dessert that day than
my Biscotti :)

Now, I just graduated college and work in a large
Midwestern city. I'm a good looking guy, well
dressed, smart, pretty nice job, stylish...the
whole package, right? I also have a thing for
older women...MILF's if you will. I've recently
been hitting this martini bar where quite a few
attractive (and well-to-do) women go. I've been
reluctant to use the CF technique that I use on
college girls on older women, as they probably
don't play the same 'games' younger ladies do.
What is your advice? Younger girls are great and
energetic, but those 35-year old's have something
you only get with age...experience.

Thanks Dave!! Can't wait for the next book!!

D, Indianapolis

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Mature, intelligent women LOVE a Cocky & Funny
man.

I think you're going to find that sophisticated
women are FAR MORE receptive to your new charm
techniques than their younger counterparts...

But be careful. Older women are more
experienced, have been through more games, and
know what they want and how to get it.

You might be writing me soon to ask me why your
new girlfriend has you wearing a collar and
barking like a dog.

***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

First off, props to you on the book. The book is
really about how to take control of your life and
get what you want from it. That's awesome. I dated
this really gorgeous chick that was in med school.
I did the whole cocky and funny routine. Works
like magic. Here's an example: "I love you, V." Me
laughing ... I love me too. That's when I had to
bail on her. She even bought me some pimp Versace
gear.

I am stuck in a difficult situation. Due to the
way I look, dress, and talk, girls assume that I
am a player. I am very,very inexperienced however.
I have had a few times where I am about to seal
the deal, and some girl will ask me, "How many
girls have you been with ?" or "You are a player
aren't you ?" I have never sealed the deal and if
I tell them this they don't believe me and some
will just get mad and leave. I am not sure what I
should say in this situation. I think some of
your book is based on being able to kiss properly
such as the kiss test or the c+f comment, "I don't
even know if you kiss well. " I do not even know
how to kiss properly. I can be cocky and funny and
can attract girls but then I don't know how to be
cocky and funny and bring up that I have never
done anything. Please help me resolve this because
armed with my determination and my improving
skills.

V-Man

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're too much.

She even bought you "some pimp Versace gear"?

Nice!

OK, you say that you've read my book, but you
must have missed page 92. I explain exactly how to
deal with this kind of situation ("How To Answer
Any Question That You Don't Want To Answer").

Here, let me get creative for you...

She asks: "Are you a player?"

You answer: "Are you trying to hide the fact
that YOU are?"

One key in situations like this is to NEVER
give a woman a direct answer.

Use your Cocky & Funny skills to come up with 5
good answers, and use them.

Maybe say, "Yes, I play sports... what do you
like?"

As you can see, I like to turn questions and
accusations around and guess that they're trying
to hide the fact that what they're asking about is
something wrong with THEM.

Just don't answer directly... and most women
will give up.

If you get defensive and say "Oh, no no no...
I'm not a Player at all..." most women won't
believe you anyway - even if you're NOT a player.

You need some more "Cocky & Funny" skillz, my
man. Go read this to get them:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy/

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave, well, like everyone else that's written
I must say your book helped, even before when I
read your letters every week they helped. I've had
a lot of success. Well I would of never expected
myself to email you, cause there was really no
point, cause your book helped a lot, but sadly...
that day has come, where I need help.. oh yes. Ok,
Thanks to you I got jiggy with it, got girls, but
I fell head over heals with this one girl. Make a
long story short. I went out with her, she'd
always have fun, but still I wasn't always at my
full potential cause she was the one that made me
feel all tingly inside and I had just gotten your
book. But, there was this one occasion where I
listened to my friend.. he said "tell her you like
her".. but I knew I shouldn't cause you always say
never tell a girl you like them. Well, you guessed
it. I told her that. And everything started going
down hill after that. And to make matters worse, I
finished everything off with her, and well said
some things I regret. After that happened and
tried to forget about her, but she IMed me once
saying she wanted to give me back something I had
given her for her birthday, but she didn't want to
give it to me personally. Still had fun teasing
her, but nothing. Then I went out with some girls
got #'s to keep my mind off her. Went on vacation.
but nothing. 2 months without her drove me crazy,
so I emailed her a couple times 3 to be exact.
Made them as cocky and funny as they could be. But
no cigar. Now I'm just doomed. Sure people have
told me to move on, and probably you'll say that.
But I've tried, but I feel like she's the one. But
she despises me, or so I think. So Dave, is there
something you can tell this grashopper to try get
her back or try to do to I don't know.. it's tough
though.

Sincerely,

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ouch.

As you know, you've done a VERY VERY VERY bad
thing...

YOU TURNED INTO A WUSSY!

Here's your homework:

Take out an entire blank notebook full of paper
and write the following by hand:

"I will not act like a WUSSY. I will not act
like a WUSSY. I will not act like a WUSSY."

When you've filled the notebook you may stop.

Get it?

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

And of course you've gone and made the
situation worse with each move you've made...
probably to the point where there's not much
you're going to be able to do about it.

Just get on with your life, and let this be a
lesson to you and anyone reading this. Don't act
like a WUSSY! Don't tell a woman you "like" her
too early on. Don't call her too often. Don't act
clingy and needy. STOP THAT!

When you act like a Wuss, women lose their
ATTRACTION for you... and they can't even explain
why it's happening.

So stop it!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have to say first and foremost that you are a
genius. While I have had some very good looking
girlfriends, it never dawned on me the reason that
we were never together very long was because I
acted like a wuss, and got way too clingy. I am
not a great looking guy, but most girls (even
really good looking ones), have described me as
being "cute" (consequently, I have realized that a
guy's looks have very, very little to do with
being successful with women--maybe like 5%). I
have been putting your tactics to work lately and
I have to admit they work like a charm, as I have
gotten more email addresses and phone numbers than
I know what to do with. I am a House DJ in a
nightclub and this affords me the perfect
opportunity to talk to good looking girls since I
am approached by or talked to at least 3 or 4
times a night by such girls, either asking me
questions about the music or if I have a certain
song. While I don't have a lot of time to talk to
them (usually no more than 2 or 3 minutes), I have
been able to get their email and phone numbers
very quickly using your techniques (even when
their boyfriends are with them at the
club...hahahaha... more on that later). Basically,
I start busting on them about something or other
and get them laughing (usually because they don't
know the name of the song and start trying to
imitate it or sing the words in it...), and then I
come out with "So, are you single?". Most of the
time they tell me "no, I have a boyfriend".

Now this is an important point for a lot of your
readers. Everyone, listen up!

Just because a woman says she has a boyfriend
doesn't mean it's true.

I have found on numerous occasions that women I
have gotten emails and phone numbers from have
been single, after they have told me they have a
boyfriend. It almost seems like they are using it
as a test to see what you are going to do. I
really don't get it, but I stopped trying to
figure it out, just follow your advice and don't
let it worry me. Most of the time when they say
they have boyfriends they offer no resistance when
I ask for their email and phone number. (Forgive
me Dave, I haven't followed your advice to the
"T". I admit I haven't attempted the "it was nice
meeting you, I need to get back to work." and then
as she is leaving say "Hey! do you have an email?"
The method I use has been working pretty good for
me, but I will try doing this when I meet women
outside the club, especially the ones at the gym I
go to-- which I haven't really approached yet)

One case that stands out in particular happened
last weekend when this extremely hot brunette with
a body to die for (probably 9.75/10) came up and
we started talking.(the guy running the lights
almost started drooling) She told me right off
the bat she had a boyfriend. I asked if she was
tired of him yet, and she giggled and said "no,
we've been going out for about 3 years, we've had
our ups and downs, but things are going allright
now.", smiled and then said to me "you are so
sweet though" and put her head on my shoulder. She
then immediately asked me "Why, are you single?" I
laughed and said "Maybe. Why, do you know someone
who might be interested in me?" She smiIed again,
and I knew I had her at this point. I then said
"Don't you think it's going to be hard to think of
your boyfriend when it's so obvious you are
attracted to me?" She smiled again and kind of
cocked her head sideways, but didn't say anything,
so I followed up with "Wow, three years is a long
time...when's the wedding date?" She said "Oh, he
isn't really the kind of guy I'm looking to
marry...", and I said "then stop wasting your time
with him and give me your email address." She gave
me a "deer in the headlights" look, like she was
in shock at what I said, but then immediately said
"OK", took the pen and proceeded to write it down.
While she was doing this I said "and go ahead and
write down you phone number too." She said "OK"
again and wrote it down. Then she handed it to me
and said, almost reluctantly "I have a boyfriend
you know...". I then pulled a line that one of
your other readers used in one of the newsletters
(these newsletters definitely come in handy!
Sometimes I almost fall out my chair laughing at
what some of the other people write in with...
hahaha), saying "Look, I understand that must be a
major accomplishment for someone that looks like
you. I can't imagine any guy that would want to be
seen in public with you. He probably got tired of
you begging..." She acted hurt, slapped me in the
arm and said "you are so mean!" My song was
running out at this point, so I told her I needed
to get back to work, and she kissed me on the
cheek, rubbed her hand from my shoulder down my
chest and said "you better call me..." and left.

In the past I would have just talked to her for a
minute, found out she had a boyfriend and then
stopped talking to her, but after reading your
material I just keep going, and I am realizing
that most women will still give out their
information to a total stranger even when they
have boyfriends. I was shocked to find this out! I
asked one of my woman friends about this and she
laughed and told me that most women aren't
entirely happy with their relationships. I asked
her why do they keep going out with that person if
they really aren't happy and she said "because
nothing better has come along..." Amazing!

