How Women Interpret What You Say
>NOTE: If you'd like to look at all of the
different programs I've created to help you learn
how to attract and meet women, you can see them
all, plus watch great video clips right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
***QUESTION***
whatsup dr dave,
let me start out by saying you are my savior. I've
been getting your newsletters for about a month
now, and WOW! thank you. my question is: i work
in a restaurant. needless to say there are quite a
few 8s,9s and even a few 10s working there.
approaching and talking to them is not a problem.
but i feel i should be careful when asking one of
them to join me for beer after work. i don't want
to bring any feelings of uncomfortableness between
us (if shes not interested). what would you
recommend i do and what should i say?
t indy
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The first thing to remember is that when you
"ask a woman out," you IMMEDIATELY start a whole
chain of mental and emotional events for a woman.
She has to decide if she "likes you" and if
there could ever be anything between the two of
you... and if she's thirsty and interested in free
beer.
You get my drift.
Women know when you're asking them "out out,"
as in you're asking them because you have a
"romantic interest."
Guess what?
When you do this, it ALSO puts the woman in the
driver's seat in the situation because she
instantly realizes that she has something you
want. Have you ever heard of "wanting it tax?"
It's when the price goes up the more you want it.
Now, as you probably know, I don't generally
think that it's such a great idea to date women
you WORK with, because you never know what's going
to happen, and the last thing you need is losing
your job or having to work for hours at a time in
an uncomfortable situation.
And besides, attractive women usually have
attractive FRIENDS, and if you're cool, the women
you work with can lead to an endless supply of
dates. Think it over.
You might want to think of it as a goose that
lays golden eggs.
Even though I don't advise dating women you
work with, I still want to address your basic
question of asking a woman out without creating
discomfort...
Remember, most guys do the exact same things.
They start talking to a woman, then say, "Hey, can
I take you out sometime?" or "Do you have a
boyfriend?"
This stuff is HORRIBLE.
It does exactly the wrong thing. It makes you
look like a wuss boy that needs a girlfriend. And
if she's not interested (which she probably won't
be), then it WILL create some discomfort in the
future.
MUCH BETTER TO TEST FIRST, THEN TAKE A SMALL
STEP.
If it's a woman you know, tease her, bust on
her, and generally act like you don't care. Make a
comment about her and walk away. Be Cocky & Funny
when you're with her, and don't be boring.
Then, if she's responding positively (laughing,
hitting you, telling you that you're a pain,
etc.), then say, "Hey, do you have email?"
If she does, have her write it down, then say,
"Bye".
From a MAN'S perspective this might not seem
any different than just asking a woman out.
But, from the WOMAN'S perspective it's VERY
different.
First of all, you've never shown her any
romantic interest, which doesn't give up your
power in the situation, and hand it all to her.
Secondly, instead of putting "dating" pressure
on her, you've only asked her for her email
address (and maybe her number as well).
But you HAVEN'T asked her on a date, you
HAVEN'T created any kinds of weird vibes in the
air, and you HAVE made her wonder what you have in
mind.
It's powerful, think about it.
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hey There,
Ok So I am a butch lesbian who has recently
subscribed to your mailbag. Ok I am totally
fascinated by you and what u have to say. I am
planning on getting your book next week actually.
I have used your tips about getting the phone
numbers by asking the girl if they have email. Ok
that works like a charm, i haven't yet not got a
phone number. So Just to let you know, you advice
works for butch lesbians too! ok but here is my
prob. I met this girl and i got her email addy,
phone number and s/n. Well I didn't want to be
like everyone else and call her so i sent her an
instant message. Well finally she wanted to call
me. My response was I hope your not a stalker,
trying to be funny and cute. Well she called and
we talked forever, i couldn't get the girl off the
phone. Now she calls me like 5 times a day. She
really likes me, she has admitted it and she broke
up with her g/f so she could see where things go
with me. I like her a lot and i want to see where
things go, but her ex is a threat to me and her ex
might want her back. I've also made the mistake of
telling her i like her, so I'm thinking she may
become "in control." My question is what do I do
next? Meaning how do i get that control back, do i
continue acting like i want her, or should i talk
about other girls? Also what about the ex? do i
make it a threat or what. Also she is jealous b/c
her best friend also likes me. Anyways, any advice
u may have for me, i would appreciate it.
