Q.Hey David D!
Who says there's no such thing as magic? When it comes to women, cocky+funny is pure 100% magic. It is one of the major keys to making her comfortable with you, to getting her number, to getting the date, kissing, getting laid, everything!
They are always laughing and smiling and even they tend to get touchy-feely.
Asking me for my number and then calling me (of course, I always get their numbers too) or asking me to call them, asking me when we're going out, and even asking me for sex.
I could not believe it! I suggest all guys especially the skeptics out there to get your stuff. It works!
What I love is how you say making it look like as if a woman is picking you up. It sure takes the pressure off of the situation. Here's just a few of the lines I use:
Look, just because you're being sweet to me doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with you. What? You thought I was that easy? Common!
(with women at work or women working somewhere) How can you possibly get any work done when you're flirting with me all the time? I know I'm a stud and all but if you lose your job, don't think I'm going to support you!
(after seeing a woman) I know we had fun, but please don't become a stalker and call me 50 times a day or else I'll have the cops pay you a visit with a restraining order in hand!
(If a woman hints at sex or sometimes I'll bring it up) I don't know if I could have sex with you...what if you could only last 2 minutes? I don't know if you can even kiss...I tell you what, I'll think about it (then I kiss her)
(cocky+funny for a common situation)
Her: "How are you?" Me: "Well, I've been told I'm pretty damn good!" with a 'wink'
(If a woman walks past me) Me: "What are you doing" (or where are you going?)
Her: "I'm going to such and such or I'm doing such and such." Me: "You're a lousy liar......It's really ok to admit you were just trying to get a look at me... and as long as you're not a stalker, I may give you a chance!"
(If she makes fun of herself) Her: "I'm such a retard" or "My hair looks awful" or "My lipstick doesn't look good does it?" Me: "Well, I didn't want to say anything!" lol "But I think those guys over there were thinking 'What's her problem? She's so clueless!"
OR
Her: "My hair looks bad doesn't it?" (or any other line where she makes fun of herself) Me: "You can say that again!" (with a playful tone)
I love it! I love it! With this type of communication, they react so differently!
A lot of times, they will break down and admit they do like me! And this keeps you out of the lets just be friends category and reduces the number of fake numbers and blow-offs you get from women.
It also keeps you from appearing too nice. And I don't have to chase them anymore! It's a wonderful feeling. Now on the other hand, what if you said:
"I bet you have a boyfriend, right?"
"Hey baby, you're so beautiful!"
"Can I take you out sometime?"
"Oh, baby, there's nothing wrong with you! You're gorgeous!"
Ah! David, just like you say...this stuff is terrible! Wuss, kiss-ass behavior at its best!
It's so lame, so boring, and so wussie, and so blah! Using cocky+funny, we can have more fun without sounding like a loser plus women respond 1,000,000% times better with cocky+funny.
Probably only 1-2% of the male population know what cocky+funny is and probably half of those do it without realizing it. This type of communication is different from what most guys do which makes you stand out! But it's a lot like water. For water (H20), you need 2 hydrogen atoms and one oxygen atom.
If not then you get some other element you aren't looking for. You have to have the right mixture of cocky and funny or else it doesn't work as well (although sheer cockiness with mild humor can work to a degree).
Now, I have a question and observation that is important to me, David. Sometimes when I throw out a cocky+funny response, they will say Oh whatever! or roll their eyes or say you're mean, get mad, or something like that and walk away. This happens not often but on rare occasions.
These women are probably uptight anyways and not worth getting know. When they say whatever or You're so mean and they're laughing or smiling, and they still keep talking to me, then I know it's working.
Also, when you say something like: ...Oh quit lying, you were just walking near me because you want me and they say No, I don't want you or No I wasn't, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _ in a semi-serious tone, how do you respond to that to keep the cocky+funny going?
In other words, what do you do when they act as if they aren't picking you up?
Thanks a million Dave...you've changed my life forever... seriously.
GT from Nashville, Tennessee
A.Hey GT, written any good books lately? That's right, I said "written," because you sure have a way with words. LOTS of words.
But seriously, let's talk about the GREAT comments that you've shared, and then I'll address your question...
I was amazed when I first realized that you could actually turn the tables around, pretend that you're trying to resist her advances, and make fun of her for trying to put the moves on you... and wind up having the woman you're talking to actually start feeling ATTRACTED to you as a result.
