"Approaching Women" - A Great Technique
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***QUESTION***
Hello Dave,
I just wanted to start off by saying you have very
valid points with women. I have worked at bars and
restaurants where women come in looking to hook up
with men. And the cocky-funny attitude works
wonders. I'm 22 going on 23 and I have had no
problem ever getting women to give me their
number. But there is one problem I do have. That
is timing "the call". When should I call? Plus I
used your "Are you single" approach with this very
attractive girl. She gave me 5 mins of her time
and I found out some cool things about her. She
was very hesitant on giving me her number, but
after I sat down to talk to her, she gave me her
number. Well, I called her two days after she
gave me her number and she was on the other line.
So she told me to call her back in 15 mins. I
waited 30 and she never answered the phone. so I
left a message. Should I rip up her number and
never call her again? Or should I call her in a
week? Your advise would be greatly appreciated.
Plus why would she give me her number if she
planned on not talking to me in the first place?
Thanks.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I personally think that this is one of the
funniest questions I hear. I mean, haven't you
watched "Swingers"? lol...
My rule of thumb is to wait at least one day,
but not more than a few. The real key is how OFTEN
you call her, and more importantly, what you SAY
when you call.
But let's talk about the psychology of why
women give out their phone numbers, and why I
personally like to get email addresses.
You must remember that attractive women are
being approached all the time by men, in one way
or another.
They have an unlimited supply of guys to choose
from.
I think that a lot of women who give out their
numbers, but then respond by being flaky when you call,
are doing something that many of us guys wouldn't
have thought of in a million years:
I think they're making themselves feel good.
Explained differently, I think that many women
who give out their numbers are looking for the
self-image-boosting hit of power that comes from
having a lot of men calling them... men that THEY
have the power to ACCEPT OR REJECT.
They can also use it to get attention from
friends:
"All these guys just keep calling me! Why don't
they just leave me alone! Don't they get the
hint!?"
Now, don't get me wrong. I know that this
sounds a little bit negative... and I don't mean
to say that ALL women do this, or that ALL women
are bad, etc.
To me, it's just part of the real world that
you need to learn to accept and deal with.
Which leads me to why I get email addresses...
Keep in mind, I've tried a lot of different
things when it comes to curing this problem of
hot-and-cold women who act one way when you meet
them, then totally different when you call.
And what I've found is that if you get EMAILS
instead, you not only differentiate yourself, but
you also increase your chances of hearing back
from her by about 100%. No lie.
For some reason, email has a power that a call
does not.
If you have my ebook "Double Your Dating", then
you have read about the technique for getting a
woman's email address within a few minutes of
meeting her. Email is also seen as lower risk by
her... and it's easier to get as well.
Try it. You'll like it.
***QUESTION***
David
Being cocky is the best way to go! I have picked
up more chicks reading your newsletter then I ever
have in my life. Getting the digits is a problem i
used to have and really sweat about. But now its a
breeze! and i average about 3-5 a week.
But anyway to my dilemma..! I met this chick at
work, she is very good looking and we flirt all
the time. But she has a boyfriend! He drives a
killer truck and he is 22 and im 19. Recently we
have been flirting and talking more then ever. but
a co-worker went up to her and said that i really
like her and that she should stop sending me the
wrong signals since she has a boyfriend. So she
comes up to me and tells me that flirting is just
part of her personality and that she has a
boyfriend that she plans on being with for a
while. But it just doesn't add up... when im
around her i get a totally different vibe...
everybody around me tells me that they can tell
she wants me. Plus i already have her number
THANKS TO YOU!!!! but how do i get past the mature
rich boyfriend. Or boyfriends in general!! im
stumped on how to retaliate Please help me find
out what she wants, and how to send the bf packin!
i am so stuck on this chick that i even find
myself being depressed after that day... HELP
ME!!!
your loyal fan.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
With all the women out there that don't have
boyfriends who drive trucks... and don't work at
the same place you do (which can only lead to
problems in the long run), why are you spending
your time pining away over this one?
I know, I know. She's extra good-looking, and
she's funny, and blah blah blah.
Look, just be her friend, and keep teasing her.
She's great target practice.
But do yourself a major favor, and go find a
girl who doesn't have a truck-owning boyfriend,
and who doesn't work with you.
Then, if the stars align in the future, she
won't have Truck Man anymore, and you won't work
at the same place, and she'll be so attracted to
you from all of the teasing that she'll follow you
around like a puppy.
Stop wasting your mental energy trying to get
something that has a high risk of turning out very
bad, and focus on finding opportunities that make
more sense.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
What are your thoughts on approaching groups? And
what's the best way to approach a group of girls?