Much Appreciation CNS Georgia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is great.
You know, if I PAID people to write this stuff
it couldn't possibly be this good.
I have this secret lesbian fan base that only
breaks the silence occasionally when the situation
gets really critical. Love it.
OK, here are a couple of thoughts:
1) If she has an ex who's in the picture, keep
your distance and make her pursue you.
I have PERSONALLY made the mistake of acting
CLINGY when an ex turns up in the picture and
tries to get a woman back.
It's generally not a good idea.
The best thing you can do is what you're
already doing... tease her and let her pursue YOU.
If she's busy pursuing you, she'll be thinking
about you, wondering what you're doing, wondering
why you're so busy, etc., and won't have the
attention for the ex.
On the other hand, if you start pursuing HER,
then she'll have to "decide between which one she
wants."
Not a good position to put yourself in. And
it's MUCH less interesting for her as well.
2) If her friend also likes you, that can be a
GOOD thing.
Jealousy is a very interesting emotion.
It's not something you want to use to
manipulate another person, but if the situation
creates it naturally, that's another thing
entirely.
If you have someone who is interested in you,
and that person knows that others are also
interested, it only makes them like you more.
...You know, someday I'm going to have to do a
Double Your Dating LESBIAN SUMMIT, so I can be
stuck in some resort somewhere with 100 lesbian
women who need dating advice.
I would have to say something male and
insensitive like that, wouldn't I?
***QUESTION***
David,
I've been reading your weekly newsletters, and I
decided to take the plunge and get your online
book.
It's got some great information, and some tips
that I haven't thought of. I found myself already
doing a lot of things covered, and I guess I'm
pretty pleased that I needed much less training
than I thought I did.
But I do have this question, and it's not covered
in your books, and it continues to stump me. I've
added a bit of extraneous information, so you have
a good picture of what happens.
A quick note of background, I was raised by my
mother, and like many men like that, I can be
pretty effeminate. Frankly, most of the time, that
isn't a problem as I have found, more often than
not, as long as you're confident, girls will just
go on; if anything, it confuses the hell out of
them, because it's very easy for me to play the
friend role in the coffee shop, while also
flirting with them. In fact, it's very disarming
(and it allows me a greater understanding of girls
than most guys have, and has helped me quite a
lot.)
Usually (but not always) girls I meet are off the
internet, and what happens every single time is
this: I meet them and then within three to five
hours they're in my bed, or we're in my car making
out. Some of this is due to confidence, some
because of the cocky/funny thing, some of this is
because I am disarming and I make them feel
relaxed. I don't have sex with them, I'm a virgin,
it's just a personal choice, and I will add that
all the girls I've ever been with except for one
were *not* virgins, and in two or three occasions,
I've had to refuse a hard sex sell.
So after we're done making out, I take them home,
everything seems fine.
Then the next day, they don't want anything to do
with me. They do want to be friends (most of the
time) but they don't really even want to talk to
me on the phone or see me in person again. They
definitely don't want to date again.
Sometimes I get a reason why (only once or twice
has that reason been "we're moving too fast" or
its variant "I'm really confused and I don't know
what to do.") One time I got the response that I'm
"too different" another time, in a situation which
happened with a girl who lived out of state, and
therefore I really wasn't trying to date, I later
found out that I made her "feel dirty." The
answers are all different, and yet they (usually)
seem to have a universal confusion that binds
them.
And for the most part, I'm hard wired for a long
term relationship, so this is all depressing to me
that I'm essentially having lots of little one
night stands. I've theorized that it may be
because I'm moving too fast, but is that concept
real? Is it because I lead them on so much and
then I finally refuse them?
Your book is entirely about seducing them, and I'm
successful doing that; but for some reason, we
part, they go back and think about things for a
bit, and I can't do it a second time because they
want very little to do with me. (It happens
quickly too...I've woken up to emails saying "I'm
sorry to tell you this...but...")
Anyway, your thoughts are appreciated,
J
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, yeah... I really feel your pain.
You've learned how to make women want to make
out with you and have sex within a few hours of
meeting... BUT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED IN SEX... and
then they don't call you back.
Will someone please give this guy a medal for
dumbest question of all time?