It really is AMAZING, yet...
Most Men Have No Clue How EASY And POWERFUL This Technique Is
A lot of guys hear this approach and think, yeah, right. There's no way that just pretending that a woman is pursuing you will MAKE her pursue you...
But this isn't just any old common way of pretending. What you're doing here is a very special, Cocky & Funny, flirty, engaging way of pretending.
I'm sure you've watched the Discovery Channel, and seen animals play-fighting. It's common among young animals in particular. Now, how do animals know that it's only play, as opposed to real fighting? I mean, have you ever seen the way some animals, like lion cubs and wolf pups jump on and bite each other?
It certainly looks like real fighting. But it's not... it's play.
Well there's a very similar thing that happens when you flirt with a woman using the Cocky & Funny technique... and when you use this further to pretend that she's trying to pick you up and you're resisting her advances.
You have to use just a little extra drama. You have to be a little overly suspicious with your tone. You have to act just a little too serious and offended.
These little cues, along with a good sense of humor and timing are the hints and triggers that make a woman instantly switch into "oh, this is play mode," instead of behaving as if you're a loser who has no imagination.
The 3 Amazing Benefits Of Using Cocky & Funny
AMAZING BENEFIT #1:
The biggest benefit of a Cocky & Funny approach is that, right off the bat, you'll NEVER come across as nervous or intimidated with a woman again.
The fact that you're turning the tables around, having fun, and acting like you're something special sends the message that you're totally cool, calm, and comfortable in your own skin... and, in fact, you're so comfortable that you're going to go immediately to "play" mode.
AMAZING BENEFIT #2:
Another benefit of Cocky & Funny is that it gives you a character role to play that is the OPPOSITE OF BEING A WUSS. This is handy, as most guys switch quickly into Wuss mode when they start talking to an attractive woman.
AMAZING BENEFIT #3:
Finally, Cocky & Funny gives you all kinds of great ways to end the interaction. You can say: "Ok, well I'm not going to give you my number, but you can write down your email for me, and maybe I'll get back to you sometime..." etc. It even makes taking things to the next level easy and charming, because you're resisting forward.
Which brings us to...
A Quick Personal Story
Get this. A while back I was at Hooters Restaurant with a friend, and the waitress approached us to get our order. She walked over and said something like, "Hi, can I get you something to drink?" etc.
I pretended not to notice her, and kept talking to my friend. Then, as she finished asking the question, I turned to her with a surprised and fake offended look on my face and said, Oh, that's OK, I was just TALKING (as if she had interrupted me).
She opened her mouth with the "Oh, no you didn't! I can't believe you just said that" look. I shook my head at her. Then my friend looked at her and said, "Wow, you're very forward. Next thing she's going to be asking for your phone number."
I shook my head at her again, and rolled my eyes. We gave her the drink order, and she went away.
Then she came back a few minutes later to tell me that my drink was going to be delayed, because they were making some kind of change in the kitchen. Of course, I threw up my hands in despair, rolled my eyes at her, and shook my head (as if she was disappointing me horribly).
She laughed and said, "Hey, you'd better watch out, I might have to ask you for your phone number"... That fast.
We had talked for a grand total of about a minute, and she was already joking around about asking me for my number. And keep in mind, this is a Hooters waitress (and a cute one, at that). She works in an environment where hundreds of guys try to pick up on her, one after the other...
Now, as you can imagine, this kind of thing happens all the time when I interact in this way. And YOU will, too, if you remember one thing:
It's About Coming Across As Cool And Fun... Instead Of Like A WUSS
So... if you're reading this right now and you'd like to learn the secret of using my technique of Cocky & Funny, then you should go and check out my program Cocky Comedy program. It's the ultimate education on not only this technique, but many other conversation skills.
You can get all the details here:
Now to address your main question, GT... just as a refresher, here it is in a nutshell:
"Sometimes when I throw out a cocky+funny response, women get mad or walk away. When this happens, how do you respond to keep the cocky+funny going?"
Okay. What I'm about to tell you is sometimes hard for guys to accept, so get ready...
Some People Have Absolutely NO Sense Of Humor
Sad but true. My guess is that something like 60%-80% of the population just plain aren't very interesting or fun to talk to. Even worse, some people are actually arrogant about their lack of a sense of humor.