Thanks again! Keep up the good work!

M.E.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh well, THE CAT IS OUT OF THE BAG NOW!

Yes, women will say ALL KINDS OF THINGS when
you first meet them... especially attractive
women.

But, as you've seen, these things often aren't
true, or are just smoke screens to protect them
from having to deal with a bunch of loser guys who
want to waste their time.

Your email is great. It should be read 10 times
by any guy who is learning about this stuff, and
memorized.

By the way, GREAT CHOICE OF OCCUPATIONS.

One of the very best things you can do for your
success with women is to PUT YOURSELF IN A
POSITION THAT CAUSES THEM TO APPROACH YOU.

Be a musician, a pottery or yoga or dance
teacher, a DJ, a bartender, or a women's shoe
salesman.

This is an amazing way to really improve your
skills with women and skyrocket your success.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Your material is golden. The c+f routine and
tips have done me wonders, but you know they work
so ill get to the point. I have been working on
this girl for quite some time (shes a ten and
worth it), I built the anticipation, got her to
give me her phone number: she has asked me to hang
out and repeatedly emailed me askin me what I'm up
to. However! I waited a little while to actually
ask her to hang out (to make me look a little
busy), but when I did call her and ask her to hang
out she said sure, and said she would call me
right back and never did!......and to make things
worse, she wrote me an email the next day tellin
me she forgot to call me back! she's so sorry, bla
bla bla etc........I know the girl thinks about me
and I know she wants to hang out with me, why
would she do that?......calling her repeatedly
would be a wussy move: am i right?.....I blew it
of and gave her a c+f answer saying do u expect me
to believe that, I'm starting to think I make you
nervous. I honestly don't think she forgot, is
this a game?......This is the first 10 I've
encountered since I've used your techniques so I
need some advice. I wanna make this one count.

Thanks Dave PLEASE WRITE BACK!

JR New Jersey

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice... you're doing great.

Here's something to remember:

Attractive women are approached ALL THE TIME by
men.

Some attractive women give out their number
several times every night they go out.

This is reality.

Often, attractive women will actually give out
their number JUST TO GET RID OF YOU.

Really.

Some women get an "ego hit" of power and self
esteem when a lot of guys are calling them.

But this leads to another problem... the
problem of not having enough time to see all of
these men (or never even intending to from the
beginning).

You're going to find that a lot of women "flake
out" when you make plans with them.

I will say that the fact that she emailed you
the next day to tell you that she forgot to call
you is a positive sign. If she just wanted you to
go away, she wouldn't have done this.

You need to bust her balls, make fun of her for
flaking, and tell her that she's on strike one.

You might want to tell her "Well, since you
flaked out on me once, now you have to take ME
out. Here's my address and the directions to my
house. Come pick me up."

You need to let her know that it's NOT OK for
her to be flaky, and at the same time use her
flaky behavior as material to tease her with.

Be persistent. You'll learn how to deal with
this as you date more women.

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi,

I have been reading your emails for about 6
months and think you are totally, exactly,
completely, right on target. I just started dating
a guy that I am attracted to and I who really
like, but I don't feel strong attraction. I
realized that it's because I'm a bit of a
smartass, and most of the time when I bust on him,
he takes it - I really don't want him to at all,
ever! Do you have any advice for women on how to
get a man to "be a man"?! Is there something I
could say to him that would do the trick? Maybe a
little less blunt than "I really need a man who
won't take my crap, can you do that?" He doesn't
have email (yes, he does have electricity!) and I
don't know him well enough yet to tell him to buy
your book - we've only had one date. I just want
him to stop letting me get away with being a brat!
Please don't tell me I have to stop being a brat -
that would ruin the fun. I look forward to your
speedy reply - as we'll be going on another date
this weekend! Thanks for all that you do for the
women of the world. You are my hero. :)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, yes. That's me...

David DeAngelo, the unselfish helper of women.

Well, here's the deal. Trying to teach a guy
how to stop acting like a WUSSY isn't easy.

I would suggest that you send him to my website
and tell him to read my newsletters.

I realize that it doesn't sound very romantic,
but you have a choice: Either help him to stop
acting so damn "nice" or tell him to get lost.

Hey, maybe he'd make a "sweet, minivan driving
house-husband" for you?

Sounds charming, doesn't it?

NOTE TO GUYS: Women aren't ATTRACTED to "nice".

***QUESTION***

great newsletter

I'm still bumbed out on one thing though i have
read the book unstoppable confidence and it says
the way to get along with people is similarity
cooperation and praise you are telling me its
being a total jerk i just don't get it please help

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I am not, do not, and have not EVER told ANYONE
that "The way to get along with people is to be a
total jerk."

Never.

No no no.

What I DO say is that jerks often create an
amazing feeling of ATTRACTION inside of women, and
that there are ways that the average guy like you
and me can take some of those things that "jerks"
do, and use these powerful techniques WITHOUT THE
ABUSIVE PARTS to make women attracted to US
instead.

Make no mistake about it, I don't think it's a
good idea to act like a "jerk" to other people.

But I DO think it's a GREAT idea to tease
women, bust on them, be Cocky & Funny, and play
hard to get.

You need to pay more specific attention to what
I'm saying, and stop looking to pop psychology and
self-help books to teach you how to attract women.

***QUESTION***

David,

First off, let me say that your newsletters and
E-Book are awesome. They satisfied nearly every
inquiry I have had in regards to getting started
with women. Needless to say my success rate has
gone through the roof! I will be ordering the
audio series soon. ...Which brings me to my
question. This is a complex one, with story behind
so please bear with me.. Here goes:

I am recently single and jumped back into the
dating game. One of the first nights I went out as
a single man, one of my female friends and I
kissed on a bet. I did not know of the bet, but I
thought nothing of it after I found out. Although
the girl that had kissed me was attractive, i had
no feeling for her, just as I thought there was no
feeling on her side. We will refer the this girl
as Girl A. We saw each other a couple more times,
with added intimacy but left things on a very
strictly emotionless basis. She had commented
that she did not want me getting attached, and I
reminded her that there was no cause for her to
worry. Some days later, hanging out in a bar with
the same group of friends, I employed some of your
most valuable tactics and met Girl B. Things were
much different. I was very attracted to Girl B
and I felt as though I had her attention as well.
We talked at the bar, and as it turns out she is
very good friends with some of my other female
friends. We all ended up back at a friend's
apartment, and Girl B and I sat on the couch, and
talked for hours. We eventually decided to stay
over and sort of fell over. We made a week
attempt at sleeping and ended up kissing and
holding each other all night. It was everything
that I wanted to happen. Because I am a gentleman,
I did nothing more than kiss. I felt chemistry
and did not want to rush things. Besides, the
anticipation is fun! The very next weekend, there
was a party at the same apartment. Both Girl A
and Girl B were present. Needless to say I payed
attention to Girl B. Contrary to my original
thoughts, Girl A did not like this. Towards the
end of the night, girl A made a scene and called
me out to discuss this. After clearing up the
problem, I went back looking for Girl B, but did
not find her. I was advised that she was on her
way to the car. I caught her on her way to the car
and asked her if i could talk to her. after an
explanation of the situation, and assurance that
girl A is out of the picture, she gave me her
phone #s and thats how we left it. Since, Girl B
has been reluctant to return calls and get
together. A situation that had worked great from
the start is now compromised by someone else...

How can I win back the affections of girl B. I
felt a connection with her, and would love to get
back on the right track. Our mutual friends have
not been of assistance so far. I try calling, but
I feel as though if I called as much as I'd like
to I'd look like a wuss. I have had no problem
with setting up mystery. I drive a hot car, play
semi pro sports, and use these things carefully
and only discuss when asked. Don't want to look
too arrogant! What else should I try, or how
should I act to achieve the desired result? I
know getting another girl, or even flirting in
front of her, while not impossible would kill any
chances... While "Cocky and Funny" got my foot in
the door, I don't know if it is right for the
situation.

Your Thoughts...

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Your email is profound. There are many lessons
that can be learned from it, and I want to point
out a few of them...

The first one is that JEALOUSY can actually
LEAD TO LOVE.

This situation where girl A didn't have any
"feelings" for you until she saw you with girl B
is the RULE, not the exception.

If your significant other breaks up with you,
one of the best things you can do to get them back
is to:

1) Act like you're OK with their decision to
leave.

2) Start dating other people and let them know
about it.

This combination alone is usually enough to
make them come back to you.

JEALOUSY IS POWERFUL.

It's FAR more powerful than most people
suspect.

Jealousy causes people to do crazy things and
feel VERY powerful emotions... from love to hate.

Your mistake in this situation was this:

When girl A "made a scene and called you out to
discuss the situation" you WENT WITH HER.

If I was in that situation, I would have just
looked at her and said "You might want to consider
acting like an adult here. I'll talk to you
another time."

I'm guessing that to girl B you just came
across as a whipped wussy who was cheating on his
girlfriend, etc.

Girl B didn't know you long enough to
understand the relationship and have enough
invested to FEEL jealous in this situation.

Ironically, the best thing you can probably do
is get on with your life, and date other women.

And in the future, don't allow a woman to throw
a tantrum and control you AND the situation.

Trying to "get her back" is a losing game in
most situations... because the act alone suggests
that you're needy (especially when you don't even
know a woman very well, and you're trying to "get
her back" after one or two dates).