I think you might want to go read some "Mars
and Venus" books or something. Try buying women
things, or maybe paying for lots of dinners or
something.
lol... I think you're going to figure it all
out.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
First off, I want to tell you how amazing your
stuff is! (I'm sure you already know) It's really
changed my life. I feel great about myself! I
never realized how much of a wuss I was until
after reading your book. lol...I laugh at how
stupid I was. I am now able to talk to women and
feel completely confident about myself. It's
great!
Anyways, I was on a double date the other night
and I decided to try some of your techniques. I
noticed that just by acting like you are in
control of yourself, gets you far. I had my date
feeling as though she wasn't good enough for me,
and my friends date was even hitting on me. I
could not believe it. However, I had trouble
coming up with some C&F things to say. How do you
know what to say and when to say it? I want to
master this! What do you suggest to further this
skill?
A, UT
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, let me see if I understand your situation.
You read my book, realized you were a wuss,
STOPPED being a wuss, STARTED getting great
results, and now you want to know what I suggest
to further your skills?
Here's a hint:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
...and here's another one:
Sit down and take an hour of your life to WRITE
DOWN the 10 most common situations you find
yourself in with women, then come up with 3 great
Cocky & Funny lines for each situation.
Finally, practice them in your mind, and in the
real world until they feel natural.
PRACTICE.
***QUESTION***
Hello Dave, This is T., I just ordered and
received your CD's and I'm ready to roll, I just
want to let you know my current situation, not
once have i dated someone who I was really
attracted to, clicked with, and who was
emotionally stable, I'm 27 years old and all my
friends are dating descent looking women and
moving on in their relationships, They tried
setting me up with a few people, but they were all
nasty looking, and they tell me that I'm very
picky and that i should learn to "like someone for
who they are" which i think is pure bullsh**, to
me, attraction is very important or else i can't
date the person, I know I'm a good-looking guy and
I can do just as good and better once I gain the
tools from your CD's, I have a problem with being
"nice," instead of cocky, ball-busting, and
mysterious, like all my other friends, the few
girls that I've dated that i found attractive
always stopped calling me and I simply don't know
why, i simply don't have the positive qualities
that the "jerk" has, i simply don't know how to
approach someone who's attractive and carry on a
good conversation, will the cd's turn all that
around for me? hope this email isn't too long, if
it is, I'll keep it shorter next time.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The short answer is: YES. DEFINITELY.
By the way, WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING SAYING:
"...hope this email isn't too long, if it is, I'll
keep it shorter next time..."
That's WUSSY TALK.
Are you with me?
Next time you write me, and you think your
email might be a little too long just say, "If
this email is too long for you to include in your
newsletter, let me know and I'll edit it."
Don't say things like, "hope this email isn't
too long."
Subtle things communicate so much.
EVICT THE INNER WUSSY!
***QUESTION***
David, I have used your C&F stuff with amazing
success, but theres one area of difficulty I have
encountered. I'm a freshman in college and I talk
to A LOT of girls. Almost all of the girls I've
talked to are very nice and seem very interested
and love the C&F attitude. I get their AOL
Instant Messenger names and their e-mails and all
but the problem is that some of them, even though
they had a fun time talking with me and they spent
a lot of time with me initially, they block me and
ignore me and I don't understand why. I've asked
ALL of them why but they don't respond to me and
they look at me weird and shyly. But I say and do
the same thing with them as I do with others who
don't block me and who just completely love me. I
just don't get it. I thought that maybe I
intimidated them or something. Help me David Help
Meee!!!
-c
(btw your stuff is incredible...I have 10x the
confidence and ability to get dates with women
than I ever had in the past, thanks man!)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... calm down. You're making me nervous.
You sound like you need to chill out and relax.
If you're getting BLOCKED on instant messenger,
then you're probably being just a TAD too pushy
with these women.
Lean back.
Tease.
Make a comment online then say, "I have to
run"...
Don't act like you want her attention.
RELAX.
And did I mention that you need to RELAX?
Did you hear the story about the old bull and
the young bull standing on the hill?
The young bull says, "Hey, let's RUN down there
and have sex with one of them cows!"
Old bull looks at him and says, "Let's WALK
down there and have sex with ALL of them."
Ponder. Reflect. Repeat.
***QUESTION***
Let me preface this by saying that I agree 100%
with your ideas. I realized the cocky and funny
principles in high school, when I noticed a good
friend got laid constantly because he just
naturally had that routine down. He always laughed
about it - the less he appeared to care about
getting laid, the more he got laid. Pure magic.