I just moved to Vegas, and I've found that
beautiful girls will frequently travel in groups
of up to 8 girls or more. What have you found
works best for approaching groups? Thanks!
S.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The only reasons I can see for approaching a
"Group" of 8 or more girls are:
1) You have a bunch of friends, and you're trying
to hook them all up.
2) You really like challenges and entertaining
people.
I know someone who loves to approach groups of
people, and he's great at it. He uses a
combination of magic, humor, and other great
techniques to charm everyone, then leaves with the
girl of his choice.
But as far as I'm concerned, it's not the group
you're after most of the time... it's one woman in
the group... so stop with the "GROUP-THINK".
OK, 8 women walk into a club together (sounds
like the beginning of a good joke). What happens
over the next 2 hours?
Well, some of them peel off and dance, some go
to the bar for a drink, some go to the lady's room
to powder their noses...
There are all kinds of opportunities to meet
women when they're not in the group of 8. And I'll
tell you what, if she is standing at the bar with
her 7 friends and you start talking to her, the
other 7 will go about their business and not care.
Just go get her email address. That's all you
need.
Or learn magic. Really.
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***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
David:
As a female subscriber I'd like to admit to
consciously falling for many of the techniques
outlined in your newsletter. I'm a nineteen year
old college girl and have been dating my boyfriend
for four years. His occasional disinterest in me
only makes me want him more. He doesn't call or
email me as often as i call him or think it
necessary that we spend every weekend together and
i know he has a life other than me (i find this
terribly attractive). His body language or habit
of "taking up space and leaning back" is
irresistible and his cocky attitude has been
making me hot for years. I want to tell your male
subscribers not to lose the cocky/funny routine
after they have found a girl they like; not just
to keep her, but to attract other girls as well. i
find it a huge turn on when i catch other girls
checking out my guy.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, yes. Thanks for the comments. Next time do
tell more about the whole "I find it a huge turn
on when I catch other girls checking out my guy"
thing.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I have a question for you. Does the techniques you
use in your book work on women of all races? I am
African - American.
Thanks,
GB
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I get literally hundreds of emails a week from
all over the world telling success stories, so my
guess is that "yes, they do"...
And as a matter of fact, I'd like to thank all
my readers from every corner of the planet for
staying tuned, and for sending in your questions
and stories.
Often, the person sending the story doesn't
speak or write English very well, and I don't
speak their language, so I don't include them in
these Mailbags... but I try to respond personally
when I can.
My answer to you is: Try it. I think these
principals are universal when it comes to women.
Just take your local customs, traditions, and
benchmarks of proper behavior, as cultures
differ... and I know that our culture in America
is different than many of the cultures around the
world.
***QUESTION***
David, I just wanted to give your book a plug to
all the men out there who are currently involved
in a long-term relationship and want to spice
things up. Using the techniques described in your
book I completely turned around a 10 year
relationship that had gone stale. We went from
having sex 2-3 times a day in the first 6 months
of the relationship to once or twice a MONTH in
the last couple of years. After reading your book,
I began the whole cocky/funny routine on my wife
and stopped giving in to every little whim she had
and...BAM! Just like that she was attracted again.
She tried to pretend that she didn't like the
cockiness, but her actions showed how she really
felt about it. We're now back to 2-3 times a week
and I'm loving life. Thanks buddy for a great
education.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Can I just tell you how much I love getting
emails like this one? Hats off to you.
***QUESTION***
I just wanted to say I LOVE YOU MAN! for
emphasizing the COCKY AND FUNNY philosophy. I've
recently tried out this Internet dating thing and
man I'm telling you that I turned up the volume to
the max on being "cocky and funny" towards the
cutest chicks on the web. Let me tell you man that
my profile reads like a d*ckhead who can be
hilarious at the same time wrote this stuff. I
would say things like I got "abs" and sh*t, and
that I only date girls with pretty faces and who
have cute feet and straight teeth; that I like to
party and have fun and look good doing it and that
my weakness is that I can be an a**hole sometimes
but give me one reason to change? You would not
believe the response so far. I'll keep you posted.
Keep up the good advice.
V.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... You just gotta love guys who take things
to the limit, huh? I think you're starting to get
it... lol.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
This cocky/funny stuff becomes part of you after
you use it for a while. I have gotten numerous e-
mails and dates under my belt thanks to you.