In fact, I remember meeting a girl at a bar a couple of years ago. I was in Hollywood, CA at a fancy bar, and she was one of these "I'm a beautiful actress, and I know it" types. I was ordering a drink, and she bumped into me. I turned and said, "Don't touch me!"
She just looked at me with a "You're a jerk" look, and leaned away from me. I smiled at her and said, "It was a joke, it's OK" (with kind of a slightly sarcastic "you didn't get it" tone of voice). She said something like, "Well, it wasn't funny. You seem like an arrogant jerk." I couldn't help myself... I burst into laughter. She, of course, got even more annoyed.
Now, most guys would have gotten all upset, thought that they must have done something majorly wrong, and tried to apologize and get the woman to like them. But I immediately recognized this girl as a person who just plain doesn't have a sharp sense of humor, and who is probably a HUGE pain in the ass to deal with in real life.
So what did I do?
I LAUGHED At Her. End Of Story.
You heard me.
In fact, you may notice that a lot of guys write to me with questions like, "I'm dating four women right now, and they're all wonderful, but there's this one girl that I just can't get... how do I make the one that isn't interested like me?"
This is a curious thing. We humans always want the approval of the person who doesn't want to give it to us, right? Instead of just walking away and saying, your loss, we often chase after them, begging and pleading for their approval... and thinking that we must have done something wrong.
Remember, some people actually enjoy making other people feel bad. some women actually enjoy rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power.
There are many women who will spend all week shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and makeup (and doing their hair), just to go out and get attention from men... so they can reject those men, and complain to their friends about what "losers" and "pigs" men are, and how they hate it when men look at them like a "piece of meat."
Go figure.
Now let me give you a little tough love, GT...
Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and getting this area of your life handled is realizing that not all women are nice people, and not letting those that aren't nice affect you. You can reach a point in your life where your attitude should become "I do not give anyone permission to take my joy, happiness, and good mood away from me."
What To Do When A Woman's Not "Feeling It" For You
When you get to this point, then it doesn't matter if a woman doesn't respond positively to your approach. It doesn't matter if she rejects you. It doesn't matter if she doesn't have a sense of humor.
None of this matters when you don't give anyone permission to take your joy away from you.
My advice: Learn to WALK AWAY. Learn to blow it off. Learn how to immediately disconnect and detach from these types of situations, and not let them affect you.
The numbers game goes both ways. If you start meeting a lot of women, you will, by nature of meeting a lot of women, meet quite a few that don't have a sense of humor, aren't friendly, aren't available, etc.
You need to learn the skill of keeping your power and joy for yourself, and never giving it to someone you don't even know. Make a decision right now that your joy is your own, and that you'll never allow another person to take it away from you.
Dude, someone give me a hug. But on a serious note...
If you've been reading my newsletters for awhile, or you've had a chance to download a copy of my eBook or check out my Advanced Series, then you know that I really believe it's important to get your "inner game" handled.
By inner game, I mean things like your emotions, your outlook on life, your mental map of how things work between men and women, etc.
It took me a long time, and a lot of trial and error to find the things that really work best when it comes to the one thing you MUST do to start succeeding with women:
How To Make Women Feel The Emotion Called ATTRACTION
One of the most important things that I realized is that if you don't get your inner game together, and learn how to think about women and dating, all the techniques in the world aren't going to help you very much when it comes to creating ATTRACTION.
In my Advanced Series, I spend several hours going over everything from the evolution of human mating to the beliefs and attitudes of guys who are naturally good with women.
I think it's important to change the way you think as you change the way you behave. Women use little clues to figure out if you're the real deal or if you're just faking it. If you don't believe in what you're doing, then you're going to come across as a fake. You'll feel like you're being manipulative... and like a fraud.
When you understand what is happening, how and why women act the way they do, and how to make women feel attraction, then your behaviors feel right and they come across as authentic... because they are.
In my eBook and Advanced Series, I take a lot of time to help you get your inner game together, so you can feel good about your success with women. Of course, I also reveal dozens and dozens and dozens of killer techniques for approaching, meeting, dating, and taking things to a physical level with women, so I recommend that you check them out.
My Advanced Dating Techniques program is right here:
And my eBook is available for immediate download here:
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