But I'm just curious if there are women who are
actually turned off by the cocky and funny
routine. I've always liked smart, nerdy girls -
the librarian archetype - and I'm a little leery
that these women might not be so impressed with
the C&F. Nobody likes a wuss, of course, but I'm
wondering about the women who aren't so easily
manipulated. How about some failure stories? When
doesn't this stuff work so well, and are there
things to watch for to keep from going too far
with it?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, Cocky & Funny isn't a super-
secret, covert manipulation tactic. It's a way of
flirting, teasing, and interacting with women in a
way that they enjoy.
Secondly, I've found that the only women who
DON'T respond well to it are women who are
UPTIGHT, women who aren't at all interested, or
overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which
case you can usually just tone it down and have
fun with them, too).
That's my personal experience.
Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you're
attracted to (I'm glad you have that market
cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you
and will probably LOVE your Cocky & Funny
attitude. Keep it intellectual.
There will ALWAYS be situations in life when
things don't work for you.
Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he's
the best in the world at golf.
Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he's
the best in the world at BBall.
We don't live in an ideal testing lab, we live
in reality.
Don't worry about what won't work, and find
what will.
The thing to watch for to keep from going too
far with Cocky & Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY
ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens,
walk away.
By the way, if you want to MASTER this
technique, then you REALLY need to check out my
"Cocky Comedy" CD/DVD program. It's the only
program in the world that teaches you how to use
this unique form of fun flirting to create
ATTRACTION with women. And you can only get it in
one place. Right here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy/
***COMMENT***
Hey Dave
Here comes a big thank you. Your material is
unbelievable/ amazing/ your fave thesaurus here>. Just wanted to clue you
in on what you've done for me and how you've
healed the social leper (at least with girls) that
was me.
Bit of background: I'm short, stocky, average
looks but I can be funny. The "funny nice guy" got
me places, but trouble was, I was a major wimp
when it came to women. The Sub-Standard "Mom's
brainwashing" owns up at this point. I'd stumbled
my way through school and early twenties, slowly
but surely improving my appearance and myself from
no-hoper to "in-with-a-chance -if-he'd-only-open-
his-mouth" type guy. Last Christmas I got lucky
with a girl I'd dreamed about at work. And when I
say I got lucky, I mean she seemed to fancy me
too. Well in early October this year, after losing
her completely to the Mystery that is Women's
Attraction, I was at the end of my tether. I'd go
home after parties seriously annoyed that I got
nowhere, ragging on at myself for missing my
chances. I was losing my will to live,
metaphorically at least.
Anyway, did a search on the net, found your stuff,
and downloaded your ebook the same day. Read it,
and immediately realized what I'd done wrong with
that girl. Mentally, committed myself to give up
on the memory of her and moved on. That evening,
went out to a club with friends and applied your
principles (well what I could remember anyway) and
did SO well I was a new man. UNTIL I got a little
too drunk and turned WIMP again and spilled out
how I thought this girl there (a friend) was
amazing etc. She literally hid from me the rest of
the night. hahaha.
So fast forward to now: The Wussbag side of me has
been consigned to a berth on S.S. Titanic, and I
have had 6's and 7's throwing themselves at me
these last couple of months. I'm moving up the
food chain slowly but surely. Cheers for sorting
my head/life/etc. out and helping me towards being
able to look myself in the eye in the mirror
again.
Some wise person once said "If you wanna get
loaded quick, start a religion". Well Dave, looks
like you've inadvertently done that.
Cheers
MJ London
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What, no gifts for me?
Yeah, you gotta be careful with that alcohol
stuff.
It can loosen you up, but it can just as easily
make you act like a dumb ass in the worst way.
Great job, and thanks for the email.