The best thing to do is get on with your life,
then call her in a month or two to see if she
wants to have coffee.

Don't talk about heavy things, and don't
mention anything about what happened. Just be
casual.

You've learned a very valuable lesson, so
remember it.

As a side note, I want to thank you for your
email, and thank you for the compliments on my
eBook. Most guys think that if they "drove a hot
car and played semi-pro sports", they wouldn't
need this material... but as you know, if you
don't understand how women and dating "work", then
almost nothing can help you.

...and by the way, if you're reading this
Mailbag right now and you are wondering how you
can take your success with women and dating to the
next level RIGHT NOW, then I'd recommend that you
start out with my eBook "Double Your Dating". In a
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basics that have taken me literally YEARS to
figure out. Just go to:

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...and you can download it and be reading it in
a just a few minutes from right now.

If you've read my eBook and want to REALLY get
a world-class education about how to attract
women, then I'd recommend you invest in my
Advanced CD/DVD Series. You can listen to me
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on meeting and dating women. Just go to:

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On that page you'll also find several video
clips from the program, so check them out.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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Sunday, June 27, 2010

LAST CHANCE: Learn How To "Get Physical" This Summer - 25% OFF

Dear Man,

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Hope to hear from you soon!

Your Friend,

David D.

Friday, June 25, 2010

Use The "SECRET LAWS" of Summer To Get Hot Women

Now that summer's here again, I have a "burning"
question for you...

Imagine one of the hundreds of hot women you'll
see at every pool, beach, and barbecue this
summer.

Imagine she's wearing a skimpy bikini... and that
she's surrounded by all of her hot friends.

Now... imagine trying to ask her out on a date.

So here's the question... How does all this
"imagining" MAKE YOU FEEL?

If you're like I used to be, you feel anxious
just IMAGINING it... let alone actually DOING IT.

But I'm here to tell you it doesn't have to be
that way.

Ready to get THE CONFIDENCE YOU NEED to get ANY
WOMAN YOU WANT this summer?

Then I've got a special offer that's
GUARANTEED to make your hottest dreams come
true...

Click here to learn about it:

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Dear Man,

Remember those teenage "summer fun" movies?

You know... the ones with hot women in skimpy
bikinis who seem to bend over backwards
(literally) to get physical with guys?

Well, I sure remember those movies.

Probably TOO well.

I remember sitting there as a teenager
watching them, thinking... "Maybe one day I can
get one of THOSE women, too."

But of course years went by, and there I
was...still "watching" and "wishing" instead of
"doing" and "getting".

I felt hopeless.

I felt frustrated.

Worst of all, I felt HELPLESS.

And, of course, I made all the usual excuses
for my failure...

I figured I wasn't handsome enough.

I figured my clothes and my car weren't cool
enough.

I figured I didn't have enough money to get a
hot woman.

Sound familiar?

But like I've said so many times before... the
only way to figure out the TRUTH behind a bad
situation is to watch what people who are
SUCCESSFUL do under the same circumstances.

And when I did that, what I saw totally blew
me away.

I spent time watching a couple of my friends
who seemed to actually be LIVING the plots of
those summer movies.

And believe me, none of these guys looked like
Brad Pitt.

None of these guys had wads of cash to flash
around.

Not one of these guys drove a Porsche or
Ferrari.

But every time without fail, these guys left
the pool or beach with a bronze, hard-bodied
goddess on their arm.

And I went home alone. Again.

Go figure?

But here's the thing: just by watching what
these guys did, it soon became obvious to me...

There seemed to be a few subtle, "secret laws"
behind all of this "summer fun" they were
having... and I WASN'T.

And once I realized that, EVERYTHING CHANGED
for me.

Big-time.

In fact, I wrote you a while ago to say that
I now consider summer the "Sexual Season"... The
time of year that beautiful women "let it all
hang out" at sun-drenched beaches, pools and
parks...

...almost as if they're actually TRYING to
send guys a "signal" or something.

Well, guess what:

THEY ARE.

And if you're not receiving that signal (and
converting it into MIND-BLOWING SEXUAL
EXPERIENCES this summer) then guess what else...

I feel bad for you.

I can't begin to describe what you're missing
out on.

It just makes me sad.

Excuse me while I shed a tear...

But here's the REALLY sad part:

If you're like most guys, you'll not only MISS
OUT on all the amazing opportunities this
summer...

...you'll continue to miss out on EVERY
amazing opportunity to meet and get dates with
great women all year around, winter spring and
fall as well.

Why?

Because there's a reason that hot women put on
skimpy dresses and bikinis and walk around in
front of you...

You see, when a woman is ATTRACTIVE, SINGLE,
and SHOWING YOU WHAT SHE'S GOT... she's
broadcasting a signal that she's not only open to
being approached by guys... but that she actually
WANTS it to happen.

But here's the catch...

IT MUST BE DONE IN *EXACTLY* THE RIGHT WAY.

That in mind, here's where my "secret laws" of
summer come in...

Without further delay, what you need to know
-- and put to work for you RIGHT NOW -- before
the red-hot opportunities of summer pass you
by...

#1: THE LAW OF ACCESSIBILITY

Like I've said, at no other time of year do SO
MANY off-the-hook, beautiful women gather in so
many easily accessible places and show off their
"assets".

In other words, you don't have to be a player
- or a mind-reader - to predict where to meet the
kinds of women that you've been dreaming about
all year long.

In fact, summer is the ONLY time of year that
you can forget the cover charges, rope lines, the
crowds at bars and clubs... and gain easy access
to throngs of beautiful, AVAILABLE women.

Want to prove it to yourself? Here's what I
want you to do ASAP...

Visit your nearest pool, beach, or park.

Maybe take a jog or a hike.

Walk your dog.

(Come on, the exercise will do you good...)

Then take a look around.

What do you see?

Odds are, you see a bottomless supply of
super-hot women who are INTENTIONALLY showing off
everything that they legally can to make guys
notice them.

And if you're like most guys, you HAVE noticed
these women.

Signal received, right?

But the question still remains...

...what are YOU going to do about it?

#2: THE LAW OF APPROACHABILITY

At no other time of year are so many
beautiful, single women more "open" and
"receptive" to being approached by guys...

SO LEARN HOW TO DO IT.

Like I said, thereís a reason these women
choose to walk around in those revealing dresses
and swimsuits.

And if they're SINGLE, almost 100% of the time
these women not only WANT to attract guys'
attention...

These woman actually WANT to be approached.

Yet most guys never even consider doing it.

Why not?

Simple.

Because they're AFRAID.

Afraid of not knowing what to say.

Afraid of not knowing what to do.

Afraid of REJECTION.

And because of all this fear, insecurity, and
lack of confidence, they never even try to
approach these women... year after year missing
out on making their dreams of being with one come
true...

...at exactly the time they have the best
chances of finally making it happen!

Sound painfully familiar?

If so, you need to understand right now that
once you have the CONFIDENCE to approach a woman
in one of these accessible "summer settings",
it's actually EASIER THAN IT WILL EVER BE to
start conversations and "close the deal" with
her.

In fact, reports show that summer sun and heat
escalate SEXUAL DESIRE.

And that means, a lot of times, these women
are not only interested in meeting new guys and
talking with them...

...they're MUCH more likely to take things to
a PHYSICAL LEVEL with them.

And by the way, that includes turning up the
bedroom heat with guys they're already dating.

But still you MUST remember this:

Just because a woman is more open to being
approached and has increased levels of sexual
desire, it DOES NOT mean that she's easy or a
"sure thing".

It's still up to YOU to approach her in
exactly the right way, and then communicate with
her in a confident, in-control way that creates
INSTANT ATTRACTION.

Without doing that, all you'll get is MORE
REJECTION.

Guaranteed.

#3: THE LAW OF VISIBILITY

I'm embarrassed to have to say this one, it's
so obvious.

At no other time of year do guys have such a
HUGE advantage when it comes to finding the
particular "assets" they're looking for in their
"dream" woman.

So why not take advantage of it?

Let's face it... revealing summer clothes
leave VERY little to the imagination, making it
the ideal time to "girl watch" and spot your
"fantasy woman"... all without looking like a
peeping tom or pervert.

(Helpful hint: that's something you should
avoid all year around.)

So during summer's "sexual season," feel free
to "girl watch" all you want. After all, summer's
like Christmas-time for a guy's eyes.

And as soon as you see your type this summer,
GO FOR IT.

But remember:

If you DON'T know EXACTLY how to approach a
woman in a way that triggers INSTANT ATTRACTION,
she'll simply move on to the next guy faster than
you can get your tongue untied.

And if you DON'T know how to carry on the
conversation with her, she'll mentally "check
out" as you hem, haw, and finally retreat with
your tail between your legs.

Above all...

If you DON'T know how to send the signals that
she's looking for in a potential sexual
partner... the kind of signals that make her
respond to you by smiling, flirting back, maybe
even "innocently" touching you...

...then you WILL get rejected.

And then it's game over.

Period.

But if you learn the secrets of having SEXUAL
CONFIDENCE... and then COMMUNICATING THAT
CONFIDENCE to a woman right out of the gate,
you'll be golden.

You'll be able to approach and get dates with
ANY woman you want, ANY time you want, ANY place
you want.

No matter how amazingly hot or "unattainable"
she seemed at first.

