Still Not "Getting Any?"
Then I suggest that you get a handle on one MIND- BLOWING YET 100%-UNIVERSALLY-TRUE FACT right NOW...
It's that women don't make logical "decisions" about whether or not they're going to "get physical" with a guy.
ALL THAT *REALLY* COUNTS IS JUST 1 THING:
Whether a man does the simple, specific things necessary to create certain feelings inside her... irresistible feelings that she can't stop, control OR ignore... even if she wants to!
Here's the "magic secret" how to do it... and to start GETTING SOME at last:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/catalog/SexualCommunication.html
Hey Man,
My mailbag's busting out all over this week, so let's get right to it...
***READER QUESTION***
David,
The other weekend I went out with a couple of friends. One of them has a female roommate (friends for years) who is smoking hot. She mostly hangs with the guys and they are very protective of her.
Anyway, right off the bat, after I was introduced to her I shot off with the "nice necklace....what did you get that out of a cracker jack box?"
She had a stunned look on her face like she just got rabbit punched. My friend, her roommate, was all pissed at me, kept telling me to be nice to her, not to be mean, etc.
About 2 minutes later I ask her if I am being mean (in hindsight I realize that was a mistake), she says no, and we start talking. We talk a little more. I tell her to buy me a drink.
She does.
We start talking again and she is swinging her head, moving her hair, and she grabs her breasts, you know kind of cups them with both hands.
I say, "What the hell are you doing...quit grabbing your boobs".
She couldn't believe I had said that. We start talking some more and she tells me that in 5 minutes since I met her I told her things that no guy has ever said to her.
I kind of went my own way after, didn't want to but had to, with some other friends, but I didn't try to get her number because I knew I would see her again the next time I go over to my buddies apartment.
I had to give her the gift of missing me.
Believe me, I will be stopping by soon. I think guys need to be tellers, not doers. As much as women don't like to admit it, I think that they like being told what to do.
Do you agree? Your thoughts please.
TT Kansas City
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You want my thoughts, TT? Okay, here they come...
THOUGHT #1: You're a stud. Pretty well done... so far.
THOUGHT #2: When she said: "In 5 minutes since I met you, you told me things that no guy has ever said to me", you should have followed up with something like:
"Yeah, well that's not all I'm going to tell you. Now that you're doing everything I tell you, it's time for you to decide where you're going to take me to dinner. And make it somewhere nice. I'm picky."
You see, before you give a woman the gift of missing you, you need to make her like you more.
Make sense?
But like I said... awesome start. Be sure to let me know what happens next.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
I'm a long-time fan of your stuff... I've got all of your products and am just waiting for the lunchbox and the David DeAngelo action figure with kung-fu grip :)
So anyway, I was at work the other day and this cutie of an Asian girl had just started her first day so I had to train her.
Well, she walked in with a bitchy attitude if I've ever seen one and the minute she started whining and being a total bitch, I just stopped, looked at her and said to her very seriously:
"Listen here little girl, I don't know if other people accept this behavior of yours but I won't... got it? You're in my reality, so cut it out now".
At that moment she FROZE and you could just see her immediately transform herself into sweetest little girl ever!!!
For the rest of the day, she was all over me and wanted to know ALL ABOUT ME - yet I never gave her a straight answer ONCE!!!
"Where do you live?", she asks. "I'm not telling you. For all I know, you could be a psycho stalker.
As a matter of fact, I think I've seen your face on America's Most Wanted." Then got a **SLAP IN THE ARM**
And, I just kept this up for the next 3 hours and David, let me tell you, she MELTED. She was grabbing my ass on the job and I told her that if she didn't stop I was going to call Sexual Harassment on her (see the role reversal here!!).
It was phenomenal, man! I'm quitting my job next week so now I can go ahead and pursue this without "dipping my pen in the company ink", as you say. I'll let you know how it goes.
And this is all b/c I could have cared less what she thought of me and was out just to enjoy MYSELF - I learned this well from your Advanced Series.
You must create YOUR REALITY and Live in it, or else you fall victim to someone else's whims. It's powerful stuff, man!
Peace!
AG, Memphis
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey AG, GREAT story.
Great because it shows you really GET IT.
As you found out, once you get that "SLAP IN THE ARM" from a girl after using "COCKY & FUNNY," you know that it's game ON.
That you're IN.
As you seem to also get, reversing gender stereotypes is one of my favorite Cocky Comedy themes.
The whole "If you don't stop grabbing my ass I'm going to call Sexual Harassment" line is golden.
Another one of my favorites is accusing women of just seeing me as a sex object, and not caring about my feelings.
Another is telling a woman that I want her to support me and that if she's not nice, I'm going to divorce her, take half her money, and leave her with the minivan.