Isn't it great that we regular guys can have
success with women...? Love it.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Ok, for everyone reading this now.. GET DAVID D's
BOOK NOW!! and his CD/DVD's too!! Dave, you are
the man! I've never in my entire life had this
much success in the last 6-8 months. Case-in-point
I met this girl, about 8.5, and when we first met
I was a young jedi.. lol I had only just bought
your book and was a novice. So I became Cap'n
Wussy..lol And she said she just wanted to be
friends, so I moved on like you say. Well we have
been friends ever since, we occasionally hang out
and I would push the C+F attitude to the hilt. The
would love it, she called me an ass, smartass,
etc. Well she calls me here reverently to tell me
she now has feelings for me, and she doesn't
understand why.. of course you and I know
why..hehehe.. Supposedly it happened when we went
to a movie together, I was basically treating her
like my bratty little sister. Now she wants me and
says she can't stop thinking about me, she called
me a bastard cause she can't stop thinking about
me.. Damn, man you teach some powerful stuff.. I
told her some stuff about other women, not that
I'm dating but who have came on to me and she got
jealous, I wasn't trying to make her jealous.
Dude, I'm attracting her and I swear I'm not even
trying!! I just wanna date around and have fun,
hell I'm in a band and have dreams of being a rock
star so I'm not planning on settling down soon..
Anyway, you are truly a Jedi Master!!...
-bassman in oh
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, the good news is that even if you don't
hit it big and BECOME a rock star, you can still
ATTRACT WOMEN like a rock star!
Nice. Good work.
And I really like the new word "supposedly."
***QUESTION***
Dave;
I've never wrote into one of these before, but
after reading some of your stuff and putting it to
the test I wanted to commend you on your C & F
technique... Good Stuff!
Since I'm on winter break right now I've only got
a chance to try it out online. It's been going
great and I've been getting good responses, but I
can't figure out how to close the deal. I know
you said that you want to get the woman on the
phone as soon as possible, but all I've been
getting is a couple e-mails a day from this one
that I'm trying to bag. She is a definite 9.5-10
and without a doubt interested in me, I just can't
get her to close the deal and contact me on the
phone or give me her number. What should I do?
C
>>>MY COMMENTS:
"BAG"?
"CLOSE THE DEAL"?
I'd first recommend that you stop thinking
about "bagging" and "closing the deal" and start
thinking about how you can make her feel
ATTRACTION.
If a woman feels ATTRACTION for you, then the
"bagging" will take care of itself. Are you with
me here?
Also, STOP FOCUSING TOO MUCH ENERGY ON ONE
WOMAN.
If you're just dating women right now, NEVER
put too much importance on one woman... ESPECIALLY
one that you've never even talked to.
Meet other women.
Go out.
And get your mind of off "closing" and
"bagging."
That's needy, user talk.
***QUESTION***
Hi I have a 2" of beard and I wanted to ask would
your e-book help a guy with beard in the same way
as any other guy, even though I keep it well
groomed. Thanks
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, gentle reader, this is a real question
from a real person.
My answer:
No. This stuff will absolutely not work for
you.
I'd recommend that you trim the beard to one
and seven-eighths inches, and keep it slightly
less well-groomed.
That should do the trick, and all of my
concepts will then work for you.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave,
Gotta tell you first of all that I'm a girl and
accidentally was subscribed to your newsletter by
a well meaning 'friend'. I found it interesting
reading about how guys are so hung up on
attracting women, going on dates and stuff. Do
forgive me I have not read your ebook Double your
dating stuff, no offence, it's just that I'm
married with kids and dating other men (apart from
my husband) is not something I'd be thrilled
about.
Anyway, I just wanted to comment on some stuff I
read in your newsletter. Here's your first hand
girlie response. It is NOT true that "once you're
in a "NO" category it's hard to get out no matter
how good your game is. Personally there were a few
guys that I've assigned to a NO category at first
and ended up dating later, my husband being one of
them. Most of my girl friends would tell you the
same. And it doesn't matter what kind of
characteristic would send a guy into the NO
category - too young, too old, too skinny, too
short, too poor, big nose, big ears, too boring,
too depressing, etc etc etc you name it. None of
it matters, at least it never mattered for me, no
matter how much I tried to make myself think
rationally. It all depends on how manly you are.
And different women have different ideas on that,
if you match most of those or at least some, it
doesn't matter if she put you in the No category
at first. Women change their mind often, as you
probably have noticed. While writing this email to
you I've changed my mind at least 3 times as to
whether I should send it or not. LOL. One last
thing - having a lot of women in your life is not
a very noble purpose for a man's life. Being a
better person and a better man is, and if you
manage to make it a priority in your life, then
beautiful, intelligent and lovable women will be
all over you in an instant. At least I find it
true in my life and in the life of my friends all
over the world. R VL
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Again, I couldn't have paid someone to write
something better.