No matter what time of year it is.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

SPECIAL OFFER: Make This Your HOTTEST SUMMER EVER... 25% OFF

Summer's here again, the time of year I like to
call the "SEXUAL SEASON"...

...for some VERY good reasons.

Of course, summer's the season when beautiful
women gather around a sun-drenched pool, beach or
barbecue near you...

But much more importantly: summer's YOUR best
opportunity to approach, meet, and take things to
a mind-blowing PHYSICAL LEVEL with these women...

...if you know EXACTLY what to say and do to make
it happen.

That's why I've put together a special
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Dear Man,

This one's urgent, so listen up...

I'm VERY excited summer's here, and here's why
you should be, too:

Summer's the season of skimpy bathing suits...
sunny beaches and sparkling swimming pools...
steamy barbecues in the park...

Did I mention the skimpy bathing suits?

And with all of this going on, I have one big
question for YOU:

WILL YOU FINALLY TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT THIS
YEAR...

...OR WILL YOU LET IT PASS YOU BY AGAIN?

Truth is, if you have ANY interest in meeting
and "getting physical" with the kind of women
you've always dreamed of (and since you're
reading this, I know that you do) you need to
understand just one thing:

Summer is, by far, the EASIEST time to take
things to a physical level with a woman...

...but ONLY if you know EXACTLY what it takes
to make those summer dreams come true.

And that is:

--You must know how to overcome the crippling
FEARS and INSECURITIES that keep you from
approaching attractive women in the first place.

--You must know how to start conversations with
women that make them respond to you by smiling
and flirting instead of blowing you off.

--You must know how to take things to the "next
level" with a woman by communicating that you're
a man she can't resist getting physical with.

Unfortunately, screw up just ONE of these
steps along the way, and your fate is sealed:

You'll get to sit out another long, hot
summer, watching other guys bring home beautiful
women while you go home alone.

In fact... you'll also get to sit out the fall
and winter, too.

And every season after that.

(See where this is going?)

...until you finally make some CHANGES.

I know, I know... you think the situation's
really not THAT bad.

Maybe you think you're just a little shy. Or a
little too polite. Or that you just need a
little "liquid confidence" to get things going
with a woman.

If that sounds like you, then let me ask you a
couple questions...

Have you ever wanted to start a conversation
with an attractive woman, but you DIDN'T EVEN TRY
because you thought she was "out of your
league"... or that couldn't possibly want you in
"that" way?

Or maybe there was a time you were dating a
woman that you really liked, but you never made
your "big move" to let her know... so she lost
interest in you and moved on?

Or worst of all...

Maybe you found yourself in bed with a woman,
but suddenly you got nervous or self-conscious...
your mind started racing with everything that
could go wrong... and you couldn't get sexually
excited?

Ouch! I can feel the agony of defeat from
here...

But here's the truth about all this:

If you can "identify" with any of the above,
odds are you start to feel the same way every
year around this time.

The weather warms up. Those killer bodies in
skimpy bathing suits begin to appear...

And you feel FRUSTRATED.

POWERLESS.

HELPLESS.

I mean, think about it...

All the parties... barbecues and vacations...
pools and beaches... They're practically a
bottomless supply of beautiful women... and
they're INTENTIONALLY SHOWING OFF EVERYTHING THEY
LEGALLY CAN to make guys notice them!

And still, every year, it feels like there's
nothing you can do to take advantage of it.

It's a disaster. One so major I think it
deserves a moment of silence.

And yes, I hear you...

Now you say it doesn't happen for you because
you don't look like a movie star... or you're a
little out of shape... or you don't have the cash
to flash that these women are all looking for.

But guess what:

YOU'RE TOTALLY WRONG.

None of that's the REAL reason you've never
"gotten physical" with the summer-time woman of
your dreams.

Now listen close, because what I'm about to
tell you can CHANGE EVERYTHING for you this
summer...

Studies show that women in "summer settings"
are actually more likely to get physical with a
man than at any other time of year...

...and the reason has absolutely NOTHING to do
with looks or money.

And it has EVERYTHING to do with summer
sunshine, sexual mood enhancement,
neurotransmitters, and a bunch of other science
details that I won't bore you with.

The real bottom line is this:

Once you have the confidence you need to TAKE
ADVANTAGE of the summer "sexual season," you'll
stop spending summers alone with your
fantasies... and start spending them with the
women you've always wanted.

And the best part is:

You can then take that confidence and use it
ALL YEAR LONG to get the women you want... no
matter what time of year it is, or what the
weather's like outside.

But still... that question remains...

What can you do to make it happen now, *THIS*
summer?

How can you tap into that vast well of summer
sexual desire to make YOUR summer dreams come
true?

The answer's simpler than you ever imagined...

Success with women is about triggering INSTANT
SEXUAL ATTRACTION. And to do it, you must learn
to do 2 THINGS:

#1) Have the kind of "sexual confidence" that ALL
women find irresistible.

#2) Speak the "secret language" that every woman
looks for in a sexual partner (but that 99% of
guys have no clue how to speak).

Learn to do just these 2 things, and I
personally GUARANTEE IT...

The hottest women of summer will not only want
to "be" with you... they'll practically BEG YOU
to take them home.

But you better learn fast...

Before you know it, the beaches, parties and
pools will be closed again. Those cold autumn
winds will start blowing again. And then it'll be
back to sitting home alone with your "dreams" and
"fantasies"...

...unless I have something to say about it.

I've put together an urgent SPECIAL OFFER
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--How to initiate "innocent" physical contact
that instantly tells a woman you're so
EXPERIENCED you'll BLOW HER MIND in bed (even if
you're not very experienced at all).

--A step-by-step method for getting a woman so
turned on that she can't stop fantasizing about
you.

--The 4 tests every woman uses to size up your
"sexual potential" when she meets you... and how
to pass them ALL.

--A simple way to find out if a woman wants to
sleep with you... and then CHANGE HER MIND if she
doesn't.

Of course, all this is just part of the
equation for having an incredible "sexual season"
and becoming successful with women and dating in
general...

That's why I'm also going to send you my
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This program teaches you how to be fluent in
the hidden "secret sexual language" that every
woman "listens" for (whether she's aware of it or
not) before deciding to get physical with a man.

You'll learn:

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woman feel OVERWHELMING SEXUAL AROUSAL the moment
she hears them.

--A step-by-step process for taking ANY woman
from "Hello" to the bedroom... FAST.

--A simple way to make a woman feel GRATEFUL for
the "opportunity" of just meeting you.

--What you MUST do when a woman comes over to
your house if you want her to stay

--How to avoid the #1 mistake men make to screw
things up when trying to "get physical" with a
woman.

--A primal technique (stolen from the animal
kingdom) that gives a woman an INSTANT JOLT of
sexual excitement and makes her crave you.

And much, much more. But here's the part I
can't emphasize enough...

ONLY by using both programs TOGETHER can you
finally master sexual attraction for good...

That's why you'll get BOTH "POWER SEXUALITY"
and "SEXUAL COMMUNICATION" in their own DVD BOXED
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make this summer one you'll never forget...

...and then make EVERY other time of the year
a mind-blowing "sexual season", too.

But like I said... I can't afford to keep this
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Get BOTH PROGRAMS for 25% OFF before this offer's
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of summer.

Ready to make it happen?

Then GO FOR IT. I want to make this your
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...until *next* summer, that is.

So click here to get started:

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Your Friend,

David D.

PS: Did you know there's something you can do
around a woman (with your clothes still ON) that
makes her feel so attracted that she'll want you
more than ANY MAN who's ever approached her...
and I mean EVER?

I absolutely LOVE this one... it's like the keys
to the candy store.

But you'll NEVER figure this one out on your own,
so learn about it here:

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Monday, June 21, 2010

Overcoming Fear Of Women

To attract the kind of woman you want, you need
to be the best man you can be – FIRST. Otherwise
all the other stuff I teach you won't work. Learn
how to become a more attractive guy right away here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan/

>>>COMMENT FROM A READER:

Hi Obi'Wan De'Angelo,

I was one of, I'm guessing, the heaps of other
guys that have trouble with the ladies that are
giant procrastinators.

This was a major problem of mine, I'd think about
what to do and what to say, only to find that I
missed my opportunity in doing so.

Then a few weeks after reading "Double Your
Dating" I thought bugger this what am I scared of
a little girl who is smaller than me not being
interested. What a way to live life. Worried so
much about what somebody else might think or say.
I'm 19 and had never dated, so I set myself a goal
of getting half a dozen dates by the end of the
year. Now this may not seem like a lot, but to me
it seemed almost impossible.

I started by phoning a girl that is in my course
at uni who's number I already had, and I arranged
a study date. When I say 'I' she basically
organized it, I think she was just waiting for me
to show some initiative because she sounded almost
ecstatic that I had phoned'.

And although I didn't jump straight in the deep-
end asking a stranger for her number, that was
only a step away. Now I have so many girls to
choose from it's almost confusing. Though I prefer
being confused than lonely.

So Dave what I'm trying to say is you have
improved my life tenfold. Not only am I having a
great time seeing different girls, I'm also doing
better at my studies because I no longer have in
the back of my mind how pathetic I am. I also have
made more friends through knowing so many more
people. All I needed was that first little step
and it soon snowballed, because as you know pretty
girls know pretty girls, now it's just a matter of
finding one that meets my now prestigious
standards.

Dave IOU my life, thanks.

T.G.

Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for the great Success Story! Nice!