A ton more of them are right here, if you're interested:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/catalog/CockyComedy.html
No matter what, you gotta love the look on a woman's face when you say this stuff to her!
But you gotta love it EVEN MORE when she suddenly reaches out... makes playful, teasing PHYSICAL CONTACT with you because of it!
Like I said... once *that* happens, the rest is a piece of cake.
***SUCCESS STORY (FROM A WOMAN)***
I've been reading your newsletters for a couple of months now. I thought you were full of crap.
At first I began to read this because I was interested to know how men went about their sexual desires. Just out of curiosity only because I am not into men. I love women, and I am a woman.
After this weekend you have persuaded me to buy your products. I started in with a group of women claiming I could read palms, and that led to your cocky funny bit. I'm still laughing at how easy it was to have these women eating out of the palm of my hand.
Like I said I thought this was some much bull that I would embarrass my self if I tried it.
Well, I had a few drinks and I got the courage to do so, and it was amazing how the women reacted.
That's all I can say.
Sorry boys, I will be using your techniques against you. You can have the bimbo's with the fake tits. Keep those on your side, lesbians don't like them much.
DD, South Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Know what, DD... I'll bet all the men are going to be VERY upset with you for competing... AND stealing all the natural-breasted women.
I guess we'll just have to make do with what you leave us.
And yes, I get a lot of emails from women who use this stuff on both men AND women.
Of course, stories from lesbians are my favorite, just because everyone knows that lesbians are COOL.
Thanks for the email. I always love to hear from "The man on the inside".
***COMMENTS***
David,
I'm 35 and I gotta hand it to ya. Your emails have helped me stay focused with the girl I'm dating (she's an 8 out of 10).
Your techniques have also given me new strategies every day with other women I meet. The Cocky & Funny strategy works wonders and it's AMAZINGLY EASY to hook a woman whenever I tactfully and playfully poke fun at her.
Anyway, I wanted to agree with your point that age is only a big deal when you make it one.
My current girl is only six years younger than me, but my last girl was nine years younger.
Let me respectfully spell it out for anyone who wants to listen: YOUNGER WOMEN LOVE OLDER MEN.
But, David, if I might suggest a couple of additional ideas, and feel free to elaborate on them.
Young women love older men who are:
--Immaculately and tactfully dressed (no shorts or t-shirts!).
--Not clingy.
--At least somewhat knowledgeable about business & world events
--Able to pick a decent wine with dinner.
Anyway, just my two cents. Feel free to use however you want.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, my friend, I can certainly roll with those two cents.
I'd also add a few cents of my own...
A younger woman ALSO loves an older man who:
1) Knows how to rock her world in the bedroom.
2) Mentors her.
3) Doesn't tolerate her drama.
4) Treats her like a lady.
5) Isn't a WUSSBAG.
But definitely... a LARGE percentage of "younger" women LOVE "older" men.
Cool of you to throw this one out there, and thanks for your thoughts.
***SUCCESS STORY***
I have been thinking of buying your ebook and now I am SURE I will.
I have been recently discussing CONFIDENCE and how important it is in the dating game...
I have been making an effort to willfully increase mine and I have been DIEING to try out this approach of yours and not be intimidated by women.
I had a great situation happen to me on the bus this morning: I am sitting there reading and this HOTTIE comes up and asks if the seat next to me is taken (she's about a 7.5 to 8 or so on my scale).
"No, not really", I say, kinda nonchalant, like its no biggie. She made a comment about "just making the bus" and we start talking.
I decided to try using the Cocky and Funny approach that I have heard about in the newsletters (I am sure once I get the ebook that more will be revealed on that)... and she is EATING IT UP!
I'm making unbelievable progress with this chick so I decide to try another tip the newsletters have mentioned... I just flat out ask her if she is single.
"No...unfortunately I'm not", she says. "Hmmm...well, that's too bad...for YOU, I mean", I tell her, giving her a knowing smile. BIG grin from her.
MAN this was great... I was just saying all the things I usually WANT to say but are afraid they will not "sound good".
I was teasing this girl and she was eating out of my hand!
She, by this time, has already mentioned a friend of hers that she want to set me up with and she says "WOW, how come I could never find any great guys like you when I was still in the dating scene?"
So I turn up the flame and bust her with, "You know... you could ALWAYS trade up"
She LOVED it!
"You're so AWESOME", she says, "Its so hard to meet people nowadays, and you know, I hardly EVER run across guys that are so intelligent and funny as you are.
And, by the way, I really LOVED how you just came out and asked me if I was single... most times guys are too scared to ask that and so both you just sit there and wonder and never know, that was really great".
I was STUNNED... WHO KNEW! MY GOD, HOW SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE A CONCEPT!