NOTICE TO ALL MEN:
If you want to attract a WIFE AND KIDS, and you
want a woman who changes her mind three times
before even FINISHING an email, then take the
above advice.
My favorite:
"Having a lot of women in your life is not a very
noble purpose for a man's life."
Yeah, you're right.
Having a lot of women in your life SUCKS when
you're a man.
Thanks for your email.
***QUESTION***
My first every try of your wisdom. I got a phone
call with a girl ringing about my car. My mate saw
who she was and began chatting her up. Then i got
on the phone and gave it a speal, and told her to
contact me for a test drive and I would show her
the ropes.
The next day i got a phone call from her again.
she never liked the car but asked me if i used the
phone number to help pick-up! I put it back onto
her and told her that she called me and was
picking me up. she never denied it. two days later
i rang her and told her i was coming her way and
would like to partake in her favorite meal and
coffee. was Thursday or Friday best. Sure enough i
got the date. my first ever time I've asked a girl
out, and she ended up being a 5'10" leggy blonde
who did modeling and was studying law! CATCH!
Thanks for the confidence boost C - Australia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, the language barrier might exist, but
the communication is LOUD AND CLEAR.
Nice work.
***QUESTION***
Dave, I have your ebook and your Advance Audio CDs
and my success with women has dramatically
increased. I used to get nervous around attractive
women and would act like a complete wuss. Now I am
able to remain confident and in control, and
sometimes I notice women blush or act nervous when
I talk to them.
My problem comes when I am having a conversation
with a woman. It seems like I am only able to talk
about relatively boring things like, "how's school
going?", "what did you do last weekend?", etc.. It
is hard for me to incorporate the C&F attitude
when I am not in that fun, easy going state of
mind. I can never think of anything that I could
bust her balls on. If I am in the right setting
and atmosphere, like at a party, it is easier for
me to pull off the C&F attitude all night. I do
notice that once I make a comment that gets a
woman to laugh, it's all good from that moment on.
What kind of C&F comments can I make when first
meeting a woman to get into the flow of things?
Should I focus on her physical attributes or
something else when making that first C&F comment?
Thanks MP Louisville, KY
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The FIRST thing you need to do is LISTEN TO THE
CD PROGRAM AGAIN.
It's more important that you just RELAX and get
rid of your INSECURITIES than ANYTHING ELSE!
Cocky & Funny is important, but it's MORE
important that you practice the body language and
voice tone exercises in that program, and you
learn how to project the types of beliefs and self
image that attracts women.
Don't worry as much about the techniques.
The body language and attitude are FAR more
important for you at this stage.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave, I have to say I'm the biggest wussie
you'll ever meet! I mean I can even get the nerves
to order your seminar, which I truly want to
order.
I just got out of a 13yr. marriage a year ago and
I really want to get back out into the dating
world and have fun like the rest of the guys. The
problem is that I can't break out of this wussie
shell that I'm in. I Don't know how to give myself
courage to approach women without my subconscious
mind wussing out.I've read all of your dating
tips, and they sound great, but I'm still in
confusion on starting a conversation with a women
and keeping it alive. I have to admit that I'm one
of those quiet guys that don't say to much unless
I know a women likes me, then I can talk my ass
off, then after all said and done I still wussed
out on asking her for a phone number, or a date. I
desperately need your help to get me back in the
dating world, and if you can't help me then I
don't think anybody can. Do you have any advice to
get me out of this wussie stage so I can get back
out into the dating world, and to purchase your
dating seminar? Do you have any seminars coming to
Minnesota?
thanx K.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Please follow these instructions:
1) Find a strong, buff friend.
2) Ask him to BITCH SLAP you.
Repeat until you can stop acting like a girl.