Ah, the concept that is near and dear to all of
us men who have started on the path to success
with women and dating...

FEAR.

Fear of rejection.

Fear of embarrassment.

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of what a woman might do if we start
talking to her.

Fear of what other guys would think if they
knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of what WOMEN would think if they knew
that we needed help with women.

Fear of admitting that we're AFRAID.

...and about 100 others.

But, what exactly IS fear?

And why is it such a problem?

And what can be done to overcome it?

(By the way, as I mentioned at the beginning,
if you want to REALLY get past your internal fears,
then you need to do DEEP work.) I recommend that
you STRONGLY consider the information that I share
HERE as well:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan/

Onward...

Well, let's start with what fear is, then we'll
move on to some techniques to get past it.

I once heard a great definition of FEAR:

False Evidence Appearing Real

In other words, the things that you feel fear
about are usually not real. It's usually just
"false evidence".

You also might think back about the last 10
things you felt fear around. Now, ask yourself...
Did any of those things come true?

In most of the cases, you'll find that the fear
did NOT come true.

I heard once that something like 98% of the
things that people fear and worry about never come
true.

I've found this to be true in my own life as
well.

Fear is an emotion, or an emotional state. It's
an amazing and wonderful emotion... because it can
help save your life in certain situations.

A hundred thousand years ago, when we were
running around in the desert, we needed powerful,
motivating emotions like FEAR to save our lives.

When you feel fear (especially if it's a
response to real physical danger) you'll notice
that some AMAZING things happen. Your eyes open up
wider so you can see better, adrenaline pumps into
your body, your heart beats fast to deliver blood
to your muscles, and all kinds of other wondrous
processes are triggered.

The PROBLEM is when we experience fear at times
when there IS NO real physical danger.

We humans are amazing. We can just IMAGINE
things and feel fear in response to the mental
images.

And I'm sure you know exactly what the problem
is with this... it can IMMOBILIZE you at critical
times.

Have you ever seen a woman that you'd like to
meet, but you just couldn't walk over and start
talking to her?

No, it's never happened to me, either.

What was the problem?

Usually, it's fear.

Fear that she'll get upset, or fear that she'll
have a boyfriend... or fear that she'll embarrass
you in front of others... or fear that you won't
know what to say to her...

And, of course, when you feel that strong fear
emotion, it just FREEZES you and makes you totally
ineffective.

So, what's the solution?

Well, there are several ways to overcome fears.

One way is to do the thing you fear. If you do
the thing that you fear, and see that nothing bad
will happen, then you eventually overcome it and
become programmed not to feel fear anymore.

For instance, if you're afraid to approach
women and talk to them, just DO IT. Go talk to 50
women in the next week and see that most of them
will respond positively to you (if you don't act
like a dumb-ass, that is).

Other ways to overcome your fear when it comes
to approaching women include:

- Understanding the dynamics of male/female
interactions better than most women do.

- Learning how to approach women using the same
types of words and body language that the masters
use.

- Learning how to use props or other devices to
get a woman's attention without having to
"approach" her directly.

- Learning mental techniques to overcome fears or
"reset" your emotions instantly, anytime you'd
like (this is one of my personal favorites).

- Using mental preparation to be completely ready
for anything that might happen.

...and there are several others.

I have spent a lot of time in my own personal
life learning about and figuring out how to get
past fears and other psychological obstacles with
women.

In fact, I devote almost HALF of my Advanced
Series CD/DVD Program to the idea of the "Inner
Game"... and focusing on how to get your mind and
emotions in the right place so that when you use
your techniques they work MUCH BETTER when you do
use them.

I teach several concepts and guided exercises
specifically for overcoming fear, programming
yourself for success, and programming your mind to
succeed with women.

It's taken me many years to find the different
types of exercises and technologies that you can
learn in a few hours of listening and practice.

I recommend that you go check it out... you can
see and listen to some great samples here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/

And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
"Double Your Dating", then you need to do that
now. You can download it right now and be reading
it within a few minutes. Get it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/

You can get past your fears, but you need to
learn how...

So make the commitment to yourself, and do it!

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

P.S. You should also take a minute and check out
my "catalog" of programs that can help you learn
how to do everything from approaching women and
meeting women online, to confidently taking things
to a "physical level" smoothly and without the
typical "rejection". You can even read the story
of how I learned to succeed with women as well...

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Meeting Women With "Personal Ads"

NEWSFLASH: Most men fail miserably when it comes
to online dating. If you want to know how to craft
a killer profile that will MAGNETIZE the kind of woman
you want to attract and make her want to meet you, you
need to read this:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/MeetingWomenOnline/

***QUESTION***

Dave:

On your audio series, you talk about getting past
the fluff and "talk to that other part of the
woman" How do you do that? I answer ads on the
personals, and I keep thinking that my dialogue
with these women is all wrong.

I know you gotta be C&F, but sometimes there's not
much to go on from an online profile. Here's an
example from a girl that lives in my neighborhood:

"I'd like to eventually settle down with someone
that I can look to as a best friend and that I can
laugh with. I enjoy traveling, working out, yoga,
music, and dining out in NYC. I am playful and fun
and have a lot to offer the right man. I believe
that the best relationships are based on
friendship. I am genuine, kind and compassionate
and I am looking for the same in a man.

My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn't
afraid of being himself. He knows what he wants
and goes for it. He is confident, not cocky. He is
a person of good character, high morals and loyal.
He is thoughtful, considerate and knows how to
treat a lady. Last but not least, my ideal man is
attractive with a good sense of humor".

I can't think of anything cocky to say to
this...or how to communicate that I'm a sexually
aware man. I'm not really sure what you mean by
sexually aware anyway, unless you mean sexually
successful...like when you know you're hot and
women want you.

So, can you help me understand how you'd respond
to an ad like this?

thanks,

-R

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, I recommend that you go back
through the CD Audio Program, and pay attention to
the workbook that came with it.

I actually included a sample "cut and paste"
type of answer for personal ads that works very
well.

In fact, when I originally published it in one
of these dating tips newsletters, I had literally
dozens and dozens of guys from all around the
world who wrote in saying that they cut and pasted
it and sent it out in response to women's personal
ads... and had fabulous response.

Now, let me address a few of your comments...

To summarize what I think about your situation,
I'd say that you probably need to keep reviewing
the material that you have, and keep practicing.

If you have little experience with women, then
you have almost no frame of reference for what I'm
talking about in general. Until you start DOING
more, you just won't "get it" as well.

As far as responding to a woman's online
personal ad...

Remember, women who run personal ads are
getting TONS of responses.

If you're going to play the personals, stay
current with them, and contact women as soon as
they place their ad. This way you'll be one of the
first to start a conversation with her... as
opposed to the 497th guy. At some point, the
hundreds of men who are responding to a woman's
personal ad all run together into a big lump of
desperate men. So, be first if you can.

Secondly, forget about trying to respond to a
woman's personal ad by reading it, thinking about
it, considering what she's looking for, and then
responding in a way that she will find
interesting.

No no no!

The ad you sent above could have been written
by any woman in any part of the world... it might
as well be a generic ad template for women.

The one thing this ad DOESN'T mention (and the
one thing that NO female personal ads EVER
mention) is what makes this woman feel ATTRACTION
for a man.

Think about it for a minute...

This woman sat down one night at her computer,
and said to herself:

"I'm tired of the dating game. Maybe if I put a
personal ad online and describe the kind of guy
I'm looking for, Prince Charming will find me and
we'll live happily ever after."

Can't you just FEEL it in her words?

"I'd like to eventually settle down with someone
that I can look to as a best friend and that I can
laugh with..."

"I believe that the best relationships are based
on friendship..."

And the whole last paragraph is priceless...

"My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn't
afraid of being himself. He knows what he wants
and goes for it. He is confident, not cocky. He is
a person of good character, high morals and loyal.
He is thoughtful, considerate and knows how to
treat a lady. Last but not least, my ideal man is
attractive with a good sense of humor..."

So what do most guys do when they read an ad
like this one?

Of course... they write back something like:

"Hi, I'm a nice attractive SWM who has a sense of
humor, high morals, is honest, and also believes
that a good friendship is the foundation for a
great relationship."

UGH!

Someone bring me a bucket, because I'm gonna
PUKE.

Look... when a woman is writing a PERSONAL ad,
she's usually at a point in her life where she's
lonely... and has often lost hope of finding a
long-term companion in the real world.

OF COURSE she's going to write all this sappy
stuff.

But that doesn't change ANYTHING about what is
going to get her attention and make her feel
ATTRACTION.

Again, my gut tells me that you're trying to
figure out how to answer this kind of personal ad
with a WUSSY response that will make her love you.

Don't.

And to address your question of how to
communicate that you're a confident, sexually
aware man...

You do this by NOT trying to please her, saying
what she wants to hear, and kissing up to her.

It sounds to me like you need to spend more
time studying the materials you have, practicing
your Cocky & Funny skills, and making your
personality more interesting... and less time
chasing women who are looking for an open, honest,
Yoga-loving husband via the personal ads.

Use the materials you have!

Practice!

Get online with an instant messaging service
and work on your Cocky & Funny. Copy and paste the
personal ad response in your Advanced CD Series
and use it to answer personal ads.

Until you're REALLY good at engineering, quit
trying to reinvent the wheel.