Example : I met this girl at a bar, mostly college
crowd. Lot of guys were hitting on her. But as
soon as I saw her alone - I approached her. Here
is the dialogue:
Me: Hey, can I ask you a quick question? Her:
ya.... Me: You go to college around here? Her: no
(and then she looks away as if not interested) Me:
(I tap on her shoulder) So where you from? Her:
From...(she gives the city name 4hrs away from
where I live) Me: How do you like it here? Her: I
am visiting friends (She looks away again and
talks to her friend). Me: So what do you do in
(her town)? Her: I go to pharmacy school... Me: SO
YOU ARE A DRUG DEALER?? Her:(She cracks up and the
ice is broken).....small talk .....ya da ya da.
me: small talk.....ya da ya da me: I need to go
back to my friends but nice meeting you.(I turn
away) her: nice meeting you too (I really had her
attention by now) Me: (Turn back) do you have e-
mail? her: I don't check my e-mail often. ME:
"Ha!ha!ha!" (I started laughing loud) Her:(Little
disarmed) Me: Do you have electricity? Her:
no....(cracks up)....I really don't check e- mail.
Me: Listen girl....imagine the worst case
scenario...(do as mentioned in you DD book) .....I
just want to make friends with a DRUG DEALER. Her:
Okay...here is my e-mail. TOTAL TIME - 3 minutes
and 16 seconds to get her e-mail - yes i timed it.
We have exchanged e-mails back and forth now. She
even asked me to come to her place to go
partying/dancing.
I replied back saying: "What?? I don't even know
you and u want me already? Sorry I am not that
easy. Whatever happened to the good old days when
ladies invite guys for coffee first?"
She is special (she is awesome and seems to have
good personal qualities). Problem is she lives
four hours away - how do I go about doing this
long distance thing? I told her to come on down
to my town. Provided she has personality that
matches her looks - I think she would be worth my
time and I would drive 4hrs to see her.
-A.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I know, isn't it great that this stuff actually
works?
By the way, nice touch asking the pharmacy
school gal if she's a drug dealer.
This is a great example of EXACTLY what to do
when you meet a girl. Read it again.
And as for the driving 4 hours thing... In the
4 hours of driving EACH WAY, you could probably go
out and meet several other nice young ladies that
are a bit closer. Maybe she loves to drive?
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
Unsolicited, I think you're book is AMAZING. NICE
WORK! Breaking rapport with humor is a charm! I'm
having a blast with it. Ex: Attractive older
woman at the cash register tells me to move over
to the next register, then she tells another clerk
to take care of the next customer, I say, "You
just order EVERYBODY around...DON'T you?" She
goes, "I'm too old to get married, but I LIKE you!
You're REAL!" So of course, I responded, "Well, I
just do what I'm told, but I'm not so sure about
you...too BOSSY." Women love this stuff!
Question: I've noticed in three different
occasions where chicks have respond to my actions
by pouting. I know that you've had some great
recommendations, i.e., saying, "You're cute when
you pout.", etc. and it works, but, in your
opinion, have you found that the pouters have a
lot of personal baggage? Or is that normal
female behavior??...or BOTH. The last thing I want
to do is get too involved with a neurotic. Please
share your experience and observation. Thanks, DJ
Chicago
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if you date enough women, you'll get just
about every possible response in the world.
Sure, once in awhile a woman will pout if you
give her a hard time and tease her.
It's a judgment call, but if you're dealing
with a fragile personality just say, "Oh, lighten
up."
Most of the time, just do what you're doing...
"You're cute when you're mad" is great.
Thanks for your story.
***QUESTION***
Dave, its working too good for me!!!....lol! You
truly know ur stuff. I've had so many girls
pursue
me in the last couple of months. Ive narrowed
down my girls down to 2 and they both cant get
enough of me, but theres one i really like out of
the 2. I've recently decided to break it off with
one of them and stick with the one i really like,
but there's a problem. With the one that i really
like, no one really has the upper hand in the
relationship. I dont know what i have to do to
gain this powerful control. How can i make this
girl wait on my every word!??!?! Any help would
be much appreciated. Once again, you are the man
Dave. Thanks again.
B.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ahhhhh... interesting.
The one you like is the one who won't allow
herself to be controlled. An attractive woman with
a sharp mind and a quick wit. A challenge.
Probably not a coincidence, my friend.
Of course, this is the same thing a woman is
looking for in a man... someone who is
interesting, challenging, unpredictable...
If I were you, I'd thank my lucky stars that:
1) You found a woman that is this great.
2) You learned how to be and stay attractive to
her.
You sound like a guy who's interested in having
a great relationship, but I'm not a relationship
counselor.
I get guys INTO troubles like yours, not help
them deal with it!
You poor, poor dear.
OK, I gotta go... but one more thing...
If you are thinking to yourself "I really,
really need to get this part of my life
handled"...
Then YOU'RE RIGHT.
You certainly do need to get it handled.
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Your Friend,
David D.
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