I would recommend that you invest in my
Advanced Series, but I don't want to confuse and
upset you.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
You are the man!!! I have been receiving your
newsletters for about 4 months now, and plan to
get your book as soon as I get some legal issues
taken care of. I gotta say that your stuff works
wonders. Here is my example; I was at the
laundromat earlier today, and I just happened to
run across a girl I went to High School with. I
have changed a lot since the, and she didn't
recognize me. I couldn't resist the temptation
.....this was a girl who blow me off back then. I
walked up to her and started talking. Nothing
much, busting on her for coming in with her mom
..... "You still living with Mommy I see." Stuff
like that. So, after a few minutes, I tell her I
have to go finish up my clothes. I walk away
without saying a word. While I'm standing there
folding my clothes, I glance up a few times and
watch her looking at me. Every time I look up, I
give her this sly little half-cocked grin and she
jerks her head away. I finish up and go to leave,
giving her only that little grin as I'm going, and
walk out to my car. Right before I start the car,
she's running out with a slip of paper in her
hand. Its her number. Like I said before, this was
a girl who wouldn't even look my way 4 years ago.
Okay now.....here's my question.....Normally I
couldn't approach a girl like I did this one. I
get up to them, say hi, then I freeze......once I
can get into the c&f routine its no
problem......but a lot of times, I find it hard to
get into it.......Got any pointers for me?
FC Kentucky
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, I LOVE THIS STORY!
Don't you wish you could turn back the hands of
time and have another chance with all those hot
girls that ran around your high school... the ones
that wouldn't even look at you?
I'm pretending that I'm you right now, and it's
great.
To answer your question, don't worry too much
about being Cocky & Funny when you first meet a
girl that you've never talked to... one that
you've just approached.
The only thing you need to focus on is getting
her info so you can follow up later.
Use the 3 minute email/number technique, and
don't worry about being Cocky & Funny until you
get together with her next.
Trying to come up with cute lines when you
first meet a girl usually makes you self-
conscious. Just get her info!
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
I recently ordered your CD series and I have to
tell you that it was totally amazing. I am calling
it amazing due to the lack of words that can
describe/praise the series. I have had your book
for about a year now. When I got the book, it was
a big eye opener and I felt like taking the book
and hitting myself over the head with it {I used
to be a big WUSS}. I thought nothing could be
better than that but you proved me wrong by
releasing the CD series which is absolutely
untouchable!
I have read your book many times and have heard
the CD series about five times. EVERYTIME I hear
it again I hear something that I failed to
hear/note/realize before. I have decided not to
listen to any other tape, CD or radio till I have
this stuff so ded in my subconscious mind
that it becomes second nature. For this I would
also like to make a suggestion to all of the other
readers. There is a saying: "IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO
LEARN YOU MUST BECOME". I have realized many times
that I act and behave normal when I am around
friends Or women that I am not interested in. BUT
as soon as a hottie comes around, I try to switch
to the personality and character that you have
taught most of the times I succeed BUT there are
many times when it is hard to so SUDDENLY change.
IF YOU STAY IN THAT CHARACTER ALL THE TIME, YOU
DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT SWITCHING GEARS. OVER
THE PERIOD OF TIME IT WILL BECOME YOUR REAL
CHARACTER AND SECOND NATURE IT WILL ALSO GET YOU
MORE RESPECT FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
I also realized that BODY LANGUAGE is 93 or
better percentage of the communication. BUT have
not seen you RECOMMEND A BOOK ON BODY LANGUAGE. I
went to the library and Borders and found a lot of
books in fact, too many! Can you suggest a couple
on Body language? Thanks in advance. Thanks! PG
Ohio
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for your email.
I love it when I hear from guys who are taking
action, and getting this part of their lives
together!
Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find ANY
books about body language that I consider to be
GREAT.
And worse, most of the books I've read about on
body language teach you NOTHING useful about
ATTRACTION.
You might check out some books on body language
at that bookstore... But unless you understand
all the things you've learned from my Advanced
Series, it won't all make very much sense.
...and if you're reading this right now and you
HAVEN'T gotten your copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques Program yet, WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU
WAITING FOR?
Let's see...
1. It's the best investment you can possibly make
in your dating success.
2. It's over 12 full hours of digitally recorded,
edited, and mastered audio/video.
3. You can try it at zero cost... with no
commitment of any kind. If you don't love it, get
excited by it, and have more real success with
women - just send it back to me and don't pay a
penny. Really.
On the website you can watch some great video
clips. Go here to check them out:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/
And of course, if you haven't yet read my
original eBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man
Should Know About How To Be Successful With
Women," then you really need to get that now.
You can download it and be reading it in just a
few minutes from right now...
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Do NOT forget to check out my entire
collection of programs to help you become more
successful with women and dating:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/
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