***QUESTION***

Dave:

I've noticed that on your newsletters or e-book
you haven't commented on hypnotic language which
some guys use to seduce women. Is it worth
looking into or is it more work than its worth?
What is your opinion on this subject? I know that
with your vast amount of knowledge, you have a
worthwhile opinion in this area.

Thanks RF, NYC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I've tried all this stuff... and, in fact, I
know quite a bit about the topic of "hypnosis." I
was fascinated by it several years ago... and, for
certain things, it seems to be of great use.

But, if you try it, you'll find just as I did
that it's a very INDIRECT way to accomplish your
objective. It's very abnormal and it feels
sneaky.

Once you understand that you can actually cause
women to feel ATTRACTION for you by just
cultivating certain natural personality traits,
like confidence and humor, all else becomes
irrelevant.

I know a lot of guys who are successful with
women, and the general consensus is that you MUST
get your inner game together FIRST. You must
understand how and why women are attracted to men
FIRST. Then, you must cultivate the ability to
make women feel that ATTRACTION for you with just
your communication and body language.

Once you learn this skill, you can use ANYTHING
and it will work.

In other words, once you're good at meeting
women, you can use juggling fire to meet women...
and it will work.

But, if you DON'T "get it" and understand what
makes women feel ATTRACTION for men, then no
amount of tricks, hypnosis, or standing on your
head is going to make a damn bit of difference.

I don't think that most guys want to have to
"seduce" women. I think that most guys want women
to feel ATTRACTION for them.

Here's a definition for "seduction":

"The act of seducing; enticement to wrong doing;
specifically, the offense of inducing a woman to
consent to unlawful sexual intercourse, by
enticements which overcome her scruples; the wrong
or crime of persuading a woman to surrender her
chastity."

Techniques to "seduce" women make your stomach
feel strange... because they're usually dishonest
or sneaky.

And techniques to seduce women that involve
using things like hypnosis and other covert mind-
control not only make your stomach turn when you
use them, but they also don't WORK as well as the
things I'm teaching you.

***QUESTION***

To my mate, Dave. The main question I want to ask
is in regards to going out by myself. I walk
inside a club or a bar and I always get asked the
same old question .."Who are you here with". I
typically answer by myself. This causes
uncertainty and I feel that I am telling the lady
'Ohh, well I am lonely' (Note that the same
happens with guys & mind you, I am straight). The
answer, by myself is honest but triggers a
negative outcome, so what do I say?

For some silly reason I get the impression that
the other person is thinking to themselves, "ohh,
the poor thing".

I tend to prefer to go out by myself since there
are times that I have to do extra favours and more
things to get accepted with my mates and also they
are a lot of times when they act just plain
negative which as an old Greek proverb says "Show
me your mates so I can see who you are" (if you
know what I mean). So, for the last few years I
have made a stance that I will do things
independently and work out things by myself and
that I don't need others. Note that this can
become an extremely long story so I will get back
to the topic.

One very bad thought I have, is if a women sees a
guy approach her by himself, she automatically
thinks, ok, this guy has no social life, he is
lonely and he must be desperate, so quickly what
do I do to turn him off. Look, your advice on the
CD does help but I personally think that a lot of
this stuff takes time and effort and should not be
looked as a quick aspirin cure.

PLEASE!!!! tell me the following questions:- - If
a guy or a girl asks me "who am I here with" what
is a good answer? - Is it natural for a guy to go
out by himself? (i.e are there other guys who do
the same?)

Awaiting your response.

From "Il" Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, these are great questions...

I think you've hit on a couple of topics that
are MAJOR issues for a lot of men.

I know that they were for me in the not-too-
distant past.

OK, to answer your question about what to do if
a woman asks, "Who are you here with?"...

It's time for Dr. Dave, The Mind Reading Dating
Psychologist, to make an appearance...

I'm going to make a few guesses about what's
going through your mind.

Hell, since I'm making some guesses, let's just
wrap up both of your questions into one:

"Is it cool to go out alone, and what should I
do if I'm out alone and a woman asks me who I'm
with?"

My first guess is that you're feeling self-
conscious about the idea of being alone.

You said:

"One very bad thought I have is if a woman sees a
guy approach her by himself, she automatically
thinks, ok, this guy has no social life, he is
lonely and he must be desperate, so quickly, what
do I do to turn him off?"

It's obvious that you have all kinds of
insecurity issues here, and they're really messing
with your mind.

The next guess I have is that you're still
stuck in the mind set of "pleasing women" and
"saying what they want to hear".

At some level, you're asking me what to say to
a woman who DISAPPROVES of the idea that you're
out alone.

Are you with me here?

Here are a few pointers for you:

1) What other people think of you is the last
thing you should be thinking about.

Now, don't take this to mean that you should
never change your underwear or brush your teeth
because it doesn't matter what others think.

That's not what I'm saying.

What I AM saying is that if you go out alone,
and you meet a woman who thinks you're a TOTAL
LOSER for not being out with friends, it shouldn't
matter to you.

You're not looking for THAT woman.

2) Going out alone is great.

I used to be VERY uptight about the idea of
going out alone. It took me quite awhile before I
was really comfortable with the idea.

And when women would ask me about it, I'd try
to figure out some good excuse to give them... or
way to explain it so I didn't appear to be a
loser.

Well guess what I've learned since?

Most of the guys I know who are AMAZING with
women go out alone... often.

In fact, if you really think about it, a guy
who has the confidence to go out alone, KNOWING
that he's going to meet a woman that he enjoys...
and is keeping his options open, so if he chooses
to go home with her, etc. he can... is amazing.

That takes balls.

3) When a woman asks you "Who are you here with?",
you have a few basic options.

- You can answer her directly ("I'm here alone") -
You can lie ("My friends will be here soon") - You
can turn the question around (read on).

Now, if you answer directly and say, "I'm here
alone" in a weak, tentative, self conscious,
insecure voice, you're going to look like a Wuss
Bag loser.

Women aren't attracted to men who feel like
losers.

And answering questions directly is usually
uninteresting.

You can also lie.

A lot of guys lie about things... from what
they do to what they think of a woman... to how
much they make.

Lying is a trap because it makes you feel bad,
AND it screws up your mind. I don't recommend it.

But there is another way!

And it's my favorite (of course).

TURN THE QUESTION AROUND.

If you remember that women are CONSTANTLY
testing you when you interact with them, and you
are always looking for places and ways to
demonstrate your Cocky & Funny wit, you'll see
incredible opportunity in situations like this.

She asks, "Who are you here with?"

You answer, "I'm here with you."

Seeeee?

She smiles, laughs a little and says, "OK,
seriously... who are you here with?"

You answer, "Look, I only know you a few
minutes and already you're trying to meet my
friends? By the end of the week you're going to be
over at my mom's house talking about our wedding.
Slow down!"

Now what's going on here?

What you're subtly saying is, "It doesn't
matter who I'm here with... and by the way, If I
am here by myself, I'm not at all insecure about
it..."

Guys ask me all the time how to deal with
questions and challenges from women.

DON'T.

You don't have to.

Just be charming, funny, and difficult.

It works much better, and it's a hell of a lot
more fun for you and her.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave you are right the C & F seem to work but
I wanna ask you something...how often are you
supposed to be c & f? I mean, are yu supposed to
sprinkle it in during a normal convo or should yu
use it moderately or at every single thing she
says? I ask b/c id like to hold a normal convo
also & in your opinion wat would be best? Im
interested in your opinion on this.

CJ, New York

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The more you use it, the more you'll get a feel
for how much to use Cocky & Funny.

Use it a LOT in the beginning, on the first
outing for a cup of tea, during the first dates,
etc.

The exception is if you don't have a lot of
time, and you want to get a woman's number/email
fast. In that case, use the 3 minute technique I
talk about in Double Your Dating, and as described
in a past newsletter that you've probably read. In
those cases, it takes too much time.

Also, as you get to know a woman, you'll have
more and more "normal" conversations...

Never stop being Cocky & Funny, unpredictable,
etc.

But you can ease up a little as you get to know
a woman better.

Use it... and you'll get it.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

You are absolutely, positively the man.... I
always thought to myself, there should be more
literature on the subject of "Meeting Beautiful
Chicks." Your ebook is the answer...You can go to
a bookstore and get all types of how-to books on
things that exist in the physical world, i.e.,
fixing a car, etc. But never about things that
exist in the mental world, at least not for the
things that matter such as picking up chicks....
Like I said before your ebook is the answer! I
suggest anyone reading this email that has not
picked up at least the ebook, to DO IT NOW!! Its
worth it dude.... Trust me...

Since reading the ebook and making minimal changes
in my game... I have been able to consistently
pick up at least one chick per week, but I need
the advanced series to really get my game on
point... I think that will assist with picking up
the 9's and 10's... not just the 6's and 7's. I'll
be picking that up next week to move to the next
level!!

In the meantime here's my reflection and a
question that should be helpful to others once
answered.

Here's my story.

I'm a 30-Year-old African American Male, who was
voted best looking in High School, and I make over
100K/year.... So I generally do not have that hard
of a time initially meeting women... But would
always screw it up with the women that I really
found interesting... I was being a wuss...

I'd meet multiple women in a night out with the
boys... There would be the one's that I really
liked... The 9+'s, and the one's that I kinda
liked, but was not too excited about... The 6's
and 7's

The way I approached the 9+ was all wussie...and I
usually never even got the phone number, but if I
did, I would immediately try to make her like me,
be a general pain in the ass, calling all the
time, etc. And not get anywhere past an initial
phone conversation.