Short story long, I get her email & she BEGS me for MY info as well... she makes a point (no less than 3 times, mind you) to mention to me "be sure and send me an email".
She also mentions a costume party she is planning and says she will definitely include me on the guest list.
I haven't sent her anything yet...I'm letting her stew for awhile... but plan to and am gonna bust her about the "Swiss Miss" costume she said she was planning on wearing to the party.
WHAT A MORNING...THANKS!
M.B. Dallas, Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well M.B., you know that I sometimes (lovingly) bust on Wussies, but you did everything RIGHT, so what can I say?
Just a few small suggestions:
When she said that she had a friend that she wanted to introduce to you, it would have been a good idea to have said, "Tell me about her. Is she rich? Famous? A supermodel? I'm picky..."
Then -- after she finished talking up her friend you could have said, "Well, I guess we'll have to see what she's like. In the meantime, think of more cute, single, rich friends... just in case I don't like this one."
You see... there's a tremendous amount of power in making friends with beautiful women who have attractive friends.
Think about it, then try some of this on her at the Costume Party...
I think you'll be even more AMAZED at where things go.
***COMMENT***
I cannot believe people pay you for this crap. You must be laughing all the way to the bank.
When you figure out what relationships are actually really all about, then you'll know for yourself what a fool you are.
Dating what you call hot, smart women demonstrates how clueless you really are. You crack me up.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, now you've gone and hurt my soft little feelings.
But really, did you have to be so mean about it?
Listen, I'm glad you've turned my head around and shown me the light... and made me realize what a huge mistake it is to date HOT, SMART WOMEN.
And on a more serious note... I don't laugh when I go the bank.
And I also don't laugh at poor souls like you who just don't "get it" and (tragically for you) probably never will.
But you really do add that little extra "something" that makes this the best job in the world, so write again.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I accidentally got on your mailing list, but I read every email you send out.
I'd buy your ebook, but the thing is...I don't really need help getting women, I am one.
Let me just tell you, that I didn't believe in that cocky funny thing until I met... We'll call him... J.
I do not consider myself easy at all, but after only 2 dates I found myself in bed with this guy who totally epitomizes the cocky funny attitude.
I find myself chasing him until it is ALMOST frustrating, and I can't believe it. I've never chased a guy before. People should definitely listen to what you have to say.
>>>MY COMMENTS
Amen.
Next...
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I'm a 25 year old guy. I have a stable & good career, money is not a problem.
However, now I'm attracted to a 26-year old independent girl. She admits to being self- centered & that the world revolves around her.
I have taken her out for around 6 times but I've never held her hand. Every time I take her out, she would say that I'm boring although she would say she was joking later.
The problem is that I really like her & I told her that (big mistake).
She replied by saying she is on neutral ground but she's quite comfortable with me & that's about it. She is sometimes very nice to me & at other times doesn't seem to care about me. This is what confuses me.
Is there any chance of salvaging this & making her my girlfriend?
Thanks for your help. I'm on the verge of subscribing to your E-book. I've read the samples & thoroughly agree with the stories & advice.
:-)B
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Uh-oh, B... what we have here is a CODE RED WUSSY ALERT.
Dude, you are in DANGER.
I thought there was hope for you... until I saw the SMILEY FACE at the end of your email.Now I'm convinced that you're going to screw this up for SURE.
You're on the VERGE of getting my eBook?
What, you like taking women out a half-dozen times and having them tell you that you're BORING?
Great. Sounds like fun.
You know, I'd give you some advice, but you're in need of major de-Wussing.
You need a total mental overhaul, man. So get off the "verge" and finally step up and TAKE ACTION to escape the "Wuss Zone".
Your simple "road map" for doing it is right here:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/catalog/eBook.html
Don't do anything else until you've downloaded it and read the entire thing.
I mean it.
***QUESTION***
David, let me ask you something.
I am reading a lot of these peoples success stories as well as your advice and I get one common theme that's in all of them:
Confidence.
Now let me ask you something that I think a lot of guys would like to ask but are too ashamed. What if you're not really as confident as you portray yourself to be?
And I am talking online now.
What if you think that if you act this confident online or on the phone, she'll be disappointed in what she sees when the meeting comes about, after expecting so much?
Because a lot of us guys, while these views of ourselves may only be psychological, don't feel we can maintain the image we portray them to believe?
A.D. from Queens
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey A.D., you bring up a real issue here that I think we all deal with at one point or another.
But the reality is that if you don't GO FOR IT, you're not going to improve.
Yeah, I think that "confidence" is important. But, the REAL key is to deal with your own personal INSECURITIES.
That's where the REAL power is.
Here's what I suggest for you:
Make a list of all the things you're insecure about. Put things on there like "I don't make a lot of money", "I don't drive a nice car", "I don't look like Brad Pitt"... whatever.