The way that I approached the 7 was different
because I did not feel intimidated by her...and
most importantly could kinda care less if I spoke
to her or not... I usually had no fear of telling
a joke, or busting on her... The result being that
she sensed the confidence and really liked me...If
it progressed any further she would always reach
out to me.... calling all the time, and be a
general pain in the ass...

So my question is this:

How can I make the same response happen with women
that I am interested in? The hot, intelligent,
9's and 10's...The ebook has helped tremendously,
but I'm not there yet..

Is there some mental trick that I can play so that
I act the same way with all women (cock/funny),
Not just 6's and 7's????

Your help is much appreciated, and much success my
friend you deserve it!!

KT Atlanta, GA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, you're certainly on the right track...

By the way, congratulations on getting up to
speed and being able to meet one woman every week.

For a lot of guys, that's like saying you can
levitate into the air and fly.

Keep it up, you're getting close!

As for the REALLY attractive women, there are a
few things you need to keep in mind:

1) These women are approached A LOT. And I mean
ALL THE TIME. The real hotties of the world are so
used to being approached by men that they should
all be given honorary black belts in Wuss
Detection And Deflection.

Super hot women have a lot of choice when it
comes to men, so they choose the best they can
get.

If your game isn't REALLY together, you'll do
little things when you're interacting with these
women that will clue them in to the fact that you
don't really know how to play on their level.

And I'm talking LITTLE things.

Remember, these women are approached all the
time by men, and they have learned to make very
quick decisions based on very little information.

A little comment, a certain look, or a little
gesture that hints to her that you want her
approval is all it takes.

You're doing fine... you'll get it soon enough.

Just stick with it.

You're asking me how to meet the kinds of women
that most men would sell their mom into slavery
for one date with.

You're on the right track, and the more you
practice and improve, the more success you'll
have.

And, if you're reading this right now, and
you'd like to really "up your game" when it comes
to approaching women in all different types of
situations, then I HIGHLY recommend that you go
check THIS out:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/ApproachingWomen/

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Hello Dave, my question is has follows: What
your opinion on women that work has exotic
dancers? I've generally heard that they have some
type of issue where they feel they need to
dominate/control men, now obviously we can't
stereotype all of them, but generally speaking
what's the scoop on these types of women? A
response would be appreciated.

M San Antonio,TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

BUST THEIR BALLS!

Dancers are notorious for dating brutish,
abusive, loser guys who have no life...

Dancers usually have all kinds of issues...

Dancers are used to men kissing up to them and
giving them money just to look at them...

BUST THEIR BALLS!

Tell them they're the most successful sex
change you've seen lately.

Ask them what they're going to be when they
grow up.

Don't look at them while they're dancing.

If you play their game, you become another one
of the hundreds of dumb-ass guys that they take
money from.

If you completely avoid their game and instead
play your own, you will stand out.

This is where EXTREME ball busting and Cocky &
Funny are most useful.

WARNING:

Be careful what you wish for.

You are looking for trouble if you don't know
how to handle powerful women.

If you're not careful, you're going to email me
next week saying, "Wow, that ball busting stuff
really works with dancers. The only problem is
that she stole my car and all my money, and now
her drug dealer is calling me all the time to find
out where she is..."

If you want a first-class ticket to a Quentin
Tarantino movie, start dating a lot of dancers.

And no, I'm not talking Jackie Brown kind of
freaky, I'm talking FOUR ROOMS kind of freaky.

Don't say I didn't warn you.

***QUESTION***

Dear Dave, I have been reading your newsletter for
about a year now and it works great!! True
genius!!! I have always been cocky and funny even
before knowing what c&f was, you just helped me
realize exactly why I was succeeding with women.
There is this girl who is probably a 9-10, but has
had a boyfriend for some time now. I have been
cocky and funny with her since the day i met her
(btw she's a bartender) and she really seems to
respond to it. She poured me a drink once and
after I tasted it I said to her "whoa this is
really strong, are you trying to get me drunk to
take advantage of me," and she responded by saying
"oh yea baby" and smiled at me and rubbed my arm.
My question is as follows: I really want this girl
and she seems to respond to my cocky and funny
routine, in fact I think she likes me, but what do
I do about the boyfriend situation?? What are the
odds I can actually end up with this chick??

GB Orlando

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, so what you're trying to tell me is that
the only attractive woman in ORLANDO, FLORIDA is a
bartender with a long term boyfriend?

Hey, good idea...since there are only about a
million or so single women in your area, why not
pick one who's already seeing someone?

Duh.

Stop that!

If a woman has a boyfriend, just walk away,
man.

Every month or two, when you're ordering a
drink from her say, "Hey, are you still married?"

This is funny because you're busting on her and
at the same time asking if she's still with her
BF.

At some point she'll probably say, "No, I just
dumped him". Most relationships end, so stay in
touch.

And in the meantime, do something productive
with your time... like dating some of the single
women in your area, who don't have boyfriends that
are probably the jealous 6'6" 250 pound meathead
bouncer at the bar who likes to beat up guys for
fun.

***COMMENT***

All I can tell you is, the guys without money
(some of whom are naturally cocky and funny) get
no women; the guys with money, whether they're
ugly, fat, or dull have the women pursuing them.
That's reality-- I've seen it happen so many times
that it's become a standing joke among all the
single guys I know! Around here (Chicago), a woman
ascertains a man's earning potential within five
minutes of meeting, and if he's lacking, she is
gone in a cloud of dust!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, what you're saying makes perfect
sense.

Except, how do you explain the probably 2 or 3
million adult men in the Chicago area who have a
lot to middle class income who are MARRIED?

I have a good friend who lives in Chicago who I
personally watched get 25 different women's phone
numbers in the course of one weekend.

He lived in a little apartment with a couple of
other people, made very little money, and dressed
casually.

I think you need to get some new friends.

Try making friends with guys who are SUCCESSFUL
with women, instead of guys who like to sit around
coming up with "standing jokes" about why they
suck with women.

Sure, money helps. Duh.

But money doesn't create ATTRACTION. Sorry.

Get rid of your helpless mentality, and get out
there and make something happen for yourself!

Making excuses for why you can't succeed
personally in life is one of the WORST uses for
your amazing mind.

Stop it!

***QUESTION***

What up dave? There's no longer any doubt that
this stuff works! It's really great to actually
know what you're doing when dealing with women,
rather than aimlessly trying to meet them.. anyway
my question.. I met this chick at a party and
before she left, i asked her if she had e-mail.
She said, "how about my phone number?" I told her
that it's hard to get people on the phone but i'd
take it., she then writes her # down and said "I
wrote my e-mail down too but I'll think you're a
dork if you e-mail me, kind of jokingly. (WHY THE
HELL DID SHE GIVE IT TO ME THEN!!!!!?) Then, other
guys/friends delayed her leaving. so while i was
back with my friends, she came where i was sitting
right before she left and said., "you're going to
call me right", smiling. i was already kind of
drunk and i just nodded and said 'yeah' in an
indifferent tone cause i knew she liked me.. but i
could've said something better!!

2 QUESTIONS

1. What would have been cocky+funny thing to say
when she said .."but I'll think you're a dork if
you e-mail me.." and should i then proceed to e-
mail!?

2. When she comes back and asks if I'm going to
call her, what's the best thing i can say to bust
on her in this situation?

I appreciate everything you're doing, David.
please keep the newsletters coming!

--D Jax, FL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

To answer the "I'll think you're a dork if you
email me" I probably would have said:

"You'll think I'M a dork? Hey, you're the dorky
CHICK who has email..."

And when a woman says, "you're going to call
me, right?" it means that she's REALLY into you...
as you know.

So why not smile and say, "Why should I? What's
in it for me?"

Then, when she says, "What do you want?" you
can answer with all kinds of great things...

"Money"

"Can you cook?"

"Can I have anything I want?" (my personal
favorite)

...this is a great line of humor, and women
love it.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

thanks for all your great info that i have been
receiving over the past several months. i have
been putting into practice the things i learned
from your e-book and newsletters with much
improved results in the dating scene...........in
a few of your newsletters you mentioned that
jealousy is the strongest of all emotions. how do
you deal with it if it is the woman who tries to
make you jealous. what's the best mindset and way
to handle it David.

d London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Jealousy is an interesting topic.

I'm not sure that I said it was the "strongest"
of all emotions... but I probably did say that it
was one of the most powerful.

Jealousy causes people to do all sorts of
stupid things... but it can also keep
relationships together.

If a woman knows that other women are
interested in you, she'll want you more.

If a man finds out that his girl is sleeping
with another man, he can fly into a rage that
often leads to violence (or worse).

Women are notorious for trying to make men
jealous.

Many women intuitively realize that jealousy
will make a man more interested and make him work
harder for her attention and affection.

If a woman tries to make me jealous, I just
laugh.

If she says:

"Oh, this guy I used to date called me last night
to see if I was single..."

I might laugh and say:

"Well you should go out with him."

At this point a woman will usually realize that
what she's doing isn't working and say, "No, I
don't like him, why did you say that?"

It's important to overcome the natural tendency
in life to have your emotions triggered by outside
events.

It takes some work in many cases, but it's
worth it.

Jealousy is an almost useless emotion. Do your
best to realize that you don't need it... and then
communicate that you're not easily played... and
you don't get jealous over other men.

Works wonders, and makes you even more
attractive.

***QUESTION***

I met this girl...and I know that she is the one
for me. I can feel it, and have felt if since I
first met her. At first, I can tell she was
attracted to me...we hung out for like 13 hrs the
first time we ever met, went out after that, and I
had used the cocky - making fun of her thing. Then
I got all wuss like and told her how I felt.

Now, we don't see each other all that often, I know
that she has gone out with another guy, and she
told me that he was a total dick to her.

Question is...can I get her attraction to me back
by starting to do the cocky thing again??? This
along with talking about other women that I am
talking to and hanging out with...would this
possibly get her interest back in me??? I need
help on this. Thanks J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, you need help on this.

HELLO?

Why did you stop doing what worked originally?

Don't make me come down there and shake you!

You're probably out of luck at this point, but
if you want to try and MAKE some luck, then get
back to doing what works.

You don't need me to tell you this stuff again.

Don't be a Wussy, man. Women aren't attracted
to Wussies.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I read your ebook a few weeks ago and like
everyone else, I am going to suck up to you and
say its great. These tips really helped me out in
the dating life. To the problem, I've known this
Italian girl since the summer. It started out as
an Internet thing in a chat room as with my natural
humor and new set of balls, I got hooked into me.
Fast forward to a few months in November, we still
kept talking and views me as a "Friend", even
though we didn't even send a single picture to one
another. Things are going so well, that *she*
decides that we should meet up somewhere. We did,
and I bet every reader in this room would be very
very very jealous if they saw me with this girl.

Things went well on this "get together", I busted
her balls, made her laugh, and her facial
expressions were mostly "What the.." look with
sometimes leaving her speechless. At the end, she
said I was definitely a keeper..wee. Fast forward
to a few days ago, and now she tells me that she
had sex with her ex-boyfriend who "she loved" and
hasn't seen a long time. The reason why they
broke up is because he had to move, they were both
in good terms. Even though the ex is currently
seeing someone else, who he claims he is not
interested in this "other", they still did it. She
said at the end that she views me as a "friend"

My question: What gives? She was taking
initiative to even *ask* me out, which is
something that 0.001% of girls ask for, she
compliments me, kisses me, the whole package, yet
just a few days ago she tells me that she loves
her ex?

For some reason I am going to get the feeling you
are going to go on with my life, wish I could, but
even though I did "double my dating", my dates
haven't been all that fulfilling. Lets say my
best date besides this one was some Swedish Figure
Skater who kept talking about her past 90000
boyfriends.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, yeah. I really feel for you.

In the months since you've been reading these
newsletters and few WEEKS since you've read my
book you've dated a super-hot Italian girl and a
Swedish Figure Skater.

And your dates haven't been "all that
fulfilling."

Bummer, man.

OK, as for your Italian girl who slept with her
ex.

These things happen, man.

Welcome to life on Earth.

My book is called "Double Your Dating," not
"How To Make Sure Every Relationship With Every
Woman In Your Life Turns Out Like A Movie."

Get out there and date some more women!

That'll get your mind off of the Italian girl
(who you obviously feel attached to)... and onto
some other super-babes that you have yet to meet.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Well I've read your e-book for about the 4th time
now. I'm most likely going to read it at least
that many more times. I'm just starting to put
your teachings into the real world. The first time
out I was with 2 of my buddies and 2 women that
they both new a lot better than I did. One girl is
a 8/9 the other is a solid 9. Well my buddy was in
the process on dating the 8/9 so I started to work
on the 9. I did the C/F routine, but I think I was
a little short on the funny but after all my
teasing and busting she still smiled and laughed.
I told her some stuff about how "hotties" view men
and how beauty was like a curse to them. She
seemed to look at me like I could read her mind.
But after that she kind of drifted from me and
eventually went over by the guys that I bet her
would all sleep with her in a heartbeat.... who
all acted like ass kissers might I add. My
question is...did I scare her with my knowledge of
knowing so much of her game? Also it is really
hard for me to work in a group of people. How can
you really focus your skills when everybody is
always switching who they are talking to. I'd say
for a first time out it with my new tools it
wasn't a loss but more of a tie.

M Tampa

>>>MY COMMENTS:

A "tie?"

And what were you trying to do with this girl,
win a popularity contest?

Did you ask her for her email?

No.

Did you ask her for her number?

No.

Quit talking so much about losers who like to
kiss ass and act like Wussies, and start thinking
NEXT STEP.

Remember the bonus booklet that you got with
"Double Your Dating" called "Bridges?"

This booklet teaches you how to go from one
step to the next.

The principle is that you need to know where
you are going... and then take steps to get there.

What... did you expect this girl to jump on
your lap and say, "Let's get out of here!"?

Lighten up on being the profound guru a little,
and start thinking NEXT STEP.

You didn't have a "tie" here, you had a "I
didn't do what it takes to win" here.

***QUESTION***

Dear David,

I have been reading your emails for about 6 months
now, and I gotta tell you. You're words and
advice have helped me with my life more than
anything else *ever*. I have gone from getting a
date with maybe one average looking girl every 4
months, to getting 7 or 8 dates from very
beautiful women in less than 2 weeks. My
confidence is skyrocketing, and women I would have
automatically accepted before (based on their
above average looks) are now often unacceptable in
one way or another (usually due to neurotic
behavior).

I have been changing my patterns and even people at
work are noticing the difference. I am way more
confident when confronted by my boss. I have gone
so far as to make cocky/funny jokes at his expense
hehe (surprisingly, it had the same effect on him
as the women, he's started following me around,
YIKES). I am attempting to find humor in every
situation. Even being stalked by my massive...
scary... hulking, boss (God help me).

I am still not at the place I want to be, but like
anything new, practice makes perfect (I imagine
buying your book and DVD set may help too). I can
actually notice daily improvements as I apply
these principles to my life.

Thank you so much David. Who knows, I may even get
a raise ;)

Quick question: I have had so many girls talk to
me about their problems like right away. I agree
with what you say about becoming a dumping ground
and how it has 'wussy' written all over it. Do
you have a few examples of how I could stop this
behavior without scaring them off or making them
think I am some kind of a**hole?

YOU ROCK

SF, BC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, congratulations on getting
7-8 dates from beautiful women in 2 weeks. You're
the man.

To answer your question about what to say to
women who start talking about their problems right
away...

Here's the deal.

When a woman starts talking about her problems,
what she's REALLY saying is, "I'm feeling bad
right now. I think that if I talk about my
problems I'll feel good... so that's what I'm
going to do."

I hope you're with me here.

Most guys go along with this, and try to be
"nice" about the whole affair.

If you're like I used to be, you actually TRY
TO HELP.

Well guess what?

This is a REALLY bad idea if you want a woman
to feel ATTRACTION for you.

The BEST thing to do in these situations is to
make her FEEL BETTER.

And being a "nice" Wuss Bag Girly-Man Therapist
isn't the way to do it.

Try this:

Next time a woman starts with the problems,
just interrupt her and say, "Hey, whoa... wait a
minute here... do I look like one of your
GIRLFRIENDS?"

She'll say, "No."

You say, "Great, then don't talk to me like I'm
one of them, OK?"

Continue with:

"If you want therapy, I'm going to have to
charge you at LEAST two hundred an hour... I'm
expensive. I'm in WAY too good of a mood to listen
to this stuff for free."

Now, you MUST remember something here.

You're NOT trying to come across like a
heartless bastard when you say this stuff.

What you ARE trying to say is, "Hey, you have
girlfriends, and their role is comforting you and
talking about things. I'm not your girlfriend. I'm
the person who you feel GOOD when you're around...
the one that cheers you up... the one that keeps
you interested."

This is a VERY important distinction.

You must understand and believe this when you
do it, or else you'll just come across like a
selfish prick.

I've done this exact thing NUMEROUS times in my
day, and almost EVERY time the woman stops,
laughs, and says:

"Oh, sorry. You're right... so what are you
doing?" etc.

You can COMPLETELY change the mood and tone of
a situation if you stand up, act like a man, and
refuse the invitation to be her free Wussy
Therapist Buddy.

But you really need to remember that a generous
helping of Cocky & Funny will make this work best.

If you listen to her problems and act like a
girlfriend, then that's what you're going to turn
into.

And thanks for the compliments... I get a lot
of feedback that this stuff helps in a lot of
different areas of life, and I know that my own
life has improved in many different ways as a
result.

Oh, and you're right about the fact that
investing in my DVD program will REALLY help your
success.

I guarantee that you'll be slapping yourself
and saying, "What the hell have I been waiting
for?"

If you've been dating average women, you'll
start meeting SUPER hot women.

If you've been running into a challenge, this
program will solve it for you.

And if you're reading this right now and you've
been thinking of investing in my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program, then you need to do it.

It comes with a 100% satisfaction guarantee...
if you're not thrilled, and it doesn't take your
game to a whole new level, just ask for a refund.

Really.

I want you to be one of the success stories in
the next Mailbag... go check out the details here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/

And in this Mailbag you've also heard from a
lot of guys who are using my original eBook
"Double Your Dating" to improve their success with
women and dating. It comes with three additional
free bonus booklets, and it's a complete
introduction to my principles and techniques. Of
course, it also comes with a 100% guarantee. Go
download your copy here... you can be reading it
in literally a few minutes from right now:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

P.S. Don't forget to look at my online "catalog"
of different programs... each one designed to help
you learn a different aspect of becoming more
successful with women and dating. You can see them
all, plus watch video clips here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/

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