Then spend time ACCEPTING each of those things ONCE AND FOR ALL so you can LEAVE THEM BEHIND FOREVER.
Then:
Think of a situation you're going to be in with a woman... and how the topic of the thing you're insecure about might come up.
Imagine her asking you what you do for a living, and you feeling insecure because you don't make a lot of money.
Now, realize that what you do is what you do, and if she doesn't like it, it has nothing to do with YOU. It doesn't matter.
Then imagine another one, and how you'll respond to it.
Go through the entire list.
Learn to laugh at the things you're insecure about... I mean, really not give a damn about them anymore... and you will TAKE AWAY ALL THEIR POWER OVER YOU.
I can *guarantee* you this.
How do I know?
Well, I used to be VERY insecure about the fact that I was poor and not the best looking when I was a kid.
I thought that women would judge me because of it... something I've brought with me from childhood. My "baggage."
Now, if a woman asks me about these things, I just laugh and tell her that I was ugly and poor.
See, I've taken the time to really think through all the areas of my life that I'm "insecure" about, and worked out my issues around those areas.
I think that's the REAL first step towards building "confidence" with women.
So try it, and let me know what happens.
Once you can really LAUGH at your "issues" and take away their power, things start to turn around for you FAST.
***COMMENT***
Hey Dave-
What's up out on the West Coast? Anyway things are rolling here in NYC, thanks to your advice.
Just want to contradict a few things you've said:
The first is that you just help with picking up women and that you're not offering advice for relationships. This is not true as all this stuff still applies if you are in a relationship.
In fact it applies EVEN MORE.
I say this because our "alternate wussy self" is always kind of lurking in the shadows waiting to jump out and ruin everything.
Your teachings have helped me always be aware of that.
The second is that "women don't like men who act like wussies--period. Unless you look like Brad Pitt."
This is also not true.
Yes, fellas, I am a recovering wuss. And not to brag, But I essentially make my living as male model.
My whole life people have commented on how "good- looking" I am. But at 24 years old, I can literally count my successes with women, due to a serious lack of confidence.
Yes, pretty sad.
But things have radically changed since I started applying all these 'techniques'. So guys don't make an excuse that you are not 'good-looking' enough, etc. Turn off the tube and get busy.
ES from NYC
ps: And that's just what I've learned from the newsletters! I haven't even gotten the book yet.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well E.S., you're right.
Even though I used to stay away from giving "relationship" advice, I discovered that a lot of what I was teaching to GET women works just as well to KEEP women.
In fact, I've since gone on to create a BLOCKBUSTER home-study course on how to become the kind of man that can GET and KEEP any "Total 10" woman that he wants...
... all by "transforming" himself, simply and step-by-step, into that one-in-a-million, needle- in-a-haystack "real man" that EVERY great woman would kill to have a relationship with.
Now, I am *NOT* talking about getting plastic surgery to become as totally male-model handsome as you are, E.S.
And I'm not talking about robbing a bank to get Mark Cuban money. (Now there's a guy who's not relying on his looks to get women...)
I *am* talking about making a few, simple, INNER changes to yourself that will automatically make you start SAYING and DOING the kind of "real man" things that make amazing women go crazy for them.
Just that simple.
Learn more about how to do it (100% SUCCESS- GUARANTEED and RISK-FREE) right here:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/catalog/ManTransformation.html
In the meantime, I know I'll continue to get a lot of emails from "good-looking" and "rich" guys who have never had success with women...
... all because (despite their awesome money and good looks) they still have no clue how to act like a "real man."
Oh, and above all... if you haven't read my eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to go and download it RIGHT NOW.
It's a nuclear-blast introduction to ALL of my success-proven concepts and techniques.
You can download it right now, and be reading it within a few minutes. It's here:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/catalog/eBook.html
Thanks for your email, E.S. Good stuff.
And that's about all for now.
About 50 emails came in with more questions while I was writing this, so I'll talk to you again soon...
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. By now, it should be pretty clear: MOST of what triggers attraction in women is not OBVIOUS.
In fact, most of the time, it's just plain ILLOGICAL.
Women NEVER say "Hey, you're doing the wrong thing."
Or: "You're not making me feel attraction for you with what you're doing."
Or: "Here, let me show you how..."
That's why I'm ALWAYS saying it for them.
Get the FACTS (including tons of simple, instantly usable tips for CREATING INSTANT ATTRACTION in amazing women) right here:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/catalog/AttractionBook.html
P.P.S. I also recommend that you take a few minutes and look at the entire list of programs I've created to help you learn how to meet, get dates, and build mind-blowing RELATIONSHIPS with amazing women.
You can see them all -- plus watch some great *FREE* video clips of each of them -- right here:
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